April 2014... Thread 1

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Hi girls thought as that thread it quite full we could start a new one here.
Hope you don't mind pink.
How you girls all feeling today? I swear I keep forgetting I'm pregnant when symptoms disappear randomly. But I'm at such early stages, one of the babies of the bunch at just 5+2

the 12 week scan is normally the combined down's screening. they'll take a blood sample and compare the NT measurement (at the nape of baby's neck) with hormone levels and proteins in the blood to work out the likelihood of Down's, Edward's or another chromosomal syndrome. it should be quite quick and you'll get a letter with your result.

really though, most people just want a glimpse of the bean, get a more accurate edd and be assured it's not quintuplets.

I need some ideas for how I can keep the pregnancy a secret tonight.

I'm going to an ex work colleagues party and so a load of people I used to work with are going to be there. None of them know that I'm pregnant. I am telling people now that I've had a scan but haven't told my new work yet. I'm working in the same field so people know people. I really want to tell a few of them because they are still my friends but I'm worried they might accidentally blab.

But they're going to guess anyway when I don't drink! I'm learning to drive so I was thinking of saying I'm driving home but dh needs to stay sober too because I'm only a learner. But that doesn't make much sense. They'll guess in 5 seconds if I do the classic 'I'm on antibiotics' line.

Help.

Thanks ladies! I'm so excited but really nervous. My scan is at 5:45pm so will report back later.

Trinpy I had a night out when I was only 5 weeks, the advice was to not draw attention to the fact you're not drinking, ie: try & get DH to get you a tall class of "spirit" and mixer, and claim that's what you're drinking.

Good luck though, my friends believe I'm a bona fide piss pot & looked disapprovingly at my "vodka" & lemonade.

trinpy I went for a party a couple of weeks ago where I held a glass of wine throughout and kept switching with dh at intervals. If your dh can't drink either, then maybe you can throw it out in the loo occasionally? I even pretended to sip with my mouth closed. but I think as long as you are holding a drink, people may not monitor how slowly or quickly you are refilling.
Thanks learn, I hope I a combined scan on Monday - it will avoid a lot of rearranging of schedules.

I've also done the trick of asking my OH to get me a G and T, and then he just gets me a T. Otherwise just hold a glass of something. One of my best friends did that at a wedding and I didn't notice a thing. If you can occasionally swap glasses with your OH or dump a bit in a pot plant even better! I think the less you say the better... People are generally not that observant (nearly wrote absorbent, which is also true but a bit off topic )

Thanks for the tips everyone! I think I will go for the 'holding a glass of wine and pretending to take sips' approach .

as long as, when you DO announce, you don't get people judging you for knocking back the booze when you knew you were pregnant.

I'm meeting up with my NCT friends tomorrow. We're celebrating all our babies turning one and have booked a function room. I can't wait to announce. They'll actually be the first people I've told.

lol light. I agree with you.

Hi ladies,

Reporting back from my early scan. We have a healthy, quite active baby with a normal heartbeat. My measurements are showing me as 8 + 6 and my EDD as 20/04/2014

Fab news pretty, congratulations!

Oh I'm glad you ladies have discussed this, I usually drink lime and soda out, which with my girl friends is fine as they all know I don't drink usually so they don't bat an eye as I normally drive (monthly dinner meet up sort of thing) but sil has just invited me to a hen do on sat, she's yet to know, we were planning on telling people after tues, but I'm not too sure if we will still or hold out for 12 weeks, does the whole thing work with a 'short' in my younger days I could drink with the best of them, but now I'd much rather a mug of cocco and pj's at 7 lol.

Trip, ask on the quite if they do a non alcoholic wine in advance then just ask for it by name?

Pretty, so glad your scan went well and you're reassured. is her e a link to the fb group as well

How are the rest of you ladies keeping, I'm still knicker checking, three days till our scan.

Congrats pretty! Most of my close friends now know I'm preggers - not having a class of my usual wine was a dead giveaway! I'm happy they know though . spent afternoon at hospital with bad fever. turns out I have tonsillitis on top of it all! strong rounds of antibiotics

congrats pretty. yesterday me and oh had sex no way ir saying it otherwise. Afterwards I had sone bleeding. it was red but was straight after sex and I have in the past had bleeding like that before pregnancy. I looked it up and read blood vessels are enlarged so mire likely to have some bleeding due to sex. I didn't call nhs or anyone as no further bleeding. part of me wants to at least hear a heartbeat or see baby but have ti wait until Friday after next. Should i call midwife Monday and ask what sge suggests

Good luck with the subterfuge Trinpy I had mum and SD round for dinner the other night and there wasn't a single comment made that I wasn't drinking. DP told me afterwards he'd been putting his glass in front of me all night. So I guess it worked.
Congrats on scan pink exciting having an official due date!
Got home from work yesterday to letter from the health board so was all excited thinking it was my scan date but it was just an invite for a flu jab. Is that because I'm pregnant never been invited for one before?

Great scan news pink!

Anyone that wants to join the fb group, add me on there (Trisha jukes) and in your request put that you want to Join the group and I will add you to it x

Thanks ladies! We've just told DPs family who are absolutely over ecstatic! Will tell mine tomorrow.

Vikki I think you're right that it's probably just enlarged blood vessels, (so a bit like a nosebleed) but there's no harm in talking to your mw Monday, if you are concerned. if you're lucky she may wave a doppler in you're direction, though she might not if it's v early. How far along are you?

11+1

AHem, vicki, without getting too personal, were you quite, ahem, energetic? Perhaps that may have been what's causing it, likewise it's not uncommon I don't think, was it just a little spotting? If its a problem you've had before, the mw maybe inclined to say if there's no cramping and no further bleeding all is well and see you Friday. Babie are very well protected in there. Kudos to you guys though for trying, dp and I have only been 'intimate' once and that was due to both kids being out during the day, it's quite shocking really. What's a sex life again?

Cannotbelieveit. I've added you my lovely hopefully it's you anyhow. I'm the nutty one. :)

Nutty one, can you try adding me again! My fb is playing up! (Still on holiday and wifi is shit!) Xx

Hello all, how are we all keeping? (Sorry I love that saying)

Went to a wedding a yesterday, which was interesting, had some bleeding which was a worry. But it all turned out ok.

11+4, 8 days till my scan.

Oh dear I am actually 11+3

Well last night didn't quite go to plan. People kept coming round filling my glass so no chance to stay on the soft drinks and pretend there was a spirit in there. Then my dh didn't finish work until almost midnight rather than 7.30 as he originally thought (apparantly he told me this on Friday ) so I was stranded there all evening. In the end it was just me and the hardened party-goers and they were making me drink. I had my glass refilled 7 or 8 times during the evening. I did the fake sips a lot, then every so often put my glass down on the grass near my chair and quickly tipped the contents onto the ground at the same time. No one questioned why at the end of the evening all my friends had to be carried home by their partners while I was still completely sober!

But you're right learn - after last night's 'drinking' they're probably all going to think I'm an unfit mother when I tell them I'm pregnant .

yes we were energetic hadn't seen oh for 2 weeks. I think I will call midwife Monday but no more bleeding this weekend. I'm 10+ 6 11 wks tomorrow. I'm not feeling too worried but am eager to hear a heartbeat. sorry for bad spelling on posts as on phone and don't notice.