Sloths, slugs and heffalump bumps-july13

[princessllama]

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Morning everyone!
Not posted in a little while, we had a massive family bbq yesterday, was really nice, my parents and in laws got so drunk though glad i was sober!

Re: telling people about labour, anyone who's being told has also been told if they want further updates they have to wait and we will message them when appropriate, people seem happy with this
Also we told people they can visit in the first week, but unless we say otherwise at the time, its half an hour tops per visit (everyone is local) only person who said no was OH's GM, her reply was 'oh but I won't get in the way' shes the most interfering person in our family! So im thinking well visit her instead so we can leave when we want, much easier than kicking her out of our house
Sorry i couldn't name check im on my phone again, but not too much longer for everyone feeling uncomfortable!

35+1

Hi everyone! I went away last weekend, and it has taken me this long to catch up again!

Firstly want to say congrats to princess and I hope your little boy gets better very soon. Lovely name you picked!

Read so much have now forgotten everything I wanted to say! Re to telling people you are in labour, the midwife at my antenatal class w ds actually mentioned this and said it could be a good idea not to say anything. To not put extra pressure on you and oh having to update all the time, and also so that family isnt sitting at home worrying about it. It was much nicer being able to just call everyone when ds was born and all went well.

So 37+4 here, and baby engaged 1/5. Really fed up and uncomfortable, though doing better w sleep than a lot of you as seem to manage till ds wakes up at 6-7.

icing glad you had a nice bbq, you are very brave facing that many people! We are having ds second birthday party next saturday, only dhs family coming and I have made it clear he is to do the prep for it! If anything is going to send me into labour it will be that...

Sorry for lack of personals! I'm now starting a 3am wake up club, never mind 5am. Unfortunately DH is v light sleeper so usually avoid getting the phone or tablet out as it would wake him up. Think I finally nodded off again about 7 after hours of lying in bed. Felt too tired to get up and move rooms or read like you're supposed to. Hope all the people who aren't sleeping well manage to take it easy in the daytime. Hope all the early arrivals are continuing to do well. Dinky you obviously don't have as much time on your hands as me re symptom spotting!! Doesn't help that I keep meeting people who have gone into labour really early.

re telling people I decided that only the inlaws would be told as they would be looking after the boys and DH's work because of paternity leave. In the end DH wanted to tell my mum and dad because as he so nicely put it, it would be less awkward for him if he had to tell them I'd died if they already knew I was having a C-section. As you can imagine that made me feel so much better . In the end the C-section was put off for another day so I had a whole afternoon of my phone pinging, asking for updates.

re visitors the one good thing about Ezekiel being in special care is that visitors were banned except me, dh and the dc's while he was in intensive care and only grandparents allowed in now. So the inlaws went to see him last week and after sitting by his cot watching him sleep for 20 minutes, they decided not to bother again. They came to see me on the day of the C-section and brought the boys but I was so doped up on painkillers and then the midwives said I could go and see Ezekiel so I didn't see them for long. People don't seem to be that interested in coming round just to see me so I've had some time to get my head round things which has been nice. Some of the mums on the ward had loads of visitors which would have driven me round the twist.

Thanks dinky. I got about 2 hours sleep in the end but DS's party went well & we had a "family nap" once everyone went home!

Have a day to myself tomorrow (well, I'm supposed to go and have some blood tests at hospital) so hoping to have some good sleep and some pottering.

Really don't remember feeling so uncomfortable with DS1 at this stage but maybe I've forgotten.

Evening ladies...have a stupid bloody cold ..any hints/tips for helping it to clear, pronto?

Grannyapple I feel your pain I have a cold too and it's been a day of orange juice, water and naps :/

hi everyone, I am still lurking and sorry I'm not keeping up with the thread. cheese fab news about the not-breech baby.

granny and photographer last thing you need. If it helps, apparently your body resists going into labour until you're better? Might be old wives tale but makes total sense really when you think about all those African antelope that resist giving birth til it rains.

Not comparing either of you, btw.

