Sloths, slugs and heffalump bumps-july13

[princessllama]

Hope this works

totally day case ELCS sounds rather good. i certainly dont want to be hanging about longer than i need to!

i hope that i get a nice team as i did before who support skin to skin (with me NOT dh). i am seeing the supervisor of midwives on monday for my routine 38wk appt as my usual MW is on holiday. i am hoping that she will help me put a decent plan together and come up with some ideas to give me a little bit of control in a situation that has been taken out of my hands. i am also going to ask if she is concerned about the baby based on the scan fndings. i found an estimator on the web today and based on femur length and abdominal circ measured yesterday baby is estimated to be about 2.4 kg at the minute, which i think is ok though of course doesnt account for the other 10kg in weight i have put on, but maybe the ice cream does

and i am also with you totally about not telling people you are in labour, i cant think of anything worse than feeling the pressure of people asking for updates. i managed to avoid it first time round and i didnt even tell anyone i was going in for section last time. i am trying to work out how to manage that again! my family would worry so much if they knew what was going on, and the last thing i want is to send DS off to school worrying about mummy being in hospital.

have managed to get a few things done today, cleaning mostly but i cant get the car seat cover off the maxi cosi to wash it. anyone with a maxi cosi have any ideas? is the cover removable?

shelley - the cover is definitely removable from the maxi cosi. Ours has been washed more than once following a poonami or car seat vomit. It's a bugger to get back on though.

ok well DH can do that bit then, i just need to get the thing off to wash it

Shelley, YouTube removal and replacement maxi cosi covers. There are videos.

Quick post, but totally we've talked about this too, and think we'll try to tell people (in laws, my parents) only when baby is here. We'll try to keep an open mind in case circumstances change, but I don't want to be chased for updates while labouring!

Very exciting, we bought our car seat! The maxi cosi milofix, all installed, price-matched at mothercare to the newly-opened kiddicare's offer. If you'd like one, get one quick as mamas and papas are already sold out in our local area and it was only released this week. No extra base needed, and it's 0+1 so we're dead chuffed

We also had our nct breastfeeding class this morning. Interesting, but a little light on practical help which was disappointing.

A happy, optimistic soul I am this evening. I hope you're all taking care of yourselves

Dinky, thanks, i'll look online!

mrs ross i never did an NCT BF course so quite interested in what kind of practical help they didnt give? their helpline can be quite useful and see if there are any drop in BF groups in your area for some support

Just a quick look at the thread and you lot have moved on loads since I was here last (yesterday or day before lol)
To those whose babies arent too well atm I hope they are on the road to recovery and have had a better day today.

And with regards to the maxi cosi car seat covers they do come off. I had the pebble with ds 1 and he had really bad reflux and the car seat would gey covered on a regular basis. Its just been washed again amd put back on. Not that bad to put back on.

Lost a bit of pink stuff? Literally tiny bit. Wondering if there's more to come?

X

Oh and 35 weeks today:)

Totally - I remember having the same argument with DH last time. I tried to explain that knowing people were waiting for me to "perform" would really stress me out. We never really resolved it but as it turned out my labour was so long that he naturally spoke to close family during that time & I didn't ask him to lie about it, so they mostly knew but were really respectful and DH dealt with all the communication so it didn't bother me in the end.

Haven't discussed it this time. My parents will be looking after DS1 so will know but noone else unless they happen to call, I guess. I feel less worried about it this time as everyone behaved ok - no one rang the ward or turned up or anything!

Have been having sharp pains around my pubic bone - so uncomfortable! Anyone else?

Another one here having the discussion re who to tell, both sets of parents know the section date, for childcare purposes, but IL's have already started saying things along the lines of but so and so wants to be here when the babies born, so have you considered telling them, mostly met with a curt, well so and so can wait the baby won't be going anywhere.
I have also expressed to DH that I only want him and DD to visit on the day if the section, to allow me time with the baby that I missed out on last time, and also to allow us time just with DD and the baby. I do feel a bit mean but I need this to be about what I would like rather than trying not to offend people, AIBU?
I'm hoping that DH supports me in this, his initial reaction was ok fine, but I have no idea whether he was actually listening at the time- highly likely not to have been and then just agreeing, I will raise it again with DH, just not today, as we have already had a major falling out, a lot related to the collapse of the house sale, and some pretty mean things were said by both of us, we have tentatively made up, but both feeling pretty stressed, plus I'm seriously hormonal so not helping.
I'm wondering if I should actually just bite the bullet and tell the IL's straight about what I want, this will also include my mum, so there is no GP jealously to be involved.
citizen yep lots of nasty pains- I've put them down to my spd.
Hoping to get some more sleep tonight I'm so tired and no chance of a lie in tomorrow as its Father's Day.
36+6

MrsRoss - for practical support/pointers, visit near by BF groups, get names of peer supporters if possible and get one allocated to you. My peer supporter when I had ds1 was wonderful and the main reason I managed to establish bfing. Sadly they dont seem to have them where we live now, but the BF groups are good.

