April 2013....from Flumper to Bump! (Part 4)

[toobreathless]

Over here!

Another place for us April 2013 Ladies!

We have old thread & stats threads as below:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1569780-April-2013-part-3-scan-scan-scan

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1560543-April-2013-stats-thread

As the days darken & winter approaches may this thread bring us all blossoming bumps, peaceful nights & more friendship and laughter.

My husband made me laugh last night. He announced that he wants to register the babies birth with the Irish embassy rather than the British one. Took me by surprise as he's a very patriotic Englishman.

Bit of delving and it turns out he's been having sleepless nights. He's worried sick that if the EU eventually disbands his future descendants will be trapped in Sweden forever, unable to return to England as British citizenship can only be passed on 1 generation. Irish citizenship can be passed from generation to generation and I already have it because my dad was Irish. This is his cunning plan to ensure future generations can get back to Blighty via the backdoor if necessary :o

And here's me having sleepless nights about the birth, managing a new baby, getting everything we need, sorting out finances etc. While he's worrying about possibilities 200 years down the line

*baby's birth not babies, there's only one.

Empress I don't have to commute daily (thank goodness) but I do quite regularly. I had one journey recently where I actually cried cos my back hurt so much (well & possibly my hormones had an effect too!).

I'll be interested to see when am bigger if people offer seats, my gut feeling is that they won't though, I have a very dim view of London commuters maybe they will prove me wrong!

Essex I am almost constantly ready to cry. Its stupid I would honestly cry over anything if I let myself.

Mama Glad to hear you are doing alright!

Glad that others are also getting exciting scan news! I'd be interested to hear what others' scans involved - not sure whether mine perhaps was a bit more detailed than usual because I'm in a high risk category (have type 1 diabetes). It was also a consultant, not sonographer who did the scan. It was pretty cool either way. We also had a fetal cardiogram on Friday which was also all fine - phew! In celebration I bought some cute vests and a matching blanket from Kath Kidson on Friday!

Empress - I think it is tricky at this stage on public transport as people are not going to offer if either you don't look pregnant or alterantively look as if you MIGHT be pregnant but if it is not obvious (no one wants to offend). I personally agree with you on the baby on board badges -something slightly embarrassing if you ask me, but perhaps a necessity? At this stage I would probably just pick on a hale and hearty looking young guy and just say "excuse me, I'm pregnant and not feeling very well, could I please have your seat?"

Nora - lol! Boys do think about the funniest things, don't they?!

Empress I got offered my first seat on the tube the other night. I was slightly mortified as I don't really have a bump yet, more of a lump, but I'd been taken out for afternoon tea by my team to celebrate my news, and had eaten a huge amount of scones and sarnies so my 'lump' was massive!! Interestingly, niether bloke who got up actually directly offered me their seat, they just looked at me, stood up and moved back. But it gave me hope for the future when I really need a seat.

I have got myself a Baby on Board badge but haven't had the nerve to wear it yet, but I will do in future - DH says he's always terrified of getting the 'fat or pregnant' call wrong so at least it makes it easier for people to judge. {grin}

Had my 16 week midwife appointment today (I'm due right a the end of April so feel so far behind you all) and she was the first person who reacted positively when I said we're thinking of a home birth. Is anyone else considering this or am I mad?

Mama sorry to hear you've had another bleed but glad you're hanging on in there.

i love reading all these posts- you ladies can seriously chat!
i travel into London everyday and have had a badge for about a week- my bf made me get one- its a bit embarrassing bt it works.
my bf the same with being terrified of making the wrong call. he says he rather see a pregnant lady standing, than a fat lady sitting and crying! oh dear- at least the badge makes it clear.

i think i read some ppl having this earlier on in the thread, but my stomach has gone rock hard for about 10sec a few times today... not painful or anything just feels really strange?
BH already?

also wondering if anyone has any info about carrying full term after having loop cone biopsy? I've asked for internal to find put my measurements... any info greatly received. pm if need too!

17+6 (twins)

I had my 20 week appointment with the consultant and scan which both went well, thank God. Have next scan booked for 28 weeks. We didn't find out rhee gender, hoping for another girl though!

