January 2014 (thread 9) Pregnancy half time is over. Fast growing bumps, braxton hicks and we thought we would worry less!

[Frizz1986]

Hope its ok me setting up a new thread.
Couldnt see one, but if I am just being blind please tell me.....

A no sex rule wouldn't make a difference in this house at the moment. Too tired and everytime I start to feel interested DH does something incredibly irritating and the moment passes

Am so fed up of having gestational diabetes now. I was only diagnosed at 28 weeks last time so had 10 weeks of it. This time round it's ALREADY been nearly 10 weeks. I want chocolate. And not the one tiny piece I could probably get away with, a whole kg bar. Ridiculously, so long as they fit under my bump, my pre-pregnancy clothes are now way too big so I suppose I'll appreciate it once the baby is here.

Has anyone noticed a boy/girl trend in Jan yet? Seem to be lots more boys than girls or is that just me? My intuition is telling me I'm having a boy this time but we didn't find out.

sarah glad your niece's operation went well and the transfer to Leicester has gone/is going smoothly.

sarah wonderful news about your niece! Still willing her on to keep on recovering here! You can use as many smilies as you jolly well please.

Today I had my meeting about my mat leave. It was nice to told how vital I am to the team. Bosses have decided not to hire anyone to cover my work as by the time they got them anywhere near trained up, I'll have returned anyway. So it'll be a case of seeing what the business can wait 7 months for and divvying up the rest. Was also asked if there was anything I needed, to let them know if they're piling too much on me and was everyone treating me OK and to let them know if anyone wasn't. Was half tempted to take advantage and mention the stupid irritating twunt who's been snubbing me for several weeks (his own stuff up) needed sorting out, but decided not to. Would've been too easy. Even my own boss who's a lovely guy has started wearing headphones in order to drown him out!

It's a real novelty for my bosses as there are so few women in my department and they haven't had anyone go on mat leave for nearly a decade!

Oh, someone in another division came to me for help today. They wanna borrow me before I go on leave cos it's mega urgent. Have work spilling out of every orifice already. Just as well my hormones have effect of me not really giving a @?*!...Well, it's nice to be wanted I guess!

Just checking in, moved house and had no internet for nearly 3 weeks!!!

Hope the move went well love!

tarka I think there's more boys than girls on here. I'm also the only person I know in 'real life' that's due with a girl, and I know 7 other people due at the end of this year/beginning of next!

Marking my place after a stressful few weeks. All is well with the wee fellow now being quite active another team blue flag here

Will take me a while to catch up from the last thread but hope you are all well, keeping fit with the toilet trips through the night - my loo is downstairs and i swear one day i will tumble there half asleep!

Sarahl good to hear your niece is on the mend

Hi to everyone :D

Oh, curly, it's lovely to have you back with us :) Glad all is ok.

Hope the move went well, love.

tarka your post has made me want my test results to be negative even more! Hang in there! You can do it!

tooth as hectic as things are for you at work, that must have been really nice to hear. They often dont realise what they have got until its preggers and walking out the door!

Hey curly! Great to hear things are good!

Glad you survived the house move love!

mrsg my two mates who are preggers,in RL arent finding out what they are having. I would love them both to be boys so they could all be the three musketeers! I know a few people with boys already, but it would be nice knowing some his age right from the start.

Starting to stress - DH has been hogging the shower and I need to leave for the hospital in 45 mins and still have to wash, dry and straighten my hair!!!

Sultana Run the hot taps elsewhere in the house, he will soon get out

I have not managed to have time to straighten my hair since dd1 was born. My morning routine consists of brushing teeth and hair, checking I don't have a crusty face, stains or vomit anywhere then running out of the door!

love glad the move went well.

curly good to here all is well, nice to have you back :)

Tooth that sounds stressful, but at least they are supportive and recognise your worth.

Tarka no chocolate :( Can you have diabetic chocolate, or is it dreadful?

thanks toby! having a boy will be an adventure, def not looking forward to the peeing!

going to try and register at a hospital for the birth today. should have done it months ago but i wasn't sure where i'd be and now everywhere is full. bleurgh. anyone given birth in paris before? i'm expecting to have a fight in my hands about not wanting an epidural. worried they'll stick one in me and i'll go proper batshit crazy on them...i hate feeling restricted.

also totally breaking own commitments about not buying stuff. all second hand, but still...our flat is 30m square and we already have dd. so far got a lot of winter babygros and cardigans, a carrycot/moses basket thing which slots onto a pram base and a bouncy chair. still the sling, nappies, muslin squares and bodysuits to get.

So much news from everyone, struggling to keep up so yay, boo, hugs, - please delete as applicable.

Nice to have you back curly

Had a wobble at DH last night. There was a lady & a small person on train home last night & small cried non stop for 45 min journey. Felt sorry for her, irritated by crying, irritated by the comments other commuters were making and ended up convincing myself that Pootle & I will never be able to go out in public in case one of us embarrasses ourselves.

I know a few of you have dc's already, how do you cope with horrible people who have no right to pass judgement doing it anyway?

Space - judgy people will judge whatever you do. Just ignore! The best you can do is your best

welcome back curly

I am def sensing a lot more boys so far.
The last 2 people at my work to have babies had boys as did my sister and my cousin. Would be nice to add a girl but still think its a boy. Keep saying 'him' as well as I just don't like using 'it'

Dh felt a huge kick last night which was really nice. Hoping it makes him smile during the tough times at the moment.

tooth thats good to know how valued you are. I don't think you ever really find out if your work appreciates you unless you are leaving for something.

