Due in September 2006... into the 2nd trimester... hopefully blooming soon!!

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Hi everyone

Well, things have been pretty hectic for me over the last week or so. Have decided after alot of thinking and worrying to split officially (from not so) DH. Things have reached the point of no return. He was very aggressive towards me whilst pg and the trust has gone. So, I'm doing this alone (very scary thought!)

I have my scan next week - I'll be 19 weeks. I haven't felt much movement so will be relieved to know that everything is ok.

I have started buying for baby but only because it's the only way I can afford it. I'm trying to get a bit at a time and am making the most of any buy one get one free offers on nappies and wipes etc.

My Midwife gave me a real sales pitch when it came to breast feeding. She barely drew breath and it took her several minutes before she realised I'd said yes I'm going to try! My best friend bottle fed her baby from birth because she had a difficult labour and her daughter is lovely and very bright for her age so I don't listen to the scare stories. It's just what's right for you.

I'm also playing around with names at the moment. I don't want to know the sex of the baby so am thinking of both. So far I love Georgia for a girl but also like Ella and Lauren. For boys I love Jack but also like Oliver and Elliott. I'm sure I'll change my mind before the big day though.

Manda - so sorry to hear about you & your H.

Morning all.
Manda- {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} sorry to hear about you & dh. If there's agression there, then you're better off out it hun. You'll be fine as a single mum (I was), just remember you get to spoil & love that little one twice as much .

I'm so glad everyone feel the same way about feeding. So many people I know in rl are obsessed with bf only. Whatever's best for mum is best for babba.

Well 17 wks today. I've realised even though I'm big for dates, my bump has'nt grown a huge amount since I was about 12 wks. It's very firm and neat. Starts off all diddy in the morning and gets bigger through the day.

Have a wonderful day all. I desperately need to get some combats or something, can't keep living in 1 pair of jeans.
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Morning happy campers...

How spooky is this? Driving home from work last night & I thought that I quite like Jack for a boy (we'd thought of Jack 5 months ago before I was even pg but then said no). So I get home & the three of us were playing on the bed with our feet up against the wall (just how gorgeous our little ones feet?!) when DH says "I think I do indeed quite like Jack for a boy"....so that was that!! After so many names we've came full circle...Strangely the same thing happened last time when we both professed a liking for Oliver (at exactly the same time)(only to have Olivia!!)...anyhow just wanted to share that!

BF v BF...I think everyone should just do what they want! I used to call the MWs & HVs breastfeeding nazis because of the extraordinary pressure they put on you....I really wanted to give DD formula at night to try & help her sleep longer (so help me sleep!) but they were like "No, that's wrong, keep going" blah blah blah.....suffice to say I didn't, nearly cracked up through sleep deprevation & this time around want have qualms about mixing the two!!! :o

lol Cori. Wish dp & I could agree. He hates my names, I hate his...simple as that. Lol may have to register the baby's name without him only joking.

Morning all

Mandaz - sorry to hear about you splitting from your DH. You are going to need lots of support and TLC so please do share when you need to vent or share worries etc

Marls - nice and comforting to know I am not the only one with a boob issue! Will wait and see how it all goes to be honest but definately want DH involved and a bottle seems easiest for that.
Will be interested to see what the lectures I get about BF from the midwives/HV.
Do share what your OB said after you stopped BF?

Coriander - arh, nice to settle on Jack, lovely name. Funny how the names just pop in your head don't they. Still waiting for our boy name to do that!

Ooh all you lot buying things, might have to purchase something soon just to experience the thrill!!

Well best get on with some work........

Morning fat girls!
That's what DH called us all last night! He asked if I'd spoken to the other fat girls today!
Mandaz, sorry about your relationship problems but if he's aggressive you're better off out it.

Norms, sorry you're having such a hard time. I stopped the meds on Sun and after feeling terrible at the end of last week, I actually feel like I'm coming out the other side now. Still sick but so much better.
Re the BF. I BF DS for 6mths and it was bloody hard! It's bound to be even harder with a toddler too. It's got to be personal choice. You're not 15! You're well aware of the issues and you have to make an informed choice based on your own circumstances. TBH, it's nobody else's business.

