September 2013- We've managed to hold them in!

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Hi all! Providing the ladies who are currently in hospital don't give birth before the last 20 posts in our old thread, we've made it to a new one with babies all still staying put for now!

Here's the stats thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/a1694946-September-2013-STATS-THREAD

Welcome newbies! If anyone wants to join the FB group (better for sharing documents and pictures), please message myself or jennimoo with your real life name and email address and we can add you to the group!

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Unmumsnetty hugs bg. It is a scary thought but you're probably right to say that our perceptions might be skewed by looking at the relationships board too much!
I suspect that I go out more than DH does and we do negotiate For example, he works in an industry where he has to do a fair bit of socialising with clients. I have a season ticket for a football team.
He doesn't go to every work thing, I don't go to every home game. You guys will find a happy medium because parenting is about being a team.

Arrrrgh badguider I just wrote a massive long waffley but reassuring post about teamwork and negotiation and feeling the same way as you, but the stupid iPhone has gone and lost it . Anyway, the upshot was don't worry I've cried at DH for similar reasons (MIL is moving in round the corner, he likes to bang on about how great it will be as we can leave the baby with her and go out ), I'm sure you and your DH will find a pattern you're both happy with, everything seems like a daunting prospect at this stage. And stay away from the relationships board!!

derpess I'm so sorry to hear your news, big hugs to you and I hope you're being looked after x

My bags are half packed at the moment...in fact I did them so long ago now that I think I'm going to have to unpack and then repack them just to remind myself what's in there! Fail.

Is anyone else a bit paranoid about their waters breaking in an unfortunate place? Weirdly I'm not to worried about them going in public, but I've had a waterproof undersheet protecting my mattress for weeks now, and I pinched a dry-nites mat from a friend with a toddler the other day to keep in the car from now on!

Having trouble keeping up with the fred since leaving work last week - seem to be busier than ever at the moment and not getting my usual MNing time on the commute!

4 babies by next week??? Arrrgh I have some catching up to do!
Am going for my first mat leave coffee stop today, then will prob come back and nap

One more week at work (well I finish next Friday but handing over my laptop and mobile on Thursday. . So not sure exactly what I can do on Friday! )

Bag packed, but still things to add (like last minute holiday things. ... tooth brushes etc).

Also getting exercise envy, but managing a few miles a week on the bike to and from the station or yoga plus the same again waddling walking.

Starting to get a bit nervy about all this life changing baby thing now. .... birth still not worrying me just the afterwards bit. Two ladies from my yoga class were so chilled they didn't really know they'd give into labour (one of them thought she might but every time they rang the Ward they were told not to come in! )

Going to start a list of things i can do on mat leave soon!

Is it our first baby time e today?

Thanks kitten and barra - I am sure it'll be fine after I'm back at work a bit at 6mo but its the first few weeks and months when I'm at home all day I'm worried about. If I'm doing all day (8am to 6/7pm) and also bf all night with dh only around 7pm to bedtime I just can't see how I can "be ok" about him doing anything out of the house in those hours. Not in the early weeks anyway. I just don't know how long is reasonable to ask him to avoid weekday evening things for? Six weeks? Eight?

I'm one who's posted on the relationship boards about DH not pulling his weight around the house. I can honestly say that sharing childcare responsibilties has NEVER been an issue. He might not clean the loo, but he's always shared night wakings and nappies. While I've been pregnant he's done nearly all the (thankfully few) night wakings, and most of the bath times. I think it takes a special kind of arsehole to abdicate all parental responsibility. You'd probably know by now if your partner is that selfish.

Good luck today Kips, hope all goes well with the induction if it's still needed. Can't believe our first Sept thread baby is imminent (if not already here).

Can I suggest that we start to put how far along we are now as I know some of us are very much nearing our due dates, while others have a little while left to go. It will be interesting to see how far along we all are when the babies start coming thick and fast.

35+6

Hoping they're going to let me out of hosp today or I'm going to get institutionalised!
36+5 today.

I think you just have to try to be open and honest with DH/P about how you're feeling and what you need, and try to have a network of mummy friends / groups for day times. I'm rubbish at asking for help and saying what I need from DH!

I'm thinking of twintrimum as the first likely mummy of the thread - she said at the start of the week it was just a matter of being given a date. Hope all is well and has gone to plan.

I am sitting in bed, technically will be working at home today but just can't quite face getting on with it yet because it would have to start with some significant tidying. DH has set up our home office after finishing the decorating in the spare room, but as he works in IT he is happy with cables littering half the room and three half built machines spread out on the sofa bed, whereas I would like a slightly more clear desk policy, and for it to be possible to make up the bed at short notice if we need someone to come and stay over with DS if our home birth plans turned into blue light transfer plans. The spare room's door is also not actually on its hinges, and there is still 'stuff' which hasn't yet found a home. the loft

38+2 and well into the shagging and curry project...

Good luck for today kips - either for your induction or your first day with your brand new baby!

Slept so badly - slept fitfully from midnight until 5am and then got up because I was so uncomfortable. C-section is two weeks today - wonder if this is the start of the really tough last part!

36+2

Yes, good luck kips.

