December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

Our new thread!

Sounds like a plan to me

We're all having crap days today it seems!

I've managed to bugger up every lesson today the kids have been off the wall. Also, p-brain has kicked in which means I keep mixing up my words and typing so I end up looking stupid. This means it's taking me forever to plan lessons.

Also, not-terribly-tactful colleague slammed an exemplar essay I had written (in a topic that I thought I was good at) and then proceeded to make it up to me by telling me how wonderful his lessons were going and would I like all his stuff instead. In floods of tears doesn't even cover my reaction to this, it just felt like such a demotion.

I'm trying so hard to maintain my working persona but this has just completely shattered any thoughts I had of being good at my job. I know in my heart of hearts that that is exaggerating but that's how it feels at the moment.

Plus Junior has decided to increase the movements into full on kicks, twists and punches. I should be happy but just in pain now.

bohemian I can't believe he said that, that's horrible!!! Sending huge hugs your way!! Try not to take it to heart, some people like being mean for means sake because they enjoy making people miserable. I'm sure you're a wonderful teacher and that the kids are lucky to have you. Try and take time out tonight to pamper yourself, even if it's an extra long soak in the tub.

Just thinking about holidays for next year as the parents and in laws want to go away as a group, would 4 hours be too long to have a 7month old on a plane??

I have just been informed that PIL have booked two lodges at centre parks in the middle of january. This is because we live near there and it means that all the relatives can come and see the baby. I honestly don't think this will be a good idea. If peanut is overdue it could end up being a January baby and even if it is born on the 19th then I really don't think I would be up for a week away. DP says it'll be fine and it will mean there's loads of childcare so I can catch up on sleep.

bohemian that sucks that he said that to you. Some people are just so callous and cruel it baffles me. How can people be so rude and not realise? I bet you're a wonderful teacher. Like mrsShrubs says, give yourself a break. Pregnancy is bloody hard work and so is being a teacher. The combination of the two must be horrible. Have a long bath and put your cosiest jammies on and pig out on chocolate infront of a chick flick.

mrsshrubs I'd say no, but DS has been flying since the age of 3m and came to the UK for Christmas (that was 10hrs plus 1hr from where we lived) at 8m. They're almost easier at that age.

bohemian what a prat. If he had issues with the exemplar essay there are more tactful ways to offer improvements and offer a hand.

I have a horrid suspicion the place I used to teach are expecting me to be teaching tomorrow afternoon. Someone remind me to call them in the morning. It's not a huge issue but I need someone else to pick DS up from nursery if I am or risk being late. Or leave class early.

The masquerade ball sounds like great fun, stom! Go for it

I want maltesers. And cake.

Oh gosh whisper I had my ILs and the my family to stay 2 and 6 weeks after DS was born and I was barely in a state to leave he house let alone go for a week away. Also if you're anything like me you won't want help with childcare and unless you're bottle feeding no amount of extra hands is going to let you sleep! How about they stay there and come and visit you?

Whisper, I wouldn't be having that, DON'T let yourself be railroaded into a week with relatives when you've a newborn, you'll hate it and by the end of the week you'll hate them too!

I'm still in a shitty mood. Just had a little tea party for DS's birthday, was only sandwiches and cake and family, but my DM was being really weird, very 'off', then attempted to piss off before we'd even sung happy birthday and blown candles out. I think my DGPs (who are a nightmare to deal with at the best of times, although I'm sure deep down they mean well) had said/done something to upset my DM and/or DB, and as a consequence they all left. Leaving my very hard work DGPs behind for me to deal with. So I'd put in what felt like a Herculean effort to put on this party when it was the last thing I could be arsed with, couldn't eat any of the food as my heartburn's so bad, then ended up in floods of tears because everyone was being so off. And I've got loads and loads of party food left, which is just looking at me and begging me to eat it, but it feel too sick. I seem to have spent all day preparing for the party, and it was shit, and I'm back in work for the next 2 days so won't even see DS again until Saturday. I'm fed up.

DS has had a fab day though, he was allowed to have chips for dinner and chocolate and crackers for tea, plus got so many presents we've had to put some away for the weekend to avoid over-excited toddler meltdown!

Hmm bit F**cked off if im honest.... I said to dp about the ball. And stayin in the hotel as it's our last time we can have a night away together.. It only 10 miles up the. Road if that but itlit'll be nice to have a night away from this freezing flat and it'll end the night nicely. Especially if i feel tired and wana go to bed he can stay and i wont feel guilty.... But he said we will see which in dps terms means no.... His excuse was we have lots of money this going on. And we will need to book a room for his cousins wedding thats in FEBRUARY! .

He has been on 2 stag do's this year with our savings... And i hhaven't been anywhere except feelin being stuck in this flat feeling crap from being pregnant.... It would be nice for 1 night to have a nice night with friends and then not have to worry about getting home etc... Would be nice if he saw stuff from my view for a change.... He said he would take me away for my birthday but he's going on a stag do instead so that's not going to happen...

Sorry for ranting... Just really wanted to have a last night away before dd arrives. But yet again he gets what he wants (to go abroad and get pissed with his mates) and i get to sit alone in the flat. Great.

Why aren't you just TELLING him that you'll be booking the night away? And if it impacts on his stag do fund, he'll just have to make it up from somewhere else?

