due oct 2006 part 2

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Well lets fill this one up too

that's great news catgirl

wuzzle, thinking of you....

hi ladies :) thank you sooooo much for all of your warm wishes

and now to relieve you of your suspense lol...the scan went amazingly...saw the baby and the heartbeat and im due 24th October (only 1 day later than my dates worked it out to be) so im feeling brilliant and i think that i will actually be able to have a proper nights sleep tonight lol.

catgirl...im so glad that you had a good scan too!! makes things feel much more real but at the same time extremely relieving :) im sure that you all know about that feeling tho [chilled out emoticon]

great news wuzzlefraggle, have a good night's kip then :)

wuzzle - glad you had a good scan too - know exactly what you mean!

good weekends to you all - looking forward to elasticated waists and letting it all hang out!

hi there,
was just wondering who hadn't had their scan yet? have we nearly all got over the first hurdle??
I'm in a really good mood today as I've just heard that a friend of mine who's been ttc for AGES and thought she'd never have children has just discovered she's over 2 months pregnant!!! Good job life is full of nice surprises as well as the grotty ones, isn't it? :o

So glad wuzzle everything went well!
I can't wait to be able to feel the baby moving soon! apparently happens after 15 weeks.

I thought I'd tell you that the other day I went to the Lloyds/Wetherspoons Bar with my friends as it has a non smoking area and was suprised to see they had alcohol free Becks and alco free pear cider on the drinks menu, I had one of each, the cider is delish and you get a pints woth for £1.60 I think. Good on them for selling alco free drinks I was getting a bit sick of orange juice.

Have a nice weekend

paow, dont hold your breath too much re: movement especially if this is your first. I didnt feel anything until around 22 weeks the first time - was beginning to wonder if I'd imagined the whole pregnancy thing!! Hoping to feel it a bit earlier this time.

May I ask an odd question? Is anyone else feeling depressed? I can't stop weeping. it seems to have something to do with my mum - I will not tell her I'm pg as she has been cruel and unkind about anything and everything to do with me all my life. I feel utterly disconnected from this baby and keep wishing I could miscarry. I must be mad and/or evil. Am I alone in feeling this way? Husband is delighted about the sprog and I dare not tell him how strange I feel.

Hi everyone, not posted for ages but everything is ticking along nicely. I'm 17 weeks on Sunday, baby is kicking and I heard it's heartbeat at the midwife's on Wednesday. I've got a big bump and have had to wear maternity clothes since 12 weeks. Lovely to catch up on everyone's news and scan results. Fingers crossed we all now have happy healthy pregnancies.

Laguacana,speak to your midwife or gp,it sounds like you have Pre natal depression,its getting more recognised and there are things they can do for you.Also remember having a baby is a big deal,it plays havoc with you hormones and i felt like you during my first pg.Even during this pg i had a stage of thinking oh my god what have i done?i dont want this im not ready to do it again,but it passes and it gets better for most women,but dont suffer alone ,tell a mate,they will understand.
Idont get on with my family,they are not supportive,my friends are my support network,its common in this age for that to be the way,dont worry about your mum,ignore her and concentrate on you

laguanaca, please don't think you're mad or evil. being hard on yourself isn't going to help things get better. I couldn't agree more with totallyfloaty, talk to people around you - whatever you do, don't keep it to yourself. Try your midwife, and if you don't get a sympathetic ear, try your gp or anyone else who's willing to listen. Things will get better but you need to talk about it to someone. As totallyfloaty said - our hormones are all up in the air at the moment, there's no right or wrong way to feel, it's just the way YOU feel right now that counts. hope you find someone to sound off to soon ...

Good afternoon ladies. Glad to hear everyone is getting on fine with pg. I been to my parents in Kent for the week and was thoroughly spoilt. I havnt had my scan yet nowandnearly. Im having it Wednesday which I will be 14 weeks by then! My sister in law had a beautiful baby girl early hours of Tuesday morning. She was only in labour for 3 hours. Mind you this is her 4th so hopefuly I'll be as lucky. I still feel pretty nauseas most of the day. Hula Hoops have realy lost their touch now too. Any way enjoy the sunshine. Wish you all well xx

LaGuanaca

Weeping perfectly normal, esp if DH all hyper-positive & you have doubts. Go easy on yourself. things will ease up soon. Very easy to get very wound up at the feeling that 'everyone else' has taken over your body esp if you're trying to do all the 'good things' that the books tell you to do... I think everyone has their bad days. Speak to M/W if things don't lift and if she's no good (it's pot luck really if you get a good one or a bad one) then speak to Dr. If it is depression there is plenty of stuff that you can take to feel better that won't harm the pg. Much better that than letting yourself get in a circle of getting depressed and then beating yourself up about it.

None of us are judging you so feel free to share stuff with us if you can't face talking to anyone face to face yet, I bet some of us have walked your road

{hugs}

LaGuanaca
I know exactly how you feel I ended up being signed off work for over a month at the beginning as all I could do was cry. You are not alone and there are things you can take if your GP is unsure about prescribing anything ask him to refer you to the hospital (sounds scarier than is) and they will know exactly what is safe. It sounds like you are suffering from depression to me and the sooner its treated the better - even just some counciling could help.

