Christmas Puddings 2012 - one bun has left the oven, who's next?

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A year in my room won't happen. Ds1 did 3 weeks max, I was getting no sleep with constant shuffle noises

Dd was in with us until she outgrew her Moses basket she slept through after that we were getting her up to feed when all she was doing was having a fidget!

Brooke sorry about your dh/p I wonder if he's using 'scared of hurting the baby' as an excuse and really he's just finding the whole thing pretty scary! And probably feeling a bit removed I think it can be hard for men.

I really need to Hoover but my BH are really bad and the Hoover is upstairs grrr dp is not doing anything extra around the house I know I'm not working now but I'm finding everything increasingly difficult and all I ask him to do is clean the bathroom on a Sunday (I do it twice in the week) and Hoover the stairs for me but he doesn't even do that! He also washes up dinner stuff as I do all the cooking but he always leaves that until the morning then never rinses the sink, do you think I'm asking too much??

brooke sorryvyour dhbis makingvyoy feel a bit rubbish :( to be honest we had been having quite a bit of sexand now im just so worn out i cant even contemplate it however ive already warned dh to prepare for when i get to 37 weeks as i want this baby out asap so will be trying everything. And i know its an old wives tale but with dd2 i literallt went into labour within half an hour of sex so fingers crossed it will work again

Those taking/planning to take raspberry leaf anf evening primrose oil how much/often are you planning to take it?

Brooke So sorry your DH is making you feel bad. I am too tired to entertain the possibility too often, but I would also be upset if I wanted to and DH didn't.

Spotty That's definitely not too much to ask, I'm at home full time at the moment and do most things, but DH is helping more than usual. He has recognised that this is the way it has to be for now. It's only temporary after all.

ellie I satrted taking raspberry leaf tea last week at 34 weeks, I started at 3 tabs and I'm going up 1 a week until I'm at the full 6. Although I've been rubbish at taking it this weekend

I started on 3 a day last week (wk 34), and will be 4 a day this week, 5 a day next week and 6 a day by week 37 and thereafter.. I read that it doesn't bring on labour just preps for best possible conditions, so that's the plan. Not sure when to start oil of e.p. though..

Also thinking of starting arnica tablets but maybe not till week 38 - i want to build up a bit of anti-bruising power.

Has anyone used the 200c ones? I know that 30c should be plenty, but is there any harm in going for stronger?

Have just been for our scan. At 35 weeks he is weight approx 6lbs 5oz. That sounds massive!

Fod add half a pound a week.....

Thanks cookies, spotty, Ellie and Kate... I thinks I've just had enough and am feeling generally fed up. Nice to get things off my chest though, have really struggled to speak to friends about it so your advise helps lots! Really hope it's not too long for all of us now!

Off to Zumba tonight, figuring if I keep active it will help bring on labour who knows?! Lol

brooke that sounds shit, hopefully talking to him will help.

Diabetic midwife appointment in the morning, let's see what they say. Levels have been high about 50% of the time. I'm kinda assuming if I didn't have GD then they wouldn't be high at all.

pmgkt so glad it's not just me. Both us and DD slept soooo much better for being in separate rooms, she was such a fidgeter. People always make me feel guilty for it but it was the right thing for us.
ellie I'm taking about 4 I think (nearly 36wks) has been one with each meal but as my afternoon tea and cake habit has become my 4th meal have started having one then. Was thinking about EPO for coming week-are we voting internally ladies?!

No spotty you're not. As someone who is struggling to do everything it's hard going and they need to be nagged/reminded that we can't do it all and need their help. We aren't going to be this fat forever!

utopian what are arnica tablets?! never heard of them

FoD I think I read somewhere they don't really grow in the past few weeks as no room. These estimations can be a pound out as well I think. Don't panic just yet haha. Also my dd was nearly 8lbs but she looked a lot smaller and needed tiny baby clothes?!

Cookies dd was 8lb and newborn clothes were too big for her too! Although she did look like a monster compared to all the other prem babies in SCBU!

Thanks I don't think I'm asking too much but he always seems to think he's hard done by and always says 'I do a lot more than most men you know'. He also always injures himself at football which makes me 'oh my back hurts so much/oh I've got a cough/cold/sore throat woe is me'. I don't know if it's just hormones but I'm feeling really unhappy with how things are between us at the moment.

