August 2013 - Part 4 - Half way there already!

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Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1678178-August-2013-Part-3-Adventures-in-the-second-trimester

Stats thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1655004-Due-August-2013-Stats-Thread

foof stressing is not good for you, but understandable. I see this and the FB group as one big group hug constantly

Trench, mine is the oily gloopy thick stuff, I would pay serious £££ to swap with one of the lucozade brigade!!! Mine's on Monday :/

Ruck I know, trying not to, just been one thing after another today

Foof mine is tuesday and i'm dreading it!!!
Mine is some thick orange flavoured glucose crap!!! Holding nose and trying not to gag while drinking it, was what i done last time

27 weeks :0

foof un-mumsnetty hugs headed your way

Foof sending lots of hugs Xxx

I am VERY glad my consultant vito'd my gtt cos its sounds gross.

Have had a very positive day although i suspect the back lash from work will be err...interesting. Thy demanded i saw our occupational health Dr so after much winding myself up, no sleep and living on nerve endings (which could very well account for the puking up blood incident) i went in today only to have him tell me that and i quote "you are not physically capable of doing your job what pregnant so i am not happy with you being back at work before the baby is due". I Fricking love that man!!!!!

I damaged my shoulder lifting stuff onto a machine nearly 2 years ago and up to 12 weeks pg wad on mega doses of painkillers (morphine is amazing) but now cannot take anything...so even without the stress, anxiety and spd he wouldn't sign me fit for work..he also said with everything else i am having to deal with it i should be home and resting jot working about work. His instruction was to "go how, relax, do no think about this place and enjoy your pregnancy and baby". How to almost wipe out the majority of my anxiety in one meeting. Suspect my boss will be spitting feathers when he report lands on his desk later this week. Esp as i think my Gp was planning on making me go back at the end of this month if only on reduced hours. Bloody brilliant day!!!!!

BabyH Glad you had a positive day. Your boss can only deal with it, doesn't have any other choice! I have to say I'm very jealous, my back is so bad I could really do with a bit of time off. Contemplating taking a hot water bottle into work with me.

Apolgies if this is TMI for the morning, I had a UTI the other week and was given antibiotics. I've noticed yesterday and this morning it stings like crazy when I pee, but no other symptoms of a uti. Only option is an emergency appointment with the GP which I've already had 2 of in the last 2 weeks! Should I get it checked out or give it a day to see what happens?

Get it checked as could br thrush or the uti having spread lower Xxx

Yup check it out Ruck :)

BabyH - how has your boss worded it exactly? That they cannot adapt your job for you to do safely or that they expect you to go on sick till mat leave? If they cannot adapt your job for you, they have to suspend you on FULL PAY. make sure they don't wheedle out of that if that is the case.

Well my first unexpected day off no blooming lie in, lovely sunny warm day and can't go out as stuck in waiting on a new fridge/freezer ARGH!
On the + have done 3 loads of washing, sorted out the larder, washed up, mopped kitchen and made dinner for tonight so far!!
I wonder is it too early to start washing the baby clothes?! [bored]

Just been looking at Fluffy Dreams on FB, gorgeous cloth nappies! Shame I can't buy any now till I know whats going on at work :/

have a good day all

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I've made an appointment for tomorrow AM. The only other option was to go down at 5pm and sit and wait on the off chance one of the drs can see me then, but no promises.

Wow foof that's impressive, slow down! Want to come visit me and sort my place out?! Really hope work gets sorted soon.

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Mine need doing too Foof if your free lol.

Wasn't my boss it was the company Dr. Am waiting for the official report to be went to me but his words were that because i can't take the painkillers for my shoulder i am not physically capable to do the job. So i am not sure where it leaves me with regards suspension v sick so will have to speak to boss and hr once i hets the report through.

The Dr was livid at everything else i told him about what had been going on and said that his recommendation to the company is that i cannot return to.work.til after the baby is born.

