MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 7: Are you due next March? Do you have wrecking balls for breasts? Getting moist over iCandys? Then come and talk shyte with us..

[PramQueen1971]

Thread 6

I don't quite know how to cope - have actually had a full night's sleep and woken up naturally... DS slept in til 7.30!!! We recenttly dropped his nap, and he was a monster in the afternoons due to being tired but it finally seems to have clicked - desperately hoping this isn't a fluke!

Re hypnobirthing - basically if you get stressed your levels of cortisol (stress hormone) increase and that can slow your labour down. Hypnobirthing prevents the cortisol release, as you stay calmer. Also if you are calm it (in theory) hurts less. Didn't work for me last time, but DS was undiagnosed back to back. I didn't get contractions that you expect (was constant pain rather than waves of pain) and just felt like the worst upset stomach of my life! Because it wasn't what I expected, I thought something was wrong and I panicked. Will still do it again this time - if nothing else it was relaxing during the pregnancy!

gawjus I'm not feeling anything either, so don't panic. First timers usually feel things later because they don't know what it is they are looking out for. Just as far as a Doppler goes be aware that a lot of midwives don't recommend them as they can be a source of panic rather than reassurance as women often can't locate the heartbeat and phone them in a panic that something is wrong.

I know it's hard but you ave to try not to stress, it's not good for you or the baby.

Our sure start did antenatal classes when I was pregnant with ds1. Not sure if they do but they were pretty good and free. It's worth asking.

Dopplers are fine if you can use them sensibly and not panic if you have trouble locating the heartbeat. I use mine once a day, max, and if I can't find the heartbeat one day I'm sensible enough to realise that the baby probably hasn't died, he's just not in a great position for picking up the hb at that moment. Gawj, I'd get one if I were you. It's nice to have that reassurance when you want it.

gaw just seconding what lyra said - i use mine once every few days and its like a little treat, but definitely agree if you think you might panic not finding a heartbeat then don't get them as i imagine it'll do more harm than good !

Morning all, sorry been busy packing up the house for the move next week so between that and work, not had much time to come on here.

Re the NHS classes, I did the breastfeeding, ante natal and post natal classes offered by our local sure start, and while most of the info was stuff you could get online and the teachers were a bit useless, it was great to meet other local people and I made a number of friends that I'm still in touch with. And it wasn't means tested so was open to everyone

Mummy speak to Lyndia about whats on offer at East Downlands - I believe they're restructuring it, but it's definitely worth going along to if you can manage

Have my scan finally tomorrow morning, I must be one of the last to get it done.

Morning ladies. Very busy at work so mainly lurking at the mo. Good luck with your DD's first day mummypig and all the best for tomorrow MTb- don't work too hard during your house move! (Also for MTB - I posted waay after the discussion so you may not have seen, but I will miss you at CP by a week! We go 4-8th Nov).

Movement: I'm on DC2, one of the earliest at due date 26 feb and hence 16 weeks tomorrow. No movement yet here. I'm not concerned- I've read to expect it at 18-20 weeks. I think those of us feeling it early are either more in tune with their bodies than me or lucky

Seeing the MW later so hopefully I'll hear the heartbeat for the first time! Have a good day folks.

I was talking to this girl I know a bit back who was having a baby too, and mentioned something offhand about how I hoped to breastfeed and she looked at me with something akin to horror. 'What?! You're going to breastfeed?!'. That was a bit weird.

Thanks Ice it would have been very weird to bump into you at CP - would probably have sepnt the whole weekly looking suspiciously at every woman who might be pregnant

Good luck for the MW appointment today - hope you hear a healthy heart beat - they do say the speed of the heart beat can tell you the sex...

fox I had a similar moment when I was pg with DD, mentioned I was going to BF and her response was it was gross and breasts were only for sexual pleasure - wasn't quite sure what to say after that...

It hadn't occurred to me not to try bfing. I thought that was just the default, so I was surprised at her surprise.

Hey ho, live and learn.

Ugh Fox, what a weird attitude.

MTB, that method of predicting the gender is accurate 50% of the time

I must admit with DD - I was going to try bf'ing but knew my mum hadn't managed with myself or my sister, so didn't get my hopes up, was really chuffed it worked out well.

Lyra I think most methods (until you're actually holding them) are 50% accurate

God, I'm so knackered. I had to go to bed at 6.30 last night(!) because I fell asleep eating dinner. Then I nearly cried when the alarm went off at 7am. Don't get me wrong, this is infinitely preferable to the nausea, but god, I could cry.

Apologies for all the blasphemy

Weirdos - as long as they respect your decision to bf then why the stupid reactions?

And Btw if we weren't meant to breast feed or the only purpose is for sexual pleasure. .. then why do pregnant women produce milk!

mtb maybe you should ask your friend to get checked out there is obviously something seriously wrong with her if her breasts are leaking with a strange white liquid.

I wonder how our ancestors ever managed to get the nutrition from teat to baby's mouth without a pump. I'm going to milk myself like a cow into a bucket.

Rant over

I should clarify that I don't care whether people bf or not. Just don't get all judgmental and impose your views and preferences on your others. which I clearly respond to well as per my last post

A pg friend once told me that she didn't intend to bf because her boobs were for her husband. No they're bloody not, thought I. I said nothing but couldn't help but judge inwardly. No idea if she did end up BFing.

I will be delighted if bf works out. Then my tiny little boobs will have succeeded in their purpose in life:
a) securing a mate and
b) feeding an infant

The partner of the girl I mentioned above told us (with a similar look of horror) that she had told him that her breasts might leak milk towards the end of the pregnancy. Not sure what he was expecting...

breasts might leak milk towards the end of the pregnancy

Mine where like a fucking sprinkler - I leaked constantly from about 20 weeks - sob I'd forgotten the pregnancy hell that is constantly soaked breast pads and smelling of breast milk all day and having inappropriate colleagues asking for a taste Poor DD, every feed both her and I would get soaked - but at least it made expressing easy

Lib love your response - wish I'd thought of that at the time, she was a weird woman, and honestly I was more friends with her husband who I worked with, so she never really liked me (but there's a long weird story behind that - which I shan't bore you all with)

Ha! I'm well impressed with your breasts MTB

Fox - I think they thought they were producing for the local village not just DD - but don't be down on yours I was a small B when I fell pg with DD and was pretty sure I wouldn't be able to BF - even went as far as ensuring the hospital would provide Formula if I couldn't - signed up to a breast milk bank scheme so I could use that for D.

It seems like with all the body fuckups I have (and there are a few) my breasts are one of the few things that work like they should

I don't know what it is I need to vent, but I know I'm in a disgustingly bad mood today.

Probably lucky for DP that he's away on a work thing overnight.

I've come back into work today after having post-bleed time off and moving house, and nobody appears to have felt the need to reduce my work load accordingly. If anything, it's increased quite a lot and everything needs doing yesterday.

I am NOT missing my hair dressers appointment for this smegging place.

Dd had a great time, so sweet!

MTB I go to the children's centre on Monday afternoons. I will go to bumps and babes when the baby is born because they have the bf counsellor there which is very helpful.

I didn't leak milk in pregnancy, but I did after birth which isn't very glamorous. I'm not looking forward to cracked and bleeding nipples again, stockin up on lansinoh!

Mummy So glad she had a nice time.

I think BF scares me more than labour. I'll be really disappointed if I can't but at the same time, bleeding nipples

Doesn't happen to everyone, Comms. And don't go into it anxious and feeling like you won't be able to do it. I found it very easy from day 1 with no help from anybody. dS1 instinctively knew what to do. I did have sore nipples at first but they soon toughened up.