MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 8: Scans done, bumps showing, first flutters

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In a major grump today. I ache, I'm tired, I'm sick of dry retching, I cried a lot last night, I have really bad lower back pain. Basically I am feeling sorry for myself and want my mum! I'm going to be a mum how can I keep wanting my mum! I definately do not want to be at work...

No need to reply, I just needed to get that out of my system!!

Currently craving : Cheddar, and mugs of gravy (not together).

Aw Mimili you poor thing. Can you get your doctor to sign you off for a few days? I escaped the sickness, I can imagine how draining it would be to be dry retching all the time.

JK10 Your DH's bemusement had me laughing all over my branflakes!

Joll The next time you have a day free get on the prune juice and have a good 'ole clean out!

Lyra Did your DP get back early this morning? Or is it today?

Yes you can feed lying down. I found I got a lot of mixed advice like "tummy to tummy", "nose to nipple", "babies and mums have to learn how to breastfeed", "of course it's not something you learn it's a natural instinct", "we don't need any of this strictly come breastfeeding stuff!"

So it is totally individual and you will find out how it works for you best. Maybe you could get up out of bed to feed the baby if you think you really will fall asleep. But if you do fall asleep you won't be the first or last!!

And Foxy have the bloody steak! You will be fine. I had a medium rare steak on my Birthday and I'm still in a good mood from it

Frankel, straight-up proper cream is bland and rubbish. Fake cream all the way here. What's that custardy stuff they put in vanilla slices that isn't actually custard? I like that, me. JK10, where the fuck have you been? Glad you're back. I laughed my head off at your banana/doughnut/milkshake confusion. Let me clarify: Greggs do a doughnut which is smothered in a thick, gloopy, primrose-yellow banana-flavoured icing which is topped with white chocolate curly shavings. Inside the doughnut is a sublime thick banana-flavoured fake cream. I'm not even a fan of bananas but this fucker made my fanny moist Frankel, your deranged grin emoticon at the end of your post to Jolls makes me think you believe I'd be excellent company for her

Who had the steak bake for breakie? Lucky bitch. Go and suck that man off immediately. He deserves some lovin'.

I'm appalled someone's husband dissed a pie butty. Follow Joll's instructions carefully and that man will be licking you out for the next month.

Sorry for all the sexual references. There's a man across the street sand-blasting Beryl's house and he's making me sweat.

Is there a good enough zoom on your phone that you could provide us with perving material on FB Pram?

Thanks Mummy I was trying to explain bedside cots to my mum & she was saying she can't see the point because you have to pick the baby up to feed it anyway. I was hoping there was some lazy alternative

HotCross I know the steak would be fine, but it's that nagging thought that what if I was that one in a million who had a problem from it and I knew in advance the risk, it would be awful! I wish I just didn't know.

JK10, surely the early morning knocker was your sandwich-crazed MIL? Oh, and I ignored your advice and read your post about your little 'un. Yes, you are being an evil mother. I'm joking. I'd've palmed the little nipper off at three weeks...

Jolls, in this day and age you shouldn't be suffering like that with constipation. I've been wrestling a few behemoth turds mesel' of late and it ain't good. Get thee to a chemist. I'm sorry I assumed incorrectly about the source of your angst. I won't become one of those fiancé-bashers, I promise.

Fox, how come you're bemoaning your job? Don't you work in an office full of men with a vista of Dunstable-esque countryside? Tsk!

I've been on mumsnet long enough to know that breastfeeding lying down is a bloody art - and don't let anyone tell you different

Lyra, you walking like John Wayne this morning?

I'm still agog at Pirate's beautiful tiled Edwardian path

Yes, full of men. No attractive men though. And I never really get to talk to anyone because I'm in my own office, so I get lonely . It's true, the vista is nice, but the window is behind me, so if I gaze at it it's pretty obvious I'm not working. And there's no staffroom or anything, so lunch has to be eaten at my lonely desk or outside in the rain. And I can't emphasise enough how mind-numbingly boring it is.

JK I do not have any kids of my own but after a over a decade of childcare I feel I can comment. It will be good for your DD to 'get used' to preschool, it is not mean or selfish. She will benefit from being in a different environment, she will grown in confidence and become more independent, which can only be a good thing. If you are happy with the school then I am sure your DD will settle to it and enjoy her time there.

