October 2013 - Countdown to D-Day!

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Baby due dates/sexes/name choices here

I got a tip this morning that if you sign up for fisher price family you get a free lion rattle toy. The mum showed me the toy and it looked worth having (for free especially). I've signed up but it doesn't actually mention the toy. If anyone else is interested the link is www.fisher-price.com/en_GB/familyclub/familysignup.html

chickie none of my children would ever behave in such a disgraceful manner

I hope everything is ok jelly and you're feeling better soon.

Another lazy day here though I really must do the school shoe shopping tomorrow. Dp is on a rare night out with some friends from his old work placement. Every time in the past he has phoned me in the middle of the night saying he is lost and can't find his way home or even worse loses his phone or has it stolen and gets lost meaning I can't contact him resulting in me traipsing down to the police station in 3ft of snow with all the kids, tears running down my face to report him missing. I'm never letting him forget that one. When he did get home I was ready to throw him out again.

sanji I feel your pain.
My DS has had the odd 'episode' like that over the last 12 months (he's just turned 3). It always seems to be followed by him getting ill a couple of days later (as if he's not himself and easily at the end of his tether). I recommend an early night!

Sorry to hear that some of you have having a really tough time at the moment for one reason or another.

My children have all been really easy so far.......one of my best friends has told me that this baby will be a naughty one as no one is eve lucky enough to have 4 easy babies/children. I hope she's wrong!

Called back to triage and mw reckons could be SPD pains I'm having as cramps not going away. Told her about losing some mucus so she wants me to head in tomorrow morning to get checked out but I to call in if pains get worse through the night. Another nice lady, hopefully horror from last time has left.

Off for an early night, thanks for all your support x

Hope you sleep well, jelly- glad they're being helpful x

Sleep well jellycurls

Sleep well. Glad to hear you've been treated well & listened to & reassured.

I'm now on crutches at night & at various other times when spd is really awful. Had wc vaccination earlier too. Now got a sack of ironing to do - for money so can't moan too much!

Ooh wow- the drama on this thread in such a short time.
jelly sleep well, and I hope all is ok in the morning, definitely worth seeing the mw and getting the all clear confirmed.

To those with stroppy toddlers- now my DS is almost 6 I can confidently say that things will improve, but those tantrums never disappear, they're just heavier to carry out the door.... But reassure yourself that every Mum's been there.

I'm relieved to read all this chat about leaky boobs and general body failures. I'm officially a 'geriatric mum' this time round and I seem to be leaking from every orifice. I even ended up meeting the Wise Women (midwives) of Narbonne last week whilst on holiday in France as I was convinced I was leaking amniotic fluid. Turns out I'm just erratically incontinent. Goes well with the varicose veins and acid reflux. You'd think I was 71 not 41.

Night Night x

Hope your cramps settle over night jelly and glad u got some re assurance- we aren't ready for any arrivals until at least September!!

Took dd to the circus tonight I'm usually a lover of a good circus but this was pretty dire she enjoyed it and in a 2.10 month old it was 'brilliant'

chicki I feel your pain. Dd is having an 'I can't' stage ATM she's suddenly forgotten how to pull her own knickers
Up, put her own shoes on, take a jacket off, listen to me basically anything I ask her to do without a foot stamp of arm fold or huff or something else along those lines-

Hopefully having two children can't be too bad or the likes of caz and MoN wouldn't be going back for more still lol

Dh's nan really annoyed me this eve he told her what happened with the head measurement and Instead if the standard 'I'm sure it will be find' u expect me go kind of say it was all very dismissive 'we didn't have that kind of thing in my day' 'it must be wrong' 'they like to worry you' 'I wouldn't give it a second thought if I was u' I felt like saying to her just get out if my face I don't need your miserable crap stories about the olden times if u have nothing usefull to say then don't ask me what even bloody happened grrr

Time for some shut eye hopefully without 100 wee's xxx

Night all, I am off to France for a week in the morning and won't be able to get the Internet. FX for no drama or babies arriving while I am away!

