MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 8: Scans done, bumps showing, first flutters

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Me too suprised but trying to wait it out..

lovely news pram ( the udder leaking milk ) and also the bubba ahh how exciting

Pram he's loving all the attention and how much sofa time he's getting. He's such a little trooper :)

rock ahhhh literally 24 hours after mine! Let's get this spreadsheet started!

pram sounds like a perfect day!!

so where are you based - if you look around you can get them quite cheap - mine was only £50 compared to the £100 I was expecting!

So mine's £55, I didn't think that was too bad really. Also wasn't expecting to be feeling kicks yet when I booked it and wanted some reassurance that everything was going according to plan!!

Edam hedgehog bread its the best!!

i love this bread rock turtle bread

Good news on the co-operative baby, prambo!

Congrats on house news comms and grey! Also glad your pup's doing well, comms.

My anomaly scan isn't till 7th November; three scans in total, including an emergency one at 7 weeks-ish, just doesn't seem enough to me, especially as they've been the only times so far that this baby has felt real. I'm another one who is finding it difficult to get very excited about it at the moment; my first trimester tiredness is refusing to budge, and everything just feels like loads of work. Sorry I'm being a whiny little bitch, I'll stop soon, promise.

I've officially suspended my open university studies today as well. I'd done one module, and was due to start two shorter modules in October and April, but as the exam for one of them is about a week before my due date, and the other module was due to start when I would have a no-more-than-2 week old baby, I realised that it ain't gonna happen! Bit frustrating, and I was desperately trying to find a way around it, but I have to be sensible for once... Ah well, I'll pick it up again in a year hopefully, if baby allows. Meanwhile I actually have time to plan for the baby now! Which still feels like I'm planning for someone else's baby, but one day my brain will accept that this is actually happening to me. Hopefully before I go into labour.

Anyone heard back from saggy? I hope she has good news to post this evening.

justmuddlingthroughit It doesn't feel real to me yet either. Seeing the baby on the scan I couldn't believe it was inside me. I am hoping it will be more real once I can feel some movements.

DP on the other hand is feeling very fatherly bless him and bonding with my non-existent bump

Aww pram you big softy, you

Hey just, I forget I'm preggers half the time. I'm sure when there's a lot of kicking it will feel more real!?! And maybe we'll all get the glowing soon.

In other news, I had Greggs for lunch because of this thread. Disappointing. They were out of sausage and bean pasties. The chicken one was nice though. But the main problem was my 'pudding' - I chose a carrot and walnut cake - mistake. Dry, boring, blah. What should I have had (and don't say a doughnut, I'm not a fan)??

Ice Vanilla slice, definitely.

My pelvis/hips/back are in agony. I've got SPD haven't I

just not feeling very real here either! Shame about the timing of your course but like you said, plenty of time after baby and definitely the sensible decision.

pram I reckon its a little girl you've got in there!

comms sorry you are in pain. I can feel the spd starting. I just know it's going to get worse and I don't want it to!

We had spag Bol for dinner. Well, fusilli Bol if you want to be precise. Sausage casserole tomorrow I think. I'm so tired, I had a good sleep last night but I think I had too much sleep and I've been shattered all day.

Muddling, I think you've absolutely done the right thing suspending your study; that shit can wait and you already have tons on your plate . I salute all of you working and commuting and having general responsibilities that I don't have, coz i iz a loser, innit

IceIceBaby, sorry the opportunity to sample the delectable S&B pastie passed you by. Never had the chicken. Never had the sausage roll (cows toenails are cows toenails however you dish 'em up).

Shame you don't like doughnuts; that banana milkshake-flavoured cream filling is like the archangel Gabriel himself coming in your mouth..

Abi - yes, I was on the ttc #2 nut jobs thread.

I feel like absolute crap today - think I'm just v tired.

Prambo - loved reading about your scan. All v exciting.

Hope all ok with Saggy.

Mummy, what makes you think it is a she-devil girl?

Snap MummyPig, fusilli Bol here tonight too. And my Tesco shop just arrived. I'm just about to crack into the Cadbury's creations jelly bean and popping candy choccy. Mmmmm.

Not a good idea to read this thread right before dinner; sausage rolls made with cow's toenails and 'placenta smoothies' are doing nothing for my nausea. DH is out tonight so I'm going to have beans on toast - I seem to have regressed to baby foods - if it wasn't this it would've been a fishfinger sandwich. Also can't remember the last time I ate any fresh fruit. Is anyone else struggling to eat healthily?? I seem to be fine with veggies but right off fruit (and used to eat loads!). Lovely to hear about happy scans today - now just need to hear that Saggy is ok.