They were trying to get him today i was fit to be disciplined (they are tying to sack me) but he has declared me unfit for that too. yay

BabyH sorry to hear works are being such twunts - great the OH Dr was so helpful
Foof sorry to hear your work woes too - PG is stressful enough. Hope you get news on pay soon

For those not on FB group a re-post. I'm just back from 28wk MW appt and all is ok. Measuring 31 but no issue. I asked about fetal movement guideline changes and she rubbished them - basically said all baby's are different so changes in what's normal for you is what's important so major change or no movement then get checked immediately. Don't worry about the counting was her advice.
Hope that helps anyone who was worried...

Cheers remembering

Tbh its no surprise as the company are well known internally for this sort of antic. I damaged my shoulder at work and as a result of it have been on reduced duties since. Have also had time off in hospital as the painkillers reacted badly with my asthma and made me very ill so have hada for bit of time off and thy are arsey about it and now looking for anyway to get rid of me. They were hoping the disciplinary would be the answer. Guess not now lol.

Am hoping to be resigning at end of mat leave and either stay home if we can afford or find something else

25 week.check.done and baby is done. My mw at Gp surgery found heartbeat straight away unlike the fool in triage on Saturday.

Unfortunately it looks like i may well he back there later today of these horrendous period pain like cramps don't sod off. Mw isn't happy hat i should be having them this early so am on bed rest and paracetamol and then see how i am. If they continue or get worse i am under orders to report to triage again. Oh the joys...pls tell me that i will hit this "enjoyable" phase of pg at somepoint!!!

Baby is fine not done lol

I'm another one stressed by work here - I am sensing a theme here!

I still haven't had my Risk Assessment at 26 weeks even though Occupational Healthhave written to my manager to remind him it is a legal requirement and they say I should have had an initial assessment and a mid-pregnancy assessment by now.

I am seriously pissed off with work today, I am NHS and currently undergoing reconfigurations and job cuts. We are seriously overstretched, to dangerous levels and today I had more work heaped on me. We normally have somebody to run a clinic, they come and process their bloods but today they didn't and as the clinic 'ran so much smoother' that way they want to do that from now on. I am already so busy, and have a headache from it all. Thankfully had an extra member of staff today which is rare but the thought of trying to do it all on my own makes me want to cry. Clinic days are already so busy without the extra stress.

We have already done away with this system once before, and now it is being brought back in with no regard for the strain it puts on staff.

I find it really hard to say no in work situations, and my mum and boyfriend constantly tell me to put myself and the baby first, which I know I should, but I also want to do a good job. It makes me so anxious and I get a tension headache which just won't shift.

We already work far beyond our job description and I am so sick of the extra responsibilities they keep adding on that they think we should be grateful for .

Sorry for the epic rant!

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I haven't posted in a while, been lurking and keeping up with posts though had nothing really to report!.

Abi Hope you're feeling better.

BabyH and IJust I have crappy work things going on also. Threatening redundancies (still) even though work has significantly picked up lately. Though it seems to only be me taken into the MDs office this last time. I have also been told they will not consider flexible hours on my return, which I thought they have to?

I have started to get the pressure "down there" feeling already. Only seems to happen when I'm at work and always starts in the afternoon. On my feet too much I think!

I think we need to work out a Foof rota. My flat could do with a spring clean also! Where do you find your energy?!

I am very glad I decided not to have my GTT. Sounds like you ladies have had a yucky experience! The midwife I spoke to at the hospital was not at all bothered I wanted to cancel. I'm guessing many ladies decline on BMI alone referals? Especially when only a couple of lbs over the threshold.

We have a definite name for DS, although even a definite may turn out to be the wrong name for him when he arrives!

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Lol Trixie - I had the energy cause at that time of day am normally at work scrubbing away

flexible working - yes they HAVE to consider it by law, they don't have to approve it though.

I think that these places must save it uo for us when we are pg. I am very fed up of it all to be honest. I am hoping once the company Dr hands in his report that they will leave me alone.

If they are sensible they will babyH otherwise that's harrassment.. and of a poor vulnerable pregnant lady too ;) ;)

Haha Foof be only time that i get accused of being vulnerable.

