July 2013 part 2

[ArkadyRose]

And on we go!

Welcome ginger & don't worry, its a massive thread to read in one go. How far along are you? Is this your first baby?

Oh Bessie :( just so very sorry for your loss.

Bessie massively sorry, how completely awful. You are right that it was better to know - but it must have been incredibly hard.

You have all been so lovely. I think I am going to leave the thread now, I can see I'm bringing the thread down. I will keep lurking though, if that's ok, and hope to see good news from you all

Bessie...you are not 'bringing the thread down'. We all started this journey together & are here for eachother whatever the outcome may be. I understand staying is painful (I jumped so quickly off the thread I was on When it happened to me too). Be kind to yourself & please let us know how things go. We are all here for you x

Bessie - please take care and be kind to yourself. Mightbemad - glad you had a good scan. Welcome GingerJulep - when are you due?

mightbemad good to have some good news - fantastic! Thinking of you Bessie

Bessie please don't feel you have to leave, although I completely understand if you would rather. My heart goes out to you, and others who have lost their babies. Unlike many others here I can't say "I know how you feel" as this is my very first pregnancy but I can imagine how I would feel if that happened to me and it's truly awful. Hope you have lots of hugs from loved ones on hand over Christmas and that 2013 brings happier times x

Guavas and others who have posted about drinking, the NHS guidelines are definitely that you should have none at all and have been for a few years now, although personally I don't feel this is very widely publicised and different websites (as well as different health practitioners) say different things.

Whilst I really don't want to sound judgemental or worry anyone that has already had the occasional glass of wine (and I am guilty as charged as I had a rather boozy night out just before I found out I was pg), I do take quite a strong position on the subject. Through my work I have had quite a bit of training on the effects of alcohol on the unborn child. It is true that most children who get foetal alcohol syndrome do have mothers who have real problems with alcohol, but the only real consensus on the matter is that it's a complete lottery - one child's mother could have 10 pints a day throughout and be absolutely fine, whilst another's could drink fairly moderately and be severely affected. In all likelihood, a single glass of wine over Christmas dinner would probably do no harm at all, but personally I have decided not to risk it, especially in this delicate first trimester when everything is developing at a rate of knots.

Hope I've not offended or panicked anyone, but just felt I needed to say all that!

Have a good day, all

9+6

So sorry to hear about those who've had bad news at scans.

I'm worrying about my 12 week scan - not until 8 Jan when I'll be 13 + 4! (Due date was changed at a scan a couple of weeksago and the appt hasn't been updated). Hoping everything is still ok in there!

Bump definitely forming now and ms is very up and down. Still feeling v pregnant which is great as in my previous 2 mc I didn't have symptoms. Starting to believe this may be my forever baby!

11 + 1

I am so sorry Bessie, hope you have a lot of support and help around you. Take care of yourself.

Ohgood will be thinking of you on monday.

Have finally kicked this noro virus and starting to feel human again, managed to eat a bit yesterday. Might even get to enjoy this christmas. With regards to drinking I stay away completely. Partly I suppose just to be super safe but mostly because I am a greedy cow and if I have half a glass of wine I will just be fancying the bottle! Doesnt make me sound good does it... But that is me personally and dont at all judge anyone who fancies one. Off to m&s to buy alco free mulled wine!

Hi Ladies,
Sorry to hear about those with bad news. Sending virtual hugs to you both.

Been a bit busy so not been on here for a bit. I had a scan a few days ago. All seems to be good so far. 11weeks tomorrow.

Re alcohol: here is the link to the nhs choices website- official guidance from the chief medical officer/ NICE

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2270.aspx?CategoryID=54&SubCategoryID=130

Meg I don't know if you were hoping/planning to have a nuchal scan but if you are then I suggest you get on to your hospital ASAP to bring the date forward as I think you're current date runs the risk of being too late x

I just shed a tear for the bad news. So sorry for you Bessie, and just horrible timing. I read once on one of the MC support threads once that finding out at 12 weeks is you bodies way of protecting you from your baby dying at birth. I found that comforting in a way.
Make sure you take plenty of time to recover physically and emotionally and take support offered from those close to you. I did something to say goodbye to my lost babies, by planting something in garden last time after seeing the lady doing it on the film The Help. the first time I got myself something nice to keep. A friend got my an inscribed necklace also which was very touching I hope you have a quick recovery from the procedure if that's the route you are going.

