March 2014 - thread 3....Boy can we chat!

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thread 2

So does how far along you are change depending on how much their measuring, when I had my first scan I thought I was 9+5 from lmp but measured 9+2 ..

Also so much for constipation i havent been able to keep off the toilet lol tmi sorry

On a lovely note my oh suprised me after work yday we now have two baby rabbits coco and poppy :D

choc what are your age gaps?? There's 2yrs exactly between my boys, they'll be 3 & 5 in the next couple of weeks.

Majorca here we come. Have a good week ladies, I'm sure there'll be a whole new thread by the time I get back!!!

Oh no, apprenticemama. Poor you - I know what you mean, it is not a time you should have to be worrying. And 8 years
But also poor DP as it can be quite overwhelming realising what a responsibility you both now have. Hopefully he'll just have a moment then pull himself together, sort it out and step up for you? Good luck.

Another one panicking about 3... Worried my then 6.5 year old in particular will feel like his little life has been turned upside down. Less worried about the then 4 year old as she is made of strong stuff! Once we hopefully get through the 12 week scan, I'll be desperate to find out what we are having so can break the news to the kids, deal with the repercussions (clearly they'll both want their own sex...) and sort out where everyone might sleep!

apprenticemamma, I do feel for you, and your dh, although his wording leaves a lot to be desired! My dh and I aren't technically in an ideal space to start a family; we're in (a manageable amount of) debt, unlikely to be able to afford to buy a property for some years yet, and although dh has quite a good job, his income is stretched a little by my working part time so I can study. But, we're in our 30s, and quite frankly there is no perfect time to have a baby! Whatever our situation, we will manage; people bring up children successfully in far worse situations than ours. Have you talked to him about what he actually means by 'sorting out the business'? Perhaps he's just being a bit of a perfectionist and wanting things to be exactly right?

thanks ice it's really good to get a bit of support on here sometimes! I've done my morning martyr thing and taken ds since 6 am felyt guilty when woke up. . Dh works long hours and is restructuring his business atm.Think he's just tired. And he's 47 and it's no. 5 dc for him ..We've started counselling though and it's helping with some issues raised. I'm just not great at hearing 'can't cope' messages! How r u this morning?

thanks just muddling. Wise words from you too . There's never a good time ..but at 35 and 47 it was now or never for dc2.We've just spent a lot on rewiring etc and having to save frantically for mat leave. He's a bit scared of going back to the baby days too..again.. But he's a good loving father and partner, the reality is his life is a bit complicated and I should probably not shut down his efforts to rant..

But yeah might suggest another phrase instead!

Morning everyone!

How are you all? I'm feeling very pregnant today. Really sick, fat and tired. My boss said to me yesterday - 'Are you not supposed to be glowing? Look at the bags under your eyes! It's harsh but true

Who has the first 12 week scan? 11 days till mine and I'm wishing the days away so I can properly see bean.

just over two weeks hotcross. Absolutely can't wait either, just to know puffin is ok.

ps. I'm looking totes haggard too! Going to get my hair chopped in desperate bid to look better ..

Hi everyone,
Hoping I can join, I have recently found out I am pregnant, totally unplanned and still in shock. I have two older boys, 15 and 13 and two dogs!! My husband is over the moon as he always wanted lots of children, but if I'm honest I am deep down rather worried. I will be 40 by the time he/she is due and my husband is a bit older. I'm hoping there are some other 'older' mums out there who can tell me it's all going to be ok and some younger mums as I almost feel like I am doing this for the first time as was so long ago that I had the boys. I have not told my parents yet as are a bit worried about their reaction and the boys don't know yet either. Head feels like it is going to pop. I am 10 weeks 2 days as was advised by my Dr to go to the place in Harley St as had no idea how far along I could be. Plus my husband had been on some medication and I was freaking out if this could affect the baby.
Very tired and often feeling sicky and rather grumpy at times! 3 children won't fit in the car and one of the dogs barks a lot!

I think the reality of the situation creeps up on the blokes sometimes whereas in our situation we are constantly reminded about what's going to happen! DH phoned from work yesterday and I told him I'd just been sick and he said "oh no are you ill?"! He just totally momentarily forgot!! Towards the end of both previous pregnancies he's flipped out a bit too. It's very abstract for them until the baby is born and even then people tend to only ask after the mum and the baby.

