Martians 2014, thread 13. Who will win, team pink or team blue?

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Oh liberuna that sounds horrible! Glad you're better now. Stock up on dried apricots in case it happens again!

I think if we find out we would tell people because the main reason we were going to find out was to prepare the DCs. (DS has said "if it's a girl I will never go near it"!!!) But they don't seem to bothered at the moment. Hmm. We have another scan at 32 weeks so we could leave it until then to decide if they are still saying things like that then! X

Morning all, checking in!

Really behind on the Fred. Hope everyone is well. Have I missed owt? Seems very quiet without pram! :(

I am concerned about the storm as my 20wk scan is tomorrow afternoon and if the weather is really bad the buses won't be running. I will be so gutted if I have to cancel as am dying with excitement to find out if team pink or blue. Please please have all your fingers crossed for me!

I hope this doesn't sound insensitive to people who might suffer in a storm - old people, sick people etc, but....

I BLOODY LOVE A GOOD STORM!!!

Cannot wait

Obv hope everyone is fine, dry and warm and we can enjoy the show from inside.

Ds has football this morning and it looks clear and sunny so hopefully it will go ahead. I'm trying to persuade dh that me and dd don't need to go and I could take dd to church instead, we haven't been for ages and I feel terrible about it.

Morning all, hope everyone is well. Owl, hope you had a good birthday weekend. Our water has been switched off so I am trying to think of things to take my mind off my expanding bladder. Not happy!

floatyflo My scan is tomorrow too - still so nervous and just want to get it out of the way. Am putting myself on a googling ban because yesterday I started reading about "soft markers" and it's now given me even MORE to be nervous about. Wish I wasn't such a worrier.

Baby is SO active! - I'm feeling it all through the day now and sometimes even when stood up - have a feeling it's going to be a right little wriggler!

Question for the floor - is anyone signing up to NCT classes or just doing the NHS ones?

I'm a first timer and we don't have much time or money for NCT but if people think they are invaluable then obviously we will make time/money!

My SIL is also pg but they don't have money issues so they are obv doing them and preaching about how essential they are. I don't want to feel like a shit parent before I've even started!

Mrskay we did both NHS and NCT when I was expecting DS. Quite honestly I didn't learn much from either that I hadn't already learnt from mumsnet and books!! The NHS one was good for the labour ward tour so we knew where to go when everything kicked off as the hospital is huge, and the doors are locked at night so knew that if we went to a particular entrance we could be buzzed straight in to the right place. NCT ones didn't cover anything different, however I didn't know anyone else with a bump or smal child so we did it for the social aspect. For that it was fab, and I still meet up with 2 out of the 4 other couples from it, but it's nowhere near essential... If you're on a low income you can get the price reduced so may be worth l

Whoops! Looking into that?

Good luck for this weeks scannees!!

I bought my pram yesterday, I'm soooo excited! Was trying to convince DH to let me use it with DS but he said no - he (correctly) pointed out that I'll want a shiny new pram when DD arrives, so I'd regret doing anything with this one.

Oh and Pirates my favourite book as a kid was the house that sailed away - would be so exciting if you did!!

mrsk I did nhs classes last time and they weren't great to be honest. We can't afford nct so we won't be doing any this time. You can get just as much info from here. But as rock says it can be good for the social aspect. Although I didn't make any friends in antenatal, I made lots at my postnatal course which is run at the children's centre by the health visitors. And of course by going to groups.

We just had a power cut. Balls. I really hope if this storm gets going we won't be stuck in the dark. The kids would probably love it, or maybe not seeing as we don't actually have any candles!

Thanks for the NCT answers ladies - we're not exactly on a low income, just don't have spare couple of hundred quid sloshing around! I'm not sure I'm really going to need it for the social aspect - 3 of my best friends are pregnant and I know at least 4 other friends too - it's a bit of a baby boom round here!

Just been for a lovely swim but got caught in an absolute downpour with no umbrella on the way home. DH was so upset he couldn't rescue his damsel in distress in the car (it's in the garage) that he's taking me for a pub roast later YAY!

Hello. All, long time no post Just wanted to say I'm here and trying to keep up with you all, but you talk so blooming much!

I'm very busy at work as well as trying to cram the final year of my degree into 5 months, so doubt I'll be about a huge amount.

Just to say my 20wk scan went perfectly (I'll be 22wks on Tuesday) everything in the right place and the right size! We're Team Yellow I'm afraid - is someone keeping a spreadsheet/stats thread for all these updates?!

Yay team yellow!

mrsK as someone else said, I thought the labour ward / MLU tour was the best bit of our NHS antenatal. Some hospitals will give you a tour without doing the course (ours didn't) but I'd def recommend having a look round so it feels more familiar, you know where to park etc to make things easier when it happens for real next March!

Nice to see you Frankel. Glad the scan went well and good luck with the studying!