Dd just drew on the wall oven dinner in order tonight I think sorry for my moan

Bit late but no spotty you aren't being unreasonable to expect your DH to help a bit. My DH is doing bits and pieces but coming through and announcing he's done it and wanting lots of gratitude, ignoring that u do it 95% of the time without him noticing. He's also developed the habit of saying stuff like 'shall I go and do the dishes/change the nappy/make tea then sit and not do anything. Then I do it and I get ''I was going to do that in a minute'

Sorry, that wasn't supposed to turn into a rant!

pm and cookies dd was in her own room at 5 days because we kept each other awake and I was sleep deprived. She slept through from day 1 in her own room. Ds was in with me until he was 9mo so it's not the same with every baby.

cookies arnica tablets are a homoepathic remedy which reduces bruising/help recovery after operations, and also helps after labour with bruising/grazing/tears healing etc. My mum used it and my bro and I both have after operations, it's great stuff! You start a bit before the op (harder to predict in our cases!) and continue taking for a week or so after..

Brooke how would you feel about not having sex, but some sexy time together? DH and I have talked about thus a bit, mostly because I'm just not very interested in sex just now. However, some mural touching and relief could be really nice for the both of you, and though not the same as sex, he'd still be getting turned on by you, and have sexy things to think about which involve you.
I'd be honest with him first though, have a chat and say how you feel. Reassure him that though you would love it if you could have sex, it'll be strictly off limits the first time. That way he should be able to relax and know you're not going to try and force him into something he doesn't want to do.

Of course, if its his idea to take things further, you can always forget your promise

Hope that's not overstepping the mark. You need to feel sexy, both now, and over the next few months.

Waves to everyone else. Also, I'm going to swaddle too, was just passing on info about nhs, as I'd not heard of swaddling 'dangers' before.

I have skin tags on my nipples :( I don't know where they have come from but they are bloody annoying.

Just had a look on the GroBag website, and it's not clear but either 8lb8oz or 10lb. That scuppers my plan of using the bag from birth, I have given Shrimpy stricked instructions not to be born over 7lbs.

I've got some of these used the same with dd, they're so thin no worries of over heating like when swaddled in a thick blanket. Also they have a hole in the back so you can use them in the pushchair if you want/need to.

Just had some pretty painful BH

I thought Grobags were from 10lb. They were when my first 2 were babies, but it may have changed since then.

Spotty, he's doing fuck all compared to mine - in fact mine does more when I'm not upduffed than yours is when we are. During the week he tidies up after himself, at weekends he does 50% of whatever needs doing - laundry, cooking, cleaning, nesting, laundry...

Porn is not vital to the smooth running of the male psyche, and using it to undermine your partner is despicable

I have slept for no more than 1.5 hours in any one stretch for the last week yet am unable to either nap or sleep past 6am. I feel sick, have uncontrollable heartburn, ache everywhere and feel as bad as when i had glandular fever age 18. I may be reacting more aggressively than normal

Oh Pidj have you tried ranitidine? It's £1 off the shelf from Tesco and really, really helps. I think DP doesn't realise the small things that get done everyday, or forgets, like making the beds, cleaning the loo, doing three meals a day for dd, wiping down the sides in the kitchen etc etc etc ARGH!

Stacks - any contact would be great lol but there is just none! I feel like I've mentioned it enough as well and he should realise how bad I feel about myself and its mainly because of him making me feel like he doesn't want me. Scary how much confidence you can loose. But onwards and upwards cottage pie first and then for "the talk"... Forth time lucky!

Hope everyone else is having a good evening!

Peppermint Rennies works, but it strikes without warning tbh and recedes similarly so i can't just dose myself up iyswim

Thanks for advice on raspberry leaf i have started today(34 weeks) and will up them in line with you lovely ladies :) will maybe do same with e.p oil but dont think ill be using them internally.

Also another random question but is the birthing ball supposed to help with babies being in best position etc or just good for keeping comfy?

eggs I've got a skin tag on my Fango...just wrong on every level, it's been there since about 5 months! I've read that they should drop off afterwards...

brooke if it makes you feel any better I haven't had any since June...yes June. My DP just can't bring himself to do it...tbf he's always said since we've been together that he wouldn't while I'm pg but that doesn't help me! I know what u mean about feeling unattractive I've had that convo with him and he's at least a lot more complimentary etc...

Had a baby & me antenatal workshop today...apparently baby shld sleep in same room for 6m, not be swaddled and use veg oil not olive oil on their skin...oh and no growbags on newborns...so confused!!!

Presentation scan tomorrow...just want to know so I can plan!!!

Ball apparently can help with baby position but nothing proven.

spotty totally agree men just don't 'get' all the things that get "magically" done everyday makes me soooo