December 2013 part 2.

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Just starting a new thread as we're starting to run out of room on the first. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/a1716486-December-2013#38680515

StyleManual- Thanks for that! Yep not too long! No one knows either so it?s hard not having anyone to talk too, think I need to make myself busy :)

Ladies I could do with a bit of hand holding this afternoon .. Had our private scan yesterday for reassurance. All great, measuring 9+5, matches dates.

Just now had some pink spotting. Am on a train hundreds of miles from home. Meeting my mum for a few days by the sea. Don't know what to think. Waiting half hour or so, will go back to the loo and see if its stopped or still going.

Could I be that unlucky? I want to believe all those stats I keep posting but this morning stupidly read a thread where some posters said they'd mc after having seen the fetal heart on scan. Gah.

Sorry for such a self indulgent post.

Michelle the reason I'm not having the screening for ds is because A I won't have an amnio if my risk factor is higher so pointless spending my pregnancy worrying and B I wouldn't ever terminate anyway unless the baby had a problem that meant they wouldn't live. It is something I've thought about and I cannot see the point if I would refuse further tests. I can see your point of view but I feel differently. I am sorry you had to make that decision is must have been very hard.

Feather I'm sorry about the job, that's pants.

hey, thought I would join in too. I found out I am pregnant last week with my first, still getting used to the idea! Think I am about 7/8 weeks. Came off pill after 16 years thinking it would take ages and it happened instantly. First midwife appt tomorrow, hoping to figure exact due date soon as everything is a bit haphazard because of not having a period after coming off the pill. Have had hideous period type cramps for the last 3 nights, no spotting or anything so having read up am presuming it is normal. I used to get awful period cramps so am guessing I am just annoyingly sensitive :( belly is soooo bloated too. DH has multiples in his family so also nervous about that, i used to work childcare and nannied several sets so at least i have a bit of an idea!

still sinking in though :)

Michelle that was a very moving post. I can not ever begin to imagine the pain you went through with losing Poppy, but I also really need to know if my baby has any medical problems ASAP which is why I've opted fro the Harmony test. In my book informed is empowered but I don't know how I'll handle the situation should any problems be found. I'm going to the clinic at Stamford Bridge (which I assume is the one you mentioned)

Feather commiserations on your bad news

Mildred Here as another cyber hand holder, fingers x for you.

Welcome all the new ladies to the bus

Thanks Quiet & Daisie.

Haven't got notes yet- collect them at 12w scan but will go to EPU if it gets worse.

Popped back to loo. Just v light pink when wipe.

Just wish I was at home now

Queen - it sounds like we are in a similar situation my DS is Autistic , he is my second child and we thrashed out the options of having a third - telling Family and some friends is going to be stressful for us as they will only focus on What if's... We have enough of those ourselves. I am also having the Harmony and not finding out the gender as I don't want to spend this Pg worrying. My Ds is only 2 3/4 so I am hoping he will meet some milestones with this baby all being well.

Feather So sorry about the rubbish news.

Mildred Fingers crossed for you and def go/call an EPU if only to speak to a midwife.

My MS has eased and I finally feel a bit more human, so I am torn between relief and worry that its stopped- also been stupidly emotional crying at adverts and even Peppa Pig

Welcome to all the newbies x

hi KYZ1981

having a child with ASD is hard, but thankfully Ds is progressing well. How is your DS doing? I'm sure you've got everything sorted regarding a program and stuff but if you ever need help, I am here. :) 

 My DH has ASD too, and managed well enough. His parents didn't know what they were doing, but inadvertently did a VB program with him until he was 6. He ended up going to Westminster School (the one at the Abbey) from under school to secondary and then off to Oxford for Math. 

By the time I'd met him I just thought he was hot, handsome and knew what he wanted. (Me). The sad thing has been, because of our respective cultures; ASD is seen as a mental illness and not a developmental disorder so he was to keep it a 'secret' so he wouldn't be judged.

Thanks Michelle also for such an honest post. It is so hard to get information from doctors and the hospital and there is so much conflicting info on the Internet. I can't imagine what you and your partner went through. I called the hospital antenatal unit today as am about 8.5 weeks and haven't heard anything from them, even in respect of a midwife appointment.. They told me they were still on due dates at end of November so to hold tight! I am worried though because the provisional date they gave me for the 12 week scan would be when I was 12.5 weeks and isn't that problematic for the nuchal fold scan?

Ps hope all is ok Mildred. Fingers crossed that it stops soon x

Hello :D
Anyone mind if I join you?
I found out a few weeks ago that I was pregnant for the 5th time...bit of a shock tbh and just getting used to the idea.
Struggling with generally feeling rotten but it's a feeling I've grown to know well over the years and just hanging on in there at the moment until I hit the 12 week mark.
Am about 7wks 3 days I think...edd 20 Dec but will be CS so baby will come a bit earlier :D

Thanks Olive. Seems to have stopped.

Sorry to be a panic pants.. Just felt very alone on this train hurtling into Cornwall! Don't want to panic my mum, who I'm meeting.

Fingers crossed is a blip. The roller coaster of emotion is exhausting.

Queen- He is doing well - we have him on an ABA/VB program and are starting to statement, he is verbal but has no functional language yet- but we have seen so much progress from VB- I am hopeful it will come. I guess the only thing that worries me is how I can get him through the education system with his self-esteem in tact and some form of education, also starting the Gaps diet soon to see if that helps his bowels.

My DH has several ASD traits and my Dad was clearly a classic Aspie so I know it is genetic in my DS case - but my DD is pretty typical so the odds are still on our side according to the genetics team.