Empress I also have a badge as DH got me one but I'm too embarrassed so it's sitting on the notice board at home waiting for me to stop being shy, luckily for me though I'm first stop on the line so always get a seat I do feel bad for you though I took a bus somewhere yesterday and was standing for like 5 mins and it made me feel ill the whole night!

Bext you are not the only one who has gone off sex. without giving tmi I had thrush which made it really painful and I'm now so used to my sleep I just can't get back into the idea of it!

Those people who have been buying dresses, I went to new look yesterday and tried a few on (I totally agree with whoever said they are good for maternity clothes) but I found that maternity dresses just make me look fat and that it's better to get one that's just got a waistband that fits above my bump and then just hangs down. Having said that I still didn't actually find a dress I like and can afford and my best friend is getting married in 4 weeks....

19+1

I just had the most amazing scan! Baby boy was waving at me! They did a very detailed cardio scan, measurements etc because of the risks of the medication I was on after the op before I realised I was pregnant. And they couldn't find anything wrong!!!!!!! All totally normal I can't believe i can report good news its almost like tempting fate. And I'm 20 weeks today

Anybody mind if I keep a running total? Or will that just be irritating?

So, so far we have:

1 boy
1 girl
2 surprises

Great to hear more good scan news & Mama brilliant news! 20 weeks, so oar to baby boy standing a good chance now!

silentmamooth also have a girl here & hoping for another :)

Thanks emmy totally forgot about new look.

bext we've hardly had any sex since bfp and bleeding afterwards is def a passion killer! Sorry Dh, but I don't think you'll be seeing much bedroom action till bump arrives!

bona its so exciting buying baby stuff! We have been waiting until the 20 wk scan but bought a microwave steriliser the other day cos it was in the sale I plan to bf again but just incase we have probs. Will wait until we find out the sex now so we can get blue or pink stuff

Anyone else had sickness and headache's return?! I thought ms had gone bout a mth ago but felt rubbish on the wkend and today, so much so tht I've given in and come home from work. Feels like I've got a wine hangova headache iyswim shame I havnt had the wine to go with it so have collapsed on the settee and plan to stay here until dd's are home.

Sorry to hear bout further bleeding mama but the scan sounds fantastic! Another 2 wks until mine.

17+3

toobreathless please do keep track!! Maybe we should add to our stats in stat thread I cannot wait actually cannot wait to find out!! We aren't telling anyone in RL tho so you guys will be the only ones to find out :)

And yay for mama x

18+1

mama that is great news

bext you are definitely not the only one. We finally had sex at the weekend for the first time since the bfp! Was v scared of any potential bleeding but luckily none.
Had my flu jab today. Left arm hurts .
Very jealous of all the scans - having my 16 week appointment tomorrow so got a bit of catching up to do!
16+3

Ha ha! DD (2.7) just said to me "Mummy, when my baby comes out of your tummy, will it make a hole in your jumper?" That sounds much easier than the conventional method!

Evening ladies, DH and I have also only just DTD since BFP, I think my virginity must have grown back as it hurt like hell after a bit I told him I couldn't go on and now I feel really bad, he was lovely and understood,but still makes me feel rotten

mama glad to here everything is going ok, so far so good, I had a quick scan of myself in the store room yesterday, can't believe how much sprout has grown! Couldn't fit everything on one screen, but I did get a view of where they had grabbed their foot and was hiccuping!

20 week scan tomorrow which I'm dreading, think another sleepless night tonight worrying.

20+2

Mama great news about your scan and to know so far so good...got mine next week very excited! But not going to find out what we are having. Glad to know I am not the only one worrying about the lack of activity in the bedroom. Me thinks dp has it in his head that he will poke baby out! He should be so lucky if he's that big lol!

uh oh, decided to start telling people am expecting at the weekend. Right now its only me, OH & one of my friends that knows.

Its a tiny bit awkward as I am actually living at my mums right now as moved back to study, finished uni right as I fell pregnant & only working part time at the minute. Timing is really quite bad, my family is quite stressed right now & my mum is going to take it badly. But I can't keep hiding it & with my scan being next Friday (24th) I feel like it would be wrong to deny my mum the chance to come to scan, if she wants too (as OH lives away so can't come).

I shouldn't be this worried, am 30 but I hate seeing my mum cry & knowing that I caused it. So yeah, I am telling her next Friday night so then she has chance to get head around it before going back to work.

