MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 8: Scans done, bumps showing, first flutters

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What is it with all the mean midwives today? Surely it's not their place to comment on the Mother's weight unless it's likely to be a pregnancy health issue.

Btw, DP and I ordered the pram yesterday from Mothercare. It feels exciting to have finally chosen one of the big items. Everything else I already have but I lent the Moses basket to my cousin and never got it back so I guess I'll have to buy a new one.

Kind of with those of you who think the baby show would be a stream of unnecessary crap and overly pushy salespeople, BUT I'm kind of tempted by the freebies (except they're not free if you have to buy a ticket) and a friend recommended it as a great way to see and test out lots of buggies/prams, without traipsing round loads of shops. Can anyone disillusion me about these two things?

I've had my mum and dh with me for both births and childcare permitting mum will be there this time too. As well as extra support for me she also supports dh who at ds1s birth got a bit freaked cos it was all going a bit pear shaped. I felt her reach across to his arm and give it a reassuring squeeze.

Mil was awful, ringing the Labour ward every 5 mins and getting arsey when they wouldn't tell her anything. She then text to tell me that my sil was upset cos I'd ignored her text and I should text her. Erm ok, I'll just stop pushing to text!!!

jolleigh hopefully that's the cork gone!

No one is taking a picture of my FANJO! Not with a baby coming out of it, not ever! Dh didn't even get out of his chair when dd was born because it was so quick!

Pram get your arse back here...you're upsetting people again!

Yes I'm not be for fanjo shots but I don't think they are in any way comparable to moronic selfies at concentration camps! Have a hotcross and by the way because of you I ate approx 7 hot cross buns last week

Pram I think La Pramette is giving you a hormonal surge of oestrogen

I put the kids to bed at 7 and have ever since been in bed trying to sum up the energy to have a bath - I'm joining Grey et al with the bad backs! The school run is killing me!

Also considering going back on the anti-sickness meds

Omg I would just die if someone took a picture of my foof during labour. I think I would throw something at anyone who tried.... That is just me though, I can see why people would want to remember when bump turned in to baby.

Imagine seeing a photo of yourself being born! Although I was a back to back forceps delivery so that was pretty brutal and best not captured on camera

Hey Hottie I'm sure that wasn't aimed at you personally lovely.

In some ways I admire your nerve- my main issue with photos is nowt to do with sacred moments and all to do with my own vanity!

HappyHoppy if you fancy popping to the baby show, you go for it. You know if it's the sort of thing you'd enjoy and whether you'd be easily talked into parting with lots of cash or made to feel like you absolutely need loads of stuff.

I think going to try out pushchairs etc could be a great idea.

Have you got a smart phone? If so, you could wander round and look at stuff, note down what you like (take photos even) then go have lunch and check out if you can buy cheaper online before you order or buy anything?

Seriously you lot, I've only been away one day!

On the subject of birth, only DP there for me. My mother has said she doesn't even want to know I'm in labour! (She's lovely by the way, just a worrier). Although watching OBEM etc I can see why some people would need/want their mum there. No cameras either! I just know personally I'd never want to watch it back! I think it would probably be amazing, I'm just not brave enough!

Grey and was it Jol? I'm with you with the back/pelvis pain! It's not all the time but if I've been walking for a while I really feel it. Pillow between my knees at night is helping though.

Hope everyone's okay! Will be thinking of you tomorrow Saggy x

mummypig I am hoping that the same applies with a lot of us sickies, there could be hope yet!!

grey where can I see your tattoos? I love looking at tattoos! ! ??

Yayh rock heartbeat hearing is fabby I can wait for it this time round ( although surely tempted to get a doppler!)

total well done you for braving amnio, hugz, when do you get the results?

joll yayh to pooing!! The start of many to unblockingdom hopefully!

panto mw sounds horrid, slap her!!!! You're not yhe worst mum to be as you are worrying about this stuff which means you are thinking about it! Perhaps give mw or ultrasound dept a call to rush through a 12week if your needing it for downs testing etc as there is a time frame that they can only do that in I think?! Ladies, am I right?

lumpy me too with my mum and dp at ds birth, they were support for each other as well as me, it worked well. I love my mum to bits and she knows in those circumstances when to take a step back. Im considering whether to do the same this time round too?!

