October 2013 - Are we neary *there* yet?!

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Welcome, welcome, sit down, put your feet up.

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would be a very different experience. Was the reason for emcs something that is likely to be a problem again this time? (Sorry if you have already said). A tough choice for you, sorry you are feeling so worried

Morning ladies, lots to catch up on this morning! sorry to see so many people awake at 3am, hope some of you are able to nap today.

blue so sorry to hear the situation your in and Im afraid I have no great advice but am sending you hugs. I think if you need to cry at midwives therrs nothing wrong with that and its important for them to know how anxious you are feeling. Does either option reduce your anxiety? I hope the midwife is supportive and able to give you more advice xxx

clapham how ridiculous about your DS's school! Hope youve managed to sort something.

ana definitely out of order for you to end up on the sofa hope your feeling ok today. just wondering if youd spoken to about the effect your OH snoring may have on baby? My DH is much more likely to take me seriously if I put it to him like that than how it effects me. Realistically baby will no doubt sleep through it but not all would. Might be the kick he needs to see GP?

Glad to see all ok flyer and glad BP went down tarlia hope yours improves today too pseudo
to everyone else.

Have just had a call from my midwife to tell me my bloods have come back (had to have them all again to change nhs trusts) and Im no longer immune to rubella. does anyone else have this and does it actually affect me in any way?
Hope you all have a lovely Monday.

Blues - there is nothing I can add, but I know how stressful dealing with the unknowns is as a first timer, so I can only imagine what it must be like facing unknowns with a traumatic experience to add into the mix x

That's odd pink, did you not get immunised? I was not aware that it was one that ran out. You can't have the vaccine when you are pregnant anyway, and the risk to the baby is low at this late stage so I am not sure if you need to do anything, but I would give them a ring back to explain what is means and advise if you need to do anything. I presume avoid anyone who has German measles and get the MMR jab at some point after the baby.

nhs info

blue feel free to cry on your midwife I spent half an hour crying to mine because I was having a boy not a girl.... At least u have a genuine reason to cry. My friend had a very traumatic first birth and was referred for counselling by her midwife which I believe she found very usefull, so u could ask if this is an option for U? I hope I manage to reach a decision. Xxx

ok, me and dp are having a mattress debate haha!! We're going to get a cot bed from ikea for baby's room and a mattress. I want to spend a bit more on the mattress (and by that I mean £40 so hardly a fortune!!) but he wants to buy a cheaper one as baby 'won't be sleeping on it that long'. well, if we're getting a cot bed he will hopefully be in it for 3 years ish so actually will be a while. and I just don't think a mattress that sleep on every night is something you should be cheap on!! please tell me you all agree?!?! haha

If you are just using it as a cot, foam is ok, if you want to use it as a cot bed go for the spring mattress as the child will be too heavy for the foam one and Springs seem more breathable to me. Not sure if there is any basis in that though! There is not a great deal of difference between the two spring ones (vyssa?) other than the £60 one is thicker, has a different arrangement of springs and has a nicer cover but the £40 would be fine. I can't remember which one we went for in the end but it was one of those two.

thanks orange I'll use your words of wisdom to back up my point!! yes we'll definitley go for one of those, probably the cheaper one but definitley a spring one!!

roofio I'm split between u and your dp. I wouldn't want to spend a rediculous amount on one but then again u will be using it longer than I did as I only had a cot not a cotbed so we had a foam one which cost £25 then when dd went into a toddler bed we used my sisters spare spring one. What I'm trying to say is, if your getting a cot bed then go for the better mattress lol

So really you are saving him money not having to buy a new one for the toddler

I would go for the better mattress too roofio if indeed it will be used up to age 3 ish. Like not things you get what you pay for and paying that little bit extra will ensure it will last. Unfortunately dd was sick on her cot mattress quite badly and I didn't notice it ha gone all the way through so it went moulds and had to be thrown out. However ours is only a cot and dd was in it until around 18/20 months before moving her to a toddler bed so ill be replacing it with a fairly cheap one!

Clapham you inspired me yesterday and I am making two little lemon cakes for the freezer this morning as well as some lentil curries, coq au vin, a bean stew and some vegetable pies if I am not sick of the kitchen by then. Squeezing out the last bit of nesting time before I go back to work!

Roofio we have a cot bed which is now going to be used for dc3 so decided a new mattress was needed this time, dc1 & 2 used same mattress. Advice from woman in shop we bough from was if cot was being used occasionally ie a cot at grandparents house go for foam but if being used every night them go for springs.

