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moominleigh94 · 21/10/2013 13:45

We are superheroes Grin

Sickness and scans galore in the latest installment of the Maybies' journey through human-growing.

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Cake, chicken nuggets, Shloer and whatever else we're craving is on the table ready Grin

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wm3010 · 25/10/2013 12:32

moomin glad you got treated and hopefully will be recovered very soon now you've got the proper medication.

moominleigh94 · 25/10/2013 12:34

Thanks everyone :)

Nanny Tiny is settling in well :) I think she's a girl so I'm referring to her as "she". She's so cute! (and she really is tiny!)

Hopefully these antbiotics will start to work now :)

I'm so hormonal and jealous today, but part of me isn't sure if I am being paranoid or not. I was tempted to start an AIBU thread but I'd get torn to shreds on there, I know it's probably just down to hormones etc but I'm so jealous of OH's new friend. I don't understand why - in the nicest possible way, she doesn't look like a supermodel or anything, but OH is devoting so much of his time to her.

He texts her all the time and often ignores me for the sake of texting her. It seems like whenever I'm around he's got his head stuck in his phone, texting her, and he'll be vague and moody with me. Today I managed lectures for an hour but had to head back home, OH had stuck around on campus to wait for me and I had to call him three times before he'd answer - turned out he'd stuck his phone on silent, despite knowing I'd be calling at about half ten, so that he could speak to this girl without being disturbed.

She's constantly talking to him about her failing relationship and how everyone assumes her boyfriend is a nice person but how he likes to get things his own way, how my OH is the only one she feels able to talk to about it etc - she has other female friends on the course, but seems to cling to my OH like nobody's business.

Next week OH is on reading week, and she's invited him round to hers, an hour's journey away, for the day. I can guarantee that if I was invited to a male friend's house, he'd be wary about it and constantly plaguing me with questions, but I'm expected to go along with this. He seems to attract friends who need him to make themselves feel better - he's a lovely guy with self-esteem issues, and he's constantly complimenting people. He has a habit of calling other girls "pretty", which gets on my nerves, but he insists it's just a friendly way of making them feel better about themselves.

He's made it perfectly clear that he misses being intimate with me, and yet he's the one who refuses to have sex because he's scared he'll hurt the baby Hmm I explained that I wasn't up to it for much of the first trimester, and that I'd rather avoid it during the first few weeks just to negate any possible risk. He was fine with that, but keeps making these comments, and if his friend is so open about her relationship, I've no doubt he is too. I've seen her a couple of times and she doesn't seem to like me very much, and doesn't seem to like seeing me with him.

Sorry this has turned into an essay, should probably have started a thread or something but I just need to vent and I need someone to either slap me and tell me I'm being ridiculous and protective, or to hold my hand and say that they'd be a little bit jealous too Sad

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mumof2aimingfor4 · 25/10/2013 12:45

moomin I am massively possessive of my oh. Admittedly he looks like channing tatum (not just my opinion) and hes 6ft 2 with big muscles.

I completely understand where your coming from and dont blame you for not posting in aibu. You need to talk to him. If he respects you he'll come up with a compromise. You can't ask him not to me mates with her, although I admittedly would. I'd probably give my oh an ultimatum. But my way is definitely not the way to deal with it.

mumof2aimingfor4 · 25/10/2013 12:46

Btw being intimate doesnt just mean sex. You can do other things that are just as intimate.

NannyPlumForPM · 25/10/2013 12:47

Oh dear moomin ... I mean personally I'd wager some sort of war, completely attack OH for even THINKING about speaking to another woman, maybe a physical attack on said woman and if not then definitely some slanderous talk. Wink (not actually the physical attacking type btw)

But I actually wouldn't be very impressed if DP did this - but our standards are pretty much no male/female friends (I know I know, prehistoric).

And I think you are not being unfair - but also be aware that if you are normally very laid back then it could be your hormones making you protective. Quietly speak with DP saying that he seems to be neglecting you in favour of his new friend and make sure he remembers which side his bread is buttered on Grin

Ty for all your kind words everyone but really i am quite chilled about it - I think it helps that DD was the 'worst case scenario' and she's absolutely fine! Bar having one working eye and a couple of spiky teeth hehe

NannyPlumForPM · 25/10/2013 12:49

And if my DP was going around calling other girls pretty and inviting them for 'reading week' i'd go absofuckinglutely mental actually sound like a nutter

snoozysleeper · 25/10/2013 12:51

moomin have you spoken to him about the way it makes you feel? Maybe when he realises then he will reduce the amount of contact going on.

He certainly should not be prioritising texting/speaking with another girl (or any friend regardless of gender) above supporting you! Especially given that you're pregnant with his child!

CbeebiesIsMyLife · 25/10/2013 12:51

Moomin I actually don't think your being jealous. I think his behaviour is completely off here. Can you talk to him about it, ask how he would feel if it. Were the other way around.

AliOh · 25/10/2013 12:53

I haven't really thought about getting the flu jab - no one has mentioned it to me as yet.

bluestone I am wondering if I will get to my scan next week and tell me I've made the whole thing up! Still cant quite believe it!

