May 2013 Third Thread.

[SecretCervix]

Sorry for the not very imaginative title. Noticed old thread was full and couldn't find a new one.

Little literally LOL'd at you thinking we should keep a sex tally on the stats thread. I think, judging by the answers so far, that tally may be woefully low........apart from milk, that is - good on ya, girl. Delighted to hear things are going well with non-man. Given everything, and I can only imagine how tough it is for the pair of you, he sounds like a keeper.

I'm def in the wind-not-baby-movement category. Astonishing, really, that there's so much gas in there. And as for apricots - that's a def no-no. Like turning on a wind tunnel during a hurricane.

10 your work colleagues sound incredibly sweet. I'd have cried too. Lovely to have that support.

Anyone else feeling a bit....pffffrt (and not in a wind-related way)? I'm still too knackered to do much - did a 10mile walk in the woods on Sunday and def over exerted myself. Just want to lie around watching box sets and snuggling on the sofa. Eating, mostly. I used to be a slow eater, content to munch happily. Now I vacuum it up like I've never seen food before.

I guess I feel a bit impatient. I'm at that look-more-fat-than-pregnant stage, desperate for things to hurry up and move on.

Bleurgh.

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Wow I have an iPhone now had a BBQ before I'm struggling to get to grips with it so please be patient.

Anyone worrying about looking fat rather than pregnant bet I can cheer you up.I ate a whole selection box to myself today

Thanks for whoever it was told me to eat apricots I feel much better constipation wise.

13+5 I feel like its going slow anyone else?

BBQ blackberry ??

beaut welcome to autocorrect!!! X

Hi everyone, Great to hear all the good news from everyone. I'm 15 weeks and haven't felt any movement yet - although your posts remind to look out for it. I am just starting to get a little belly but I'm at that weird in between stage where I'm definitely not ready for maternity clothes but I'm on borrowed time with my normal clothes.

milk I loved hearing about your romantic weekend - so pleased that things are going well. I'm sure it is a crazy mix of emotions but I think you're right to throw yourself into it!

Sex-wise I was completely off it for the 1st trimester - partly worried about something going wrong and partly just feeling too rough. But I have to say, sex in the 2nd trimester is really good! I can recommend giving it a go!

Still completely knackered. DH is away this week and so there's nothing to stop me going to bed really early. Trying to hold out until at least 9pm, although I don't really know why!

beaver I'm pffffft all the way too! All I want to do is curl up on the sofa and the idea of going out for big social things is a big fat Nooo thanks at the mo! Keep reading these things saying to start with the preg fitness regime after 12 weeks but am still getting knackered really easily and get nauseous if I push myself too hard. Am sure we'll feel more energetic soon!

Ha! Glad to hear the low libido thing is normal. We've gone from, well, a lot, to only twice since I found out I was pregnant. Have just been too scared/sick/bloated/tired, and even now that we're 15 weeks I'm still nervous. We did have a fine old night in a hotel together whilst on tour together last week though, we weren't going to let that opportunity pass

bunnychan

Hmm the sex issue.We haven't had much since found out I'm pregnant.My reason being I'm too tired.As for DP I'm not sure he hasn't said why but I wonder if he is worried about baby.

I am do depressed about the weight gain.i had bulimia before pregnancy and I have been really good and stopped for the baby.However as my metabolism is out of whack it means that now that I'm eating I have gained about 10 lb I know it's my own fault though.

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Sorry didn't mean to just throw that in.But I really need to share.

Beautician are you getting some support from your doc? And your DP?

Sounds like you've made a great start - you must accept the weight gain as a totally natural and necessary part of pregnancy. Your baby will thank you for it :)

I'm sure there will also be some great advice on the eating disorders threads with regards to pregnancy and the changes your body goes through.

Come back and chat if you're ever feeling like you need to.

beaut really well done for managing to control your condition while pregnant, your MW or GP will definitely be able to hook you up with some more support which would be well worth while.

Welcome to the new folk

I have my scan tomorrow and equal parts excited and bricking it!

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Thank you ladies.My DP doesn't know at least I don't think he does.He works away Monday to Friday so it's not too difficult to hide.I just feel so overweight now.I am going to try and join slimming world once baby is born to try and get back into a sensible way of eating.

Cupoftea your scan will be fine.we have all worried on here.Hope you get some great pics.Are you sharing your news with everyone after the scan.

Is it sad that I am excited about picking up my copy of pregnancy and birth magazine tomorrow as it has some ideas of what to wear for the party season.Its actually the magazine I have found most informative so far and I've already bought a couple of outfits having seen them modelled in it.

Hehe it would seem that its not just the nervousness that's preventing sexual activity here - DH just tried to sneak his hand down my trousers and got totally befuddled by the bump band on my maternity jeans!

From now on he's claimed they'll be known as first date trousers!

Sorry beaut didn't mean to come across as insensitive there - think I cross posted with you. I second what others have said about seeking support from your midwife and gp and, if possible, i would also suggest your dp.

Thanks beaut, you don't have to tell your DP to get some extra support from the health service, how do you think he would react? You might find him more supportive than you think especially as you've been trying so hard to be so good for the sake of the baby.
I've so far managed to avoid pregnancy magazines and stuck to looking at stuff online, before I got married I had a serious bridal magazine habit, must have added a hundred pounds onto the cost of the wedding with the amount I bought! Going to try not to let myself go the same way with pregnancy, although the what to wear for the party season issue does sound quite useful, I'm only just managing into some of my clothes just now so if I don't think about what to wear quite soon I may find myself cobbling together a party outfit out of a bed sheet Not that I can even imagine having the energy to go to a party mind you....