Stom thats sucks, i think at last night away together would be lovely. hopefully he will realise how much hes been away and how much it means to you and come round to the idea.
Whisper I would hate that, holidays with relatives etc is my idea of hell.
feather hope you cheer up soon, at least your DS had a wonderful time :)
Rose It is lovely that they buy things for us but unfortunately its what i refer to as guilt money, I had a rubbish childhood and have a very difficult relationship with my mother, so they buy me and now bump things to try and make up for it. And will also use it to try and claim time with bump when its here.

Hes paid for his stag do etc... We have a credit card we don't owe anything on it and the night away will be £90 so I was thinking I could put it on the credit card now. And we'd have that paid in 2 months...

I can't tell him I'm doing that because he will go nuts... And just have a go at me. He all ways does when I suggest going away.... We can't afford it black black but we can afford 2 stag do's .. The one he went on in June and the one he's going on next week. Hes spend £200 on flights both times and £200on spending money that's £800 near enough and all I wana do it spend £90 on a nice night away for me to spend with him! Argggg

Bla bla

Well I made the stupid mistake of ringing my DM to as wtf was going on - she was clearly in one when she got here, but said she felt no one was talking to anyone else and she was sick of making the effort (she only stayed 45 minutes), that DH and FIL were being rude by drinking and not offering anyone else a drink (they had one bottle of beer each, and alcohol wasn't offered as no one EVER says yes please when it is) although DH made everyone tea or coffee as soon as they arrived. She said I was being quiet (I've felt like hammered shit all day, it was all I could do to paste a smile on my face without vomiting) and she was having to do all the work as the whole atmosphere was awkward. I could barely respond, she was very aggressive, and she's usually super-nice and supportive, I really don't know what she was on about as I didn't pick up any of what she said she felt! Anyway, that was shortly after my last post and I've been sobbing since, I feel so wretchedly miserable and even more pathetically all I can think is that it's just so unfair! My head's splitting now too, and I still can't eat.

Featherbag sorry to hear DM can be a pain in the arse .. Sometimes . Hopefully she'll come round and apologise...... DP just asked me if I want anymore more money i said no and he said are you sure so I saidiI'd rather spend it on a night away at he party.... He just went quiet and has gone for a cigarette. So who knows. :/

Dont want to scare anyone but according to watchdog the cosatto giggles pram is not safe as it collapses while baby is still in it. Just to warn anyone that maybe thinking of getting one xx

I saw that stom - scary! I think I'm looking at a Britax, Oyster or Quinny (got everything else half price, dammit I want a new travel system).

I've got the mammas and pappas 9 in 1 thing second had from a friend but it looks brand new :)

Yeah i haven't watched it just seen it on Facebook... Awful that they get away with making such awful things.

I've seen it Stom and we've got one, according to the manufacturer its been fixed on the new models. And has a 4 year guarantee so the moment anything goes wrong it'll be going back.

Evening ladies. Just read through a mammoth session of posts and I feel really cross on some people's behalf.

Stom I would forget staying over for the ball (although still go) and then book yourself into a spa for sometime in February when you feel ready for a day or so away and leave DP with bambino. A whole 24 hours of being pampered because you need it and tell him to go and do some overtime to pay for it!

Whisper you aren't responsible for what PiL are doing but you do have control over what you do. I would just be telling them they can do whatever they like but as you are the mother of a new-born you will only be doing something if it suits you - no plans or agreements to anything until the day so if you don't want visitors you won't be having any. Others can whistle if they don't like it.

Bohemian I work with a tosser like the one you described. He is newly promoted and thinks he is the bee's knees telling everyone how great he is. I have warned him I am hormonal so he'd best leave me alone and then if someone dares ask for anything which I think is stupid I tell them: "I don't give a shit!" So far it's worked like a dream! My tosser wants to do a lesson obs on me next week when I am more than 30 weeks pg - like I need that hassle! Hmm not sure which way I will play that one!

Featherbag Hope you are feeling brighter now - family's can be such a pain can't they.

To all the ladies who are struggling with sleep I hope you all get a good night tonight!

Thanks xena think he's trying to play big man on campus but I still have to face him.

Only problem is I've cried so hard, I now feel miserably ill.

Bohemian you need to calm down and remember this is about this tosser's ego and not about you. I suggest you thank him for his "help" and then ignore him. You can't have too long to go and really it's just a case of Keep Buggering On (to quote Churchill) and only worrying about the things that really matter.

Hang in there, lovely - this idiot is just a carbuncle on your otherwise lovely life. xx

Hi all, Can I join this thread?

I'm due 27th December, (the day before my birthday) with our 1st. We didnt find out what we are having, can't wait for the surprise.

Not sleeping very well at all as it seems when I try to sleep, baby decides to wake up, little pickle lol

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Hi Tulips! Welcome! I'm now watching my belly dance - will give my little man some time to throw himself around before I attempt sleep!

As for everyone else - Gosh! All those annoying relatives/colleagues/partners and things they come up with! My head hurts after reading. And my own annoying mother just adds to that. I try to explain to her that she can come visit for two weeks when baby is about two months ( I don't think I could handle any extended stays before that). She always tries to turn it into two months stay when baby is about two weeks. Noooooooo!

Of course, welcome.

You are not alone with the sleep thing. I am one of the many who also have sleep challenges! So might see you at some strange time between now and tom morning!

tulip we didn't find out the sex either. We did ask the sonographer to write the sex on a card which we've sealed in an envelope with a copy of the scan. I didn't want the tempation of trying to guess from the picture