Can I ask some advice esp of mums of second babies? I am still feeling Baby No-Name moving all over the show - huge movements, despite the lack of space. Am 37+3 now. DD was in place for weeks before I had her. Anyone know anything about what this might mean? Do you think he might flip back to breech again? Really worrying me. Thanks.

ohgood I've been wondering the same...DS was thought to be breech but was head down by 34 wks after I had a scan to check. I've heard that 2nd babies sometimes don't engage til delivery/labour. But I have a low lying placenta so I'm now thinking that baby can't properly get head down due to that...hoping I'm just being paranoid & things have sorted themselves out (find out on Friday)

Sorry, my reply prob isn't helping to reassure, is it?!

35 + 2

Evening all. Glad Ds had a good party Citizen and hope you get a good nights sleep tonight.

Granny - fluids, rest, vit c, zinc and Manila honey are the best things to try. If it helps any, I had a stinker of a cold at 38 weeks with ds2 - amazingly it disappeared totally when I went into labour!

Ohgood - second babies often engage later. Ds2 wasn't engaged at 38 weeks but was then born quickly a few days later. No signs labour was on its way at all!

Quick q- which one is marianna? Cant work it out and i see she had her baby
Well done citizen on party front.
2nd babiesbounce in and out but pretty sure this doesnt include flipping into breach - where are our medics?
Elliej- i agree has been godsend that visits to nicu v limited
We had a better day so i am feeling vvv cautiously a bit optimistic

Glad to hear you & little llama had a better day, princess

I can't get comfortable lying on my left side & can't get back to sleep. Can't wait to be able to sleep on my back again.

Gaaaaah. Tired, pissed off and can't sleep. DD hosting baby shower for me next weekend. Which would have been good but now have to invite horrible SIL along with lovely one, MIL, SIL with special needs who is hard work in company and can be immensely selfish, and DH's poisonous daughter from marriage 1. This will all then be reported back in detail to DH's first wife.... I also now have to find room for 16 bloody people in my house...the rooms are tiny and the layout difficult. I don't even have 16 chairs, and there's no outside space at all. Will have to have proper food, not just cakes as they are all fussy as hell... So much for poor DD's idea of a stylish vintage tea-party.

DH doesn't see the problem...well, he's not going to be here, as he's picking up his son from uni all day. This has gone from being something fun to a nightmare overnight....

Horrid SIL kept on going on about a party for her daughter 'but the date's not fixed yet' which means I'm not invited but DH's first wife is....she won't even have me at her house. Then when we went home (from nice SIL's), she hugged everyone but me (including my friend she's never met before). DH's DD went on and on about how we were always 'away for her brother's birthday' (he's 19 FFS), and therefore anyone away for the LO's arrival was fine.... even MIL pissing off for planned induction date to Suffolk...DH, he just doesn't notice this stuff. Apparently it's 'getting at' his daughter to mention when she's being a cow to me and my DD... Even though have spent 3 years welcoming her into my house so she can slag me off to other people, and be rude to my face in my own house....

Wouldn't be so bad if my own family were at all supportive, but they aren't really speaking to me. My mother has taken to ringing me, firing questions, then hanging up. This is only so she doesn't look bad in front of her friends who know I'm pregnant. They haven't mentioned seeing me or the baby, and my brother hasn't spoken to me in 3 1/2 years. When I had DD they were in another country, but at least they had distance as an excuse.

Just feeling a lot isolated and a bit crap really.......

Totally Wish I could sleep on my front!

