May 2014

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Ok, I can't see a May thread in here so I guess I will start one! According to the NHS due date calculator my EDD is actually 30th April but I think that makes me more likely to be having a May baby anyway!

Am feeling very tentative about starting this thread as I had a mc in June and it's very early days for this one but...anyone want to come and chat through these nerve-wracking first few days?

Helloooo! Just got my BFP on Sunday gone - baby no. 2. Due date is May 11th. Really pleased about the news... and feeling surprisingly calm and relaxed about it all this time around. I guess it helps to know what to expect (famous last words). So far feeling great, lots of energy, no symptoms apart from slightly tender breasts and a stiff tummy feeling.

Anyway congrats to all! Yay! x

It's going to be interesting, that's for sure!

I wish I was chill and relaxed... I have no energy, feeling so sick and cravings are driving me bonkers.

Congrats TransatlanticCityGirl and welcome!

What are you craving mooninleigh ?

White bread with salted butter... but the thought of butter is making my stomach do somersaults.

Used to love the smell of paint too; but we're decorating the in-laws house at the moment and the smell of paint is making me feel nauseous...

I am loving continental salted butter and crusty bread right now... red grapes and rice crispies. Night before I got my BFP I was compelled to eat 2 omelettes. I usually don't do the omelette thing..... and I scoffed all the eggs in the fridge! Last time I went off NobblyBobbly lollies. And they are my favourites... hubbie thought I had been brainwashed!

Butter with salt crystals in is nice...

Annoying insomnia, I forgot how bad it was. How is everyone else? Anyone up at this stupid time of the morning?

Yes! Second time woken up tonight ... meh! Not usually good with lack of sleep but felt ok yesterday until around 8pm then I was just exhausted!

I put on those motion sickness wristbands last night and slept through with no nausea in the night! Might just be coincidence but I'm not taking them off now!

Congrats and welcome transatlanticCityGirl! We've got the same due date :) I'm so excited!
I've been craving marmite on toast! Yum!

I'm having a bit of a wobble feel completely lost, don't know what any of these terms like SPD means, these pregnancy care vitamins are too big but I haven't taken any folic acid yet, I feel so sick and I just want to be able to go and have a hug from my mum about it but I can't because she doesn't know

Sorry guys

Ah, moomin it sounds like you're feeling a bit overwhelmed. Why don't you tell your mum? There are no rules about when you have to tell people and it sounds like you could do with the support. It's is a big thing to go through when none of your friends can be there to answer questions etc.

I think you can get free folic acid pills from a midwife if you don't want to take the pre-natals. You really should take something though; not enough folic acid can cause cleft palate and/or spina biffida.

Ps I am old enough to be your mum at that realisation. You can have a virtual hug if it will help..?

You will be fine. Take it easy on yourself.

Thanks Thunder . OH doesn't want us to tell parents until we're all together and we can tell them as a group, and OH's sister recommended waiting until we're past 12 weeks. Thing is, OH is in his twenties and dealing with this well, and so is his sister who's ecstatic about being an aunt. I'm nervous about telling parents, nervous about telling uni lecturers, I was nervous about telling the doctor yesterday!

Thanks, I'm not sure when my midwife appointment will be but I'll try and get some.

Moomin I would tell your mum. It really makes it easier when you have support especially when feeling so sick.

You can pick up folic acid pills very cheaply and in very small tablets from boots.

Morning girls!

I actually managed a few hours sleep last night..... and in a minute I am going to have to make a huge bacon sandwich with ketchup.....

I have told EVERYONE I am pg. I know its early days, and some people do say to me 'but what if the grandparents are disappointed if you lose it?' etc.... but 1. I can't keep secrets - they drive me mad

1. I need to share my excitement with my family.... and
2. When telling my dad on the phone the same day as my BFP he said he was really really happy I had told him, he said if for any reason I lose it or whatever happens he'd only be disappointed for me and my feelings..... It was so sweet I was teary eyed....

My mum is ringing me everyday now to see how I am getting on and I am loving it.... having hugs from her over the phone is just what I need....
(I am getting emotional now... just typing this.... argh I am hormonal!!)

Ok... I am going before I cry... I'll leave out extra bacon sarnies for you girls.... xxxxxxx

I really want to McBaby, but I know OH would be gutted if my parents found out before his. He really wants them to find out together, but I don't think my parents will react as well as his will but I don't want to go behind his back, he's been so lovely and supportive and I feel like I owe it to him to announce it the way he wants to.

Oh and btw www.pregnology.com/faralong.php?month=5&day=12&year=2014 - found it this morning.... gives you a day by day calendar count down!

Welcome Moomin and the other new Maybies I will update the stats thread soon.

Moomin I think you should definitely tell your mum. People often wait until the 12 week mark to tell people as that's when people generally have their first scan and after seeing the heartbeat at that point the chance of miscarriage really reduces. A lot of people tell their mum earlier than that though, and as you have a lot to take it I think it would be really helpful to talk to her. You can always save telling everyone else until the 12 week mark, but you definitely need some support.

Moomin I agree with McBaby. It sounds as if you need the support that only she can give, plus you mention that your OH's DSis knows which suggests that you are not waiting for everyone to be together to share your news.

I'm telling my Mum tonight before we have a small close family gathering tomorrow as I want her to know first and before we're in a group. I've told her first each time .

Welcome all new Maybies and yay to you all .

Oh I forgot to ask. Has anyone else out on loads of weight? I've put on about 5lbs although I'm well aware none of it is baby.

I've found I'm so hungry at the moment so eating all of the time and its already had an impact on my weight. Nevermind, it's no big deal, just don't want to look like I'm 5 months pregnant before I start officially telling people.

5+5 today

Also Moomin, if your Mum reacts as you might expect her to, would it be kinder/fairer/easier/better to tell her in private? Just a thought.

Thanks everyone. I might suggest to him that we tell them on Sunday which is when they'll have a chance to get together, I'm really scared for telling them so the thought of waiting until november is putting so much stress on me which can't be good

Plus, if anything was to happen to the jellybean, I'd want my mum there to be able to help. My biggest fear is that she'll want nothing to do with me.

MacCrackles I think so... wish OH agreed

Moomin I agree with MacCrackles. You know your parents the best and as you are younger than OH and it sounds like in a different position as you are still at university then your parents reactions may be different.

Your parents might need more time to get their heads around it and might want to talk to you about the impact it'll have before they can get excited. They may not feel that they can do that if OH's parents are there.

I hope it doesn't seem like we are pressuring you. Ultimately you know everyone in the situation the best and will make the right choice.

I want to tell them but OH is so concerned with how other people feel about it; doesn't want one set of parents to be told before the other, wants us to be together when we tell them but wants to do it on neutral territory so my parents can't kill him

I'm sitting here freaking out at every twinge of pain because I'm convinced it won't be healthy, I'm scared about telling people, I know I'll be judged for my age - the doctor was proof enough of that - but I just feel lost, I want to have this baby but I just hope everyone will accept that and although it'll be a shock for my parents, they tend to become all-consumed in their own thoughts when things like this happened, I just hope they kind of spare a thought for me and don't say something hurtful, because I haven't done this to hurt them. This was never planned or intended.