Fox have you seen the co sleeping cots/cribs which basically sit right next to your bed see here for examples. maybe they would make you feel a bit more confident about not dropping baby on the floor? I think that even in your zombified state your body tends to know what to do to keep your baby safe even whilst you nod off, it might never happen you might have one of those babies who sleeps very well only waking for short feeds, we can all dream!

In regards to 'Things you shouldn't eat whilst pregnant' I have eaten the following... medium rare stake (three or four times), rare duck, cheese with rind on it (goats cheese), pate (twice), under cooked eggs (some from unpasteurised eggs) and consumed vast quantities of herbal tea more than likely containing things I'm 'not supposed' to have. I have also eaten small quantities of wheat and dairy (which I shouldn't because I'm allergic). I have also had sips of wine, gin & tonic and cocktails, (but not a glass to myself). I figure we all survived back in the day when there weren't the current 'recommendations' why beat myself up over these things.

F&T

Feel your pain Fox - my offices used to be very similar. Luckily my employer is large enough that they did eventually build us something fantastic that's all open plan, decorative and has great facilities, even a room for pregnant and breastfeeding women (a bit telling, but as I trust you all, type '1 Angel Sq' into Google images). Is there nowhere scenic nearby that you can go and have a walk through on your lunch and a couple of intervals in the day? It's soul destroying staying in a room alone all day every day

Are you on shedloads of money, Foxtrot? If so, then I'll swap and you can come and sit on my settee all day with a view of Beryl's house, seeing no-one, doing nowt and not getting paid for it. Boring jobs are just awful, though, aren't they? You have my sympathy.

God bless the 35-stone female client who has gifted th'usband with a jar of her home made plum & walnut jam. He handed it over to me like it was a bomb and said 'I wouldn't eat that if I were you, she's fucking huge and her house is a right mess'. Of course I gave him a proper dressing-down for his fattist language and said she's probably grown so large from eating all her scrumptious jam and perhaps her house is a shithole 'cos she's so busy making the stuff to give away to ingrates like you. I've just tasted her jam and it is delicious. The best I've ever tasted, in fact. All hail morbidly obese jam-makers!

Fox I found with DD feeding her in bed with a BF cushion, meant I didn't drop her I I fell asleep. You'll develop different ways to feed as you go, I found sleeping on my side allowed DD to latch on and off (basically help herself) on the really bad nights when I just had to sleep.

JK don't think you're being mean, DD went a couple of mornings a week from 18 months and DP is a SAHP. As mummy says its good to have your own space and allows your dc to become more independent.

I'm really not a pasty girl, but pies! Lush... Definitely minted lamb or mutton curry (which I've not been able to get hold of in the UK)

I don have to also say I'm not a doughnut person either, but give me the plain glazed Krispy Kreme and I'll be your best mate for life. (I'm cheap me)

Jolls After years on swinging from one side of toilet troubles to the other I can give the following advice about constipation.

Drink plenty but try to spread over the day and try not consume vast quantities at one point in the day and none in another. Water is obviously best but if you are more likely to drink more squash or fruit juice then drink that instead. Warm water is supposed to be the most beneficial but I'm not sure that Tea and coffee are particularly helpful (I don't know if they make problem worse?).

Eat plenty of fruit and vegetables, I try to have two portions of fruit at breakfast (quite often including fruit juice) and plenty of veg the rest of the day, it seems to keep things regular for me. I have heard (on here I think) that bananas can increase problems, so I have been avoiding (but this could be hearsay). Avoid processed food especially anything with white flour. Plenty of whole grains required!! Fruit such as figs, prunes and dried fruit such as apricots and raisins are supposed to be particularly good for getting things going.

Try taking a warm bath this should help everything relax and soften and help get things moving, if nothing else it will help ease the pain. You could also use a hot water bottle if bath is not an option. Walking is also supposed to be good for keeping things regular.