I just - I feel your pain. I am also nhs and facing increasing workload with zipp savings of vacant posts. The similarities to the Frances enquiry / report regarding focus on foundation status and not patient status is scary. However, my gp is also one of the GP's our team are attached to so when I say work is difficult she knows exactly how difficult. I have a month off sick to get stable on anti depressants again, and rehydrated.

HR question - while I'm off sick can I request a occ health referral regarding hydration and toilet arrangements? So I can be given office work? mind the sound of office work is stimulating nausea

Also, if I already have an intention to return to work on reduced hours ( from full time 37.5 hrs to 21hrs ) can I not submit this intention for them to consider and me to confirm 8 weeks before return to work?

AND finally - if our maternity policy is out of date, is it still valid?

I had a call from the mw yd following my mini break in the hospital. She and the HV are planning to visit me at home, specifically alone, in the next couple of weeks. I am glad about the extra support, however I am concerned it will be a negative on my record. Bloody anxiety! It doesn't half make your mind go to weird places. Was it babyh who had a HV home visit?

Baby h, sorry work are being a pain (& probably illegal). Ask your boss to put everything in writing, blame it on pregnancy brain. Most companies will panic and start to retract what had been said as they know they can be sued. Just play dumb, say you don't understand and want to get partner/friend to look at all info and policies. Good luck!

Woofers yes it was me Huni. hv was really lovely and had been told fa about anything by mw at Gp or hospital. She never even looked around flat. It was genuinely a meet and greet. Actually when the explained it it kinda makes sense. They have realised (eventually it seems) that a co.plate stranger turning up unannounced 10-14 day after u give birth asking a whole heap of questions about how u r coping, support, feeling etc and then dumping a shed load of info about local groups etc is an unnecessary stress for new mum's. Honestly i wouldn't worry if mine ia anything to go by. Discuss ur anxiety etc with her cos it means they will give more support and take more notice on pnd checks etc. Hope it goes well hun

Slw will be making sure everything goes in writing once i have their Dr report in my hand. The bastards have treated me like crap for the absolute last time.

They need to learn cos otherwise i will sue for the damage to my shoulder and i will put an official complaint in for harassment

Hi all, sorry to hear about work problems. I have concerns that I hope are unfounded surrounding possible redundancies.....but it looks like I won't be back til after the baby is born, which means my ML starts 6 weeks as opposed to 2 weeks before my EDD which is a pain, as it will reduce the time I have with the baby after he's born.

I had the GTT today. Bleurgh. I had the bloods taken from my PICC line eventually, but the MW co-ordinator was not happy about that. She got a bit arsey and said "why don't you make a formal complaint again". Seriously hoping now for a home birth if my health allows. Anyway, they gave me my IV anti emetic before the drink, but I still had to stay on a bed laying still for the 2 hours after to stop bringing it back up! And then had to stay on for 2 hours for IV fluids as my ketones were very high again, before a mad rush to get to school in time to pick up the DCs.

Major wobbles here. It is so hard coping with being ill and pregnant by myself, I have no idea how I am going to manage a newborn alone. So, quite a few tears today. Gutted that my dreams of my happy ending with my husband and our planned for family are over, and I'm also not on speaking terms with "D"M anymore. It's been brewing a LONG time, but after a few weeks absence, she had her chance to be ok on Sunday/Monday and totally blew it. It has made me feel ridiculously isolated.

Anyway, I had my 28 week antenatal check and baby's heart beat is fine. My weight has dropped again, despite my best efforts, so again I am below pre-pregnancy weight. Seeing my consultant in just under a fortnight for a check up and scan to check growth, fingers crossed that is ok.

On a positive, it is a public holiday here tomorrow, to celebrate Liberation Day. No school for the DCs and rather than face the hordes in town, we are planning a lazy pyjama day

Waves sorry you are feeling so low. I am guessing i have missed the h and m issues but sounds like you are doing it hard so sending hugs Xxx

I realise that as much as i feel like crap and am not having it easy some of you ladies are doing much worse!