November 2013 anyone?

[stuffthenonsense]

Very early days yet but there must be a couple of others somewhere?

sickness has hit im hungry but feel too sick to eat anything just wanna sleep x

Cheese - really sorry you are feeling so stressed. It's totally understandable considering what you have been through. But I think you need to think of this as a new pregnancy and there's no reason to think anything will go wrong. Try and relax as much as you can and not think about the past. You can lean on us all here and vent your worries.

Fairy, I think your Dad's reaction says more about how he's feeling about his age!! Some people really struggle with the idea of becoming a grand parent as it makes them feel old. Your mum in the other hand will be over the moon I'm sure!

I haven't told anyone yet. I'm seeing my mum next week when I will be 6 weeks and I'm going to tell her then. She's been waiting for me to have a dc for sometime now so I think she'll be ecstatic. The hard part will be getting her to keep it a secret!

Thanks to all for the support. Trying to be positive about this pregnancy, at least I'm still on maternity leave so don't have to drag myself around the office when feeling like a zombie.
I've got an appt with the consultant on Tuesday as I'm going to be starting daily injections to thin my blood - preventative measures for what caused our stillbirth last time. Feeling nervous as I'm not a huge fan of needles

Can I ask...can my boobs have grown already??? I am going to a hen night tonight and had planned to wear a black dress I've worn before. Just tried on the bra I always wear out and boobs spilling out of it and dress is definitely a bit tighter i think it washed a little small but not this small aaarrrggghhh!!!!

Harverina mine have definitely grown already I'm bursting out my bras and they feel like they weigh a ton. My DH Thinks its great except I won't let him near them as they're so tender!

I'm off to see my parents as we speak but under strict orders not to tell as we agreed nobody until after the scan don't know how I'm going to do it seeing as it's all I think about.

Big hugs to all those feeling a bit low. We're in this together and what's meant to be will be!!

It's so easy to stress at this stage in the pregnancy. I keep thinking I'm going to have a 4th mc but am feeling better about the symptoms: ravenous, having to pee all the time, bloated and so so gassy. I didn't have these symptoms in the last 2 pregnancies. The furthest along I made it was 8 weeks. I so wish I could be put in a coma and wake up in a few months.

Thinking of everyone on here who has had a loss. Like others have said this is a different pregnancy and its all about the power of positive thinking.

Oh cheese have a hug from me. You poor poor thing. I don't think there is anyway you will not stress this pregnancy. The chances are very very very good that everything will be fine this time.

Thinking of you too purple

Dh and I made up after our row. He said he remembered me being a little touchy hormonal psycho cow from hell last time I was pregnant.

I just cooked a roast dinner and couldn't eat any of it having a lie down now.

harverina my boobs have grown but they are not too sore.

Still waiting on my mom to call me - very upset x

fairy would your Dad have told her or would he leave it to you? Does she def know you phoned?

fairy sorry you are so upset. I remember telling my parents on the phone they just said "what did you say pregnant? You? Are you sure? Oh well congratulations."

It was just the shock. I was never very maternal and they were beyond surprised. Give your dad a bit of time to get his head round it.

I thimk sometimes peoples first reactions can seem a little 'off' due to shock. im sure your dad will get his head around it and be really happy and supportive.
So guessing im not the only saddo in on a sat night? Dh gone to meet mates in pub but im so exhausted i cant bear going too! Watching crufts in a rather floppy manner, oh and gushing tears at the 'friends for life' stories. emotional much???

My dad wasn't interested my whole pregnancy with dd, didn't wna be a grandad! But as soon as he saw her he fell in love and can't get enough of her now! He calls her his little gummi bear :P so don't worry, they will come round eventually

I specifically asked him to tell her and he agreed. We fell out about a month ago and I've not heard from her since.

She's not a maternal person and wasn't a cuddly mummy if you know what I mean. Put it this way if she doesn't phone I'm not going over there with a gushing Mother's Day card...

This is such a special and exciting time for you fairy, your PREGNANT for goodness sakes!! And if they can't be happy for you, surround yourself with people who are. But I'm sure they will be happy and excited for you eventually even if not right away

Thanks everyone. The few people I've told are delighted and I know when I announce it that loads of other friends will be equally as thrilled. Just hard to take crap like that from your own parents. Mom especially is a very matriarcal and judgemental person so I know that nothing I do pleases her!

Sorry for being such a grump!

Fairy that sounds very disappointing. Is this normal for your parents or is it out of character? My late mother-in-law was so underwhelmed she didn't respond, then when DH asked if she heard, she said, 'I was rather hoping you wouldn't have children' to say thinks were strained is an understatement. I never spoke another word to her again I was so upset and DH felt so uncomfortable he kept us apart. I wasn't shocked at her reaction but it made him question his entire childhood

Sounds like my mother! They are incredibly self centred and selfish - they didn't even come to my engagement party in February.

But one good thing from all this is I know exactly what I'll be like with my child. They will know they are so completely loved and that I've always got their back - no matter what happens

Fairy, I'm sorry you're not getting more support from your mum. When I told my dad about DS he said 'it will be horrible seeing you with your lump' (yes he did say lump...) and this time he has said 'You should prepare yourself that this one will probably be a disappointment. DS is so special, the next one will probably seem very ordinary'

The things people say!!!!

And stuffthenonsense, can't believe your late MIL said that! That's awful for your poor DH!!!

She still hasn't called but my sister did to see if I was ok. She's going to see mom tomorrow and says she'll give her a piece of her mind!

Thanks guys - feel better for being to let things out a bit

The things some parents say - outrageous!! I am totally shocked at what your late MIL said stuff! Sorry your mum is not stepping up to the mark, fairy. Not being excited and involved is ultimately her loss. Hope your sis can talk some sense into her.

cheese so sorry to hear about your loss and that you are feeling stressed. As someone else said its totally understandable but try to just take each day as it comes - hour to hour if you need to. And if today is ok just try and enjoy that - no need to panic about what tomorrow might bring. and a hand hold for you.

Anyone else only 4 weeks? I think I'm due about Nov 18. Starting to feel alternately ravenous and nauseous, surely it's too early for symptoms?! Last time they only kicked in about 7 weeks...

Nov 18 is day dd was born

must be a good time to have a baby then if you're doing it all again this Nov!!

More like my own stupidity!! Hehe

Cheese more sorry than I can put into words about your loss. Completely understand that you are worried about this pregnancy, but all we can do is try and focus on getting through a day at a time. Easier said than done I know.