Martians 2014, thread 13. Who will win, team pink or team blue?

[LyraSilvertongue]

New thread, hoes!

Seems she's left the FB group. Very strange.

In all honesty I think I'd be happier if it was just me and the professionals but I think husband will probably want to be there (not that we've talked about it). Hopefully I can find lots of errands to send him on to keep him out of the way.

We will need somebody to come and look after the cat so either my mum or parents in law will need to be around, but I can't see any need for them to be at the hospital.

[staggers in, unwashed, not slept for days, falls face down on floor]

...I'm back

Cautiously optimistic - consultant of the gods thought last weeks consultant was a bit OTT, and is very confident everything will be ok. He said if remaining bloods are not ok then we can steam through amnio early next week. But main point was he disagreed with their diagnosis last week and said IT WILL BE FINE.

Fucking hell I am totally emotionally exhausted. Going to bed now!!

pirates a cautios cheer, glad you have had good news so far, fx it stays that way.

jolls sorry I think I got you mixed up with lyra.

Nice to hear from you saggy

Feeling grotty today, cancelled having my hair done cos just needed to get home after work. DH just cooked tea, hope to feel a bit better after that.

That's a bit strange about Maybe. I hope she's ok xxx

Oh ladies, I'm sorry for going AWOL. Thank you for worrying about me. Thanks Motor for coming to see how I am. And Cookie for messaging me. I've just been having a tough time working, dealing with the HG and my hormones. All is ok though, bump is still a girl after 20 week scan and she is pretty average sized apart from a fat belly

Pirates you have no idea how happy I am to hear your news. I've been thinking of you. Keeping everything crossed for good bloods x

I have been lurking and keeping an eye on you all

Oh Pirates that is momentous news. I am so, so delighted for you - hope remaining bloods come back clear.

I remembered reading something a few years ago about males being present at birth, slowing the process down. Few linkies below for another take on the whole thing - the first 2 articles are essentially the same, with the third adding another angle for those who have time.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-559913/A-obstetrician-men-NEVER-birth-child.html

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/oct/18/men-birth-labour-baby

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/10003723/Men-need-to-better-prepare-for-the-gore-of-childbirth.html

My bp will be husband but wouldn't have thought twice about having my mum instead if I thought she'd be of any use. However, mum panics and dwells on the negative/worst possible outcome so not a chance I want her there, even though I love her and am close to her! For me the choice is around who will be the best support in the circumstances. I'm afraid I don't think DH will be great and I don't mean that offensively - shoe on the other foot, I'd be even worse - I am sooo squeamish and would def pass out. He also finds the whole thing quite stressful but I want some moral support, so DH it is. I've considered a doula for the reasons above but it feels a bit indulgent, think DH would think I was insane and not sure really how I feel about a 'stranger' being there - worried it would actually add to the tension/stress!

pirates was just wondering how you were getting on. No wonder you must be so emotionally drained imagining all the possible outcomes, good luck with the amnio, when you have it .

cookie yes I do need to join fb, do I pm greymoose? haven't seen her lately.
Yes whiskeys and weddings are a no no! As most friends have got hitched in the last 5 years there's hardly any left to go to now..

mummypig sorry if I came across as a bit nosey and insensitive this morning, just genuinely curious and , and wondering how do you get your head around that? Far better prepared this time round though..

I must be feeling the third trimester dirtiness. Watching grand designs and snickering at all the double entendres, and the fact that they are talking about 'shafts'. This morning had a downright filthily explicit dream. Hoping oh comes home soon

Pirates - fingers crossed they are being overcautious

Apprentice PM Lyra, she will add you to Facebook.

Cookie yup, that's the evil MIL... She's just pushed it all too far this time, I feel so bad that DH has to deal with it. It's not even like he's an only child, but he's the youngest so gets it worse than his siblings

Glad you're ok Maybe

Yes apprentice, pm me and I'll add you.