You probably wouldn't buy a cheap mattress for yourself and your kid could easily be in cot bed till 5yrs old unless a sibling comes along sooner.

bluesnow jus keep remembering that every birth is different. A friend of mine had a really traumatic birth, that caused Pnd and was so worried 2nd time but ended up with just a few hours in labour, quick, relatively easy birth. It must be so hard but keep focused on the fact this is a different pregnancy and will be a different birth. Hugs x

Those of you suffering with leg cramps, try having dirolyte (typo?.) sachet or isotonic sports drink before bed to replenish any lost salts/vitamins etc from the body during the day.
I found this really helped me because I was drinking so much water, squash etc throughout the day, I was diluting all my salts in my body, causing bad cramping

ana sorry about your night. I know how it feels and, by the looks of it, I'm one of many ladies here who are fellow sufferers. Snoring is terrible and can really affect relationships. I honestly considered leaving DP a few times in the middle of the night in our first weeks together. But then he grew on me and it was too late... Now I wear really good ear plugs and it's OK (also, if my 5 year old DS cries - very rarely though - DP has to get up, not me!) but, whenever I forget to put them in, it's a nightmare and I get no sleep. This is obviously a massive problem now as I won't be able to wear them once the baby arrives. We agreed that DP is going to sleep in the spare room (we are lucky to have one) but I'm still annoyed about it as it will be quite lonely and I don't like the idea. I'm annoyed with him that he is not trying to do something to fix it instead - he knows that simply losing weight and cutting out alcohol would make a massive difference but he still doesn't do it. I feel the same as others - the responsibility should be on them to try to fix it, not on us to learn to cope with it... hotsoup I'm so going to throw the Geneva Convention in his face next time!!

pink happy anniversary and for you here . It's not amazing he missed it but good you know it's just because of stress and everything going on in your life. I'm sure he will be mortified once he realises and will try to make up for it as soon as he can. x

Thanks for your understanding of my school stress girls... I got so wound up that couldn't sleep because of it last night although I know it's a trifle thing really. The school is amazing otherwise and is rated as outstanding - they are so good with children and the teachers are lovely and so willing to talk to parents, committed to teaching. They are just crap when it comes to being organised and, I guess because there are so many stay at home mums where we live, they simply never think about working parents... I just got the response from our class rep - apparently the start and inset days were not mentioned correctly on the Infants school page, only on the Junior school page - by mistake... she also said that she would be happy to offer to help but "her nanny has her hands full with 3 boys"... yes, she doesn't work and she has a full time nanny to look after her kids... I was so looking forward to my maternity leave and making friends with other mums but sometimes wonder how easy it will be... lots of them have nannies despite not working at all. Is it just me or is it ridiculous?

tarlia hope your BP goes down today x

blues these are hard decisions... hope it will all become clear in your hea after you have a chat with your mw. I had a friend who had a terrible experience - she was size 6 and only 5'2'' and, after 18 hours of terrible labour, delivered a 10lb 8oz baby! she was so stressed and worried sick before her second birth. I think a lot of women feel like this - definitely have a heart to heart with your mw

hope everyone has a good day! sorry for the mega post... feeling a bit low and fed up today

Roofio we bought a spring cot bed mattress and spent just over £100, but I have a hang up with mattress' so you probably don't need to spend so much, I'm just a mattress obsessive freak!

Blue defo chat with your mw she will be so used to this situation I'm sure. That's the only benefit from being a first time mum you have no idea what to expect so I guess us first timers aren't so scared having not experienced child birth before. Hopefully she can reassure you and help ease your fears somewhat

Awaiting a call from the Placenta woman, I can't believe I'm going to ingest my placenta

thank you, I agree with you guys totally. We've just bought a nice expensive mattress for ourselves so don't see why we should scrimp on one for the baby!! hayley maybe we'll get a good mattress protector for it too!!

orange wow - you already are a domestic goddess!! Beyond impressed

Clapham you heard dp's snoring in the first few weeks before he grew on you.....you are letting all your secrets out of the bag

and flyer I'm quite disappointed with you really. I thought you would have a nice placenta steak!!

LOL flyer!!

I know total cop out with the ground down placenta in tablet form! I'm such a loser and a chicken

My DH is a snorer too but normally if I tell him to sleep on his side, he stops snoring. He did by several mouth guard things that are supposed to stop snoring but none of them worked. Still, I am snoring too at the moment and waking him up so at least he has an idea about what I normally suffer with

I would love to sleep properly, I can't remember the last time I slept for more than 2 hours before waking up from reflux, needing the loo or just in pain from SPD. Increasing, Brixton hicks contractions are also waking me up. I am so tired all of the time. My youngest goes back to school tomorrow and the bigger 2 on Wednesday so hopefully I can start napping during the day again soon.

Snacks in my hospital bag are lots of different cereal bars, dried mango, haribo, wine gums, polo mints and extra strong mints. I also have Capri sun drinks to keep me hydrated.

I'm quite intrigued by the placenta pills. Is this something you can have done anywhere, do you think? Mine has been such a bloody pain that I quite like the idea of revenge-ingestion