Martians 2014, thread 13. Who will win, team pink or team blue?

[LyraSilvertongue]

New thread, hoes!

The scan went well, the ultrasound tech was brilliant, really thorough, really friendly and she made a point of showing us everything she was checking and explaining everything. We didn't find out the sex. I had to go for a wee halfway as baby was being too relaxed and laying on it's back. She said baby has long legs and seems very "measured"!

Good news mummypig!
I had an extra reassurance scan yesterday (at 18w5d) and the consultant was happy that everything was fine. Can't wait for 20 week scan - 11 days!

Thanks everyone. Ds is a bit brighter today. I'm hoping that the antibiotics will start working soon and clear the cough. It's driving us all mad

I'm hopeful fil will make a good recovery although in not convinced his mobility will ever improve enough to enable him to drive etc and mil doesn't drive so it'll be hard for them. They also spend about 4 months of the year in Turkey where they have 2 apartments up 8 flights of stairs with no lift!!!

I have finally felt the baby move at 23 weeks!

Baldrick, your sausage legs sound painful. Maybe prick them? Great news you had a lovely scan, Mummy. Lumpy, I am really sorry to hear about your FIL, it's just horrid.

Kinky dreams: I've been having 'em for weeks. My nights are exhausting through shagging every random bloke I come across. More worryingly, I dreamt t'other night that I was sodomised by a Diplodocus. I'm sure that came about from watching a Friends episode all about palaeontology

Was told yesterday at my new hospital that I would have to give birth at a proper hospital 4 minutes away because I am 'high risk'. I told her that if they don't let me birth at the MLU here then I will insist on a home birth. The midwife took her spectacles off and glared - actually glared at me. You would think I had told her I intend to have a consultant suck my nipples during labour. She has arranged for me to meet with the consultant next Thursday who will make a decision. I am ready for combat. I will not be going to a proper hospital to have this baby; I am fitter than most twenty-odd year-olds. Bastards.

*40 minutes away, not 4!!

What are the reasons for you being considered high risk (if you don't mind sharing)?

Owl, this baby is IVF and I'm 101 years-old. Plus hospital policies are wankstains.

P.s..I 'mind sharing' about as much as I would mind being royally fucked by Kelly Jones of The Stereophonics.

Honestly cookie I'd say have it at hospital. Presumably it's taken you a while to get here. If it all goes well they'll let you go home the same day.

I think Kelly Jones is lush too

I guess you can only wait and see what the consultant says cookie. When it comes down to it they can't make you do anything, they can only advise.

I have my consultant appointment on Tuesday so I will see what they say about me.

I am in the same situation, Cookie. At my booking in appt, I expressed a preference for the MLU, midwife was cool and I spent the next 16 weeks assuming this was all fine, pending any complications.

But because I am 41, I had to see a consultant (registrar actually) last week who was going entirely by the book - medicine by demographics / statistics. Seems it's hospital policy for women over 40 to be induced at exactly 40 weeks and not birth in the MLU or pool because 'early' inductions reduce the stillbirth rate. The MLU is one floor up in the lift from a level 3 neonatal unit. Anyhow, I was getting really angry, upset and stressed about it, especially the induction part. I just resent being shoved into a demographic and my care not being about what's best for me & my baby. I'm completely fit and healthy (and often get asked for ID FFS!!!) with no complications so far (migraines = annoyance rather than complication). But I'm going to try to keep an open mind about the actual options and do some more research because anything could happen. My objectives are:

1. healthy baby
2. happy mummy

And everything else can get stuffed.

Thinking of you, Pirates

Yes think I'll back out of this one now!! Healthy baby is most important thing at the end of the day. I'm sure youwill make the right choices for your baby and you without my opinions!!

Although surely the option to induce you early is precisely because they care about what's best for youand your baby.

Where's madwife? You should ask her what she thinks Cookie.

Personally I think stand your ground. You are going to be so much more relaxed at a MLU and that can only be a good thing for your labour and birth.

You being 41 isn't really a reason for a hospital birth is it? What happens to your body at 41 that doesn't happen at 35? Surely your own health, weight, blood pressure etc should be taken into account?

How far away is the MLU from the hospital?

Wow, lots has happened in the 24 hrs or so since I last checked in. Lumpy I had pneumonia as a kid and once they new what it was I got better really fast. Here's hoping your ds does the same.

Pirates I hope the time is flying by until you get more answers.

I haven't got swollen legs but my left thigh keeps going numb. Not fun. Anyway I've got friends coming over for dinner tonight and I've made them (me) a steamed treacle sponge. Yum.

Thanks for your advice BWP! I left a message for the midwife and its all good. Form can be collected in Monday.

Cookie, midwife told me I couldn't use MLU because of being "high risk" due to my underactive thyroid. Had to see the consultant (that word keeps autocorrect ing to consulate!!). Consultant utterly blasé. Said nothing wrong as thyroid v well controlled and released me back to endocrinology after writin in block capitals that in my case he thought the MLU would be best for me! So you might be lucky with the consultant!

Also sorry to hear about the FIL lumpy. Really difficult.

Cookie hope you get sorted over MLU. My consultant was really supportive of my choices as well so you might get lucky.

Mummypig glad all was well today. I would like a calm, measured baby - think that's a good sign!

Baldrick how are you doing? As well as keeping legs elevated I think you are advised to drink plenty of water.

I'm seriously in hibernation mode. DS was born on 7th Dec and although night feeds during winter are even more of a pain, it was lovely hibernating at home with a newborn even when he screamed round the clock. Wishing my mat leave was starting now!

Mmmm, Kelly Jones. He'd do. And he can talk all he likes for me, all growly and husky. Mmmm.

Where were we? Ah yes. Congrats on everything going well Mummypig.

Cookie and Edamame this is exactly why it is up to us to be as well informed as possible. So we can participate properly in medical decisions like this and fight our corner with medical professionals when necessary. Yes, they have the training and experience. But they also have NHS statistical (and cost) guidelines, limited time to consider all the circumstances and specific details that make your situation different to others in your age category, weight, etc

Don't be pushed into something your guy tells you is not right for you and your baby.

Your gut. Not your guy. Stoopid autocorrect.

I can see it from both sides, I'm classed as high risk too although there is hee-haw wrong with me, but also can see why hospital would want to mitigate any potential risk, which can only be beneficial for mum and baby. I think you need to approach this one day at a time, you never know what can happen between now and d-day! Just know your facts and ensure all bases have been covered and you've made your wishe clear and hopefully that can be honoured, but keep your mind open to potential changes to your plan so you don't get panicked or stressed about it x

It's so difficult isn't it because you have an idea of what you want from your birth and you feel you know your body best. But then the mw and consultants are only doing what they think is right. I hope you all can come to a happy decision that's best for you and baby too.

We are staying at the in laws tonight and trying to get dd to go to sleep. She needs to be asleep before ds can go up to sleep and I'm really tired and ready for bed. BIL has been watching fishing and football all afternoon so it's been pretty boring here!