Due in September 2006... into the 2nd trimester... hopefully blooming soon!!

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I am not bothered how long the triple test results take as long as they are good.

Mabel I love spring all my daffs have flowered and the front garden looks lovelly

Bella we are definately stumped on boys names, I have a few girls names and one especially we like but a bit nervous about it as its the name my dads fiancee's daughter called (she passed away when she was young, don't know the full story).

Norms glad your feeling abit better, try not to worry about not feeling moveent yet, everybodies pregnancies are different and I'm sure you will feel movements in the next few weeks

Just wondering if anybody has to wait 8 weeks between midwife appointments (16 week appointment then 24 week appointment) I just feel its abit far apart not to have bp checked etc, I'm going to get my mum to check my bp at 20 weeks for me. I will have my scan a fortnight before the appointment.

Same as you Puppy - have to wait til after next scan for midwife appointment. Thought it was a bit wierd being every 8 weeks too

They are both lovely names bella, I was going to called tabitha after bewitched instead I am named after her mother

I'm 16+3 today.

Midwife was a bit off-hand with me when I confessed that I will probably use formula milk for this baby just like I did with ds and that I'd prefer another c-section as it really wasn't that bad last time.
I had to ring her several times to remind her that she said she would get me a prescription for suppositories to deal with the fact that I hadn't poo'd for 11 days due to the anti-sickness drugs. (It would have been quicker just to make an appointment and see the G.P. for them)
I don't really want to come across as a pushy demanding mum to be as we hopefully have many weeks of pregnancy to go yet.

Plus she only has clinics on Tuesdays and Wednesday a.m.'s so I've missed my chance for this week.

I will hang in there until Monday's scan appointment.

Thanks for all the support though guys.

Puppy that sounds abour right as you have your 20 week scan in the middle.

Mone has gone midwife 16 week
scan 22 weeks
doctor 25 weeks
then midwife 28 weeks.

Re names i really love Tabitha, i only know of one and it lovely. My others girls were Madeleine, Matilda and Paige, i also liked Patience.
Boys are proving difficult but i think we have settled on a name now.

On the triple test i was offered it because i had my 12 week scan late. Its not an automatic test in most hospitals

Girls'names are easier aren't they & prettier!!! I love Tabitha...& Matilda...so Mrs M, what's the boy's name you like then?!!

Puppy, is that Samantha then? I can't remember what she was called!!!

Norms, your MW needs a big slap...ggrrrrr

I take it no one likes Edward then For girls we're thinking of Beth

thanks mrsmaddyd, I can't remember how often I was seen when pg with ds.

I think my midwifes offer you the triple test if your over a certain age, I was not offered it wth ds but this time mmy midwife asked how old i was then offered it to me.

Coriander, exactly, I could have lied about giving breastfeeding a go this time to keep her sweet but I'm too honest.

She wrote in my notes that I had "declined breastfeeding advice". That's not quite my perception of our in depth conversation, I acknowledged it as the best for baby and explained how I had agonised over my choice last time because of allergies in my family but was very unlikely to breastfeed for the same reasons as last time. I must remember to ask her how many children of her own she has and whether she breastfed them. I do resent being lectured by midwives and health visitors who have training but no personal experience of pregnancy/birth/childcare and have local healthcare "targets" to meet.

Yep its samantha cori lol, for a girl we are thinking elizabeth ann (ann after my grandma), my cousins middle name is edward after my grandad, he was born a few hours after my grandad passed away.

Compo, I love Edward !

We would consider using it if it's another boy.

I know an Edward who has just gone to university and it's so cool his mates call him "Ed".

I had the same thing at my booking in app, the midwife started talking about breast feeding and I politly said I did it for over a year with dd and hated every second of it so I would like to try bottle feeding this time. She went really offish with me, offered no advice on bottle feeding and couldn't wait to get rid of me

that disgusting they are there to support yu with whatever road you want to take. grrrrrr I bottled fed ds and intend to with this one, ds is a very healthy 4 year old and has only ever had the odd cold and ear infection so I think his immunity is pretty damn good

Ai..Compo!! I forgot to add that yes, I love Edward but DH says no as we know an Edward that he's "gone off"....!!! You know how it is, there is always someone who for better or worse you know of a particular name etc...:o Beth is lovely too, infact of all the names people are mentioning, I can honestly say that I don't dislike any..

Norms, at the end of the day it's your baby & your life! Don't let it worry you because you know what's best for your personal situation no-one else & as much as they spout off, you have to do what is right for you. I found out that I was breastfed for only two weeks the other day. I asked my Mother thinking that she'd say oh 6 months (?!!) & she said only for two weeks as she couldn't hack it! Well, it's not, as far as I can see affected me in anyway. Do remember that formula milk isn't what is was 33 years ago when I was born, it's much closer in nutrional value to breastmilk now so just chill my love!!

