May 2014

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Ok, I can't see a May thread in here so I guess I will start one! According to the NHS due date calculator my EDD is actually 30th April but I think that makes me more likely to be having a May baby anyway!

Am feeling very tentative about starting this thread as I had a mc in June and it's very early days for this one but...anyone want to come and chat through these nerve-wracking first few days?

Hi ladies, do you mind if I join you? 5 weeks today, got my bfp last Friday and apparently due 8 May 2014. I phoned the doctor on Monday just to see what the next step was and ended up seeing the midwife on Tuesday and have my booking scan on 5 October - she was really nice and said she would come at the weekend since it was easier for me to fit in with work. It really freaks me out that they didn't do a test or anything, just rely on the fact that I have already done two. I have been feeling a bit sick, eating all the time (though maybe it's just a good excuse) and yesterday got sore boobs. I have also had a lot of cramping, though no blood (fingers crossed) and am having insomnia too, which I didn't realise was a symptom so glad to hear I'm not alone! I hope everyone has a good day, I'm finding it very difficult to concentrate on work at the moment

Just spoken to OH; we're telling his parents Sunday and then mine on Monday probably I'm relieved now. Thanks for the advice guys.

Sorry, should say booking appointment on 5 October, when I will get a date for my scan! Wish I did have my scan on 5 October though...

OH has a point about the fairness of knowing first etc etc.... but I told my mum first... my dad and OH's relatives got told later that day.. and they even complined about which one I called first etc etc.... You can't please everyone.... A pg gal's bond with her mum is special.... You should do what's best for you.... tell your OH you need your mum. Full stop. If his parents love him they will understand, surely... if you explain emotionally... cry a bit.... ask for a hug.... (on the day you tell them....)

Whatever happens us girls are here for you babes..... xxx super hug xxxx

P.S. I have put on weight too... last few weeks I have been so hungry....

Oh moomin, hug from me. Regardless of when you tell your mum, please take folic acid, it's the best thing you can do at this stage to try to ensure it is healthy.

impatiently I have lost 3-4lb this week- some of you may have seen my thread about diarrhoea. Can't say I recommend it though!

still so convinced things will go wrong I don't want to make my booking in appt which is silly!

Thanks everyone :) we're not going to mention who's been told first when we tell parents... my parents would be more annoyed if they found out they'd been told second, but it's more convenient to tell his first, so a little white lie might come into play there.

I really appreciate the advice and support... this is crazy, it's still not quite sinking in. Even though I've got all the symptoms, I don't feel pregnant... I thought I'd feel different (thought I'd have some kind of glow but all I have is lots of spots and a permanently green hue!)

hugs moomin I home that everyone reacts in a supportive way for you and you feel happier once you've told your mum especially. Good luck - an get yourself some folic acid!!!!

ps.. I'm also getting spots so you're not alone!

Nice to see so many new maybies here!

Looks like these early days are being quite hard on us all. I really don't feel myself at the moment. I'm so grumpy and emotional and anxious about everything. DH has asked me to step away from the Googling things as I've got myself in a right state by looking up things.

I've also got a massive bump already. It's obviously just bloating but its huge and hard to cover with my clothes. Topped off with breakouts covering the right side of my face only and I'm sure I look a picture.

Despite all that I wouldn't have it any other way

This time in 8 weeks I'm sure we'll all be radiant, happy mummys-to-be.

I can't wait to glow live near a power station so it might even be a real, bright yellow, radioactive glow

Going to try and get myself some folic acid today; just spent ten minutes glaring at a pregnancy vitamin tablet before sniffing it, nearly throwing up and deciding against it

Moomin, I've had to start taking my vitamins in the evening - I find them a lot easier to stomach then :)

Thanks thunderbumsmums ! Fingers crossed it is just the uterus stretching to make way for bigger bean! Congrats again many BFPs so happy to see them! Hope everyone is having an ok day! I think morning sickness is dawning on me now.. Not complaining yet!
6+2

moomin re the folic acid pills, Holland & Barrett do teeny tiny ones, same size as The Pill, and Seven Seas do a 'Trying for a Baby' folic acid/multivitamin the same size, plus they're labelled with the days if the week so good for forgetful types like me!

It sounds like you're really nervous about telling your parents, best thing to do if you can is keep very positive about it, Show No Fear! If they think you're nervous and unhappy about it they'll be so much more concerned.

I'm telling my mum tomorrow, she's coming to stay for the weekend, and I'm a little apprehensive - she said when DS was 1yo "I don't think you should have another, you haven't coped very well with this one". Thanks for the vote of confidence mum!
She has the tact of a brick.

Meant to add - Boots sell the Seven Seas one, little pale purple box in the multi Vit section.

Thanks! I'll have a look out, going to pop to the chemist in an hour or so (living rurally has it's downsides) and I'm going to see what they have, but my uni town has Boots and Holland and Barrets, and I'm moving back up there on the 14th so I can pick some up then :D thanks!

Best of luck with telling your mum, hope it goes well!

Long - that's an awful thing for your mum to say!