My boss hasnt even passed my letter and MATB1 form over to the HR guy yet (its only a small family business tho so he does know I am going) as she is a bit in denial I think. She keeps having dreams that I tell her I don't want any maternity leave!!

I have advised them that I want the full allowance as I think its easier to go for the maximum (as then I know what I can have) and then I can just give them 8 weeks notice to return earlier.
The girl who is currently on mat leave has been nagged about when she is back and if she is back and I just don't want to have to deal with that.
Anyway my boss turned round and said if you text or call and say you want to come back then ill let you back the next day lol.

They haven't even started planning my cover yet either as another girl has handed in her notice so we have to have a complete switch around to cover her work, plus hire someone new to fill the empty spot then they can finalise my cover.........Have a feeling that I am going to be manic right until the end.

Does everyone have a diabetes test?? Or is it only people with history of it?
Its something that I have read a bit about what it is but not if everyone gets tested for it.
I really won't be looking forward to the not eating bit. I love food and am always hungry (sometimes to the point of feeling sick) by about 11am.

Oh and on no sex.....Me and dh have only partaken once since finding out. I struggled before ttc (psychological I think) so i was in rather a lot of pain. Everything wasn't stretching how it should (sorry tmi).....
Anyway I had to get some things to "stretch" myself before we tried anything and eventually all was ok, but after not doing anything for ages things have tightened a bit again (i think its all nerves due to the pain previously) so we have only tried it once.
And now bubs is moving more I am worried that it will freak me out a bit!!

Oh and I really need to work on pelvic floor stuff. Have been bad and only remembered to do it recently and have only been doing 8 reps (holding for 10secs) once/maybe twice a day. I am guaranteed to be the accidental pee lady

oh and space let people judge all they want. You will know all is ok so they can just keep their mouths shut!

Ignore them! It's all you can do. I never feel irritated by babies crying since I had mine. I just feel a lot of sympathy for the parents.

Frizz, I don't know much about this, and feel free to tell me to STFU, but wouldn't a bit of 'stretching' be a good idea before a baby has to come out of there?

Oh god you've just reminded me of perineal massage/stretching to avoid tears... Had forgotten. Google it!

Good to have you back curly :)

From reading threads on here it really does seem like strangers in public will judge you for everything! I think the best thing to do is just develop a thicker skin! (which I'll definitely have to do as I take everything personally)

Omg extra I had forgotten about that! Does it really work? Beginning to shit myself at the thought of pushing this wriggly monkey out!

Well made it thru the GT test - the sugary drink was nasty and gave me horrendous heartburn. The rennies in my bag were calling me but I wasnt allowed to take them. They will only call with results if its positive, so praying for no phone call.

Bubs got a massive sugar rush and for the first time I could actually see my tummy jumping as he moved. At one point he was kicking so high up under my right boob, that he made my boob jump several times! Hilarious!

Have had lunch and feeling human again now! Apparently Peter Andre was at the hospital doing a piece for This Morning - the nurse kept telling me to hang around at the entrance cos thats where he would be. Well Im sorry Pete, but food and drink were my top priority!

I too am gonna have to grow a thick skin and a dont give a shit attitude! Am particularly worried about breast feeding in public....but gonna force myself out there and just do it! Come on sultana! You can do it!

frizz as far as I am aware not everyone has the diabetes test. The only reason I was referred for it was because bubs abdomen was large at the 20 week scan.....

If the results are negative, then I guess I wont be getting another scan. However, I am paranoid now that his abdomen is gonna remain huge, so may go for a private scan to just check it....

toby you are totally right that 'stretching' will be good for the labour and I am all planned for slowly stretching things out in preparation. I think I am more concerned that I will push it all too fast so that we can have sex and get dh all ready to go before everything has stretched enough for it not to hurt. And then it will either hurt (which will make me nervous again and it will become an awful cycle) or ill have to turn him down which is pretty difficult/unfair to do when we have already started!!!lol
It just sucks that I really have to plan our bedroom antics way in advance.
Must do it though so dh doesn't feel starved!! Feel like a bit of a bad wife

I think the criteria for the diabetes test are: bmi>30?, close relative with diabetes, previous large baby, certain ethnic backgrounds, repeated glucose in urine samples.

Sadly diabetic chocolate is 1. Disgusting and 2. Still quite high too high in carbs for pregnant diabetics.

It's not all bad though. It has made me have to eat so much better. I never got that massive feeling with dd even right at the end. I just looked like pre-pregnant me with a watermelon up my jumper which meant I was still really mobile.

tarka every cloud.....

frizz poor you. That sucks! How stressful for u but it sounds as though you have a good plan of action and need to take things at your own pace, so it doesnt become a mental block.....

The egg crate foam mattress topper has just arrived but it smells vile! Gonna try airing it out!

sultana the thought of your jumping boobs just made me snort my drink over my computer

Arf at jumping boobs. Sounds like baby enjoyed the sugary drink! Hope the result comes back ok.

I've taken the plunge and bought some baby things. Hanging on and waiting to move is taking too long, so we now have a baby bath, crib and mattress (in box - I'm not that organised) and a new changing mat in a pile in the spare room.

I've also started a new stash of cloth nappies, which is very exciting, but highly addictive. Will need to keep a lid on it!

Frizz, we've hardly done it at all. Hormones kill my libido, and DP is a bit weirded out by the bump. It was the same with DS, but we got back on track eventually (as the new bump is testament to!). Don't feel like a bad wife!