I hope there is better news Monday for Good.

First days of hols, I have a cold and it's puring with rain, and DH away with work all weekend. I have taken to sofa, and all plans to leave the house on hold.

PS. I had half a glass of wine last weekend and planning a half glass of champers on christmas - I will be in second trimester.

13+5

Hey sugar we share the same due date and my scans the day before yours good luck!

Just catching up with the thread, so so sorry to hear such sad news from you bessie and ohgod. There's never a good time for this to happen, but Christmas is particularly cruel, I know, because it happened to me last year . I'm sending you both massive, unmnetty hugs xxx

Hi everyone! I've been too busy/tired/nauseous to check in lately, but yesterday was last day of school and now i'm off for chtistmas holidays.

So far so good here. Had my first appointment last tuesday and saw heartbeat. Have a real scan 27 december and have all my appointments booked through june, which is reassuring...makes me feel like pregnancy is real after all! :)

Have already put on 2.5 kg so. just seem to need biscuits. Mints not helping at this stage. Also i keep falling asleep by 8pm and waking up in the middle of night. Then i feel sick and pukey and like maybe i should have a snack, but can't stomach idea of it, so just rventually fall back to sleep after an hour. Uf.

Sorry for those who have had terrible disappointment this week . Big hugs.

mightbemad thanks for the heads up! Unfortunately my nhs trust (Gloucestershire) don't do the nuchal test!! I was a bit as it's in all the books and all over mn. We have a combined serum screening test which is two blood tests - one at 10-14 weeks and one at 15-20 weeks so I should be fine for that.

Guess that's what you get for living in country bumpkin-land!! (that is tongue in cheek I do love it here really)

11 + 1

Welcome Ginger how far along are you?

I've been feeling a lot better as I approach 13 weeks (on Christmas day) which is helping me get through the pre Christmas madness! So much to do!
Re alcohol I hardly drink anyway so don't really plan to have anything when I'm pregnant. Maybe half a glass with Christmas lunch, or I'll maybe just stick with appletiser! I've never drunk in any pregnancy as I'm a bit paranoid about it too, but friends have continued to drink a glass of wine all the way through and their dc's seem fine, but element of chance I'm not going to risk.
I've finished work now, only have to do friday next week so lots of time to get ready to feel extra christmassy. I still haven't decided whether to tell my parents when they arrive tomorrow or wait till Christmas eve when my sis is here too. Can I keep my bump hidden for 24 hours?!!

Hello all. Told my parents and Mil today who are delighted. Mysterymeg - i had my scan with Ds2 at that time as they lost my referral - was fine though right at the v edge of when they could do the test. If they dont do the nuchal in your area no need to worry about bringing it forward and just look forward to seeing your baby!

Have just bought some of the non alcoholic Xmas drinks from m&s, will prob have a Buck's Fizz (with more buck than fizz) at Xmas brekky and that'll be it! Have been having it since I was a kid (with about a centimetre of fizz I should add!) so it's not Xmas without it! And that will have to be it til next Christmas I guess. Woohoo.

PS well done teachers on getting rid of the kids finishing, this seemed the longest half term of my career. Teaching + pregnancy = NOT recommended.

Oops forgot -
10+4 (but possibly up to a week behind according to early scan
Bring on 12 weeks already!

Hi again - just wanted to tell you how much your good wishes have meant to me. Thank you so much.

Glad it helped ohgood. My DS2 has physical disabilities. Not life threatening but I've done the whole "theres something wrong with my baby" panic and if you ever want to offload feel free to pm me.

Booking in appointment today. She couldn't get any blood out of me but we filled in the endless forms. DS3 came with me and he was wandering around the room after he had looked at his books. He looked like he was going to rummage in a cupboard and I called him back but the midwife said there wasn't anything he could damage in there. He came back to me carrying a doll with a cord and placenta and handed it to me with a puzzled look on his face. I suppose it was different to the ones at toddler group

Bessie you are not bringing this thread down and sadly to many of us understand first hand what you are going through. Be kind to yourself. I also second the good advice about the mc boards, they really were a blessing to me.

Ama no offence taken at all. I still intend to enjoy a glass on Christmas Day but have stocked up on lots of lovely non alcoholic drinks for the rest of the time.