Still in bed this morning, the DC are downstairs with DH. felt awful yesterday so determined to take it easy today. Had AWFUL heartburn last night, DH had to go out for Rennies! I couldn't move, had to crawl to the sofa. I remember that happening last time and I thought I was having a heart attack! hypochondriac

When this baby comes, DS will be nearly 5 and DD coming up to 3. DD will be fine either way as she'll just want a baby, but I know poor DS will want a boy! So we might find out if by the 22 week scan he still seems adamant - although I'd rather keep it as a surprise.

If its twins though, I will definitely find out the sexes. In that situation I think you need to arm yourself with knowledge!

10 weeks today

apprentice puffin . That's the cutest bump name! We've been calling ours Pedro. I hope things have settled down with your dh now. It does sound like he's just stressed/tired. He could probably do with a new phrase though!

lyra poor you . Damn those haribo!

How's everyone feeling this morning?

Marmite welcome and congrats - and don't worry, 40 is not old to have a baby, think actually these days it's not far off the norm. I have lots of pals older than you from my DS's preschool. And your older ones will help. My mum had an "afterthought" as she called it at 40 (I was 12) and it was wonderful for all of us.

As for car, just ignore that issue and don't go anywhere for a while. That's my plan!

Yes men definitely have delayed reaction. 40 year old mumma congrats! My dh is 47 so there is 14 years between our ds and his big sis not quite the same as ur situation but gap works great (she is coming later to help) . I've seen a few 40 something threads here, and know several.. both my sister and sister in law had kids at 39. I honestly don't think it's that old really ... As for bump name after calling ds muffin (which has stuck) puffin just made sense

Welcome to the newbies, and congratulations!! marmite there's a few older mums on here so you're in good company, some of who are first timers too.

Apprentice hopefully your DH is just letting off steam, however maybe this will be what spurs him on to finish sorting the business... My DH spent years plodding along at work with no ambition, once we had DS he wanted to work his way up to give us a better life as a family, but also he told me he wants DS to be proud of him and he's now pushing himself, working his way up, its been amazing to see :)

Gaw when you have your 12 week scan they give you a definite (well, as much as possible) due date. LMP is approximate but doesn't account for the date you ovulated, how long for implantation etc so once you've had your dating scan this becomes much more accurate.

Finally found something I can eat without it knocking me sick - chicken and sweetcorn soup! Can see I'm going to be living on the stuff for the next couple of weeks. Feeling very sick this morning again though

Piratesmam,
Thank you, love the car comment, could maybe get a little trailer and pop the older one in that, he probably wouldn't notice as long as he had his phone with him.
Yes, I guess the fact they area older and can help a bit will be good. Just hope they take the news well, a bit worried about the older one.
Love the name Pedro, ours is Elmo and have no idea why!

Thanks guys, feeling better already, most of my friends have children late teens and twenties and others are late twenties with toddlers. A bit worried ill be stuck sort of in no mans land.

Scan date 2/9 will be 13+4 this pisses me off muchly :(

Marmitemoomoo congratulations and welcome

Stephie101 I was supposed to be contacted by the midwife this week. I have been hounding the GP surgery about it. I am 11 weeks on Sunday and haven't had a booking in appointment yet

Apprenticemamma (we really need to shorten your name), was this baby planned or an accident? Is his business on the brink of collapse?

Marmite, welcome aboard and congratulations. I'm 42 in three weeks and having my first (IVF) baby. I think I'm the oldest hag on here. Our youngest is twenty bitch

Steph, my dating scan is at 13+2 which is annoyingly late but I've already had four

I've just got up. Th'usband is away all day, my only friend round these parts is on here hols and I'm already bored. Anyone want to come round for a ?

Welcome Marmite!

SoSurprised my booking in is at 11+4 which seems really late. Frank did you ever get a scan date through??

Rosy, I demand to know why you're not on our faceache group yet.

Welcome Marmite. I'm an oldie too.

Pram, you may be the oldest but I'm only a few days behind you