Ah, names!!! Have no idea for a boy! I like John/Johnny and DH likes Hamish so no agreement likely. For girls, we both like Elizabeth, Thea, Sadie and Jocelyn with DH wanting Sadie and me liking Lizzie. Sure it's another boy though so we need to keep at it.

at fat girls. My dp calls me lump, chunky or lardy lol. Bless him

Mandaz, sorry to hear about your husband. Feel free to rant or moan if you need to.

Cori, I'm planning on combined feeding this time too. Felt under so much pressure last time I only managed 4 weeks and made myself really ill in the process. However, I HATE doing the steralising and making bottles so I'm going to try a more relaxed approach and see how we get on.

Bump woke me up kicking this morning. Was lovely Dh even managed to feel a few. Had really bad cramps yesterday so it was very reassuring. Seeing midwife later for heartbeat check. Can't believe I'm 18wks +2

Morning ladies!
Well I woke up to a great surprise this monring - brand new bathroom is leaking in to the dining room. The ceiling is bowing and the paper on the ceiling hanging off - fantastic! Plumber came round - he blamed floor layer for moving a pipe...blah blah blah. So my elation about lovely new clean bathroom has worn off to say the least!
Re: feeding I mixed fed DS, he always had a bottle of formula at night and he slept through at 9 weeks old. Which made me a happy mummy, and happy mummy = happy baby!
If anyone mentions nipple confusion due to mixed feeding I say it's propaganda put about by midwives trying to scare you in to BF!

Mandaz - very sorry to hear about you and your H, I hope you have lots of family and friends around you. You have plenty of support on here. :)

Hi all.

Mabel, what a pain about yout bathroom!

Re feeding, i shall be bottle feeding from the word go. I totally agree that breast feeding is best and i wish i could but i just cannot even entertain it. I bottle fed my other two too. I don't get involved (or try not to) in debates on eher about it as i end up upset but i just can't do it. Not coz i'm thick either as some would have you think when you say you're going to bottle feed from day one. I know the benifits but i still can't do it
I'm a fab Mam in all other rspects though

Anyway, love the name Edward, if we have a boy, our list is Edward and Elliot. (Was 2 years ago too).
If we have a girl i'm quite stuck on Juliet.

I bought a baby name book the other day and said to dd1 (5), ',the name you tell me to stop on will be the new baby's name'. I flicked the pages and she said stop and then i scanned down till she said stop. (All the while i was looking at the ceiling, DP was there otherwise he said he wouldn't have believed me), It stopped on..........................................................................Elliot!!!
From over 4000 names. She's always been a bit that way!

Morning everyone!

DH has taken to calling me fattie lol

Mandaz - I'm so sorry to hear about you and your H - it does sound as if you are better out of it, and you can get as much support as you want on here.

hellkat - glad to see you've joined the dark side and succumbed to sheer consumerism!

Mabel - Freddie is a lovely name, totally agree

Marls - DO DO DO DO share what your ob said with us!

Suns out again although bloody freezing in the wind! Have a great day ladies

Mabel, I think nipple confusion is rubbish too. Although I didn't formula feed I did start expressing when DS was 2wks old and it had no effect on how well he fed at the breast.
I firmly believe that if you dont want to, you shouldn't. I do think it's a shame, however, when I hear about women who want to but give up because of pain. It shouldn't be painful and it's a shame that those that want to aren't shown how to do it properly. The NCT has many faults but their BF counsellors are fab.

Just been on the phone to a friend and said I liked the name Johnny. She said everyone would call him condom!

ARGH, Homemama, it's so annoying when someone does that sin't it. Then all you can think of is what they've said. I like the name Johnny.

Homemama, I can't imagine that you're at all fat after the sickness you've endured !

I was fat before I got pregnant and despite the vomitting I am still overweight.

