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October 2013: scans and starting to show!

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Umlauf · 18/03/2013 09:08

Will this one take us through to the end of the first trimester? Will the sickness ever end? Will we be able to judge genders from those first scan pictures? These and many other mysteries to be solved in... THREAD 4

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SeriousStuff · 28/03/2013 17:02

Can I have a bit of a moan? I know in the grander scheme of things it doesn't really matter but I feel really fat today. I still have nausea and the only thing helping is eating! And the nausea means that exercising is the last thing on my mind. I'm seeing my DH's family and friends over the weekend (first time since we've told them) and I swear they'll take one look and think I've really let myself go!

My knickers are really digging into my hips and my arms feel like I'm wearing arm bands! I know I'm probably overreacting but I'm just having one of those days...

tuckingfits · 28/03/2013 17:05

Hi all. Sorry for the prolonged silence!

So sorry to hear your news Sal,rotten luck. Best wishes for the future.xx

So I finally had my booking in appointment today -an hour late... Was with the community midwife manager,she addressed a lot of my concerns & even apologised for the "sub-standard" care I received last time. I am booked for my scan next Wednesday which is wonderful. Initially she booked it for the following week but agreed with me that that was too late & rang back to change it. I have first appt with consultant end of April.

So,do I have a scan buddy?! I can finally join in with the excitement! Wednesday 3rd April at 14.10. Woohoo!!!

She has written in my notes that I do not wish to be seen by the midwife I had in labour last time & will refer me to their vbac clinic,for counselling to help me decide what kind of birth I want to go for this time & also the hospital now runs hypnobirthing classes so is referring me to those too as I mentioned I intend to buy some cds as don't think I can afford to go to classes. All very positive in the end. Feel much relieved after such a long wait. She was appalled that I hadn't been allowed to make appt with midwife until after 8 weeks (9 in my case,which has ended up being 11+4),said she will tell the surgery that that's not on & she wants to sere women as soon as they know they are pregnant!

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:10

I'm afraid my news isn't too good. There is a build up of fluid which runs from our. Baby's head right down it's spine.
They think it's probably Downs syndrome. Bhutto there are other more serious conditions that it could be.

SeriousStuff · 28/03/2013 17:12

Mother I'm so sorry it didn't go as hoped. Did they say what else it could be? Were they helpful with their advice?

tuckingfits · 28/03/2013 17:13

Oh MoN. I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know what to say but please feel the support I'm sending out to your & your partner.

When will they be able to make a proper diagnosis? And do you have any idea where you go from here?xxx

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:16

I can't remember the names of the other conditions mentioned but they would mean. The baby not surviving much past birth if we get that far. I've to go back for another scan on Tuesday and discuss my options

roxvox · 28/03/2013 17:16

So sorry to hear that MotherOfNations, when will you know more? Have they taken any bloods or anything to try and diagnose better?

SeriousStuff · 28/03/2013 17:17

Hand holding a plenty available here if you need it. Sending you much love. Do you have thing son over the weekend to keep you busy?

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:18

I've been offered an amniocentisis but thr risk of miscarriage is putting me off, and won't really give me any answers. If it's negative does that mean the baby is healthy or does it just mean that it has one of the other more serious conditions?

SeriousStuff · 28/03/2013 17:21

I don't know the answer I'm afraid but there might be something here to help you www.nhs.uk/conditions/Amniocentesis/Pages/Introduction.aspx

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:21

They said if it's something more serious they'll be able to tell by 20 wks.
The trouble is that though this is my 5th baby, it's my partner's first and as I've had 4 cesareans and a late termination would mean a 5th that is our chances of having a baby together pretty much gone.

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:24

Thankyou everyone. We were going to announce our pregnancy today on Fb etc. My mum thinks we still should but though I'm not keen on termination my partner's not sure we'd be able to cope and is thinking long-term about the child being bullied and about the impact on the other kids

ananikifo · 28/03/2013 17:25

MoN I'm so sorry. I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

SeriousStuff · 28/03/2013 17:26

Take it one step at a time - considering it's the Easter weekend, it's great that you're being seen again so soon. I would use this time before the next scan to consider every option possible, discuss with your DP and take the biggest list of questions ever written with you on Tuesday.

Smitten1981 · 28/03/2013 17:29

oh God, I'm sorry MoN. Sending hugs your way.

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:32

He's not really in the mood for talking right now. My sisters feeling awful because I'd hinted at her about babysitting dd(4) because I was worried we might get bad news and didn't want her to be there if that happened.
She told me she was sure everything would be fine so we took her along. I've just explained to het that the baby is sick but she's not really taking it in.

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 17:33

I'd opted out of all test for Down etc too but they said that because it was so obvious on the scan they had to tell me.

TheFalconsmistress · 28/03/2013 17:38

Sending you positive thoughts MoN Thanks

OrangeBlossom2 · 28/03/2013 17:43

MoN so sorry to hear everything wasn't as you hoped. I really feel for you. Brew

JellyCurls · 28/03/2013 18:05

MoN I am so sorry for your scan.

With our first all was fine at 12wk scan but 20wk showed serious brain problems along with spinal and heart issues. Docs kept talking about Edwards and Patau and baby being non viable. We opted for amnio which thankfully showed perfect chromosomes and we continued, couldn't abort by that time as baby was moving around. DC1 is now 6 and although has issues is amazing everybody with her ability to do whatever she wants nothing stops my special wee Jelly!

I guess I am kind of saying we have been through similar and are here if you feel you need a shoulder to lean on. Your next few days and weeks will be difficult but talk to each other DO NOT GOOGLE YOU WILL SCARE YOURSELF and take any offers of help and support you can get,

Sending you our love x

Sanjifair · 28/03/2013 18:08

Feel for you MoN. Flowers

HotSoupDumpling · 28/03/2013 18:09

MoN so sorry to hear this. Hope you and your DH have time to quietly think things through. There are plenty of hours before your next appointment so lots of opportunities to discuss things when your DH feels ready.

MumWithCamera · 28/03/2013 18:13

MoN can't imagine what you are going through but just wanted to say thinking of you, and hope you get all the information you need on Tuesday to make whatever decisions you need. Hope you have lots of support around you x

MotherOfNations · 28/03/2013 18:14

It means a lot to have all of you lovely women here. I really appreciate it.
jellycurls I will show your post to Dp when he feels more up to talking.

JellyCurls · 28/03/2013 18:26

From own experience I was much more ready to talk about it than DH and still am. Give your partner time and he will talk, guys seem to take longer to get thoughts together than we do. Take care x