MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 7: Are you due next March? Do you have wrecking balls for breasts? Getting moist over iCandys? Then come and talk shyte with us..

[PramQueen1971]

Thread 6

I won't be breastfeeding for longer than a couple of months.

Jolls, have you decided on a style fer yer bonce? Grr! at slatternly work colleagues.

I can't WAIT to hear my gorgeous baby's heartbeat tomorrow when Janice arrives!

My fabulous father has generously offered to hire a car for me for a fortnight so I can view houses to let in my old home town (which is miles away from here and too costly to get to every day on public transport). When I excitedly dug out my driving licence I found it had expired

It'll be two weeks 'til that fucker comes back from DVLA. First World problems, eh?

Marbie, why don't you post anymore?

mummy what is lansinoh and where do I get it? Ih dear nobody warns you about that.

mtb lol at spraying nipples.when you get another inappropriate request ask them to stand back ten yards and open wide. Wait for shocked response

Hey hot is it your birthday day today?

I'm here Prambo, never fear. I have just been feeling so poorly that I have been reading from afar

Great news about the car, will make things so much easier. Did you find any other nice places to add to the shortlist? How are you and ManPram after Saturday's session?

Good luck for the scan today, I am shit and can't remember who it was, but I think it's Mummy? My scan is on Friday, as are a few others, so you aren't the last

How is everyone else today?

It's like a thick vaseliney type lotion. Made from linseed I think. It helps heal and protect nipples. Boots, mothercare etc stock it. Even tesco I think.

Oooh, happy birthday Hot you share your special day with my pup who is currently destroying a toy tiger. ah, to be a dog

I'm thinking a similar style to what I posted in FB that time Pram. Currently doing an 'inspiration page' for my hair dresser so he knows what I mean. Then off to a bloody training course

Thanks for replying by the way...was starting to wonder if my posts had been getting through!

Wow Jol, that's very organised. Post a pic once you've had it done! I've decided I want short hair, because I'm fed up of constantly having wet hair (too lazy to blow dry) hanging about but I sort of looked like a boy last time I had short hair, and would have no idea what to advise hairdresser.

Oh and sorry for lack of replies, I couldn't think of anything helpful to say!

Happy Birthday, Hottie!

Marbles, things are good between me and Manpram although my libido is still missing in action Yes, I have a few more houses lined up but nowt speshul. That cottagey thing had already been snapped up at the weekend

Life is good, though..I'm going to have a baby!

Fox - I have to be organised where my hair is concerned...so few hair dressers can do a nice cut on curly hair that this is the only guy I've ever used more than once! And where the styling is concerned, he likes me to leave the salon looking very 80s...frizz and all! So I kind of have to rein him in before letting him at me with the scissors

Don't worry about the lack of replies thing...I was genuinly wondering if my posts were publishing!

Happy birthday, hot

I've been watching OBEM and wondering how on earth this baby is going to come out. I was set on an ELCS but now I'm not so sure I don't want to give it one more try to get it right this time. But then I remember the excrutiating pain, the ring of fire like somebody had strapped a belt made of acid around my waist, and I get scared. I know I'd probably end up with an epidural again, which would slow down labour and I'd have to have interventions again. Ugh.

No advice for you, I'm afraid, Lyra. It's ring of acid all the way for me..

My cat just leapt out of my arms at the sight of a dog and has left angry red weals down my already-painful cleavage rash

I am having a day. RANT ALERT!

Post Antenatal Classes convo on here I have been having some deep thinking time on what I need from a Class and what OH needs from a class and I feel it is two very different things.

From an Antenatal class I need to be informed of 'worst case scenario' stuff like assisted delivery, C-sections, difficult birthing positions, drugs and their effects etc, so I can still make an informed choice if I end up having a hospital birth and still feel like I am in control (or rather OH is in control).

My plan is to do a Natal Hypno course to cover the birthing aspects (but it won't cover the above). To help me birth in a calm manner regardless of where I end up (cup half full!!)

I have found this amazing sounding class which is run by a midwife and can be tailored to your requirements, they give you a free one to one session where they will discuss your needs. They also do a special Dad's course which would probably cover some of the aspects I don't need covering, plus it might just leave my OH more informed than I, which will help him feel more included, I really do need him lots and lots... It is all quite expensive so I think I need to do some saving up!

