Martians 2014, thread 13. Who will win, team pink or team blue?

[LyraSilvertongue]

New thread, hoes!

DS woke at 1.15am - I got him settled pretty quickly but that was me until about 4.30/5am. Pretty weird as all this week I have felt exhausted and couldn't keep my eyes open - took iron supplement yesterday and despite lack of sleep, feeling better already!

We're off to a family wedding today and I think I'll allow myself a glass of bubbly.

How are you feeling about things today pirates?

Pirates I'm so sorry about what you're going through. I hope you get some good results soon.

What a shock Pirates. Hope you get some more clear information soon. X

Thanks everyone. It was a real shock yesterday - all I was looking forward to was brunch after the scan, obvs we never got to the cafe though! Spent most of the rest of the day crying and eating chocolate. And arguing with DH about what to do All of our risks have been put up because of what they found.

I have booked in for a private amniocentisis next week - we can cancel if we change our minds but at the moment it is the quickest way of getting more information. I also have a mw appointment on tuesday so it will be good to chat things through with her.

In the mean time forgive me if I go a bit dark on here for a while, need to bury my head in the sand for a bit! I keep looking at my two healthy, happy kids and thinking, why did we think we could push our luck with a third

Oh Pirates I wish an online hug would help more than it really does. Have some and

Afternoon lovelies. Still haven't caught up but wanted to say Happy Anniversary! to Foxtrot and her hot husband. I've seen your updated fb profile pic, Foxy and I am surprised the two of you haven't been locked up for underage sex; you look bloody twelve and Mr. Fox looks fourteen (jammy bastards)!

I've read some of you are suffering breathlessness etc and I am lucky in that I feel exceptionally well so far except for my damned foot arches. It has got to the point recently where I am more-or-less housebound and I'm finding that very dispiriting. I am still very fit and full of energy but my feel are just agony. I saw the midwife today and she has given me the umber for the hospital physio but I don't have much hope of a solution. My biggest fear is gaining weight through immobility and I have a deep fear of becoming a fat fuck

I will continue to read back (I have missed you all so, so much) but I notice already there is a big crazy Northern void in the shape of Jolls. Where is that young lady? Please come back, I can't be the only vile potty mouth on here

Lumpy, how is your SPD? Slings: I ain't having one. I don't want my baby getting used to all that pick-me-up shit. In fact, the new house has a lovely long south facing garden where I intend to stick baby in its pram all next summer

Pirates I don't blame you going dark, just remember we are all here for you if you need us! and remember to come back and update us.

Not really got much to update today, been so busy with work. Have ordered our pram though, and this should be arriving early next week I think.

I'm still tired though, wish I could have a lie in on the weekend but I have to be on pony duty :( - can't complain my amazing friend is doing all the morning shifts in the week so I don't have to get up at 4am and faff around with them in the dark. She defiantly deserves her weekends off! She doesn't realise how greatful I am to her!

Oh shit, Pirates, I hadn't read your worrying news when I posted; I am so very sorry to hear about yesterday's scan. I think an amnio is the way forward to get these answers quickly. You were not 'pushing your luck' to try for this lovely third baby and you will get through this. I am praying for the best case scenario and, meanwhile, you must drive away the demons which will tell you this is the worst news. Thinking of you and your husband. Try not to go dark, it's not helpful and we all need each other xx

Pirates that must have been such an awful shock for you. We're here for virtual hand-holding and venting xxx

Pirates I understand that you and your dh need time to process this. Will you let us know how you get on with your further tests?

I don't feel great this evening, a bit shaky and nauseous. Maybe it's because I had 4 chocolate digestives this afternoon then laid in bed watching a DVD with the kids. I don't know. But now nausea is not the norm anymore I have gone back to my old feelings of panic whenever I feel sick.

bad mummy of the year goes to me!!! Ds1 has had a cough and temp for a week. I finally decided that dosing him up on calpol wasn't making him better, took him to the Dr and he's got pneumonia!!!!

This week's other good news is that my fil had a stroke on wed. He's quite densely affected on his right side and will be massively life changing for the whole family! I still can't believe it, he's such a big man, size and personality so to see him dribbling in a hospital bed is just horrendous!!

Oh no lumpy, poor ds and poor Fil! Hoping for a quick recovery for both.

Dh just smashed a pint glass in the kitchen, glass everywhere!!