Sorry to hear you now need crutches tucking but good to have them available for the bad times.

Packing all done, decided not to bring hospital bag, just my notes, pregnancy pillow, breast pads, nipple cream, some sanitary pads and anusol to cover all bases! Such a glam time! One of the swimming costumes from primark fitted me luckily, it's a size 16 which is a bit miserable (used to be a 6) but DH was very sweet about it and it was only £5.
My bump swallowed up the bikini, not a great look even though I don't have stretch marks yet it felt like a bit too much flesh on show and DH wasn't sure what people would think about flashing the bump. Boobs also barely contained and don't think the to would have stayed put for long!

Had lots of proper kicks this evening after days of mainly big pushes/bulges. Maybe the baby has turned to face my front again.

Thanks orange. They definitely do help. Hope you have a wonderful holiday. Very jealous. The only "holiday" we can look forward to is a trip several hours up the A9 to stay a few days with DP's bloody mother. Can you tell I'm thrilled?! She's not been down here since last June,his brother & his wife haven't been down since October 2011. It's always us forking out to go up there to stay in a non-child-friendly house. We have to provide our own food. Basically after this last trip before DC2 DP says they can get lost,we won't be trudging up there. I can't see that happening tbh & not sure I would let him do it anyway,tempting though it is. What worries me most is that his mother has cancelled a few trips down this year already. I truly do not want her staying with us in October. From November onwards she's welcome again but not in October. She appeared at our door within 40 minutes of us getting home from hospital with DS after 18 hours of labour followed by a crash section & three nights on post natal ward. Had she been of any help - popping a dinner I had made from freezer into microwave/putting a washing on/changing a nappy - I would feel happier about her coming straightaway to see her new grandchild. As it is though,she is thoughtless & lazy & would be more trouble than help at a time when I don't want to be intruded upon.

Wow,turned into a rant there! Have a great holiday - glad you got yourself tankini'd up!

Have a good holiday orange

I woke up just now to find a txt from Dp that was sent at midnight saying "I love you. Be home soon" so I started panicking when I looked at the time and realised he wasn't home and he wouldn't answer his bloody phone.
He's just phoned me back sounding surprising sober to say he'll come home when the club he's in closes at 3.30. A wee text to let me know that the "meal and couple of drinks" he was going for was going to be an all nighter would have been nice.

It's ridiculous but I won't sleep now until he's home and bloody restless legs are keeping me awake anyway.

mon you are good- I turn my phone off so DH can't phone me when he's out!! I can't stand being woken up by drunk calls when he's out and I figure he's old enough to look after himself! In his old wild days he would be out all night but I never worried, he has a bizarre homing device and always made it back to me. Now he's older and we've moved to the country he's much calmer and generally home by midnight as that's when the last train is.
Another sleepness night here caused by ds he must be going through some developmental stage as his sleep is as bad as a newborn

MoN I hope DP made it home after his night out and that you managed to get some sleep again. I remember my DH calling me once to say he had lost his wallet & house keys and hadn't got into the club with pals could I pick him up. All he knew was he was in the car park with cars in it! Thankfully he was standing next to a police man at the time he was calling so I got directions but honestly why do men get in such states. Also before DC came along when I didn't mind collecting him when he was lost and his wallet & keys were in his pocket when I found him.

Had a super sleep last night but tummy & back still crampy. Will head into triage later this morning to get a proper check up though to keep us all sane. Hope everyone well rested today

Jelly, good luck for today. Always best to get reassurance.

Been having a few bad nights - countless loo trips. Meh.

Tucking, that's awful behaviour. I've been trying to lay down the groundwork early by emphasising to my MiL that I'd like to be left alone for some time after birth...

