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Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 6)

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HazleNutt · 20/07/2013 16:52

Oh, looks like I wrote the last post! So new thread here where we will see more berry babies and hopefully loads more graduates as well.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

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BelissimaLol · 09/08/2013 09:38

Apparently citrus and bubbles give baby wind and Lara seems to be rather constipated! She makes a lot of noises and then we hear this massive fart or the sound of some serious nappy filling
Yeah I'm not impressed with HV either. Love the suggestion to have her in the garden so as I can get some sleep!!!!
She's been we'll fussy over the last two days. Dh kindly kept her from 9pm-1am yest and managed to play on the x box with her on his belly! That meant I got some sleep but then had her for the whole night. She has slept for 6 hours in total but either on my chest or next to me which means I only dozed off
What do u all have planned for today? I'm gonna take her into work as my team are dying to see her and then a friend who is also a brilliant hairdresser is coming to visit so I'm having my hair done

MotherOfCleo · 09/08/2013 09:40

alex my cat loves me but hates most of the rest of the human population, when we got the puppy he pretty much moved out for a month, I anticipate he will do the same again. If he doesn't I'll deal with it, I don't think he'll like a crying, wriggly baby at all. He's not trusting of new things at the best of times.

Purplemonster · 09/08/2013 10:08

Evil cat doesn't like anyone, including me ungrateful swine so she treats the place like a hotel and we only see her at mealtimes. Little cat isn't bothered about the baby at all and often quite happily shares my knee with her. She hasn't shown any sudden murderous urges to smother her yet. She's never bothered getting in the Moses basket with the baby but I have found her curled up at the bottom of the cot bed amongst the teddies. I'm not too worried about it all, Lucy is bigger than the cat and is fairly vicious with her kicks, punches, headbutts and hair pulling, I reckon she can handle herself

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HazleNutt · 09/08/2013 10:32

my 3 cats could not care less. One sometimes sits next to the baby bath and stares at him at bath times and they try to sleep in the buggy and on the changing table, but that's pretty much it.

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janey1234 · 09/08/2013 10:47

Hazle we have one of these and it really does work wonders on Miles. We only use it at night in an attempt to distinguish between daytime naps and nighttime sleeps from the start, but it does seems to mean he sleeps for much longer in one stretch than he does in the Moses basket during the day. Bless Miles, we call him out little worm when he's wearing it!

Alexandra6 · 09/08/2013 11:02

Aww I'm buying a little worm outfit too!

janey1234 · 09/08/2013 11:14

Alex you can borrow mine if you want - we have two and Miles will have grown out of them by Nov...

Alexandra6 · 09/08/2013 11:25

Thanks janey I was a bit quick off the mark and ordered it but have requested cancellation from amazon and it seems to have worked! So yes please to your worm outfit!!

Cavort · 09/08/2013 11:50

I have a swaddle pod which works quite well, but she can wriggle her hand out in her sleep and if I open it to fasten it tighter the ripping velcro frustratingly wakes her up.

I think I am going delirious through lack of sleep... the last of the 'Congratulations - It's a Girl!' helium balloons was looking past its best so I decided it was time to get rid. As a 35 year old sober woman with only a baby and a dog for company, I felt the need to inhale the helium and then sing in a stupid voice at the puzzled-looking baby and dog and then laugh for ages at my own hilarity.

MotherOfCleo · 09/08/2013 11:55

My mum was taking the piss out of the swaddle blankets the other day, until I said....'errrrm, mum, I want one of them' she then looked at me like I was mad. I am willing to try anything to help the lack of sleep.

In other news had the carpet guy round last night, £180 for new stain resistant, bleach-able carpet to be bought and fitted in the nursery. Was so cheap we opted to get our bedroom done too. And...even better....he can do it Monday afternoon! Can't wait to be able to actually put up the nursery furniture!

MotherOfCleo · 09/08/2013 12:01

cavort that image made me laugh out loud at my desk!!! Wish I had been their to see it!

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HazleNutt · 09/08/2013 12:33

I tried swaddling, both cloth and those special swaddles. Vic unfortunately hates all of them.

cavort Would have been extra hilarious if you then had seen a neighbour or your MIL looking through the window.

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Alexandra6 · 09/08/2013 13:20

cavort between that hilarious image and your euthanasia comment on the scared of childbirth post, I'm really not sure what to expect with all this having babies business

mother how many weeks are you now again? I'm not doing my nursery until our loft is done so that would leave it to, erm, October with due date in November! Not panicking though. It's part of my new burying my head in the sand approach

Cavort · 09/08/2013 13:35

You will be fine Alex, I'm just a wuss. The resulting baby is well worth it and if it makes you feel any better I feel it's something I would consider doing again so it can't have been that bad. The extra long latent phase was the worst part of my experience and that's very unlikely to happen to you.