LaGuanaca
I know exactly how you feel I ended up being signed off work for over a month at the beginning as all I could do was cry. You are not alone and there are things you can take if your GP is unsure about prescribing anything ask him to refer you to the hospital (sounds scarier than is) and they will know exactly what is safe. It sounds like you are suffering from depression to me and the sooner its treated the better - even just some counciling could help.

Sorry using strange computer and seems to post my messages twice!

LaGuanaca - i hope that you start feeling better soon...must be very hard on you xox

gingeme - best wishes with the scan on wednesday!! bet you cant wait.

well, morning sickness seems to have buggered off and for the first time in 2 months, i can sleep properly :) hope that all you other ladies are doing well. and thank you again for all of your warm wishes re my scan xox

hi everyone,
have hardly dared type it but for the last few days I haven't felt in the slightest bit nauseous.....YES!!!
gingeme, only 2 more days to go....and you'll get to see your bean :)
laguanaca, how are you feeling today? x

Now look here guys...... speaking as someone who only this morning had to exit my cummuter train one stop early in order to vomit in the relative comfort of the station platform (as opposed to train carriage...) it is simply not on for everyone else to be getting over the morning sickness bit... I now know how GemmityGem must feel when we wax lyrically about hula hoops.

I am still sick as a dog. Keep waking up in the middle of the night and having to go down to make marmite sarnies to stave off the nausea. Saturday was a peach. We had friends over for a barbq and I was fine until 9pm and then I hit a brick wall and had to go to bed. Woke up at 1.30 and had to go downstairs to get food, in my dog-eared dressing gown, wearing naff glasses and with a face like death, walked into all the dinner guests who were all still there, sat round kitchen table with DH chatting and downing the port. What a joy that was

I have been consoling myself with copious amounts of purchases from ebay and various second-hand maternity dress agencies. Now have a proper doppler for home use, and 5 near-identical little (well big, if you must know) black numbers.

Also on the plus side, my auto-pilot reaction to certain family frictions (ie au-pair tears/illness/hystrionics over latest heartbreak) has resulted in my near-miraculous discovery that I can still enjoy a chilled glass of chardonnay...

Think I will need the wine though, DH has applied for a job in Australia, starting July. Best not mention it to my mother just yet.....

Oh Whiffy well what can I say. Couldnt imagine anything worse. You poor woman! How are you feeling LaGuanaca? Have you found anyone to help you through this? Like everyone has said this is more common than you think. Its not only happening to you though it may seem like it right now. I realy hope you can get some help. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing but can be realy frightening too. Keep us posted and hope all goes well for you. xxxx

LaGaunaca - have just remembered that when I was down & weepy during first pg I read 'Misconceptions' by Naomi Woolf and really identified with some of the stuff she wrote about, it really helped me identify with the fact that although what was going on was very natural, you also 'lose' the person you were before, and it can be difficult to cope with the transition, especially when everyone else is telling you what to do with your body and your diet..she talks about how important it is to be allowed to mourn that change.. anyway she writes it better than I can explain it, but it really did help me identify why I was both very happy and very sad at same time... maybe you might want to get hold of a copy? I think a lot of us have been there to some extent or other.

Hope you are feeling better about everything, Take a long bath, go for a walk, try to chill.

On the plus side, by the time you get onto the next one, both you and DH will be mourning your losses together (the bank balance, the size of the house, the cost for a nanny, the ever-elusive-lessor-spotted-lay-in, relaxing holidays...)

hi all,whiffy am deeply sympathetic re the sickness. mine has been increasingly bad with large amounts of time staring down the loo. however has eased off in last 3 days so am really hoping this is it at 15 and a half weeks. would be so nice not to have to carry plastic bag with no holes in in handbag for just in case.
gingerme not long now hope it goes well.
laguanaca hope things are improving even a little, deeply sympathetic, i spent the first 2 months really resenting the baby for making me feel so crap, and was also ashamed of fact i wasn't jumping for joy, i was weepy and depressed.
on a lighter note, Dh is still suggesting stupid names-incl. waverley! for goodness sake, it was enough to send a hormonal pg woman into a rant.
have been doing lots of research on pushchairs and prams etc. my friend swears by the maclaren which you can use from birth, but it doesn't look v. cosy. another friend suggested mamas and papas a3 pramette. does anyone have any advice?

Hi marthahm. We bought a Citilite pushchair on Saturday for our 2 year old ds. Comes with free weather cover which we tried and it fits realy snug around the whole thing. Can buy a cosy toes for it too. Can be used from birth and is soooooo light and neat. It only cost £79.99 from Mothercare. Trouble is doesnt have a car seat facility. But its soooo light! Ooops sorry already said that didnt I!! Happy hunting

Marthahm- with my first I brought a really cosy looking Mamas and Papas after 3 months I brought a Maclaren! So much easier for collapsing and throwing in the boot of a car - something to consider if only have small car that whatever pushchair/pram you buy it fits in your car! I love the Maclaren so much I am going to go and buy the one from birth for this one. Cheapest place I have found for all baby stuff is Kiddiecare and their free delivery is brill everything arrives when it should.