Have a lovely holiday orange

I'm glad you slept well jelly and things are a little easier, hope everything goes ok in triage :)

Can I just ask... How long has/will you be keeping your baby in your room? We have been told that 6months - 1year is the acceptable time frame, and not that we don't care or want the best for our baby but the rooms in our house are small, we have had to put our bed up against the wall to allow space for the Moses basket when baby first arrives and now I'm panicked because there is no way the cotbed will fit in here! My sil had her little girl in the Moses basket for two months and then put her in her cotbed in her own room... Is that bad?

jelly hope all goes well today. And mon that you got some sleep.
Thanks for the supportive comments. It's not easy, we had a hitting phase a few months back, where we used a combination of naughty step/toys taken away to give a strong message that hitting was not on. It did seem to sink in, but now back to square one. We do the 'count to 3' thing which worked for a while but now he just turns everything on us and counts to 3 himself while laughing at us. Really need to get a grip on this behaviour now, as I can't imagine how bad things might get if we don't!
1sttimer as with most things in parenting, you will get a wide range of opinions! The official recommendation is 6 months in with you. However, my DS grew out if his Moses basket at 4 months so we moved him into his cot in a different room then. I know other people who put their babies in a different room from day 2, and others who think it is dangerous to deviate from the anti-SIDS recommendation in any way. It's something you have to make your own mind up about really!

Ok so I need to list what I've brought and see if u think its enough

Newborn/up to 1 month
13 baby grows
1 jacket/coat
14 vests (variety of long/shortsleeve)

0-3
2 baby grows (need more)
8 tops
5 trousers
5 cardigans/jumpers
5 vests (need more)

in addition
13 bibs
8 pairs of socks
8 Muslins
8 bottles
2 booties
2 sheets
2 blankets (plus another my sister is having knitted for me)

Have a lovely holiday Orange, and good luck for the monitoring today Jelly

1stTimer I think the advice to sleep in the room with them until 6 months is as it's been proven to lower SIDS rates - something about regulating their breathing rhythms to yours in the night. You can read a good balance of opinions here.

orange have a fab holiday!!
jelly hope all goes well at the hospital today!
natalie some older generations think all this scanning and testing etc is unnecessary as they all managed to have babies without it. I bet they've all forgotten about the not so good times where scans and tests could have really helped. ignore her, it will all be fine and is best to know what is going on!
1sttimer we're planning on keeping baby in with us for 6months. thats what they recommend to help prevent sids. after he out grows moses basket I'm plannig on sticking him in travel cot at side of bed until he moves into his own room. don't know what we'd do if we didn't have the room for that though that's a tough one.
I slept ok last night, got to sleep in until 9 so that helped! going round to a friends for dinner and films tonight, can't really be arsed but feel I should make the effort while I still can!!

1st timer I had dd in with me until 12 weeks and she has been in her own room in a cot since then x

orange have a great holiday and if you are in France maybe stock up on Camilia (they are homeopathic medicine for teething), it might be planning far ahead but they really do work.

1sttimer we are also planning to keep the baby for at least 6 months, as we did with the DS1 and DS2, it also just makes life easier during the night, no need to go to another room, thus wake up fully etc. it is not wrong to put the baby in her own room at 2 months but makes life more difficult, some of the friends whom have done that, end up having a bed or a comfy chair in the babies room which they pass out on after the first feed of the night, not always the most comfortable.

On a positive note, I got good news MIL is now not coming shortly after the birth since they prefer coming in April as the weather will be nicer and they can enjoy the beach then, forget the baby element! I was dreading it as she is useless (she does not do anything, she can't even make her own cup of tea or put a spoon in the dishwasher) and it would be someone extra to look after, especially as she also expects to be driven around and usually tries to come to one of the kids activities only to tell the teacher at the end of it that she does not agree with their teaching style or something, so embarrassing, my FIL let's her get away with it all year round so it is not worth trying to change her in a week. They are however coming in two weeks for 5days, hopefully I will be able to control my hormonal me:).

1sttimier. We too have kept our babies in with us for 6 months. They have slept in a crib though which is bigger than a Moses basket. This one will also go into a crib in our room and then at 6 months, go into a cot in another bedroom.

Natalie. For newborns, I would add a couple of hats, mittens and cardigans to the list. It may be starting to get cold when our babies start arriving