Citizen Oscar - I've had a couple of those - am putting them down to round ligament pain.

NPK - sorry things are stressful at home between you and DH. Hope tomorrow is a much better day for you. I think you're perfectly within your rights to ask that the first day is just you, DH and DD. My parents/MIL live outside of London (though mum and dad have bought a flat 10 mins walk away from us as their london crash pad - am dreading how much I'll see of them this summer ) so its always just me, DH and the boys the first day and its lovely.

Ellie It must be so tough not to be able to see Ezekiel. I hope your cold goes soon and between now and Wednesday he goes from strength to strength.

Princess Dr's sometimes really don't think they do! I hope you get a much constructive update soon, and in the meantime you start to feel better.

I entirely agree with no wanting the world to know I'm in labour. We're going to let my in laws know as they are driving me to the hospital/looking after DS but other than that I'd rather not have everyone knowing. Mind you last time I ended up telling my vicar as she called to see how I was doing and probably just as well as later that evening when it was snowing and the taxi failed to show up she drove us to the hospital.

Will catch up with everyone else later as I think I can hear DS!

shelley I was hoping for more information on positions, practical bits and pieces if there are problems, that kind of thing. I suppose I've learned so much just reading on mn that I expect more detail than most!

dinky thanks, I'm going to look up local support groups so I'm well armed

Sorry to hear you've had a tough day npk and hope you and dh make up. Telling people seems such a sensitive issue, I hope you can find agreement.

MrsRoss - kellymom.com is an excellent bf website with loads of practical advice (or at least it was when I last used it) too.

Waaaaah! So bloody uncomfortable and I can't sleep at all :(

Will have to be up in a couple of hours and it's DS1's birthday party today. Only a small thing but would have liked to feel vaguely human for it.

Anyone else awake?

Hi co. I'm awake here too, but wretched phone keeps refusing to add my posts!

Happy birthday to your DS! What do you have planned for his party?

Hi mightbe - got distracted by another thread!

Some friends with kids are coming round this morning for a brunch party. Hoping weather is ok so kids can play in the garden - can't hear any rain outside so far!

Any reason you're awake mightbe? Or just really lucky

Just lucky I think co!! have been waking 2/3 times a night for weeks but for some reason today I just can't get back to sleep. Have eaten my emergency stash of almonds and hand a drink, been to the loo x 20, so maybe I'll get another hour before dc1 wakes up...

Brunch party sounds lovely. Fingers crossed the weather holds for you!

No 4am club for me this morning - woke at 2 & thought I'd never get back to sleep, but did & managed to sleep until 5! Best nights sleep in ages!

I keep trying to sleep on my left side as I'm sure this baby is on the right/back to back, but I keep waking up lying on my back.

Glad I'm not the only one who doesn't want to have an audience at home getting live labour updates.

Totally I'm doing the same as this one is back to back on the right - I also keep waking on my back which I think both of us find more comfortable! I'm sure she kicks me until I turn!

I completely agree, no one needs to know when labour kicks in. DP and I agreed on this ages ago, we think it will stop undue anxiety as this is grandchild number one on both sides. I also can't bear the idea of people calling for updates mid push!

yay no 4am club for me today. well i was awake every two hours with bloody reflux AND a runny nose but just couldnt be bothered to get up. fathers day today so DS has put in an order of chocolate croissants for breakfast in bed for him DH. so off to do that in a minute. apart from that, yet more sorting to do today in the hope that i can actually have a rest tomorrow as DCs are at school / nursery.

notprincesskate i dont blame you re the visitors either. i did this last time. DH was there all day obviously but i wanted DS to be the first one to meet his new sister. so my mum brought him in after nursery but i did make her wait to see the baby! and apart from that i had no visitors. its hard enough on day of section with your legs numb, catheter in, leaking everywhere, getting feeding sorted out that you really dont want to 'host' visitors and have an audience do you? or probably maybe i am just anti social .

mrs ross would also second what dinky said. kellymom is a useful website, but local BF groups with peer supporters/counsellors can provide support and info on positioning and attachment as well as point you in the right direction if things arent working out as planned. babies dont always read the baby books .

Morning all - Citizen and Might be, hope you got some more sleep and that citizen's ds has a lovely birthday today! Sleepy food is meant to include wholemeal bread, turkey and lettuce - dh swears by them when he has bouts of insomnia.

Happy fathers day to all the dads and dads to be today x