MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 8: Scans done, bumps showing, first flutters

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Sunshine - I'd pay to see the student reactions! That would be hilarious. I just don't understand having a photograph of a half emerged baby while the mother's bits are being stretched more than she can stand. There are better things for the birthing partner to be doing.

Joll I don't know whether I'm typical but I can't say the stretching hurt really. I could feel that there was something large between my legs but there wasn't any discomfort or anything.

God no. My mum is banned from the delivery room...she flat out wouldn't respect my no photos until I'm ready policy, she'd rather do it while I can't kill her and apologise after. The OH can look, but other than the medical people, he's the only one allowed at that end.

Suppose it's certainly a good reason to get a wax before hand...if my vagina absolutely must be photographed, I'd rather it were all smooth to display the blood and amniotic fluid to its best

That's quite reassuring BWP...just all the other horrendously painful things to consider now

Too right Joll, my parents are banned until after too. And they are a nightmare with photos. Dad told me they'd emailed some photos of my and newborn DS to 'a few family' (read- all family plus all their mates who'd ever met me). Before I got a chance to veto. In one of them I looked awful. Harrumph.

I don't understand relatives at the birth either. I'll bet it really bugs the midwives.

I think this is why I hate today's camera-phone obsession. Everything has to be recorded. Nothing is sacred. I got really upset at recent reports of crass students taking 'selfies' at Auschwitz on their school trip. Fucking obscene. I've been to Auschwitz and Berkenau and I cannot for the life of me see why cameras are allowed. This bloody obsession with photographing ourselves: Look at me at a concentration camp!; Look at me having sex!; Look at me sucking cock! Look at me with a baby hanging out of my fanny! It's narcissism of the highest order and it makes me exceptionally cross.

Heard the heartbeat today at the midwife, and could hear kicks too! Not that I would have known that's what it was, midwife told me I was worrying about irregular heartbeat

Anyone thinking about going to the baby show, check groupon etc as they often have cheap tickets for it, or 2 for 1 offers.

It's so hard to catch up on here!

hot I would not have been impressed with your midwife either. I'm a 14/16 so not a lot of hope for me!

joll hope you've managed to "go" now! I'm not sure if I have developed spd as I already had a bad back and pelvis injury but my back if so painful I can hardly move in bed. It bloody hurts and the other morning I collapsed when I got up and DP had to crane me up because I couldn't get up! Doesn't bode well but have been referred to the physio so we shall see. Oh and I hate having my photo taken never mind the thought of a photo whilst giving birth. No. Just no

lyra glad you've been reunited with DP!

saggy you know I'm thinking of you x

sunshine hope your feeling better and I had to chuckle at the thought of your students comments if you were on one born!

pram lovely your friend brought all the baby things for you and well done on coping easily with what could of been an awkward meeting. I don't think I have actually put on much weight yet according to the scales but look like Ive put on 2 stone. Just look fat not pregnant...!

I have just had the amnio today. Got a bit upset as they were running behind and worked myself up. Of course the first try he couldn't get any fluid do had to have it done again (sad) If they couldn't get any I would have to go back another day ( I was horrified) thank god he got some! It wasn't nice but could of been worse I suppose. it's hard when he's saying don't move but try hard not to flinch when someone's shoving a bloody big needle through your stomach...
I'm a little sore so having a lie down with some chocolate. I have my 16 week appointment tomorrow so if she's says owt about my weight she can sod off. Chocolate is my friend..

I'm not planning on letting anyone into the delivery room bar DH - a good motto I picked up from MN is "If you weren't there at the conception, you won't be welcome for the birth!" It was aimed at a pushy MIL who was threatening to show up at the hospital as soon as her DIL was in labour

Joll I am totally with you on that, only DH is going to be there. I would not want a singe other person in there (other than the old MW). I saw that one with the son . It also makes me die when they have their MILs there!! I would sooner have quads than my MIL anywhere near me at birth!

Pramela I agree. DH and I went to New York earlier this year and visited Ground Zero. I found it very moving and cried quite a bit. I did take some photos of the memorial waterfalls and the new tower, but there were loads of people posing and grinning while having their picture taken I just kept thinking "what if a relative of a victim came along to find these idiots grinning inanely in front of their loved ones name?"

My mum doesn't even let me eat a hot dog without making me strike a pose lol. She's been very open about the fact she'd go against my wishes and photograph me...and so has now been informed she'll find out about me going into labour at the same time she finds out about the birth.

I only had DH with me for my first birth and wrote on my birth plan that I wanted the minimum number of people necessary to be present but after having a ridiculous number of medical staff present for no reason other than the MW forgetting about me for ages and then panicing in case something had gone wrong I decided to have a doula the next time which I'm very glad about as it made the birth a much more positive experience (as did having a homebirth though I realise they're not for everyone). Even with DD1 present for the final bit when DD2 was born there were still less people present that time! The main reason I didn't have a doula the first time was because of not wanting "extra" people present but I cannot recommend having a doula highly enough and think that everyone should have one.

Ooh! Forgot to mention...I finally pood! Not enough to compensate not having had one since weekend but it was a start.

We've never informed anyone when I've gone into labour - the idea never occurred to me until I came across people on forums discussing it and TBH, we've always had enough on our minds at the time that even if we intended to it wouldn't have been done. Plus it surely just encourages unwelcome visitors when you're still in labour or have only just given birth.

Very much agree. Have no desire to allow other people see my lady garden at any time let alone when I'm pushing a baby out

. Completely agree with you pram on the photo issue

. Pleased for you joll :) - I'm sure a lot of my sickness in constipation.

Nice motto frankie

BWP a Doula sounds awfully posh. Nice though. But I'm making OH do the work- I nearly drowned him on both my 2 water births by pulling him halfway in the birthing pool- don't think I could ask a stranger to do that!!

The daughter of one of the ladies I work with married an American and moved out there. She had her first baby last summer and had to gently explain to her MIL that she wouldn't be in the delivery room or sat in the waiting room. Apparently it is very common in the US for the extended family (grandparents, siblings, etc) to gather at the hospital while you are giving birth and sit in the waiting room

From what I've seen on TV, it's very common in the US for the extended family to be in the delivery room, gawping at the business end.

I can't understand why anyone else would want to be in the delivery room anyway. Just plain odd!

Am 13+2 today, not bought a single baby thing. No names picked, had an emergency dating scan but no 12 week scan yet... still waiting for that. Feel like the worst mum to be ever!!

Really upset after my midwife appointment, she mucked up taking blood so she had to try with both arms. One is mega bruised the other bled through the plaster and ended up running down my arm a bit before I noticed. She also said I am obese and tried to get me to sign up to slimming world. Please someone say this is gets better?

/end meltdown.

Yes lyra, I've noticed that on tv too. With video cameras! Energy.

Errggh not energy!

panto that sounds awful- you have been unlucky. Most midwives I've met have been lovely. Poor you.

So just to confirm. I'm an 'obscene, narcissist, vulgar hippy who is ruining a scared moment by taking photos of my birth for me to look at.

Gotcha.

ROFL at the idea of me being posh. Seriously though - it really was worthwhile and it isn't that expensive. Ours was around the £300 mark which is less than some people spend on prams.