MARTIANS 2014 thread 12: the one where we do nowt but eat.

[prambo2thereturn]

Oooh, double Corrie tonight!

Did you like it tho grey? the 'hilarious' shot of the dad eating it?

Pirates how scary! Glad ds is ok.

Pram I felt so sad for your dh when I read that. I know what it's like to feel like a failure as a parent and we haven't had anything even close to what you guys have to deal with.

I finally weighed myself. I've put on 5lbs. I'm scared by gaining weight, I definitely don't need to gain any.

Grey, especially for you I have posted a link on FB to the restaurant we want. Scared I'm jinxing it

Pirates, how scary for you! DS seems to have come out of it relatively unscathed though. Glad he's better.

lyra I LOVE IT!!!!!!

pram hope you and dh are ok x

Crikey, a lot of drama on the thread this weekend.

Pirates sounds very scary and awful! However I love that DS had an exciting time (once the danger was over!) - I can well imagine that the drama, ambulance etc was thrilling for a little boy! And what a day he'll have telling his buddies at school tomorrow

Lyra glad you're home safe- take care, will you petal? Take it easy this week. We're now scan buddies! When is yours? I'm 12noon tomorrow, yay!

Pram poor you and t'husband. The 'failure' comment was heartbreaking. I have absolutely no experience in this area whatsoever. It sounds so hard on so many levels. Perhaps there is advice on strategies to be had elsewhere on MN as there seem to be looks of parents of SEN kids on here? Or step parenting?

So I am now a godmother . It was a lovely day, despite DS's return to teething agony (thank you whoever invented ibuprofen). Proper Yorkshire do with pie and peas. And all the blokes drinking bitter. And my godson/nephew (7mo) is so cute. Looking forward to him and DS playing together.

Ice, how did you feel in your dress? Congrats on being a godmother and thanks for sympathy regarding The Omen. I have been showering DH in cuddles and compliments about his abilities as a father and focusing on my downfalls as a step-mum. I figure the last thing he needed to hear was me saying how ill-equipped he is as a 'part-time dad' in dealing with his boy on sleepovers. But that is how I truly feel. I feel he is blindly finding his way with a son he sees not nearly enough and then tries to over-compensate by being an easy-going dad. He and Victoria need to know that I don't yet love their son like they do and that he is a stranger to me; a badly behaved stranger who I am supposed to adore and tolerate and turn a blind eye to whenever his 'autism' rears its head.

I feel a failure because I have spent years and years in various careers where I have loved some of the most unlovable and challenging children you could ever meet, and yet here I am, faced with a boy of eight who is, at most, on the lesser end of the autistic spectrum, and I feel no love or warmth. How can I not adore the son of my fantastic man?

I am so sorry to harp on about this yet again. I will put a sock in it now.

Harp away, Pram. And remember that nobody is a failure here, not while you're still trying to find a way to improve the situation. Failing would be giving up and not trying.

Congrats Ice. Sounds like a lovely christening

Don't know scan time yet. They're supposed to be calling me in the morning.

Grey I agree about the smoothie. Ingesting it in tablet form where it is sanitised I could just about cope with (though no intentions to do it unless the health benefits are truly miraculous) but a smoothie - you may as well ask if you want a great big beef smoothie - eugh!

Pirates - that is horrible. There is nothing as scary as a seriously ill child - I'm glad you all came out the other side safe and sound. You got to love the resilience of children.

Lyra and Ice good luck for tmrw! And glad to hear you're out safe and sound Lyra.

Pram I really feel for everyone in this situation. It sounds like the mum really has created this situation with her lack of boundaries but I also know that having a toddler with 2 healthy adults around is hard and exhausting at times, so imagine she has found it hard going when health has been poor. His behaviour sounds like it is just about stuck at the toddler stage to me. I think in speaking out, you have hopefully forced things to move forward as no one else seems to have the energy or initiative to know what to do. It's still totally exhausting for you though when it's the last thing you need.

AHEM. Remember This is My Child?

I have thought about it and I wouldn't drink a beef smoothie for less than a grand. Placenta smoothie - two grand.

DS sleeping well now, touchwood. He has asthma inhalers but also suffers from viral wheezing and the dreaded croup. He has had croup maybe 9 or 10 times now - always a winter thing - but this was the first time we had to call 999 because he was struggling to breathe and panicking. In the ambulance he was asked how his chest felt and he managed to wheeze back "my heart feels tight", and every time he set off on a coughing fit he always said sorry to whichever medic was trying to see to him at the time. He was so sweet! The paramedics were fantastic - with him and us (I have to admit I did panic as we called the ambulance ).

Croup is horrendous to deal with, not least because symptoms usually worsen in the middle of the bloody night! And Sod's law on the weekend too. They are meant to grow out of it at some stage...

Good luck scannees tomorrow and rest of the week. Can't wait to see some more scan pics on FB and be proved right on some more gender reveals!

That sounds so scary, Pirates. I would have panicked too. I hope it doesn't happen again.

Oh my goodness - chopped up raw placenta blended with fruit?? That's making me feel quite ill (return of the MS??). Pirates your little boy sounds so brave....and how sweet that he kept apologising to the medics!
Pram you've had a tough weekend but hopefully between the 3 of you, you'll work something out.
Good luck for those scans tomorrow ladies (especially Lyra) - will there be a few more gender-reveals??

I'm going to find out the sex if possible but I might keep it to myself. Or tell you lot but nobody in RL. Not sure yet. I'm rubbish at keeping secrets.

Catherine at MNHQ, can you explain the 'ahem'? If you are merely directing my attention to help me then I am thankful, however, if you are insinuating I am in any way out or order for expressing my frustrations then you can kindly go and patronise someone else.

Lyra you have to tell us, even if you don't tell folks in real life

My scan is Tue so get to find out if early scan was right!

If I find out on Thurs I will def be telling you lovely ladies but no one in RL. No pressure Lyra!

So where have Jolleigh and Kara gone then? Hope all is okay ladies.

Well I am about to do my weekly disappearing act as work takes over for another week.. I'll be on f/b and will def post on thread on Thurs. Have a good week ladies!

Ok ok, I'll tell you lot. Might help me keep the RL secret if I can talk here

Morning all! 5 hours to go

Good luck for today's scans! V exciting!

Good luck everyone for your scans today!

I still don't know what time mine is. The hospital is supposed to be calling me but I won't hold my breath. I bet they forgot.
Best of luck to you, Ice

Forget. My phone seems to like to change everything into past tense