March 2014 - Thread 6 - Spending more time with pornographers and less time with our heads in the toilets hurrah!

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Poor DS, ice. It's a bugger when they won't take their medicine. You know it will make them better but they're too young to get past the fact that it tastes yucky. DS1 has deep and permanent chicken pox scars on his face because he would not take his antibiotics (he was just 3). It tasted foul. All attempts to force it down him were unsuccessful. In hindsight I should have gone back to the doc and got him to prescribe something else.

Great news Mimili

fox my mums getting ours too, what a great tradition haha!

it'ss a good job too because she spends much of her time pissing around outside in various places in the countryside with dogs so fell for the all-terrain bit on the buffalo hook line and sinker (she is an embarrassingly easy sell if its related back to dogs).

I'm not big on the icandy after looking at them properly, i don't like the silver framey bits!

cannot get over the price of the changing bags that actually look nice, but i don't know if i can justify paying that much for one when i could just get a nice bag instead...

joll i don't think its cutting his balls off - could always go the 'don't want to seem ungrateful' route?

great news mimili!

No grey I still havent told my mum and dad and im 14 wks :( i have decided to wait till 20 wk i know its bad but my dad will flip shit and punch it out of me and my mum well i dont know its a constant worry i hate it :(

I shall be treading very carefully Grey ...I know what pram I want and the bitch of it is, it's the upgraded version of our freebie. So I shall be proposing that we keep what we have for vomit swap out spares, then let my mum buy us a nice shiny new one . I have also added the sweetner of us then putting a cap/upper limit on my baby prep spending. Hopefully I have used enough tact

What do people think a reasonable cap would be considering this is my first? And it theoretically excludes the pram?

Grey, the chromy bits on the iCandy are why I love it so much. Shiny!! I must inform my mother of this pram tradition...

Gawj, such a shame you're nervous about telling your parents. It should be happy news. Maybe they'll surprise you. Not sure why your dad would flip. It's not like you're a 14-year-old schoolgirl. You're a grown woman.

I know but my dad has always seen me as a little girl in the end i left home without telling him because he was so controlling id have to be home by dark even at 18...

I am so happy after trying for 3 years with dp but know they are not going to share the joy

gaw is there someone other than your partner that you could take with you / be involved when you tell them - grandparent/sibling etc? have you told your partner's parents/family?

have you told anyone else? it's not good that you have that on your shoulders, id be inclined to get it off my chest, although i suppose in turn that may give you more worries.

joll i suppose it all depends what sort of things you want to get, i think setting a limit's a good idea though!

lyra i don't know why it just reminds me of an iPod or something hahah!

Maybe I'm glad they've got you sorted out. Stock up on two weeks worth of Tropicana and put your feet up!

Ice Poor DS. I hope he's feeling better soon.

Scan was perfect :). Pornographer was lovely and baby was in a really good position. Nuchal was 1.7 and new due date is 14th March so 4 days earlier than LMP estimate.

Partners whole family know he had a very dif up bringing to me hes got 5 siblings all with kids anyway im an only child :( will try get carl to come but even he is a bit worried incase he ends up in a fight with my dad x

Great news Mimii

So glad you're taking a break Maybe - it's easy to ignore these things and plug on, I'm glad your GP took it seriously

Comms - you share my due date! (At least until they push it back at the scan on Thursday )

Great news, comms

Joll, if you want to start off with just the necessities it shouldn't be too expensive. Hut if you want to kit out a full-on nursery you could potentially spend thousands in John Lewis. They have some lovely stuff.

As far as essentials go, you'll need a cot/crib/Moses basket, blankets, clothes (mainly sleepsuits initially), nappies, changing mat, lots and lots of Muslim squares (so useful) and a baby monitor if you're planning to let him/her sleep somewhere you won't hear them. If you plan to bf, just some breast pads for leaky boobs. Oh, and a sling if you plan to babywear. Can't think of anything else. But that lot shouldn't set you back more than a few hundred. Everything else you can get in drubs and drabs as you need it.

Look, Gawj, if your dad has a propensity for violence you really shouldn't be going anywhere near him. He doesn't deserve to know your happy news if he is that kind of father. Either don't tell him at all or send him a text. He has no fucking right to exert this kind of power over you. What a dick.

Muslim squares? But I'm a Christian!

Great news on the scans

Congrats Comms!

Oops Autocorrect strikes again.

gaw, I'm with pram if he's violent do not put yourself in that situation! and i definitely wouldn't take the partner, as i imagine it will just add fuel to the fire - an auntie or uncle - even if its over the phone just so you have some support? good that your partners family are all there for you too.

I'm looking into reusable nappies too to save some money, will use disposable too but hoping to get along with reusables!

Thanks Comms and MTB!

Great scan news Comms!! I can't wait till mine now

Gawj that's terrible. It really pisses me off when people can't pull their heads out of their arses. Well, never forget, you have loads of support here with us x

My work have been beyond amazing. Taken all my projects off my hands and are sorting them out. I'm not to do anything for the next two weeks. I'm so lucky.

Grey, I used reusables, which were good but it's no fun washing shitty nappies. I found they leaked badly at night so used disposables then.

I was hoping to get a cot bed but its 200 before even looking at a matress and bedding. So if I set a total limit of 400 on cotbed plus matress plus bedding, I reckon I can keep the rest really low. I'm converting my seldom used dressing table into a changing table so that will cost nothing more than the matt and it already has shelves on it to put nappy stuff so no additional storage needed. Think I'll let my mum go mad on the baby clothes front...it's her first grandchild so she's been very hard to stop from buying bags full already!

Also looking at reusables Grey they look fantastic.

I always see people talking about muslin squares on here. What do you use them for?

Has anybody started using a Doppler successfully? I wanted to buy one but it said in the blurb that you can only use it after 28 weeks.

I suggested the idea of reusables to my DP Grey

He's went along with everything else I want, home water birth, hypnobirthing, delivering the placenta naturally etc but he says he can't fact the thought of having shit in the washing machine

Gaw Why do you keep contact with your Dad? It doesn't sound like you are benefiting from the relationship.

And if him 'punching the baby out of you' is a real concern I wouldn't be going anywhere near him.