My maternity business suit from last time just about fits at the moment but fortunately I was pregnant over winter last time so I can justify getting a couple of summer maternity suits for work. I'm just waiting for Monday's scan to confirm that things are O.K. before I invest in any more maternity wear.

If we find out that we are expecting a girl I will be offloading loads of boys clothes if I ever learn how to sell on e-bay instead of being a buyer ! They were ready to go up into the loft before we found out that we were expecting no 2.
My S.I.L.'s both have girls although one of them is expecting baby no.3 in the summer so I may well benefit from their cast-offs. We saved a fortune last time as people were so generous with clothes gifts and offering us nice condition second hand stuff. I felt a bit guilty about ds living in second hand clothes so I put some money in his savings account in lieu of money I would have spent on clothes. (I did buy some vests and some cute sale stuff from the George Asda range for him).

Calvemjoe, I know what you mean about the sterlising and making up bottles ("Bottling Up" we used to call it and I did 90% of it as dh worked away from home during the week when ds was little). Having discovered from Mumsnet threads that sterlising isn't strictly necessary however, providing bottles are thoroughly washed in hot water, I plan to buy extra bottles and use the dishwasher on a hot wash program after a couple of months of sterlising this time round.

mandaz I agree with other posters that you've done the right thing in seperating way before the birth, particularly if your dh/dp was aggressive. You'll hopefully have time to get your head round looking after baby yourself and plan accordingly. My dh worked away all week until ds was 2 so I was a single mum Mon-Fri and to be honest I still did the lion's share of everything at the weekends. Feel free to off-load emotionally about it on here as it might help sometimes.

Thanks Angeliz!
I just like traditional names and I think it sounds quite cute. I like Jack too but as a teacher, I see how popular it really is. In one year we had four and they end up being called Jack B etc. I just thought that John is so unusual now without being classed like Cedric or Cyril. IYKWIM!

I like it as Johnny sounds so much more cuter and unusual than just John.

Great, now all I need to do is talk DH out of Hamish!

Norms, yes I did loose weight but I am def. carrying big (as I did with DS) I show at 14wks and look due at 5mths! C'est la vie!

lose weight, not loose! (Although it was quite loose too!

manadaz - sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time but good news that you've made a decision.
I'm glad too that everyone feels the same about feeding - it's reassuring to hear people planning on bottle feeding straight away. I'd love to do that tbh but dh doesn't agree with me. But he's quite happy to mix feed if I want and I'm not going to b/feed for long. His job was sterilsing the bottles and making up the formula last time and he hated it!!!
Went shopping this morning and had to take ds into the loos in Debenhams because i had to throw up 16+5 so really cross that it's not stopping!

Compo, those sudden suprise vomits are a bu&&er aren't they !

I went to the supermarket for the first time in a couple of months last night but I still took my plastic bowl and put it in the trolley seat just in case the smells got to much for me.

Lol at the plastic bowl! I think mine will need to be surgically removed from me!

It is so refreshing to hear some MN'ers who don't shout others down for bottlefeeding. I really struggled to BF dd and only managed it for 8weeks of purgatory. DD was a very unsettled baby after ventouse delivery, had oral thrush (VV painful when transferred to your nipples) and wouldn't settle into a feed. I ended up Bf, then expressing and giving her EBM by bottle. It was a full time job and I ended up admitting defeat after my milk supply dried up at 8 weeks. I really didn't want to bottle feed last time and I don't want to this time (also hate making up bottles, and formula costs the earth), but I won't put myself through that again, especially with a baby and a toddler to look after.

Curlygirl, I really think parenting is hard enough without criticising the choices other mothers make.

I exclusively BF for 6mths but DS has needed new shoes for a month now and I fed him toast and beans for lunch and tea yesterday (I couldnt face the fridge)so it hasn't made me the perfect mother. I'm all for breastfeeding but a mother who breastfeeds and hates it or carries on in serious pain surely cannot be being as good a mum as one who bottle feeds and is happy.
Sorry to rant but I've no time mothers who try and make other mothers feel guilty about their choices.