Beaut it's great that you recognise what's going on. I lost 2 stone 2 years ago and went from a size 14 to a 8-10 and I'm also struggling that I've creeped back up to size 12 trousers within 11 weeks! Like you I have a goal to join weight watchers again post birth, it's good to have realistic goals. I would like to start cooking a bit more when my energy returns! Glad to hear the apricots are working :-)

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Been lurking round here for ages and popping up to say hello to all you lovely ladies! Had dating scan yesterday, 13+3 and all thankfully well with baby, insomnia and sickness still kicking my arse though. Nice to see the wee one takes after its father (ie. had to be prodded before it would move!)

Beaut just wanted to send you some love, I've got a history of EDs and although it's mostly in the past for me now I've still found a changing body hard to deal with at times - have had a mahoosive weight jump in the last month as I've been vegetable-phobic and too shattered for the gym! Just to let you know that you're not alone. I was really upset yesterday but today I'm trying to refocus and be more healthy in thoughts and food, and focus on the bubs and not my own silly brain. xxx for you for doing so well! You're not alone.

beaut please don't apologise for telling us about your bulimia, we're here for support as well as sharing our pregnancies. Well done you for putting your issues aside for the sake of the baby, I definitely agree about getting some support.

Hi to the newcomers.

Good luck for the scans today cuppa and littlebairn. I'm going between excited and terrified about mine tomorrow! The sale of our old flat is due to complete today, we're waiting until after the scan to celebrate though.

Have a good day everyone!

beaut An old friend of mine has/had bulimia and struggled while pregnant, there are support groups out there if you would like real life support.
The main thing is you are being honest with yourself, denial could lead to a dangerous situation, meaning you know when you need to get help. Or even just chat to us.

I remember my friend K saying the early weight gain is the hardest time because there is no baby bump once the bump is there its easier to rememver its not fat its baby weight. At the moment your body is in a binge cycle without the purge it does settle down.

seven I'm a nervous wreck they started building up yesterday, I've barely slept. I'm also a bit cross that DH and the midwives bullied me into a Nuchal.

That said its quite nice it's today, yesterday was our 4th wedding anniversary it's funny to think 4 years ago today was our first proper day of marriage and all these years later it will be our first ever scan.
If you had told me back then I would be waiting 4 years for a baby I would have been devastated but I'm actually quite pleased now it's all worked out well.

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littlebairn you can probably still decline the nuchal at the hospital, failing that even if the results aren't great you don't have to act on them, fingers crossed it'll be fine anyway. Were you trying for a long time then? It took us 2 years to conceive DS, I know what you mean though, I eventually got pregnant 6 months after we got married, looking back now I'm glad we were married first, there's no way we could have afforded our lovely wedding once we had a baby! Rest assured if you want any more it took 4 months with DD, and 6 months this time but I had a mc too in that time. Having a baby seems to have kick-started my fertility which I've heard isn't uncommon.

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seven DH would be really upset if I cancelled the Nuchal part and I have now agreed to it so would be unfair. Regardless of the results nothing will be done about them, I'm a Christian there is no way I would have a termination on have tests that could accidentally end the pregnacy.
It's more of a concern that if they came back high it will cause issue between DH and I because he would then be uncertain about the pregnacy. Tough luck to him I will never change my mind.

I've been looking it scans on YouTube trying to get excited. It's not helping that time has actually stopped!

Oops forgot the rest of my post.
I got pregnant on second cycle which was a massive delight and shock, I was told there may be a chance I would have trouble conceiving seems like they were wrong! That said I'm prepared to experience secondary infertility hence we will try to TTC most likely within a year of DC1 being born when my fertilty is still high. I would love a large family at least 4.

The delay was mostly over DH and his ex wife arguing over their old house, which we were being forced to live in and pay for it had NO kitchen, no running hot water ( I had to spend 2 hours each day boiling kettles for hot water!) damp oh yes and NO heating. We spent two of the worst winters in recent memory stuck in a house with no heating and single glazed windows.
In the end we played hard ball threatened to go bankrupt if it ment getting rid of the house, she finally agreed to sell 5 years after their divorce.
As soon as we moved we started to TTC.

But in hindsight it's been great just having time with DH, we got engaged after 9 weeks and married less than a year later so I suppose we really got to know one another. In in reality the 4 years have gone quickly and we are much better off financially too.

Hey everyone. Where did the last 200 or so posts suddenly appear from! Just been catching up on all the news.

I finished maternity leave and started back at work on Monday. I'm knackered with doing a full day with the baby then working until midnight. I've had a headache I can't shift since the weekend, SPD has properly kicked in and my daughter is having a very hard time at school and I'm worried sick about her. Put all of this together and I'm struggling and very emotional :(.

And I've had to rearrange my consultant appointment that I should have had today as DP is having to do a 12 hour day of redundancy interviews with people. So his day is sucky too. Not as sucky for the people he's interviewing though.

I'd really like to go to sleep for the day please (except DS is currently resisting his nap so I can't even a little bit)

I'll stop moaning now. Sorry.

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hey beaut. am sorry to hear about your bulimia. I had an eating disorder before I got pg with DS and putting on weight was so hard, i feel for you. i cringe now when i look back at my pg journal and it is full of my weight gain, stats of what I should lose and how much I must exercise :( Being pg with DS did actually really help me tho and altho I might relapse under certain triggers I know I have to eat well for DS (and for me). My main trigger is my mum and I will NOT repeat this with my kids. If you would like to pm me at all please do :). Have you had any help with it? will you speak to your MW or are you not really 'out' about it?

sorry to hear you are so knackered terror, sounds harsh. good luck for today.

I have weed my bump away over the past two days! (TMI?!) i don't look pg at all now! guess the water retention is easing?!

have my appt with a consultant tomorrow because of my mc's. I don't know what they will talk to me about but do hope they have a little listen in.

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