Xavielli · 25/10/2013 13:15

Scan went well, lovely wriggly peach. Was accosted for my flu jab and enrolled in a Bp and urine study. All good fun

bluestone85 · 25/10/2013 13:32

Moomin I think you are right to feel like this. He shouldn't be prioritising speaking to her (or anyone else) over you at all. I think you need to tell him how its making you feel. And so what if you haven't had sex since you've found out, if he's got the problem with it too, why is he moaning? My husband and I haven't since I found out and won't be until after the scan "just in case" and he understands. He will come and snuggle me on the sofa for a bit just so we have "us" time, which is lovely :) So definitely sit him down and tell him how you're feeling, as calm as you can (I know its difficult with our hormones running around).

Ali It is crazy isn't it. I think, because it happened quite fast for us, is another reason I think its fake. Its like the pregnancy tests (lots of them) are saying I'm pregnant becuase my body was wanting a baby so much that its produced the hCG to fool the tests. Hahaha, silly isn't it?? Well I just hope we both have a beautiful little bean and can show the picture to prove that we aren't crazy!

bluestone85 · 25/10/2013 13:35

Congrats Xavielli on scan :) Great news :)

impatientlywaiting · 25/10/2013 13:55

Hooray for the scan Xavielli.

LittleBairn · 25/10/2013 13:56

impatiently thank you it was (and sometimes still is) a painful time In our lives. I'm a Christain so I know our separation isn't forever.

moomin no wonder you feel that way his behaviour is inappropriate. In the evenings he should be focusing on you not catching up with this woman.
I say that as someone who isnt a jealous person at all, DH and I are very indepenant of one a other but I still would not be pleased with that sort of relationship especially if it were a new one.

I would also make it clear that under no circumstance may he turn off his phone or be uncontactable. Pregancy can be an unpredictable time its his duty as your partner and the babies father always to be avalible.
Consider it his first parental responsibility.

bluestone lol I was exactly the same during my first pregancy convinced it was a phantom pregancy because I was so desperate for a baby.
DH didn't help by claiming he wouldn't accept I was pregant until I missed another period just to be sure even thought I had done about 10 tests.
This time he wouldn't believe it unless I used the really expensive tests. Hmm

ham your DS is adorable.

Squiffie · 25/10/2013 13:57

Congrats on the scan Xavielli x x

dobedobedo · 25/10/2013 14:00

Congratulations on the scan xvalli!

Moomin, you're not being unreasonable. I'd go nuts. He has to put you first and if he's not up to anything, he should not be behaving in a way which would make you or any reasonable person feel insecure. And you're feeling insecure and you're being very reasonable imo.

dobedobedo · 25/10/2013 14:25

Knew I'd misspell your name xavielli Blush

bluestone85 · 25/10/2013 14:25

LittleBairn I really am glad that I'm definitely not the only one who feels/ felt like this. Thought I was going crazy! I think the husband has kind of accepted it, but won't 100% believe it until we have the scan Grin Hahaha at your husband not believing you until you used the most expensive test! I'm suprised that mine hadn't asked for me to do that! Though he didn't from the first test as it was kind of faint, but he did after I used a clearblue one that said the words PREGNANT Grin

AliOh · 25/10/2013 14:30

moomin I dont think you're being unreasonable at all! I would go absolutely nuts! DP and I have lots of friends of both sexes who go out/meet up as a group but he would know to draw the line at meeting up with one of the girls on their own/going to their house as would I.

AliOh · 25/10/2013 14:38

Congrats on the scan Xavielli

bluestone Feels slightly more real after now 3 missed periods and ms! But still wont believe until I see a (hopefully) wriggly little bean on the monitor! Oh and the 5 pg tests that DP keeps getting out and looking at - probably to actually convince himself that we ARE having a baby!

snoozysleeper · 25/10/2013 14:55

xaviella huge congratulations ! ! Smile

bluestone85 · 25/10/2013 14:57

This is true Ali but I still think that its my body playing tricks Grin When is your scan? Hehehe, bless him. I suppose it is a little harder for the partner to believe whats going on as they aren't going through it directly. I must have done about 8 or 9 tests I should think Grin xx

LittleBairn · 25/10/2013 14:57

bluestone lol he was a nightmare I already had used 2 first response ( plus some supermarket tests) but oh no I had to cross my legs on morning while he ran off to buy a £10 single clear blue one.
He actually bought a couple of them to test me throughout the pregnacy Hmm but I ended up having an early scan so he started to believe me. Grin

He refused to buy the digital ones again he was offended last time when the writing disappeared after awhile. Not sure how long he was planning on keeping it!

xav congrats on the scan.

bluestone85 · 25/10/2013 15:17

littlebairn Hahaha, thats brilliant Grin yeah the digital ones only last 24 hours. Would it not do to take a picture of it, or does he need more physical proof by looking at the thing? Hehehe :) xx

bluestone85 · 25/10/2013 15:22

Or, was he planning to run round the streets with the test in his hand shouting "WE'RE HAVING A BABY, WE'RE HAVING A BABY WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!"? [GRIN]

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