Christmas Puddings 2012 - one bun has left the oven, who's next?

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Hi all,
Decided to come out of hiding to share what the midwife said about swaddling at my antenatal class last week - it sounded a bit more balanced and helpful. Basically she said loose swaddling is fine, so as long as baby can move his/her arms that's ok, but if they're wrapped up tight like a caterpillar there's a risk of them overheating and that's when it's not recommended. I know people still do that though and babies seem to like it.
I'm getting really fed up now and still another 3.5 weeks to go... I'm sure baby is big enough already, there's no room left inside me!

Oh brooke, sorry to hear that, that is tough. Sounds like the two of you need together to devise some kind of coping strategy to get you through the next 4 weeks with as little stress as possible. Perhaps together try what might seem like a lame role-playing exercise but may help, by each imagining the other person's perspective? eg he might be thinking "i can't just change how i feel" and may never have placed himself in your shoes so may need to have articulated for him what you are thinking, namely that his attitude is upsetting you by making you feel undesirable. hopefully this will lead to him understanding your perspective and he will be able to find ways to help you still feel desired by him even without sex itself. Is this your first baby? If so, resolving his feelings about this at this stage, as well as hopefully making the rest of the pregnancy easier, may also be quite a useful exercise to prepare him for witnessing the birth as well.

brooke you need to make it clear to him that if that's the way he feels that's fine but porn is NOT ok (from somebody who quite likes porn). He should not be making you feel like shit to get his jollies.

Well I'm awake already yawn bored of not sleeping!

Rubbish nights sleep tossing and turning. Was really uncomfortable now I'm just hungry and wanting goats cheese!!

DD slept in our room for the first year but she was a very quiet sleeper and I bf her for 14 months so was more convenient. DH is saying this time around that he thinks 6 months is the way to go! I have to say it can be quite disruptive on the parents' relationship to have a baby in sleeping with you ...

brooke for what it's worth I suffer from incredibly low self-esteem when preg. Doesn't help that I seem to whack on a lot of weight (from a size 8 to prob a 14 now), my skin is terrible, I'm always tired etc. And it doesn't help that we have far less than half the sex we usually have, plus when we have it I feel like an enormous whale and not at all sexy (at this stage, often feel more like I'm doing it for DH's sake than mine and wonder how on earth he can possibly be turned on! ). I personally think more important than having sex or not is that he makes you feel attractive and wanted, and I have stressed that to DH. He needs to be telling you he loves you, that you are beautiful (I've seen your photos, I don't think there is any argument there!), buying you flowers (or whatever else you want). He should be doing that for your sake, no harm to the baby possible! in fact, it's probably beneficial to the baby really ... and if he's that concerned about the baby's welfare.......

Anyone else morphed into an Angry Pregnant Lady lately?

Mmm goats cheese. spotty I'm jealous of how much your DH does. I wish mine did the dishes, I dont care if he doesnt wipe around the sink

I thought goats cheese was ok if it's cooked so on a pizza?!

He's not very good at washing up Walnut

I can't remember the last time we had sex I just can't be bothered maybe that's the way to get more housework done?!

I have to go all the way to Horsham today to see a dr about my accident (which was two months ago now ) hopefully will get some money at the end, I'm not one for suing but we've got into debt because of that stupid crash and it's the only way we'll be able to pay it off! Argh I'm starving!

Dishes are the thing I hate the most at the moment, my back aches as I have to stand so far from the sink.... that's terrible about the accident spotty. Sue if you need to, or at least threaten to, sometimes that is enough. No insurance company to sort it out?

can I just add that I am currently googling my vacuum cleaner product code to work out how to put the filter back in ... DH was intending to do the vac'ing over a week ago (first time since I've been preg) and instead pulled the whole thing apart to clean the filter and hasn't put it back together yet. ARGH.

walnut not only have I turned into apl but also emotional pregnant lady, I just don't know which it will be from one moment to the next.
Me and dp have not had sex in a good couple of weeks and though I miss it I've finally got to the point where I don't have the energy . Dp has been making me feel great, he says I'm still sexy and called me beautiful as I was getting struggling out of the bath the other day - ah bless but a helping hand would have been better!
Have woken up twice tonight spluttering as if I was going to vomit - oh dear!
Got my breastfeeding antenatal workshop today, really looking fwd to it.
Good luck at the dr today spotty

Wide awake and don't need to be up for an hour and a half!