Well no-one will be taking any pics of my fru-fru whether it be labour or no labour!! When we I had ds I must have had at least 16 health officials in the room in the end. He was back to back with the cord wrapped round his neck, venteous, episiotomy, he came out blacky purple, the most horrid experience of my life hence why it has taken me this long to consider having another!! (Our ds is 4yrs old! ) but he was fine after all that distress of a long and horrid labour, its amazing how resilient they are really!! And us too! We are amazing ladies

Still feeling nauseous, and still haven't done the online shop!! :0/

Look, it's my opinion and if it offends then I suggest you look away. I wasn't the only one to suggest that fanny picture-taking when baby is hanging out seems just wrong. My narcissism comment applied to self-absorbed and inappropriate 'selfies' and was caught up in my Auschwitz comment. I'm not going to apologise for saying the world and its wife are obsessed with recording the minutiae of their lives.

Jesus, I'd thought a simple 'it wasn't aimed at you personally' would have sufficed

Hi,

I tried to post this today but failed due to mobile phone being stoopid.

These offers were in a baby magazine I was reading at the maternity clinic the other day.

The Baby and Toddler Show
Save £10 when you book two tickets (normal ticket price £15pp)
QUOTE BBW17
This is at bluewater

The Baby Show
Tickets from £11.50 when you quote BABYL

F&T

Abi your first birth experience sounds very like mine. I often describe it as one of the worst days of my life! But to reassure you - everyone said DC2 would be easier and sure enough DD popped out quickly and easily, with one arm up by her head like superman! I was shitting bricks about it during the pregnancy but this time around I am actually quite looking forward to it. And only partly because it will signal the end of this pukey pregnancy!

Prambo, totally agree about the selfies in unsuitable situations. I've also been to auschwitz and birkenau, twice actually. I took a few artistic shots but most definitely didn't ask anyone to take one of me there! I have also visited the WW1 battlefields in Belgium several times, one visit my dad asked me to pose for a photo, it just felt odd and I didn't smile.

Back on baby stuff, DH and I are going to the baby show just for that reason - looking at prams and getting freebies. But then I love big shows like that so it suits us. We are staying in London for a few days as a sort of final break just the two of us.

Yep comms it was me with the pains. A pillow isn't doing much but it's not particularly severe so for now I can just complain a bit and it makes me feel better

Definitely mentioning it to the midwife though...if it's set to get worse I'll definitely need the help.

Jolls, what is your fucking problem?

nooo hot i love those sort of tattoos theyre great - i have 2 love hearts on each hip i got in my hometown when i was way too young and they are so bad and wonky but i kind of love them because of that haha!

mummy why don't you get your nose redone?!

total glad they managed in the end, fx for you!

yay joll hopefully that'll lead to bigger and better things ;)

comms I've been doing that too it really seems to help actually doesnt it!

abi they're on my pics on my fb profile - send me your link and i can add you to the group

on the midwives/camera thing - i want lots of footage and pics from the whole thing but none from the business end just because personally i dread to think what it'll look like and i don't think id want to see it but can see why someone may want that as i suppose theres no harm in having the pictures, i would like a pretty comprehensive account though just not the money shot.

just so you all know, dp told me that labour/birth photography is getting really popular though, like as in a professional photographer like you'd have at a wedding...

My problem? I happen to understand how some of your earlier comments may have upset people who have made the choices that you are criticising. Though I'm now starting to understand that you seem to think you can talk to people however you like and it's actually never your fault if you phrase it in a way that offends.

Panto not a nice midwife. Hope you get a scan sorted soon and the next midwife you see if much nicer

Abi they said it would probably be Monday before we get the results so it'll be a long weekend... DP is being lovely though and running around after me!

Oh heck, calm down folks. Deep breaths all round eh? This ain't a fight club.

And so you're aware, my first comment to you was made with playful intent.

So haven't been on here in the last few days, just so busy with work and there were 20 odd pages to catch up on. Think I skimmed through most of it!

On people in delivery room, our hospital has a 1 birthing partner only rule - it was the same in my last hospital - maybe an NI thing. First time I watched OBEM, I was surprised to see lots of people there. I'm sure they make an exception for a doula though.

Also, no way would I want a photo of birth but then I'm very squeamish! It doesn't annoy me that others do -Hot sorry the comments have got to you - take a deep breath and come back to us.