Bad miss m crappy relations , not. Fun. I have similar at times and feel same that it is v isolating when coming from both sides of family. My mil has been known to ignore me for wholw weekends whilst lovebombing the kids and dh, obviously dh doesnt notice. Thank goodness you have lovely dd and your own little family.
Hope you and totaly get back to sleep, have to say being able to sleep on back is great, even if i am being woken up by everyone else's babies. At least mine is still showing little improvements

BadMiss I've tried rearranging my pillow mountain to sleep on my front, but that's not working either. Still wide awake.
Your ILs sound awful. I definitely wouldn't be changing the plans to make special food for them. Tell them it's a tea party with cake and that's it. If they want something different they can bring their own (or better still, not come). Or you could spike their special food with laxatives. As for seating - cushions on the floor? Or maybe just hope having no chairs will make them leave earlier.

im awake too. have a cake in the oven

princessllama glad that humphrey is improving. are you in the same room as him? bad miss IL trouble can be hell at the best of times. luckily ours dont bother us that much they really couldnt care less. but anyone that was rude to me (or dh, dcs) in our own house would be shown the door quick sharp!

have tons to do today, and no doubt will be sleepy by 10am. just wish i could get one nights sleep before the real sleepless nights start. though maybe it will be better once baby is here

Cake, shelley??? What kind?
Unfortunately our bedrooms all open directly onto the kitchen , so no middle of the night baking for me.....

its a banana bread for DCs lunch boxes. it was the only quiet thing i could think to make. and i couldnt even lick the bowl. am slightly addicted to cake

Slept til 5.30 yay!

Bad miss - sounds awful. Can you cancel your baby shower and replace it with something subtly different that the ILs aren't invited to? Eg our DS's party yesterday was "no family" because DH's family make things too awkward - we invited kids DS plays with and their parents (who we like).

For my "baby shower" I went out for lunch with my closest girl friends (before DS1, nothing this time) - could you do something like that and not call it a baby shower so ILs don't expect to be invited?

To be honest, I'd rather have no party at all than host one with people who are likely to be horrible to me. Seriously. For me, I wanted a chance to catch up with my friends before disappearing into "new mum" fog, which is why we went out for lunch together.

Sorry you're having this stress - hope you can find a way through it.

Princess - its devilforsideboard. Think she was looking at a section around 20 June anyway so her little man just decided to bring things forward. That makes 7 babies on thread already and we're only half way through July! Glad you all had a better day yesterday - hope you had a stable night and today is a good day too.

Badmissm - hugs. Sorry your in laws and parents are being such pains. You seem to have some really lovely and supportive friends and with your dad and dh and son on the way you will have a tight family unit too. I'd keep your tea party exactly the way its planned - ask everyone to bring a chair and if the weather is nice (hmm) head into the garden. If the inlaws want to gripe they can - sounds like they'd complain even if it was tea with the queen.

Shelley - hope the nocturnal banana bread turned out OK.

My grand plan with my first day off is to sort out my Long overdue filing (exciting me!), maske various house maintenance appts and make some blueberry and lemon curd muffins for my boys (who all suddenly have stinking colds so only a matter of time, probably hours, till I get it!)

Hmm, dad should read dd - bloody autocorrect!

Morning all! I was up at 4 but couldn't be bothered getting our of bed to get my phone, I see lots of others were also up though. shelley baking at that time is pretty impressive, although surely it means even if you suddenly thought you could go back to sleep you can't or it'll burn?

Badmiss sorry you're having so much trouble with the in laws and your parents. My parents were very difficult to begin with, Although they seem to have come around a little I'm still perpetually frustrated and hoping they'll worn to being normal once the baby is here. Sounds like your problems are more longstanding than that though. I think I'd just stick to my original plans to be honest.

dinky enjoy your first day of leave. I'm also filing today, having managed to put it off for a week already.

Princess I'm glad things are looking up a bit. And Ellie how is ezekiel today?

Sorry for all those with colds, not ideal! I second orange juice, rest, paracetamol and zinc (if it's not already in vitamins you're taking)

37+5

Morning all! Wow I've missed about 300 posts! I've had such a busy few weeks I've neglected you all, I will now I've finished work try to catch up, but for now just dropping on to say hi .

Why is it when you don't have to get up you have a rubbish nights sleep & are up at 6am! I also have a stupid cold coming!

I hope everyone else is well! 35+2

badmissm your inlaws sound horrible! I dont think you should change your tea plans at all, if you catered completely to them and their likes, would they not just find something to complain about anyway?