Sorry for mememe post. I wasn't really thinking about it till today when OH said he plans to start telling him family this weekend, the reality sort of hit & terrified me.

18+3

I've been offline for a few days, and there's way too much for me to catch up on!

mama great news that your boy is doing so well. Hope you and he can keep hanging on in there for as many weeks as possible

bext my sex life has been pretty much non existent since my bfp. Weirdly enough I keep having very very naughty dreams, but no sex drive whatsoever during waking hours. DH gets freaked out with visible bump and being able to feel baby kicking through it, so I imagine in a couple of weeks time he'll lose any urge he had to dtd as well

We made it to the UK in one piece. DS was great on the flight, but he's really struggling with the 11 hour time difference, and his sleeplessness and my pregnancy insomnia mean I'm averaging about 3 hours sleep a night.

mama that's fantastic news - i can hear you're so excited. Enjoy every moment of it!

sneezy I'm loving the hole in the jumper concept. if only it was that easy, eh?

username it sounds like a hard situation to be in but maybe they will be more positive than you think. i had a few people i was worried about telling and they ended up being thrilled. and you're offering your mum the chance to come to teh scan...that'll melt her heart!

in the end, you can't keep hiding it and you can't change it, so if they do react badly, remember that they will get used to the idea once the dust has settled. they don't have any choice. maybe try and plan something nice to do with your mum on the sunday, like go for a nice long walk or offer to do her nails or make her sunday lunch...

warning all about me rant post ahead.

Just been for my 20w scan and got a horrible sonographer. I mean she started off saying I won't show you the screen until I've done all my measurements and know nothing is wrong and there are no abnormalities. I mean we all know why we're there right no need to be like that. She even told DH not to look at the screen until she turned it either. I've had a few scans and usually they're quite happy to find baby and heart beat and let you have a quick look before getting on with the job in hand.
I then asked her what she was doing and she said didn't you get the screens booklet it's all in there the list of things we have to check. Actually no it isn't all in there in the booklet is the list of conditions they can check for and the stats on how good they are at predicting those. Talk about making me feel like a piece of meat!
The baby was pretty still (first time ever) and was facing my back so she couldn't get a good image of the heart so even after jiggling/walking about twice we couldn't get the vital measurements. She was not very reassuring and when i suggested using doppler to get it moving she completely ignored me and started blathering on about the probe they use being different etc etc. I then started to try and prod the baby into action and she was like oh don't do that while my arm is there it really hurts, like its a walk in the park having someone prodding you and scraping a probe across you for half an hour. (no disrespect to any sonographers on here but I'm sure there's a better way of putting it). She then said I'll book you another appt for 3 weeks time! 3 WEEKS OMG! The thought of waiting 3 WEEKS to find out if the major life supporting organ in my baby is OK is not a pleasant prospect!

Fortunately the consultant I saw afterwards was a lot more reassuring and when I said I was upset I'd have to worry for another 3 weeks he offered to squash me into his clinic tomorrow afternoon. Please send some positive baby positioning thoughts for tomorrow everyone!
I know I'm probably overreacting but the baby being so still did not help reassure me either. Heartbeat looks OK and everything else was fine too but she wasn't having any of it when I suggested this must all be a good sign that the heart is working well!

Anyway sorry for epic post hope you all have a better experience than mine will keep you updated.
Giddy how did yours go?

mama lovely news about your boy waving and so relieving that all the measurements look good, I was getting excited for you just reading that.

Giddy hate to be the bearer of potentially bad news but DTD hurt the whole of my last pg (hate to admit that I haven't even attempted it yet this pg ) and I believe it can just be due to extra sensitivity due to enhanced blood flow in the region! Should be good for somethings iykwim. Varying positions might help a bit but you might have to explore some alternatives, have fun!

sneezy I want a hole in my jumper!

Hi all thanks for all the positive thoughts and messages. I managed to eat a little lunch today only bread and marmite but tasted so good.
Trying- what a bad experience, I'm so sorry your sonographer was like that- glad your consultant was nicer - sending positive baby turning thoughts your way! And yep a strong regular heartbeat is a good sign. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.
Giddy-how was your scan?
My children are coming in at 6 cannot wait to see them. I am not buying a single thing for my baby until he is safely delivered (please) I am not tempting fate but we are all having fun Looking through catalogues.