December 2013 part 2.

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Just starting a new thread as we're starting to run out of room on the first. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/a1716486-December-2013#38680515

Oh penguin so so sorry. It's not fair, 10 weeks is when you start feeling you've almost made it through the risky bit, but I guess this one just wasn't meant to be. Pleased you and your DH are feeling bonded and up for parenthood, lovely that you have that from this pregnancy. The best of luck for the rest of your journey (and do you think you can indulge in some fine Italian vino and forbidden foods now?) Big hug x

Penguinita, so sorry but don't give up all hope my SiL had some terrible bleeds and has the most adorable DD.

Had a GP appointment today, seems like I'll see her rather than a MW in France, which is great because she's lovely. Our first borns are within a few weeks of each other and when I told her I was pregnant a few weeks ago I was delighted for her when she confided that she was too. Unfortunately I found out today she has had an MC. Felt so awful for her, it's her second MC, seems so unfair. She was so professional dealing with my appointment but it must have been killing her inside. Any suggestions on how I can be as sensitive as possible in the coming months?

I have been feeling 'seasick' esp in the evening but she said that's normal. I did tell her about feeling depressed earlier in the pregnancy ( thankfully, this last week I have been much better) mainly because my DH made me promise I would. She was quite dismissive and put it down to hormones and I'm sure she's right. Obviously I didn't want to labour the point under the circumstances. So sad for her.

ready you can choose to see your GP, a SF liberale, a private gynae or be followed by the maternité. There's a lot of choice! Obviously if you get on with your GP and are happy that's great and you can do the monthly checks with her although you'll still need to do the birth prep with a MW either independently or via the maternity unit.

Oh and you'll obviously have your 8 month anesthetist appointment at the maternité. Your notes should explain the appointment scheduling and who it's done with.

So sorry to hear your news Penguin but like readyornot said, it may not mean the end... I don't want to give you false hope, but until it's definite, you never know....fingers crossed.

So so sorry Penguin - lots of love to you and DH. X

Penguin- I'm so sorry to hear your news.. It's very unfair. I hope this comes across ok but I know what you mean about finding a positive in the way you and DH cope- I found with my mc I admired my DH in a totally new light just for how lovely and supportive he was. Sometimes it's the tough times.. Makes you know you're with the right person as you can cope with the things life throws at you together. That said I know what you're going through cant be easy. I hope you are ok.

Thanks girls for the sympathy- re-reading my post I sound like a whinging old bag! Haha. My day actually got better as I left my ( awful) ward to go down to A&E for my on call shift at 4pm which although hard work is far preferable to my miserable ward. Also had an email saying I can go to work on the stroke ward for my next changeover in August which I've worked on before and is lovely. Will be a really nice place to be in the late pregnancy with lovely friendly nurses and team so that's good.

Beyond shattered after my 14 hour day so warm milk and bed for me.. Night all.

Ps- nice tip kyz.. 6 pay days to go- woohoo.. And what's more only 3 of those on this crappy ward I'm currently on!

Oh and yes, apparently my consultant has done a risk assessment. Consists of- don't see isolated ( infectious) patients. That's it. Using common sense and not seeing the confused/ aggressive ones either..

Hi girls!

Sorry to hear about what you are going through 5ammy. Love and hugs your way.

Penguinita
hugs, and positive thoughts to you; whatever the outcome just know we wish you and your dh the best.

In our household, we celebrate Mil for british mothers day and we celebrate me for American Mothers day.

I honestly had one of the worst mothers days ever on Sunday, husband took forever to bring my breakfast around, took him nearly an additional 15 minutes to make my latte (which we have a machine for<span class="line-through">and it only takes 30 seconds)...not to mention the night before DS really wanted to cuddle with us at bedtime so fell asleep in our bed and I woke to his feet in my lower back</span>where they had been all night. (Terribly painful). 

As the day progressedit only got worse. Husband forgot to order flowers-he never forgets to get flowers for his mother-everyone else forgot it was mothers daymy younger university going sisters live with us and usually always make sure to make me feel special...then as the day went on I somehow got sick with norovirus. The hell that I experienced until just this afternoon.

I was supposed to go in for my harmony bloods today, but had to reschedule for tomorrow am. I hope I'm not contagious--feeling much better. 


I'm generally too independent to let a bad mothers day get in my way--but it's really taking a toll so I may just take myself out for a Whisper-fest-day of gluttony. I'm such a sad sad sad pathetic excuse for a woman.

Penguin, so sorry be kind to yourself.

Queen, what an awful day! Hope the sickness bug goes away asap. Thinking of you.

Better dash, have to go to blood clinic. Hope all have good days today!

Penguinita
So sorry, massive hugs.

I did a 5km fun run last night. I had to wear jeans as when I put on my tracksuit or yoga pants I was sure I looked pregnant, and I was going with about 20 women from work. As it was, I walked with my friend who is 37 weeks and had worked out on Monday I'm pregnant. We even got overtaken by people pushing wheelchairs.

Scan in 8 days. We were going to tell the kids after the scan, but big one is away on a school camp that night.