When you finally get the urge, go as soon as you can and try to relax as much as possible (not easy I know). Don't strain for too long, if nothing is happening get up off the loo and try again when the urge is stronger. Sitting on the toilet straining with nothing happening is a one way street to piles (Piles is the reason I never forget to eat fruit in the morning!).
If you start to go and don't seem to be getting anywhere sometimes its better to relax rather than strain, feels wrong but sometimes it works. Also someone mentioned on here (sorry cant remember who) Vaseline on ones exit makes things a bit more comfortable, but I have not tried this one myself. Hope that the issue resolves itself soon.

F&T

I hate the word 'gifted'.

F&T, proper little rebel aren't we? I like the sound of you. Get your behind on faceache, missus, we want to see you!

MTB, if you have a penchant for Krispy Kremes then you are certainly not 'cheap'.

jols ps - yes to fybrogel, it's a life saver - tastes vile an has an awful texture, but god does it work!

Was doubled over in pain two weeks ago, and I still get it I I forget to take my fybrogel

Can we have Vaseline On One's Exit in the next thread title? Pleeeeease....?

Just wanted to catch up first now time for a moan.

I found out last night that my boss has been blabbing about me being preggers. I have only told my family and her so far (when she told me the same news, thought it was only fair to reciprocate, needed to tell her at some point anyway!), so when I found out she had gone off and informed one of her friends (who also happens to be friends with me too) I was devastated. She knew I hand't told many people and that I wanted to keep it to myself as I informed her as much at the time.

My friends I've know for 10 years don't know yet and yet my boss thinks its ok to go around telling her mates about it. More than anything I was really looking forward to telling this particular friend and feel I have been robbed. Now wondering who else she has told, feel very uncomfortable to potentially be playground gossip.

I know some of you think I am too precious about it all but I really wanted to get used to the idea of impeding motherhood before sharing with the world. (outside of you lovely ladies that is) But I feel exposed and like my hand is being forced. I want to tell people when I am ready to when my boss decides to pass on the news.

Right Moan over normal service will now resume.

In other news, OH and I picked up eBay bargain newborn clothes which are perfect exactly what I wanted, now all I need is a few 0-3 clothes (in case I have a 10lber, which is totally possible) and long sleeved vests (cause I only have two). Also in other other news my husband is wonderful, had a crap day at work yesterday and he just ran around and did everything last night, so nice to chill knowing the washing up was being done.

F&T

Hi F&T yeah, I was keen on getting a bedside cot but my mum was putting me off saying that you had to get up to feed the baby anyway & that baby would grow out of it super quick. And she's breastfed 3 kids & I've done none, so I thought she might know what she was talking about. But maybe my dream of feeding an infant while still lying in bed is not dead afterall!

Jol annoying thing is, my office is a new build! It was purpose built, but they still didn't think to put in a staffroom. It's quite nice, and it is open plan for the majority of the peasants employees. I like having an office, it lets me mn all day long, but does get a bit lonely. Yes, there is plenty of scenic walking potential nearby - we're in the lake district so lots of nice mountains and rich peoples houses to gawp at.

Pram Does 16K count as shedloads? I will subcontract out to you, but if you don't mind I'll sit on my own sofa all day? I've got a new sofa coming next week! Whoo! My first new piece of furniture. It's a big moment .

F&T, we don't think you're precious at all and what your boss has done is despicable. The whole telling-people aspect of these pregnancies is to be treasured and you are right to feel robbed. I would certainly tell her to keep her trap shut. Here, have these:

Pram you'll be disappointed, my FB profile doesn't contain any photos of my face (I get the irony of that), you'd only be able to find out my RW name and what I get up to in my spare time. The latter I am happy to share with you. Suppose you'd also find out what my hubby looks like also, maybe. Don't really post much on my FB, more an aide to communication with the outside world.

I'd like to think of myself more as an extreamy rather than a rebel!

Still trying to make my mind up whether to join...? Boss away I am impervious

F&T

Aw, Foxy, I didn't mean to pry about your earnings of course I fucking did. Who am I kidding? What's your new sofa like? Any links we can drool over? My sofa is collapsed in the middle which is making getting out of it now I have a bump pretty arduous. What I want is a massive second-hand chintz thing with extra deep cushions to sit on. Might go and google....

Argh, F&T That is so not on of your boss! Really unprofessional! My boss told all my colleagues, but I think he was pushed into a corner because everyone was starting to guess as I was off work for so long. But it's totally different telling your friend!