MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 9: Heartbeats, hormones and more Gregg's pasties than you can shake a stick at!

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Welcome Martians!

Welcome aboard Cassie

Welcome Cassi :). Sorry about all the doughnut chat, blame Pram!

Kara give yourself a break lovely. You'll be fab x

Pram please share your takeaway order. DP is 'on a diet' and I'm being supportive. I want a pizza :(

Grey bless him :)

Maybs you're so wise. I'll borrow you once you're done in Grey's brain!

Thanks for the welcome.

The weird thing is I don't really like doughnuts but all I want is a jam filled sugar covered one. So I have been eating blueberries and raspberries (at great expense might I add) to compensate... And they really aren't much compensation. I did, however, succumb to chips and cheese the other week when you were talking about that (I told you I have been lurking for ages!) although the chips were from co-op and really not very nice...

I went maternity clothes shopping today. As I am a chunky monkey (size 16) and more bloated than a puffer fish by the end of the day I needed to get some emergency clothing. Can you believe that in Kingston there are only 2 feckin shops with maternity clothes? Feckin H&m have decided to go on-line only as have John Lewis. Knobheads. Managed to get an Isabella Oliver wrap dress for work and a couple of cardigans but the rest is going to have to be done on-line. And I am crapola at sending things back that don't fit... I was so excited about buying new clothes as well.

Welcome Cassie! Lovely to have you here

Just when you put it like that....

Comms my brain is yours, anytime!

I just had a slice of fruit cake. Oh my it was tasty!

Wish I had gregs cravings or chips cravings... I really want a pork pie (from the butchers so done right) with hp sauce and mash.... sob

I'm really fancying just the orange cream quality streets :S it's my birthday in a few weeks so I might treat myself to a tub from eBay :)

muddling Tis obscene. You've only known the woman 3 months!

pram how difficult. I totally agree with what everyone says about Oliver not needing his own room, especially as it's potentially only every other weekend. It's important to remember tho that while you don't count him as part of your family, he is and always will be part of your dhs.
I bet he's a complete brat though feeding on all the guilt from his parents. My nephew spends every Wed and every other weekend at his Dads.

10 children Kara

Ooh, Cassie, I live in Kingston. Do you live here or nearby?

Pram, there's been lots if sensible advice here so I won't waffle on. My situation is pretty complicated (everything in my life is). DP has three children, a little girl who lives in another country (the result of a holiday fling when he worked in a holiday resort and had a different girlfriend every week) and six-month-old twins by his ex, who he hasn't seen yet though very much wants to. I wish this baby was his first. I hate the fact that two other women had his babies before me

Which makes me a hypocrite because I have two sons and he has to accept us as a package deal. Same for you, I'm afraid, DH and Oliver come as a package and you have to accept them both, no matter how hard it is. None if this situation is Oliver's fault. I'm sure he'd rather have his father live with him full time but he can never have that so don't begrudge him one day a week with DH. I agree that Oliver doesn't need to have his own room. Sharing with his father seems like the best option. DH could get Oliver involved in choosing things for their room so he feels comfortable when he stays.

Grey, congrats on the wedding

Kara, 10 children!? Wow.

Lyra I live near Epsom. Used to live in surbiton and Thames ditton so know Kingston well! Bentalls and JoJoMaman were the only places I could find with maternity clothes. I was very unimpressed!!!

I am£ going to be a size 20 after this baby I swear! I used to love cooking and baking now I actually can't remember the last time I cooked (excluding toast) had a share bag of giant milky buttons, 2 slices of toast with nutella, 2 packs of pombears, 2 packs of mccoys (I don't even like crisps!) A deli wrap, fries and choc shake from mcdees and now OH is hungry and demanding take away!

On the plus side I feel fantastic when I've done nothing but eat crap, my MS has disappeared over the last week of junk food gorging :) I will have some healthy food for the baby this week, bad mummy that I am!

Trying to support DP's diet, absolutely dying for chocolate and ice cream and cake. Wahhh :(

Sorry needed to share my food diary and offload some guilt away for a pizza :) welcome cassi! And pram it will all come right in the end because everything happens for a reason!

Kara I'm buying myself a loaf of bread and a jar of Nutella for work :)

What was that you said Prambo, didn't catch what you said about my implant?! Tee hee!

Ah Prambo you're in a right old tizz aren't you with DH and Oliver? I know you want to set up for your family, but please don't take your frustration of DH inability to provide for you at mo out on his son. His son may be a little shithead at times, but at the end of the day he's a child. A child likes yours, who need the love and attention of the grown ups in his life. You never know he may end up being a real bonus in helping out with the baby when you need help getting a nappy or someone to entertain for 5 mins.

Regard the bedroom situation I agree with idea that he should have bed in DH room and that you get bedding and a chest of drawers for him to keep his stuff in, so he doesn't feel totally excluded from your family.

Oh and earplugs so he's not kept awake by DH snoring too!

karam I have been eating nonstop. Are a whole party bag of Doritos and I dnt even like them

Wow I have missed so much today. Welcome to our new Martians!

Pram, I'm glad you realise you are being unreasonable. It's a very hard situation for you, especially with things being rocky between you and dh as it is. I just hope Oliver doesn't realise this is going on, he will feel uncomfortable and unwanted. I agree he doesn't need his own room, a pull out bed in his dads room will surely be fine. There's no point forking out rent for an extra bedroom that won't get full use.

We have had a great day, went to a friends for a BBQ and the kids had a brilliant time playing. I also got a baby playmat for free. My neighbours are childminders and had put it out on the pavement so I asked if it was going in the bin and they said no, we just don't need it anymore so it's for anyone to take so I asked if I could have it and here it is! We had a nice one for the other kids but lent it to a friend who had a baby last year and she bloody sold it!!

Never got my pizza OH is a dickhead :(, never in my life would I have imagined that I'd cry over a fucking pizza, but ther ya go! Emotional motherfucker tonight!

Bloody hell you lot talk a lot! Apologies for absence but had a busy weekend! Will try to catch up!

commsgirl I recommend you do, its been my breakfast of choice for the last month and I didn't really like choc spread much before bump joined the party.

Pram I hope it works out btw your SS and you I dnt have anything to add to the advice being given. Wanted to let you know that you have been in my thoughts as it seem like a very tough situation.

Saggy hope you are hanging in there. Thinking of you too.

Aw why didn't you get a pizza karam?

Does anybody know why we aren't meant to take imodium in pregnancy?

I'm pretty sure it would be better for the baby if I took a tablet to settle my stomach than to be on day 2 of diarrhea :(

On the plus side. I have learned how to spell diarrhea, since I've had to type it that much

Cassio, I like a straight talker, me. Thank you for your wise words, although reading about my bump being forever joined to Damian Omen made me gnash my teeth in horror

Kara, we are all feeling slightly overwhelmed or terrified at the prospect of becoming responsible mothers (those of us who are first-timers, anyhow). You have youth on your side and all that energy and adaptibility, unlike me who is a stubborn, inflexible and ancient slag hag.

Muddling, it's fascinating how each mum-to-be will fret over entirely different things, isn't it? Your fear of public breastfeeding does not resonate at all with me after years spent lobbing my tits out for money, not to mention me minge