Hi everyone,
Being in the middle of nowhere there are no NCT classes particularly nearby, whereas the NHS ones are local, so I'll be going to those, mainly for meeting people but also I've never had much to do with babies so any practical advice will be handy. They're in the afternoon so not sure whether husband will be able to come.
The sickness has finally gone so I'm making up for it by eating everything in sight. Yesterday I went for a pub lunch and had the most enormous chocolate sundae...

Sorry to hear a few people aren't feeling too good. I slept for 11 hours last night but don't feel too bad when I'm out and about.

MrsKay What are 'softmarkers'? Fingers crossed for.your scan tomorrow. Pray I get to mine! Will you be finding out blue or pink if possible?

Good to see you Frankel

Ice That is very insensitive yes I normally love a good storm but just not tomorrow pleeease! It will be just my luck if I can't go. I can't wait, I really cannot! Hurumph!

floatyflo From what I read, soft markers are little things that come up in the scan that may or may it put to bigger things. So basically they just worry the crap out of you for probably no reason!

Nope, we staying team Yellow. Lots of reasons really but one of them is to do with my SIL expecting a girl in Jan and as we weren't exactly planned (whereas they ttc for over a year) and theirs is first grandchild she's being a bit weird with me about being pg basically I've unintentionally stolen a bit of their thunder so I think by keeping things team yellow we're trying to do things differently from them.

That's not the main reason by any means but it is definitely a consideration. If we announced we were having a girl I know she'd be sulky about it - she keeps saying stuff like "yours will obviously be a boy..."

We could have either of course! But if we don't find it to the end then she'll be too preoccupied with her newborn to start being immature about it!

Ugh, I feel absolutely awful today, have been having everything relatively easy until now! My back is absolutely killing me, standing up too long hurts, sitting too long hurts, I just can't find anything comfortable Also feeling sick, and I'm shattered despite having had a lie in this morning sorry for whinging but I thought I'd still have a few more weeks until I felt like this!!

Yep it's catching up with me a little bit too - I've got off scot free up to now but also getting uncomfortable standing up and sitting down for too long. I'm not complaining though, to me this is a pure miracle and I don't care about me, I only care that the little one is healthy.

Nice to see you checking in frank.

I am particularly grumpy today. Ds has not stopped talking, dd has not stopped whinging and Nando has not stopped kicking the hell out of me. We went to the in laws and their dogs were really fucking annoying.

I know I'm being unreasonable but I can't help it. So when we got home I disappeared into the kitchen to make a cottage pie for dinner and calm myself down!

floaty hope your scan goes ahead tomorrow. An good luck for all scannees this week.

ice ive obviously been living in a hole as only just heard about the severity of the storm. But I do love a good thunder and lightning! Hope it doesn't disrupt yo many people diy projects.

faster don't understand why you can't go wee wee just cause your water is off?

mrsk 1. Im so jealous about all your movement with anterior placenta i won't feel anything for weeks 2 . Don't let your sister's pregnancy ,which she must be so grateful for, detract from your happiness. You have every right to enjoy this time as she does. If she wants to feel bad or jealous and not enjoy the little miracle she has then that's her problem. You won't get another 'first' baby.

rock so sorry to hear you're in pain. Any chance of a bath or hot water bottle?

Lib you're a genius - I didn't even think about a bath, no idea why as I know it always helps!! DH and DS are watching the American football, so once DS is in bed I think I'll run myself a bath, find a good book to read, and just have a quiet evening to myself!

Mummypig you're pregnant - you can be as unreasonable as you like, that's what the hormones excuse is there for

liberuna Thanks, and you're right but somehow I still feel slightly "fraudulent" with my pregnancy and our situation compared to theirs. We have barely seen the in-laws since telling them at 16 weeks that I was pg whereas they have known about hers eversince her BFP and she had a loss last year too. I have just popped up and suddenly not only am I pregnant without trying but I'm pretty far along and showing too!

Heard from my DH that his mother thinks its "really early" for me to be feeling movements - which I know I am only being hormonal, but I took that as her slightly disbelieving me or comparing me to SIL.

Also think that his parents are looking at them with their lovely big 3 bedroom house and room for baby and us with our little 2 bed apartment and as yet nowhere to actually put the baby and them thinking that we're not being as good parents. (our second room is packed full of furniture and equipment and we can't easily clear it out tbh, baby is coming in with us to start with while we work it out).

I AM stealing her thunder in a way but I never planned to - it's just the way it's turned out. Also her constantly brushing everything off i say related to my pregnancy because obviously it's worse for her because she's 2 months ahead of me - it's not like I'm ever going to catch up with her! I'm still allowed to experience my symptoms without always having to be trumped by her.

I can be thankful that for my parents it's their first grandchild so no one to compete with on that side.

Also (sorry for massive rant) they had already agreed they would look after her baby for 2 days a week when she goes back to work and I got the distinct feeling that adding another child to that wasn't exactly welcome but I know they won't give her special treatment so they will look after ours too. But it massively felt like we'd invited ourselves to a party or something!