November 2012 - babies arriving early and impatient mummies-to-be

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1579909-November-2012-arrivals-are-now-underway

New post-natal thread for the graduates: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

No it's not passed on via breastfeeding but the baby will have some form of immunity as your body builds up the anti bodies.

Ideally we should have WCjab at 34 weeks. I would advise all to have it ASAP if you plan to. tits I think you should be pushing to have the jab sooner. I will still be restricting visitors until he has had his vaccinations at 6 weeks. Anyone with the vaguest snuffle will be sent packing.

I'm going to docs to book it tomo, ill be 35 weeks so will stress I want it ASAP.

GT ask for a mask for the gas and air rather than the stupid tube thing.

You probably won't be able to get the mask any more. I haven't seen one on a labour ward in the last 3 years or so.

Good luck GT stay strong! You'll be fine and see your little man before you know it.

I will also be restricting visitors in the early weeks VQ anyone with a cold, cough or cold sore will NOT be entering my house, although I'm hoping no one with any of those things would even think about visiting a newborn tbh

Det do many women freak out during internals? Be honest. I need to man up really.

Why don't they use the masks any more Detective? They seem way more sensible than trying to suck air through a tube which is particularly difficult if you're asthmatic.

GT I absolutely hated them when I was having DS1 but the midwife was just popping in the room and shoving her hand up without warning and berating me for being a baby. Then she said I was 2cm dilated after hours in labour on the highest dose on the drip. Five minutes later when the doctor examined me I was 9cm so I don't think her method was very helpful. With DS2 my doctor was Chinese and she had tiny slim fingers so I felt stupid making a fuss! They're not pleasant but they're important to be able to tell what's going on. Hopefully things will get moving soon and you won't have to have any more.

A few, yes GT. It isn't that uncommon really.

To be fair - the internals for induction are far worse than when in labour, because the cervix is quite posterior still. In active labour the cervix has moved to a more central position, and requires less pressure to reach.

Early inductions (under 41 weeks) again are more painful when it comes to internals because the cervix is much less likely to be 'favourable'. So again, it comes down to the cervix being even more posterior!

My best tip - use the gas and air, and put your hands in to fists, and put them under your bottom, to lift your pelvis - this makes the cervix easier to reach. Also, get a small pillow, or towel (find a rolled up hospital towel works best for this) in the small of your back to support it. I do this for smears, as I used to freak out (had colposcopy etc) and it turned out it was the pressure in my back that was making the pain so bad. As soon as my back was supported and my pelvis in the right position, the discomfort was minimal.

I'm not entirely sure Stunt but my logical brain tells me that it is for safety reasons. The tubing has a safety valve on for minimal transfer into the local environment.

The masks didn't prevent the entonox escaping, so midwives and others in the room would be breathing it in.

Gt l am another one who truly hates and is petrified of internals. l do think it can depend a bit on who does it ~ this time round l thought l was coping well until a registrar had a final attempt to break my waters and was so rough l had conplete hysterics and demanded to go home (was not happy when l realised he was also doing my c section!). I am sure (from what l heard during a week and a half on ante natal ward with lots of inductions) that lots of people are the same. All that helped me was very deep slow breaths of gas and air, closing myn eyes and thinking about soomething completely different. Oh, and insisting that no one show me any sort of instrument they were using cos l knew that?d freak me out. Sorry you are having a bad time, but it will all be a distant memory very soon.

Yep I got a hangover from the entenox at the birth of my sister's first baby and she was using a mask I believe. I was sitting on the floor most of her labour massaging her feet - and the stuff sinks as it's heavier than air so I got a good dose of it! I had a right hangover the next day. Mindst she ended up with an emergency section, haemorrhage and blood transfusion and in intensive care. So I couldn't really whinge.... But secretly I felt rather sorry for myself.

Hmm ok, I'll call the ante natal clinic tomorrow and see if they can offer a sooner apt for the WC jab. I think it's silly they only do one clinic a week for it! Surely any nurse or dr is eligible to give it?!

I've just had an internal panic attack. I actually have to have this baby, don't I?

And shit, 3 more pay days til we have fuck all money. Shit shit shit, this is all very close, and real.... crap.

Fighting the urge to get up and run around the living room screaming.

Detective I had one of those too.

Managed to just about speak to dh without crying.

He has to come out.

My life is going to change forever.

I like my life!!

But as dh said, everyone says it's changes but for the better. So it's already good, which means it'll be ok.

I hope these people are right.

Gt no advice just hugs xx

I think I've bought too many baby clothes... Oops!

GT I'm the world's biggest wuss. I'm sure you're doing amazingly, and it'll all be worth it in the end!

Detective also having an internal panic about money after hearing horror stories of how long it can take to process MA. Feck. And even when/if they do it will cut my weekly income by 2/3rds. DH reckons we'll cope. I've pretty much decided that from February onwards I'll need to pick up a few freelance hours a week to top up MA. And any plans I have to do a post grad next September are now on hold.... Urgh.

I am also completely indenial about the fact I am going to be responsible for a small person in about a month's time!

I don't like being the one who earns more any more. The responsibility seems overwhelming at the moment!!

I'm just being silly. I guess I figured it all still seemed like ages away??

I'm going to have a bath, and not think about anything beyond sleep tonight! .

MM I don't think you are allowed to do any freelance with MA. I was wondering the same thing as my lovely client has offered me proof reading at £40 an hour - even a few hours a week would make a lovely difference and could be fitted around the baby. I thought it was against the rules though :( I'd love to hear differently on this though!

Glad to hear the antenatal class went well and it achieved its primary purpose of getting Dads to be to spoil their nearest and dearest 'babycarrier' xxx

We've just watched that 'Sing for their lives' prog on C4 about the cancer patient choir. Was v emotional for DH after receiving the all clear about his sister's cancer so recently. Told him how proud I am of him quitting - Junior seemed to concur and gave him a kicking during a 'group hug'.

I'm not in denial. Am just convinced this bump is a puppy / severe indigestion and won't believe otherwise until I meet them.

deeply in denial

I have NEVER been paid that much for proof reading! Wowzers. Must look into it a bit more, I assumed it would be fine although thinking about it, you wouldn't get maternity pay as well as normal pay for doing a normal job during maternity leave. Feck. If absolute need be his lordship can work freelance on his weeks off. (or, as I recently discovered, get paid £100 a day just to be 'on call' while he's on leave - why oh why doesnt he do this every week he's off?!)

yellow mine is a kitten until proven otherwise.

Antenatal class went well. 10 couples there. Nice midwife who was very reassuring. This week was labour and next week we get 'different' labour.

Bag of kittens here too!

Good proofreading rates YW! I'm going to have to reconsider my fee structure!!

Still thinking of you GT ...

I think I'm in denial about having the two DCs rather than just one. TBH I find one hard enough. I'm a terrible multi-tasker too (I'm obviously not a normal woman) and keep thinking I'll forget I have one of them when I'm out and about and leave them somewhere by mistake. I'm just thanking heavens that the new baby will be born near enough to Christmas and festive time off for DH. Not thinking past New Year, obviously.