July 2013 part 2

[ArkadyRose]

And on we go!

Bad news from me too. Baby had chromosomal problems and heartbeat stopped in the last few days. Procedure to remove it next week.

I feel really weird walking around with a dead baby inside me

bessie...so incredibly sorry for the loss of your baby
My thoughts are with you x
I can relate to the odd feelings whilst still carrying your baby once their heart has stopped..I did so for 5+ weeks (MMC) & 4 days after we found out. I used that time to say goodbye to my baby..but I understand that everyone deals with things differently at this stage.
Truly, my thoughts are with you & if you need to talk..you can PM me.
Thoughts & prayers

wifey thankyou for your kind message. It is nice to know there are people thinking of me

Bessie I'm so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you.

ohgood I hope you get better news on monday.

bessie I'm so sorry, this was me this time last year. I found the miscarriage section very supportive.

Bessie I am also so so sorry to hear your news. I second Ellie's recommendation. when I had my MC I found the ladies on the MC boards here to be a lifeline. We are also here for you if you want to talk.

On a brighter note, I had a good scan today. Good heartbeat and everything (as far as it's possible to tell at this gestation) looks okay so far. I've basically not stopped spotting for the last week and we have an increased risk of genetics issues, so I was rather apprehensive going into the scan, but tentatively, so far so good.

9+3 (or 9+6 according to scan...)

Bessie I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending you big hugs and thinking of you.

MightBeMad...wonderful news on your scan

bessie really sorry to hear your sad news. Take care of yourself.

ohgod sorry to hear your news too. It's really tough that you have to wait it out over the weekend. All the best for Monday.

Hugs to both of you

Thanks wifey

Finally finished school yesterday so just checking back in now.
Bessie so sorry to hear your news, hope everyone takes good care of you over Christmas.
Ohgood will be thinking of you on Monday, hope everything is ok.

Quick question on having a drink over christmas - I know is discussed on the pregnancy board, but most people posting are out of the first trimester woods! Is anyone having a drink or two over Christmas before the 12 weeks? Can't decide, as the nhs recommendations seem to have changed to nothing at all now. I'm just so worried about everything, but DP and DM say I need to relax.

PS mightbemad it's lovely to hear of a good scan after your spotting scare.

I'm so sorry bessie I hope you have lots of support and can get through this difficult time.
I remember when I was told about my MMC that I imagined the little seed had turned to a stone which lay heavy in my belly and heavier in my heart so I know what you mean about it feeling really weird

thinkingof4 that's exactly it - a great big heavy dead baby

Thanks all for the messages, it's comforting to see them

So sorry Bessie hope you're being wonderfully looked after

Oh good will be thinking of you on Monday and sending lots of luck your way.

Hello All,
waves
Writing my first MN post as this seems like the tread for me.

Bessie so sorry to hear your news. Nothing can make it better, but v best wishes & am thinking of you.

Bessie - so sorry to hear your sad news. When you feel ready do come over to the miscarriage boards ( under body and soul). Lots of lovely ladies who can offer lots of help and support.

((( Bessie ))) so so sorry to hear your news. In my thoughts and much love to you and you DH x

mightbe great news

ginger a rather random introduction to yourself, but welcome! Would you like to tell us a bit more... Edd for example?

guava is the pope catholic? I shall def be having a drink or two! I haven't drunk thus far but I certainly am going to indulge. The NHS guidelines are, as you say, changing all the time. Suggests to me that so far there is not conclusive research as they change their advice more times than I check my knickers!!!
I have got a lovely non alcoholic mulled wine from M&S for the rest of the time.

So sorry to hear your news bessie Sending you big hugs, I hope you're having lots of tlc it's just not right or fair.

mightbe super news, I'm glad to hear it went well. My spotting stopped mid way through week 12 - not had any for a few days, or thrown up for a week now, taking it all as good signs of changing trimesters.

Happy holidays to all the teachers

Foetus died at about 12 weeks, it looked like a proper baby in the scan pics. I keep telling myself it's tiny. The consultant said if I'd had the scan a few days ago there would still have been a heartbeat, so maybe we were lucky in a way. At least we saw it soon after the heart stopped.

Bessie My thoughts are very much with you. Such a horrible time of year for it to happen, too. My first MMC was at Christmas at 10 weeks; I had a week of knowing before I lost it naturally on Christmas Eve. I hope it passes as gently as is possible, and fairly soon. Be gentle with yourself.

Oh, gosh, just been reading this through. Very sorry to hear that it will have to be another month for some.

Thoughts for you.

orangebubbles - I hadn't read all the way through the thread when I added a message, only the first couple of pages.

Definitely not appropriate - terrible first post!