I am hoping ASD is a bit more understood by the time DS is an adult and he can take pride in who he is.

We entered in to this knowing that this baby would have a higher percentage of being on the spectrum or at least having traits, however with the interventions we are using with DS - I hope that if that was the case we could start them earlier - I am also not afraid of Autism now I understand it - But I also know how restrictive and hard work it can be.

But me and Dh are in no -doubt that having a sibling will be a great benefit to DS and allow him an accepted social circle.

Olive you are fine for the NF test until you are 13 weeks 4 days, but you could tell them you are a bit unsure of dates and they may try and get you in a bit sooner.

Kyz1981

 it's lovely to hear about your DS. I totally agree with ABA/VB programs. I really feel it's the best choice we have made. Having patience is what has really done terrible things to me,(I am the least patient person in the world) but our VB program has worked wonders and I am ever soo confident that DS will do well. When he was 2.5 he was selectively mute--verbal only around myself and my youngest sister. He's 4.5 now and he is such a gentleman! He still has his quirks, but he says some of the sweetest things; he is ever sooooo excited about the 'baby' 

Also, I'm pretty sure he will not be a drug taking, over entitled snot that I see on TV. (I think I'll be using ABA VB forever). x

Good afternoon everyone.

I hope we all enjoyed the lovely long weekend of sun. I know we did. Had a pony show on sunday and a bbq yesterday afternoon. Felt a bit odd not drinking but have very much taken the moral highground this afternoon as DH is feeling very, very hungover lol.

I got my days wrong last time I posted. Im not actually 7 weeks until today lol. Just wishful thinking on my part I think! Got midwife next tuesday.

Symptom wise I've been lucky so far. Felt a bit sicky first week but nothing major. Got sore boobs, big swollen tummy and need a bit of a nap mid afternoon if I can get away with it but other than that am feeling pretty good. Big hugs to all those that are struggling with sickness etc.

MildredH hope things work out OK for you. If you are worried you must tell your ma and go to the local hospital/walk in centre or whatever you have where you are.

I really can not wait until the 12 week scan. I'm pretty sure I am only 7 weeks but am going to get midwife to have a feel of my tummy to check. Have really ballooned tummy wise and as we have been trying for so long (3 years) it is possible I am further on. My mum didn't know she was pregnant with my youngest sister until she was 12 weeks gone and I'm the oldest out of 6 so you would have thought she'd have known! Last period was 16th march and nothing extraordinary though the last couple have been quite light and short when I think back.

I thought my periods getting shorter and lighter were a sign of some serious issue that was preventing me from getting pregnant TBH. Had just decided to get properly checked out when I got my BFP. Aint that always the case lol.

Thanks kyz and glad to hear its stopped Mildred. Its my first so not quite sure how it all works and dont want them to leave things too late so that we cant get all the info we need. Congrats frubylou- my stomach has also absolutely ballooned - can only fit into two work dresses now which is a bit awkward!

hi all. had viability scan and got bloods taken for the harmony test at the fetal medicine centre.

so far so good. they're so thorough there, she took ages and measured all sorts. baby jigged around quite merrily, probably because I was late and power walked there.

new edd is 1st december it keeps creeping forward. any more and I'll be part of the November thread.

can I ask anyone who knows about the harmony test. will they record and tell you the sex if you ask? have decided to find out this time.

Fanbloodytastic, it's started already, I think I have some piles! Like I dont have enough trouble from my arse.

Going to FMC next week to do the harmony test anyway---theres a deal (I think it's a deal) where if you book to have harmony test and book for nuchal scan you can do both for £180? I just have to figure out how pregnant I am.

At the early pregnancy unit at chelsea and westminster hospital I am due on December 6th

At the Women's Wellness centre I am due on November 28th

At the Birth Centre on Harley St I am due on December 26th.

I am inclined to think that I am somewhere between November 28th and December 6th---I just wish I could just get one consistent date.

any one else ever have the case of Benjamin Button Bean?

Hi all. Bit worried this morning and need some advice/reassurance... I've had really bad ms the last week and really sore boobs. Have woken up this morning and nothing ... Not even a twinge or hint of sickness. Am 8 + 4 and had an early scan a week ago and all was good ( heard heartbeat).

Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Sorry to be such a worry but am really scared something is wrong, am 34 and this is #1.

Well ladies, I guess it's back to the buses for me. The next bit might be TMI.

Yesterday morning, I woke up with quite a lot of blood loss, so I already knew it wasn't good. Midwife scanned anyway and thought the bean must have stopped growing quite early, because she couldn't see much anymore. :-( I've called in sick and my boss is fortunately very understanding. He really sounded sad and upset for me. He said to call on Sunday evening to see how I feel and whether I'm up for work again. I feel a bit guilty towards colleagues for not going in today and them having to pick up my work, but on the other hand, I'm tired and crampy and can def use the rest.

After the scan, went to get pate and soft raw French cheeses. We also ordered sushi for dinner. What really helps me now, is the thought that MCs mean the fetus wasn't viable. Because we already have several inlaws and friends with serious and less serious disabilities, both mental and physical, we know how big the impact is on our lives and, more importantly, on our DS's life. If we can avoid, that would be better (but also heartbreaking).

Hi Daisy, (((hugs))). Call your midwife. It might be nothing, it might be bad news. My first pregnancy at 33 ended in a MC, but my second at 34 gave me my lovely DS!

So sorry to hear this dutchy. Biggest hugs.

Make sure you get plenty of rest before going back to work. Xx

Thank you! Best wishes to all of you!