Moomin - I have a spare and unopened big bottle of the Holland &Barrett tiny ones, not entirely sure why I have two but I certainly don't need it, I'm swimming in the things!
If you PM me your address I'll pop it in the post this afternoon.
You really do need to start taking it right away, it's no bother at all for me to pop by the Post Office on my way thru town later. :)

6+1

moomin tell your parents!!!! You should also have a say in when your family finds out and after all it is your body not your dp's that is coping with all the changes of pregnancy!! Good luck!

Cupcake - she has also said that disabled babies should euthanised at birth, so frankly I take most things she says with a massive bucket of salt.
I'm sure she says this stuff without thinking at all about what it really means, she's actually quite a lovely gentle person, but she can't see outside her own experience, and is v self centred.
DSis and I tend to roll our eyes and just tell her she's being ridiculous.

Hello Maybies! Welcome newbies!

I sympathise regarding who to tell and when. This is our first and we didn't know what we were going to do.
The first people we told (2 days after BFP) were my best friends, who are a couple with a toddler and baby, as I'm a worrier and a talker and needed to tell someone who had recently been in my position and could give it to me straight! Then we told DP's parents and sisters, they live close and we were going there for dinner, so it seemed natural to tell them. I told my boss early as the thing I work towards all year is coming up in the next few weeks and my job becomes increasingly stressful and difficult, I felt he should know in case hormones get the better of me or (heaven forbid) I need to take time off unexpectedly. DP has told 2 very close friends, and he has also told his line manager and his boss so he can arrange time off for appointments, which I was fine with, but then his idiot line manager blurted it out the next day to the rest of the staff by accident!
We are of the opinion that if something were to happen we would rather have the support from people close to us, than having to explain afterwards.
The thing I've found hardest is that we haven't told my parents yet as they live over 100 miles away and with our jobs we haven't had a day off together since we found out and we want to tell people face to face where we can. We're going to visit them this weekend and I can't wait! I'm finding it really difficult as I'm incredibly close to them and talk to them every day on the phone and tell them everything.

Going by LMP I'm 6+3 and I think the sickness is kicking in with me now. Caught a whiff of someone's lunch yesterday and had to dash to the toilet! Was sick brushing my teeth this morning and the nausea is still there despite managing to keep down some toast and a ginger tea! I also feel very bloated and podgy and I either feel hungry with a rumbling tummy or full up! I'm a very over-emotional kind of person anyway, cry at everything, but the hormones have been going crazy and I'm irrational, teary, insecure, and downright nuts at times!

I have developed a pimple the size of a small moon on my chin. Makeup won't cover it. I was talking to my boss earlier and caught his gaze drifting to it .

I think I need to find a mask of some kind.

On the cravings front, I seem to have developed an obsession with barbecue pulled pork. Can't stop thinking about the stuff!

Pixie! Perhaps a small decorative fan held at a strategic angle??!

I didn't have any cravings with DS, rather hoping I do get some with this one! Plus pulled pork is YUM.

We decided not to tell parents or anyone until after the scan, and the same day I got my BFP DH went and told one of his friends. Not even his best mate or anyone he works with, just the guy he was meeting for a drink that evening. He even asked if he could tell him specifically and I said I'd prefer if he didn't, but apparently he took that to mean I wouldn't mind! FFs. I'm actually dreading telling both sets of my parents, but his'll be fine. I really want to tell my best friend, but he'd immediately tell his girlfriend (fair enough) and she can't keep a secret to save her life. So everyone we know would know immediately which isn't ideal.

6 weeks today, and nearly puked this morning at a banana skin. Not the banana, just the sight of the skin. The smell of the cat litter also makes me retch. Crumpets are about all I can eat right now, but I'm desperate for a chana masala and a french fancy cake!

And I think I need a mask too Pixie. Or a carefully placed scarf?

Isean I do like the idea of telling people so you have support around if anything goes wrong, DH is pretty against it though - it's in his pessimistic nature!
I'm flying back to the UK tonight and will be staying with his parents for a week and them my parents... I'm happy to not say anything to his family but keeping it from my mum is going to be HARD I bet she guesses anyway and then it won't be an issue!!

wonder if I'll sleep any better on the plane than I have in my bed these last few nights! fingers crosseed!

Probably won't be online much while I'm traveling so hope eveyrone stays healthy and well till I check in next!

xx

We were going to my parents' last weekend for my dad's birthday and decided that we would just tell them as it would be pretty obvious something was up if we went to that sort of celebration meal in a nice restaurant and I didn't have any wine. Sure enough, eyebrows were raised at my refusal of a pre-dinner drink so I just told them, and my brother and his gf as they were there too. I gave strict instructions that they were to keep the news to themselves for now, which led to some muttering from my mum about it being a state secret but I think she understood really. I am trying to keep people who know to a bare minimum and if we hadn't seen them I wouldn't have mentioned yet. I think if anything went wrong I couldn't keep it from my parents anyway. We are joking about not telling my ils until we see them at Christmas (they live abroad) and I can just appear with a big bump. Maybe slightly cruel but a lovely surprise for them!

We have told both families, close friends and also both of our line managers now (I have a very physical job and was worried, and my partner wanted to make sure he can get time off for appointments) And one of my colleagues guessed! I do feel better telling people I think I would need the support should (god forbid) anything happen.