Ahh Lumpy I'm sorry you are having a harsh time of it too! If it's any hope, my friends dad had a stroke and they said he'd never talk / walk again but he's doing both those things and has made a terrific recovery from being very badly effected. - he will never be the same again, but he will improve.

Also hope your little boy is ok as well - DH got pneumonia a few years ago and didn't beleive him kept telling him it was man flu - next day the GP sent him straight to hospital! Opps!

Pirates - thinking of you and your family, my scans haven't all been happy experiences so I can relate a bit, although yours must have been more of a shock. Look after yourselves.

Lumpy - hope your father in law gets good care and the pneumonia resolves quickly.

Pirates . This must be so hard. I've no idea what you must be feeling but if i was in your shoes... please try to cling to DH rather than fight and push him away. Also, I agree with cookie that I'd want the amnio if it were me - to have as much info as possible.

Lumps hope DS feels better soon - is he on antibiotics? At least now you know what it is he will hopefully start to get better. How hard for your whole family re FIL's stroke. We've had a bit of that in my family and it affects people so very differently, I guess you have to wait and see how it turns out. Sending you good thoughts and prayers.

Cookie ouch! Must be frustrating as well as painful, I get cabin fever if I stay in for a day! And i know you love walking. Maybe have a look on free cycle for an exercise bike if you're worried about losing your fitness? Loads of people get rid of them, don't they?

Thinking of you Pirates and hoping for the best possible outcome for you.

Magpie, I've not felt that attached in my pregnancies for various different reasons but once they're born it changes. For me it's always been pretty instant whereas I know for some people it is a slower change (it is a frequent topic of conversation amongst hyperemesis sufferers) but whether it changes instantly or more slowly, it does change and you will totally love your baby. Also the very fact that you are worried about whether you feel a connection shows that you care.

Becca, my GP said he didn't have MATB1 forms last pregnancy but DH left a message for my MW and she just did one the next time she was at the surgery and left it to be collected so I didn't have to see her.

Pirates hang in there. I know it doesn't help much but we are all here behind you.

Lumps gosh that really is a tough time. How is DS doing? I'm really sorry to hear about your FIL - I hope, in time, he is able to make a good recovery but you mentioned it being life changing for all and it can be so hard to adjust when things like that happen. It's also so painful to watch on when a stroke does happen. Thinking of you x

Lumpy sorry to hear your news x
My problems seem trivial compared to other people's, but have anyone else's legs swollen? I've spent a lot of time on my feet today, but they're like 2 huge fat sausages, complete with little cocktail sausage toes
I got into the bath and could hardly kneel down, they felt like they 'd burst !! I hope it goes away overnight - I've got to go food shopping and for my flu jab tomorrow (perversely, I'm looking forward to both things, as I'll be child-free!)

I'm feeling so nervous about my scan today. Even more so than last time. I can feel the baby moving so it's not like last time when I thought "what if there's not even a baby there?" But I'm so worried something will be found to be wrong.

Ds is going to a party tomorrow and it will be the first one where we aren't staying. BIL will probably take him as I doubt we will be back from the hospital in time. I think he is a little bit nervous as he said "can Caspers mum look after me?!" So I hope he will be ok.

Then we are staying the night at the in laws, getting take away and hopefully going to see some fireworks.

Sounds like you have a fun day planned mummyp. Good luck for your scan.

We are having friends over today to see our new house, we've been here 18 months! Then PIL for village firework display and pub meal. Need to get cleaning I guess.

Sorry to hear your news lumpy, what a terrible shock. I hope he starts to recover soon.

Thinking of you pirates. You are not 'pushing your luck' having a third child. I hope you get some answers soon.

Good luck for today's scan Mummypig

Good luck today MummyPig are you finding out if team blue/pink?

Lumpy so sorry to hear your news

Baldrick how are your legs today? Mine haven't started swelling yet but I remember it well from last time - a good firm massage helps relieve the swelling, and sitting with your feet up.

Well, I've hit another pregnancy milestone... The kinky dreams have started although last nights was thankfully actually about someone very attractive - Stephen Amell (the guy from Arrow) rather than anyone awful!! Sure its only a matter of time though.....

Balrick I had that really badly last time - odaema I think it's called. But it was from about 36 weeks and i was v heavily pregnant in the hottest bit of the summer... So hopefully it will go away for you and just be a one off from being on your feet a day.

Legs elevated as much as possible. Foot massage. Reflexology helped too (though I think in it's guise as a glorified foot massage). Hope you feel better soon x