Alexandra6 · 09/08/2013 13:43

Eek I didn't even know what a latent phase was and just googled and that sounds like the "easy" bit! By easy, I just mean not as horrific as the pushing the baby out bit, I am not in any way expecting any of it to be easy!

Alexandra6 · 09/08/2013 13:47

I'm still reading the same website and it's talking about managing the pain through breathing, did anyone have any success with their breathing techniques? A friend swears her second was easier as she could relax her body more through breathing. I'm wondering if I can really help the experience with breathing techniques and trying to relax, or whether you just get the birth you're given and some are just more painful than others?

janey1234 · 09/08/2013 13:53

Cavort. You've entertained all of us at least!

Cavort · 09/08/2013 13:57

I kept getting told off during contractions for breathing too fast so the MW's at my hospital must think breathing techniques help. I suppose deep slow breathing is generally relaxing so if you can manage it it should help.

I think the latent phase is generally painless for most women. I am just one of the unlucky ones who had days of contractions which definitely were not painless! After 4.5 days in the latent phase, I was a sleep-deprived crying miserable wreck before I even got into labour. My actual labour and birth was a doddle in comparison.

Quodlibet · 09/08/2013 14:05

I have had a hormonal mess breakdown this morning over an unbooked campsite. Weeping uncontrollably on the sofa before leaving for work. It feels like all of a sudden the I AM GOING TO HAVE A BABY thing has taken over my entire brain and left no space for coping with everyday minor things. Have also been sick at work today. Is not good. And off to the West Country tonight for a wedding tomorrow when all I want to do is spend some time in my own bed not having to do anything. Moan moan moan. I don't think it helps that we worked out the other day that we only have 3 free weekends in the next 3 months to tackle all the house/baby stuff - the rest of them are weddings/stags/hens/work commitments.

MotherOfCleo · 09/08/2013 14:35

Oh quod I really feel for you. I was similar I just wanted to be at home with my things to get my mind around everything, I felt like I was losing control and everything was being controlled by other people.

Try not to fret too much, can you sleep in the car on the way this evening? Just to chill out a bit. Also, everything does have a way of working itself out, my OH is honestly as useful as a chocolate teapot and that is being kind but he has been reserving things at Argos and picking them up on his way home from work, we have decorated mostly in the evenings as he goes fishing at the weekend if I make any suggestions of DIY

You will get their, plus the things the baby actually needs are limited. We have been fussing about the nursery and tbh he won't be in it for a fair while.

I do remember it dawning on me that all the months of TTC had finally had a result, but then thinking oh shit I am going to have a tiny little person who I am completely responsible for....cue meltdown. I also starting thinking of all the things we wouldn't be able to do. BUT I've spent 30 years getting to this point, I am ready for it now I've got my mind around it. Although the head in sand approach is also amazing isn't it alex.

alex I'm 27 weeks, seems early I know but I wanted to get everything done before I turn into a walrus. Plus if we spend the money now I know how we stand financially and can try to work out savings wise what we need to cope on the crappy 135 quid a week when I'm on maternity. Plus I have serious OCD and like to have everything done.

Purplemonster · 09/08/2013 16:51

Nobody bought me a balloon, why didn't I get a balloon? but the image of Cavort squeakily singing to herself has absolutely made my day!

All this talk of decorating nurseries is making me want to have a proper foot stomping tantrum, the attic that was definitely going to be finished before the baby arrived still doesn't even have a bloody floor, or walls, or any number of other things that you need before you're not living in a building site with a 6 week old baby. I have been very patient but I am starting to get really pissed off with it all now.

Cavort · 09/08/2013 17:16

Purple just have a massive crying rant about it and guilt your OH into stepping it up several a gear? You can always blame hormones and sleep deprivation. And while you're at it treat yourself to a helium balloon... I found laughing at my own childishness quite thersputic after bugger all sleep.

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HazleNutt · 09/08/2013 17:18

wow French administration for a change did not fuck up, Victor has a passport. They have managed to add a hyphen between his 2 last names that should not really be there, but oh well, can't have everything. We can go and see my parents now.

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Purplemonster · 09/08/2013 17:26

I've lost my manipulation mojo! I used to be pretty tough and very rarely cried so when I did, it got me whatever I wanted had an affect, now he just rolls his eyes and walks away muttering about hormones.

Quodlibet · 09/08/2013 17:34

Do you reckon you could summon up ice-cold fury instead Purple? Blimey, I get upset about the bath not being boxed in, I would be going bonkers in your situation.

Thanks for the calm advice Mother! I think I am oscillating between head-in-sand and OHMIGOD reality which is partly what is doing my head in. Like you said we will cope and it'll all be fine in the end.

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