To add to my , I have this creeping feeling that I have booked into the wrong hospital, I feel I have made a ill informed decision at my booking appointment based on a fly away comment made by my midwife (my appointment was awash with constant interruptions, especially when it came to the important bit). My basis of choosing a hospital revolved around my likelihood of having a home birth but the hospital associated with the Birthing Centre I am booked in with doesn't have a fabulous rep. When I told my boss (who works in the medical fraternity) where I might end up (if I have a hospital delivery) her face said it all. I am now wondering if it is possible a. to change hospitals and b. whether they would still support my home birth and c. if not can I be persuaded to use their MLU as an alternative.

The problem being the hospital is in another county ( I live very close to the boarder) but it is no further away than the other hospital I am currently booked in with, it would mean living in one county and going to hospital in another. Their rep is very good, they have remained in the top 40 maternity units for the last 9 years and support dad's staying over night and are big on breast feeding support. Crap I have made a bad decision. I think I knew I had from the moment I stepped foot in my current hospital if I am honest, you always try to make the best of things.

Thank you for enduring my rant, feel so stupid, should have done more research. Hope everyone else is feeling more secure about their hospitals they are booked with.

F&T

Lyra Every birth is different, I was reading that on another thread on here. My motto on life is Do what you think is the best thing to do at the time . So make the decision and know your happy with it, if hindsight changes things, just think I made the best decision I could based on the facts I had to had at the time. Could you not still have a C-section during labour if it is really not working out for you? I would have a chat with Midwife, also may be worth seeking out other VBACers for some support and advice, sure there must be a few round these parts.

F&T

hot, happy birthday!! !!

f&t i'm sure they'll let you change, mine is either 25 miles (30 mins) in one direction or 10 miles (30 mins) in the other - the 10 mile one is out of county but seems to be better by all accounts - as far as i was aware though you still have plenty of time to change your mind, also i think they can only 'advise' you to not have a home birth but that ultimately it is your decision if thats what you're worrying about also!

I'm sure someone will know more about this and be able to give you better advice. but i definitely think change if you have a gut feeling!

You sound like you've done a lot of research actually F&T and I think you can change your mind about where you go whenever you want. I'm not booked in anywhere as far as I know, and the only research I've done is that hospital A is MLU and B is a full on maternity unit. I just thought it was a question of whether I want to be in the epidural hospital or not, but I've not given it much thought!

Lyra Thanks for the bf positivity :). Not so much the ring of acid! No advice really but you know your body and I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you and baby.

F&T When's your next midwife appointment or can you make an extra one. Make it clear that you want a focused discussion around your concerns and where you want to give birth, go in with notes if that would help. I don't think it's too late to change your mind. I haven't even been asked where I want to give birth yet.

Maybs Sorry to hear you're still feeling crappy. Any better than you were?

I'm really regretting coming back into work today.

Oh, and happy birthday Hot stuff!

comms My appointment is on Thursday thus why I have been looking into it. I am going to ring the other hospital to inquire as to hope easy it would be to change. If I can change, I think that I will book to go and look around before changing to reassure myself it is right for me, can't keep chopping and changing, continuity of care is also high priority for me. Once I have spoken to the hospital, I will have a better idea of what to say to my MW (who is lovely).

F&T

Fox cause its a birth centre you get associated with the umbrella hospital which is the one I am not keen on. You have to go to the hospital for the scan etc.

F&T

Oh Comms, you still rough? Did you go to the GP? I'm feeling worse. Can't stop shaking today

F&T you can definitely change your mind where you want to go!

F&T - I've been told repeatedly that your decision on the 'where' of it all isn't set. This was after my trouble with my weight meaning I can't choose the midwife lead clinic without my consultant signing it off. It's meant that my 'chosen' place has been set as the hospital up until the consultant says yay or nay. But it can definitely change so don't worry yourself.

F&T I don't think changing will be a problem, just take your time with your decision. I think it's really important you feel comfortable with the trust as a whole so you're secure with what will happen and where you'll be if things don't go exactly to plan.

Maybe I just feel exhausted! Nothing specific really, just completely drained. I'm sure I'll be fine, just wish work wasn't so manic! Sorry you're feeling awful, get yourself back to the GP if things don't start to improve.

Thank you all for all your kind words. I have just got off the phone to the MW at the alternative hospital and she said that I can stay where I am for the moment and transfer later on if I end up having to have a hospital birth. Apparently its quite common, can't think why . I think I will inform MW tomorrow that I will be going to my choice of hospital even in an emergency. I'll put it in the birth plan!!

Comms and Nomaybe sorry to hear that you both feeling rough. Shall be glad that I am not and send you some feeling better vibes, I am happy to share mine.

14 weeks one day today and now feeling like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

F&T