36 weeks today...OMG! Now that is scary!!!

I did the apl thing in second trimester, now I am the over emotional, cry at everything and get very confused pregnant lady. It's definitely out of frustration that I can't move without feeling pain, and now I'm struggling to get my swollen feet to deflate

We haven't had sex since about 20wks, DH says he is creeped out that the baby is moving around in there (honest I suppose!) but he does say lovely things and cuddle and touch me all the time so I'm not too bothered.

Another one who can't reach the washing up bowl, have to stand sideways and twist!

Oh I find washing up really painful as the worktop rubs right on my stretch marks.

Walnut it is going through insurance but he's disputing fault (wants to go 50/50) which I'm refusing as we were stationary and he slammed into us. Luckily I have legal cover but it just takes time and we obv had to pay our excess and now need to claim it back etc and had to buy a new bloody car!

Blimey spotty has it really been 2 months since the accident? Gosh. Really hope that all turns out ok.

Spotty they prob won't agree anything til baby is born, so that you can't subsequently claim that something happened to it in the accident. We had a car accident when ds1 was 10 weeks old and his was so much more complex and loads of extra paperwork in case anything developed further down the line.

That's interesting pmgkt I'm not expecting anything to happen very quickly anyway tbh these things never do!

I did think that when I wrote it as ours took over 18 months. Did you have any car seats in your car, don't forget to claim for replacements.

Yeah we did but he only hit the drivers side wing. It's the £200 in petrol it's cost me driving around to different drs/physio/get new car etc. I'm just leaving it all up to the legal team as I really don't have the energy just glad I've got legal cover!

Hi all
Feel very bad for lurking and in fact just spent a long time catching up on pages. Time for a new thread soon!

I can't believe it's 2 months since the accident spotty, hope your injuries fully recovered now.

I also can't believe I'm 37 weeks today! An I mad to be moving this weekend ? Crossing legs til baby's room is ready!!!

brooke I will pm you if that's ok. I went thru a similar thing with DH recently & found it incredibly hard. In fact i disappeared off to parents place for abit of head sorting. Being in gorgeous countryside & gentle dog walks definitely helped with perspective & to clear up what I needed to say.

Anyway, my DH was super embarrassed + felt bad that I felt so bad & things are sorted now after a good few convs. We have had a lot of sex since !!!!

I have swaddling blanket & a swaddle pod. Our nct lady said same as others, ie she used them but officially not recommended. It's because when the large ones r wrapped round & round it equates to lots of layers plus sleep suit etc, and then people use blankets, so poor baby boils! I thinks it's just lowest common denominator stuff from nhs. She says count the number of clothes & swaddle layers & room temp etc.

Goats cheese recipe that I have had which is delish!
One of those little ones with a rind all over, cut in half along curved edge (as you wld cut a cucumber).
Cut side facing up, put under a medium grill for quite a long time til it's really brown, bubbling & obv completely cooked through.
Serve on small piece of toast with rocket salad & honey & balsamic.

I ate the rind although u could leave it if worried. I think at this stage it's probably fine, the biggest danger is earlier on. Plus GP said more cases of listeria from pre washed bags of salad than cheese these days!

Anyone know if we have had the D&V virus now does it give LO immunity like whopping cough?!

Oh yum Queen!! I think it would give immunity, yes. I haven't had a bug since I was about 17 touch wood!

Stupid stupid stupid I know but... How to do a Pm?!

App or site?

Site, but on my iPhone.
Thx!

Spotty I can't remember the details of speeds if your accident but when we contacted maxi cosi they said any accident over 10mph needed replacement. It's your call, and I'll be honest we kept ours for the second car, but officially that's what the recommend. I know tescos used to cover it automatically and just replace them as standard.

Make sure it's on the desktop site (top right hand corner) then it will say message poster to the fat right of their name.

I think it's too late pmgkt