Good to see you back, Maybe. Hope the tough time you've been having eases.

lyra ive just pm'd you

Welcome back maybe, good to see you here again.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow, and am quite nervous about it. No particular reason to be, it just appears to be my natural state! It's at 10.30 though, so at least I won't have to sit worrying all day. Anyone else having theirs tomorrow?

I think at the time, cookie, I would have been happier with the tenner!

No, not at all apprentice. All I could think about was "I can't look after a baby!" But after a few days in hospital I brought ds home and began to bond with him.

pirates I know I said it ok fb but I'm so pleased!

maybe it's nice to see you around again.

I know it's been done to death ladies, but what's everyone's weight gain like?

Finally had the guts to get on the scales this morning. 7lbs so far. Am I right in thinking that's not bad for a fatty? x

I'm not planning to weigh myself, I'll cry!!

7 lbs doesn't sound like much, I can tell I've put on more than that by looking!

Good luck for your scan muddle. Are you finding out team blue or pink?

Doesn't sound like a lot to me Joll but there's a calculator here to put all your details into and see if you're doing ok, and what you're likely to gain overall. I'm apparently gaining the right amount so far for my starting weight!

That's a really useful tool Rock, thank you! I'm well within what I should be gaining too

I've put on about 10kgs, whatever that is in old money. Just done the calculator - that's shit loads more than it should be! I don't think I look any fatter. Hmm.

Had my first preg yoga last night. It was pretty good. The only bit I couldn't do was the relaxation at the end! We had to lie down on our sides, which was bloody painful, and remember a place where we were perfectly relaxed and at one with everything etc. I got stuck at this point because I don't think I've ever been anywhere like that! It had to be outside, otherwise I would have said in bed. So that was a boring and uncomfortable 20 minutes.

Oh, the other bit I couldn't do were the pelvic floor exercises. Can anyone really isolate and control the muscles around their urethra and their vagina separately?! I don't think I'd even know they were different things if I hadn't read it somewhere.

Good luck for this morning Super - will you be remaining team yellow or finding out the gender?

ANyone else scanning today?

I'm off to have my VBAC consultancy, and another quick scvan to see if we can establish if flea is pink or blue

And we'll also be popping along to visit our new puppy so we can have a little walk and a play with him. Cant's wait until the 17th when we can pick him up

On the weight front, I refuse to weigh myself - I gained 3 stone with DD (I was verging on anorexia when I fell pregnant - but still I felt huge)

I have major weight and food issues as it is and weighing myself in pregnancy isn't going to be a healthy option for me. Once I finish BF'ing I will worry about my weight gain, right now I'm focusing on eating well and 3 meals a day

I've put on 11lb which seems to be bang in the middle of the acceptable ?eight gain. Prior to getting pregnant though I had just lost 20lb through diet and exercise - hopefully I won't out on too much more than this altogether.

Oh and I just found out today we've been accepted to take part in an ultrasound training day so we get to have another scan on Dec 4th yay!

welcome back maybe :)

Dounds perfect Jolls

I think I am looking at an overall maximum gain of approximately 20-25 lbs based on my starting weight. Just now I am about bang on, however in the last two weeks I have developed a ridiculous sweet tooth (i am a svoury sort of girl!). I bought a whole bar of tablet last night. I ate it all in one sitting fat bastard so I dread to think what the final result will be.....

Apprentice, you've been added to the FB group. Apologies to BWP and Cass for taking so long to get round to it.

Weight gain - two stone so far, largely due to the mountains of carbs and cheese I've been consuming on a daily basis. I thought not drinking much wine would counterbalance things but apparently not

I got my friend at the health club to recommend some classes I can attend which should hopefully slow down the rapid weight gain.

I've just been to Whole Foods. It's bloody amazing but so expensive that doing the weekly shop there is unfeasible. But I can go and look at food porn anytime. I did buy some giant olives and juice and some blue eggs. Looking forward to tasting them.