DH's job for the weekend (he doesn't know it yet) is to tidy up the 'spare room', which as we only moved into our new house a few weeks ago is still full of unpacked boxes, so that he can essentially move into it once the baby is born. I know from experience that having a super grumpy tired DH is the last thing I need with a small baby. It will be much easier to do night feeds if I can get up and put the light on and read without worrying about disturbing DH. At least DS2 will be out at nursery in the afternoon so I can always catch up with some sleep then.

My mum has asked me to try not to give birth at the weekend as she's not going to be here! Will cross my legs then. Am 37+3.

To be honest I think I am just scared of being off work and the thought of 'mummy friends and baby groups' right now makes my blood run cold... I am just not really a baby person, I'm sure mine will be fine but it will be a struggle to get through the early weeks/months when you're supposed to be really obsesssed and have to spend all your time around other babies.
Fathers can pick up and put down their babies at will to go off to work or their old hobbies and I'm so envious of that, mothers can't really do that till the babies are a little bit older... if I could fast forward to next Feb/March, or even just after Christmas I'd be so happy.

37wks today

I'm 37 + 1 today. Starting to feel really heavy now and getting tired far too easily. Just climbing the stairs or walking to the local shops is eating me out. I feel pathetic. I went for my midwife appointment on Monday and she had a good feel of baby's position. He's still head down but facing to the left, he's not engaged yet but she seems confident this will change over the coming week. I'm not sure how early they generally get engaged on your first pregnancy? I know this can be much later for 2nd timers!
I've tried to get down on all fours a few times each day as this should encourage baby to turn slightly. But my wrists are really painful :( sorry to be a grumpy moaner. Think I'm ready for this to end soon.

Oh and and and... I think I have had the first text from a friend "asking but not asking"... It was a how are things sort of text, was I finished work... I breezily answered I have another two weeks at work!! (Technically true) :) same friend insisted on asking me on New Years Eve whether I was pregnant, I was but only 5w so really didn't want to say, and I just mumbled that we'd been TTC lots so hopefully. Managed then to avoid actually confirming it until the beginning of March.

bg I'm counting on my DH being far too knackered to even contemplate going out in the Eve's....they may not be doing the bf'ing but they will def still have some sort of broken sleep....and mine leaves the house at 6.50 am, not returning til 7pm as it is. He's going to be knackered, and desperate to get a little bit of time with his new son!

badguider I'm totally with you on the mummy friends etc not really doing it for me. You never know though, you might be surprised and find that your DH turns into the baby obsessed one - my BIL did, to the point where he now sits up to keep SIL company during night feeds Ben though she's bf!

36+0 today

Argh. Rant coming. Booked for induction today but labour ward is full so they are sending people from Nottingham to Mansfield (40+ mins away) so no inductions happening :( I have had mum staying over for childcare since tues, and she needs to return home for work tomorrow, plus DH can only take nxt wk as paternity and is away in London the week after.... So we really need this baby to arrive NOW. Pants pants pants.... 38+1

When I found out I was pregnant it really crystallized for me that I didn't enjoy living in a tiny village and I knew I couldn't have another baby out there. When standing on the main street you could see where the village started and ended in either direction and there's only so many times you could walk round it with a pram before going crazy. Also, the thought of going back to the toddler group there made me want to cry. Now we're in the city and I actually can't wait to get DS1 back to school, DS2 off to the school nursery, strap the baby into the carrier and explore the city. One major upside of the very early months is that babies are incredibly portable and they sleep loads. I have some friends who are around during the day I can visit or meet up with. Also, I'm a bit of a loner and will be quite happy to wonder the streets and check out the cafes by myself. Having said that my hours will be bounded by the school and nursery hours. It is a bit more daunting with a first baby to have the whole day stretching ahead of you, especially when it can start pretty early. My advice would be to be kind to yourself, get out as much as you can, do something nice just for you as often as you can, don't put pressure on yourself to go to baby groups if it's not your thing, at the really early stages it's only for you, the baby won't get much out of it, so if you don't want to do it then don't.

Kips indeed. Is there anyone else who can help with childcare? If the induction needs to happen it needs to happen and they surely won't leave you much longer.

Thanks Manoodledo - I work in the culture/heritage sector so really ought to be planning to visit all the local exhibitions and galleries :)
Will also hope to spend a lot of time doing gentle hillwalks... I have a friend with a four day old baby who wants to do the hillwalking with me soon as I'm up to it.

Think i'm going to log out of mumsnet for the time being though.. see you on facebook instead! Can somebody please make sure to share any really important news on fb if it's posted here??? Thanks!

Mummy friends and groups might sound terrible and some stuff I've been to gas been horrible (I'm quite shy of stuff like that!) but not speaking to other adults all day every day is very isolating and for me would most likely have led me back to depression (I suffered many years ago).

To be honest the best thing for me was going back to work a couple of days a week but that wasn't til DD was 7 months.

I'm behind on this thread but not seen looming births on fbook!? So have we 2 potential babies arriving today?

Hope everyone is well!

Hi everyone.

Such a shit night's sleep last night. So bath, cuppa and 2 hour nap this morning. Ah bliss!

Really enjoying my first day off on mat leave while DD is at nursery :)