November 2013 - thread 2 - bookings and early scans!

[MummaPanda]

Where did everyone go? Lol

Thinking of you, stuff x

OneLittle, I've been told similar re: birth. DS was a forceps delivery with an extended episiotomy and 3rd degree tear and the MW said I'd 'find it a breeze this time'. Not sure whether that made me feel better about labour or worse about my poor fanjo!

before i dated oh, i changed my surname to my former partners surname (who died when i was expecting dd, long story) so it was the same as my childrens. so ill be using oh's surname as i dont think it wud be right to name his baby with another mans surname

Glad I could oblige Gin though I won't be telling DP he amused anyone
Your shifts sound horrible, its not a permanent arrangement I hope. My tiredness has been insane so I told DP that I can't touch cleaning products because I'm preggers & it may harm the baby & did a bit of fakey stress about the damage from the dust etc & et voila the house was deep cleaned for me. Bless him. Might be worth a shot?!

Yeah that defo makes sense for you Honey I'm sorry to see what happened, it must have been awful. I'm glad you've obviously managed to find happiness again.

Oh, don't get me started on the the 'which surname' subject! That caused a lot of arguments last time...
We're married, but I didn't take DH's name, and I wanted DS to have my surname. DH was very unhappy about this, said it made him feel excluded, left out, and as if I wasn't really committed to the marriage and family blablablabla. We fought about this more than about the first name.

In the end, we (read: I) compromised and now DS has my last name as his middle name. And any subsequent children will get the same.
I'm actually OK with it, that way at least we won't have to think about the stupid middle name!

saundy both me and OH have crap surnames, my OH wont even consider bubs having my surname so it will be saddled with having his.

It's easier if one or the other has a rubbish surname isn't it? I remember reading an article saying all of Ed Balls children have their mother's surname. Balls really is bad though .

Thanks for the advice saundry. Well I already had a bit of a argument discussion with DH about the cleaning of the house about 1 week ago. He got annoyed with me when he came home and the house was a mess and I hadn't done any food shopping. His main reason for being annoyed was he said he would have been reprimanded by me if he'd had a day off and done nothing. I then explained to him pregnancy and pregnancy tiredness in an emotional completely rational way . He has actually been a changed man since and much more understanding but he asked me to try to do just do one thing today which was tidy away the mound of clothes I've left at the end of our bed...probably not too much to ask seeing as its my mess?!

Well this is the thing my DP actually has a cool surname (& i have a good one for a CV) but I'll be damned if I'm going to do this to my body & go through the birth just to put someone else's name on it!

Plus if we ever get married it can just be changed. DP's sister recently had a baby & he was very vocal over the fact that the baby should have her name as he was never going to stick around they weren't married so I'm lucky all I have to do is remind him to take his own advice!

That sounds quite reasonable Gin could throwing them all into your wardrobe & forcing the door shut be an option?!

OneT maybe it was because the temptation to call them Bouncy, Golf & Hairy would have been too much otherwise!

Also kind've wanna know what your surnames are now MOC! Do you agree that yours trumps his? Is it trumps?

Ds has my surname. I was still married to exH when I became pregant to DP (sounds awful but exH and I had split up three years before on relatively good terms and never bothered to get divorced).
I applied to the County Court myself for the divorce and went back to my maiden name before ds was born as I didn't want ds to have my ex's name. If DP and I ever get married (not that either of us feel the need to) I'll change all our names to DP's.
My reasoning for using my name (and DP agreed) was that it'd be me who'd mostly be dealing with schools, medical appointments etc and it'd be better if we used my name. (Jedi mind trick on DP )

louby I had a forceps delivery with ds and I'm fully expecting the same again- if it's any better it's a bonus! My birth plan this time is get baby out and have cuddles (ds went straight to SCBU). I like your MW's prediction

Fingers crossed for everyone having a worrying time

Goodness me ladies, I'm struggling to keep up!

Pregnancy symptoms are really starting to pile up now, constant nausea, plus throwing up - that's a new one for me, didn't throw up with dd, bloody nose, been really cold, and really hot, constantly bloated, really thirsty, can only manage really boring carby foods, peeing all the time.
Roll on 2nd trimester!!

haha saundy mine is crap, sounds like a cats name, my OHs is german/dutch so either always needs spelling for people.

Our current favourite names are Harvey Sebastian for a boy and Savannah Brooke for a girl both work with his surname thankfully. Much better than they work with mine.

motherofcleo my DD's best friend in nursery is a Harvey. (That's according to her key worker. It was a Lauren a month ago). She wouldn't stop saying ah ah ah this morning when she saw his mum getting out of their car. It's a sweet name.

Have my fingers crossed for you stuff, hope you're feeling better.

I have had my moment of telling people my news surreptitiously taken away from me. My SIL found a note from my Early Bird appointment in my dad's car, and has told everyone and their neighbour that I am pregnant, including my brothers who I was really looking forward to telling myself. I didn't want anyone to know until I knew everything was fine because of my miscarriage last year.

So angry and gutted.

Oh icing that's horrible!!! Why would she do something like that?? I would be fuming! Hope you gave her a piece of your mind!!

icing I would be livid, actually there is not a word for how angry I would be. My OH would have to deal with it as I'm not sure I'd even be able to be around her, what a cruel thing to do! So she told everyone apart from you that she found your letter, so harsh! I cant even imagine how you feel.

icing that is truly annoying! One of the joys of pregnancy is getting to tell your nearest and dearest. Why is she so insensitive, has she not been pregnant herself? Do you usually get on with her?

I can't believe she's so insensitive icing. I wanted to use the b word for you!

Oh Icing I would be absolutely furious, that's so horrible of her. How can you be so thoughtless, does she have no DC?

I though you were going to go all Jeremy K there Misty but it was a good recovery [kudos] on the Jedi skillage.

I love the name Sebastian MOC that's gorgeous, I seem to find it much harder to come up with girls names than boys. I suppose cause its harder to think would I want to be called that. Agree Harvey is cute too. You've got a good selection there.

We're not married, and the baby would have his surname. If we did marry I would keep my surname.

I dreamed last night that I gave birth to a huge baby but he wasn't ours, he belonged to a Polish couple and didn't look like either of us so we called him Arthur so as not to use up one of the names off our shortlist. Dream logic!

She's denied everything, but my dad found the note in the car after he'd driven her somewhere.

And suddenly her friends know, and my brother told me straight that she'd told him . She's been telling people that her 'mate' told her she'd seen me walking in town with my bounty pack, which is utter nonsense, it has never seen the light of day, so obviously trying to cover herself there.

She has children yes, but she's one of those people who always like to know something first. So gutted. OH doesn't know, he'll be livid, his family don't even know yet

Re: names, my last name is awful, very glad I met someone with such a lovely one. I changed mine to it by deedpoll, never looked back!

Sorry, missed a few posts there but what a shit thing to do, icing. I would be furious.

Icing that's sooo mean! I'd give her a hefty piece of my mind!

Our child will have my fiances surname - we are getting married in September 2014 and I'm divorced so I wouldn't want he or she to have my old married name anyway!

My OH has downloaded a baby name app lol. Luckily we seem to like the same ones but choosing will be so hard!

Both of us are blonde so we joked if it was a boy we'd call him Calvin after the cartoon, Calvin and Hobbes lol

Hi ladies, mind if I join you?

I got my BFP yesterday! And need to move on from my TTC after a MC thread... So over the moon. Due date 30th Nov.

xx