Pain I'm struggling with veggies. I'm now managing satsumas and I'm good with fruit juice. I miss eating healthily. But at the moment, my GP has told me to eat whatever I can get down, so I'm going with that

grey I can't say it was particularly gory or messy - it just plopped into a little bowl. I'd forgotten to mention that bit to DD1 though (she knew about the existence of the placenta and it's function just not about it coming out) so she kept exclaiming about how messy it was which amused the MWs who thought it was not very messy at all. She also disliked the cod stump (which I'd also not thought to mention) and complained about it until it fell off DH accidentally pulled it off

Can't say the whole keeping/using the placenta thing has ever appealed to me particularly but I don't think it's weird. I did consider a lotus birth (where you keep the entire thing attached until it falls off rather than cutting the cord) but that was only really because I wanted delayed cord clamping and the first time they ignored that and I figured that if I asked for something more extreme I'd have a better chance of getting it. (I did get it second time round without having to ask for a lotus birth BTW.)

Here they go by scan dates so I think I'm officially 14+5 but I think I'm 14+2 although my LMP is nearly two years ago so I'm just going off symptoms and when I got a positive test (I get symptoms and a positive test very early).

I'm with the not feeling like it's real. I think for me it's a combination of this one being unexpected, not being anywhere near as ill as last time (I can't believe last time I was still lying in bed all day trying not to throw up) and that previous losses means I don't dare to believe it yet.

Edameme I don't tell most people when my due date is as I think the whole concept of a due date is misleading (and leads to the unhelpful concept of being "late" or "overdue") and that a due month is more accurate so I just tell people the month aside from close friends/online people who therefore aren't "real"/official people I have to tell. Is there not an "agreed due date" on your notes? I understood that once you've had your dating scan they give you an "agreed due date" which is the "official" one and may be from your LMP or your scan depending on your hospital policy and how big the discrepancy between them is.

Pram mummy thinks you're having a girl BECAUSE OF ALL THE EVIDENCE [polishes crystal ball], you and Gawjus (boy) are the ones I'm most sure of!

Just a quickie as I've got to go to bed- exhausted.

Placentas - I had the injection to help it come out and after nearly retaining placenta last time I plan on doing the same. Unless for some reason I have a c section and they scoop it out (or whatever). Someone suggested the retained placenta was because I'd had the injection, which horrified me, but I checked with my midwife (who is v hippy and wants me to have a home birth) and she said absolutely not, it will just have been at a funny angle or something so hard to come away. It was the worst part of DD's birth and the only part of birth I'm a little nervous of this time.

I have to say delivering the placenta doesn't bother me. When I worked on the stud farm I had to inspect several mare placentas to check for retained pieces. Trust me, a horse placenta is a lot bigger than a human one!

Frank they must be massive - I remember being shocked at the size of mine!!

Oh and re: the PCOS convo - I have it too but the "skinny" version also - only symptoms were wildly sporadic periods and bad skin. A scan confirmed it when I was 24 but one ovary worse than the other. With my 2 previous pregnancies I got pregnant straight away - this time was 3rd month of trying.

Right, Im here.
Its been a bloody long day, and Im now snuggled in bed with my sore tum.
Here's the SP:
I was thoroughly scanned and baby generally looks fine. the head measures a bit small but apparently we dont worry about this because these things arent generally measured for another 5 weeks.

The heart was very difficult to see, as the little one kept jumping about, but there might be an AVSD? which apparently is an internal leak and ups my risk to higher than 1 in 5 BUT, given the size of the heart, think grain of rice they cant be 100% sure there is a defect. I will need rescanning for a proper heart screen in a week or two.
In the end, and this makes me really angry, I was given a CVS. Being just on the brink of 15 weeks they couldnt quite do an amnio. The pisser is that there is NO REASON why I couldnt have come straight up to London for CVS straight after the dating scan 10 days ago! The screening midwife in Colchester was talking out of her arse.
The needle was about 1/2 a mile long and quite scary, but it didnt hurt at all which is a blessing!
The first stage of the results covering Down's, Edwards and Pataus will be back Tuesday, possibly monday and I will get a phone call. The full culture for everything, (no idea what everything is) takes 2 or 3 weeks and I'll only hear if something is amiss, otherwise I might get a letter.
I am bloody shattered!

So sorry to hear about your colleague bear. It's always shocking and devastating to hear this news.

There is good support and advice for workplaces in thisssituation on the SANDS website. They offer advice to help people know what to say/not to say etc.

A year ago that was me and dh. Now we are here, nearly 16 weeks pg. It's not necessarily the end of the story.