I think I'm telling work next week, I want to make sure they don't give me any year 9 classes (that's like year 11 in England), there's been a lot of staff turnover and none of them has kept a science teacher more than 1 year, so I don't want them changing teachers again just months before their final exams.

Morning all,
I'm new here. Currently 7 weeks 2 days and due 30 Dec. Will be our second child. Feeling tot

Oops, didn't mean to post so soon! Feeling totally rubbish with terrible sickness way worse than last time and have never ever felt so tired! Hoping it's all good signs though as have had two MC's in the past year so feeling pretty anxious about this pregnancy although trying to remain positive.

Nice to be on board!

Hi all, just marking my place too :)
Gonna be our first child and been given 1st Dec as an EDD, scan in a couple of weeks to confirm :)

On the flip-side, sorry to read of your news Penguinita :(

Well I was completely outed yesterday by a year 6 pupil I work with who said 'miss are you pregnant again' and indicated my flabby tum!!!! Kids are very astute at times... I though I had no bump yet but on closer inspection it is starting to get obvious now at almost 12 weeks...

At least she is right about you being pregnant, goosey. It's a lot worse when they say you look pregnant and you aren't!

Welcome to the newbies!

I am still in bed feeling sorry for myself. However, my Doppler just arrived, so I have had a play with that and I think I found the heartbeat. I'm only 9+2, so wasn't expecting to be able to hear it, so that's lifted my spirits a bit. I am going to try again later with a fuller bladder to see if that helps.

I hope everyone is feeling alright today :)

Gooseysgirl
A year 8 (like year 9 or 10 in England) girl put her hand up in class and asked "Are you pregnant, Miss?" I, not wanting to lie or to tell the truth, went for the age old evasive answer: "Are you saying I look fat? I know I'm not the slimmest I've ever been, but really? You should never ask someone if they are pregnant, you should let them tell you, otherwise, you just end up calling people fat"

penguinita, I;m sorry your'e going through this, I hope you're doing ok xx

Welcome new people

Ganet, I gave in and ordered a doppler today. I can't wait for it to come so I can have a try.

Does anyone else have periods of feeling very anxious? I'm not sure if it's something to do with hormones, but I keep getting sudden periods of tearfulness, anxiety and a worry that something is wrong with baby. It doesn't happen every day, more like 2-3 times a week, and always around 5pm. Not long afterwards, I manage to snap out of it and feel fine again!

So sorry to hear your news Penguin, hope you're doing ok.

Pistachio, I have periods of being, frankly, absolutely mental. DF and I have been going through a rough patch which hasn't helped but I'm sure I'm much more volatile than normal. Which isn't good as I'm pretty volatile at the best of times due to my feisty latino temperament! With me it's not so much anxiety as periods of rage and tantrums. And tears, lots of tears. Which is kind of the normal me just amplified by a factor of a squillion or so. I do of course worry about whether bean is going to turn out ok too.

I'm getting pissed off with the whole clothes situation. It feels way too early for maternity clothes (8 weeks or so) but there's no doubting my belly has got loads bigger already and that I can't stop eating! I've ordered these elasticated waist expander things from ebay for about £4, am watching various pairs of maternity jeans and have ordered some cheapish maternity leggings. I'm currently wearing my normal jeans with the fly and button undone, my largest belt on the biggest setting and a long jumper. Not all that comfy but it'll do. My arse hasn't got any bigger (yet!) so am hoping the maternity stuff just has belly room. I had a quick look round Next clearance today but I absolutely HATE shopping so will probably just try and buy everything online. But then you've got the whole sending stuff that doesn't fit back ball ache.

And my boobs hurt. I know I just need to get on with it and go get fitted for a decent bra. But again, hate shopping and also don't want to spend too much money as I'm confident they're going to get MUCH bigger. My mums boobs are ginormous (like G or J or something!) and mine are kind of big for my overall body size. It's just annoying me that I'm having to spend money already on clothes and stuff! Sorry, rant over. I know it's not much to get annoyed about but I'm managing it anyway!

Holly Have a look on www.asos.com/Women/Maternity/Cat/pgecategory.aspx?cid=5813 they have some pretty reasonably priced maternity things that should do you the whole way through pregnancy.
And seriously, bite the bullet and get a new bra or two. I know it's a pain (literally!) but it makes a massive difference to your comfort levels. I've gone from a D to an E already so I understand, honestly!

Ill fitting bra = unsupported boobs = sag

Now go get one!

I've not had anyone ask me when I'm pregnant yet, despite my looking immensely green in the mornings! But then I've never been a morning person....

Hello newbies!

I'm going on holiday end of June and not sure what to do re maternity wear- I'll be 13 weeks and going for 2 weeks and I know that's the time where my belly will start expanding (if not before) a lot of maternity stuff (esp over the bump stuff) is useless until you get a decent bump- I guess I could try those elasticated waist expanders Holly are they the ones that go over the buttons?

I may order a few pairs of cheap maternity shorts off ebay to keep me going.

Its a funny time re clothing when maternity stuff is too big and ordinary clothes too tight!

oh and I hope to god my nausea has worn off by then - when does it usually wear off? 12 weeks (please??)