Compo im 38 is that the certain age, as in old

I like Edward but i would end up calling him Teddy which is cute when they are little but not at age 8 when they are charging round the touch rugby field

Norms - at not pooing for 11 days, bl**dy hell !! Poor you!

Well will be interesting to see what my midwife says when I tell her that I'm not keen on the idea of breastfeeding. At the moment am planning to do it for the first 4 weeks (just to give over all the immune stuff) and then change to formula as being honest I just don't feel comfortable with the idea of boobs doing that sort of thing!! Oh dear don't sound very mother earth do I

Compo - yep love the name Edward as also think Ed for short is cute.

Norms - I've had the same anxieties - you should definitely call your midwife, or is there a day assessment unit at a local hospital you can go to? Also totally agree about the mw lecturing you! They are there for your support not to impose their views on you

we have boys and girls names - dh is liking jack too after 24 curlygirl! easily impressionable aren't they! Compo - a friend of mine is going for Edward as well, and it's a great name I think.

Topbanana - I had my triple test offered at booking appt and then it was done at 16+2 - still waiting for results and I'm 18 weeks today!

Cori that's a great idea you old romantic - dh wants to know as do I secretely I think, so I'm sure we will find out at next scan.

On breastfeeding - I'd really like to give it as good a go as I can for all the health benefits, but if it doesn't happen then I think you've got to have an open mind. My mother has recently told me that i wouldn't latch, so she expressed for as long as she needed to bottle feed me - is anyone considering that? It's interesting - you hear all these horror stories about women that tried to breastfeed in hospital and were given no support if it didn't just "happen" and now it seems totally the other way - whatever happened to informed choice and you knowing what's best for your baby?

rant over and sorry it's such a looooong post

lol everyone and thanks for listening to my rant!
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Bella, PMSL at your "not comfortable with boobs doing that" comment!!...contrary to what men may think, that's their primary reason for being!!! Well, you obviously never had sex whilst breastfeeding...that was an eye opener or shutter should I say as milk went squirting into my husband's eye the one time we actually managed to do it...!!!!!!! Not going there again I think...:o

What a beautiful day. Ds and I had a picnic for lunch (or pinknink as he called it) and it was bliss

Puppy, I've got 8 weeks between my midwife checks too but I did have a scan in the middle.

Norms, I was worried about baby after slapped cheek scare and my dr offered weekly heartbeat checks to put my mind at rest and I found them really helpful.

As for names, dh husband and I can only agree on Elizabeth and Harry. I love Poppy for a girl but dh says it's too flowery! Men!

grrr - the breast feeding thing makes me so cross!
I fed ds for 5 months, but when he was newborn I had to go on anti biotics and my midwife (with no children) told me I must continue to breastfeed whilst on them, inspite of it becoming apparant within 2 days that they were going in to my milk and giving ds the most terrible upset tummy - he was screaming constantly he was in so much pain. In the end I put him on formula, whilst expressing and chucking the milk down the sink to keep my supply up - ahhh happy times!
I intend to breastfeed again - but take any advice like that from mw's and hv's with a pinch of salt - it seems to be all about statistic to me not the health and happiness of moter and baby.
phew another rant to join lysettes!

I only managed to b/f ds for 5 weeks - but at least he got the good stuff at the beginning! I'm going to try again but want to go back to my Saturday job after a couple of months so might try and mix feed. I tried expressing but no joy!!

thanks mabel - was scared i'd come across as a real earth mother there - if you all knew me you'd know how amusing that would sound!!!

It does annoy me - especially as there seems to be this huge amount of pressure to want to whip them out and do it in public all the time - am I wierd for not wanting to join in with that???? I certainly want to breastfeed but if it doesn't work then don't want to be labelled "a failure" by my mw or hv

sorry, more ranting!

I bought baby stuff

6 bodysuits and 3 adorable babygrows

Was sensible and got neutral white just in case.

Bella- Great news about your friend.
Puppy- My mw appointments are every 4 weeks. Ask them about such a big gap.

Ohhhhh bf versus bottle feeding is a subject i get the right hump about. Especially when people "force" you into bf'ing. I was very young having ds1 (17) and neither of us took to bf at all. He went straight onto formula and was a happy chappy. He was an incredibly healthy child, only got his first cold when he went to school and is now a strapping 14 (very nearly lol) yr old. Ds2 was a weeny thing, 6 wks early, and both him & I took to bf so easily. Initially he was tube fed but then at 5 days old (still only 34 wks technically) he was suckling away on me like he'd been doing it forever. I produced that much (sometimes expressed 30-60ozs at a time) that the hospital had to freeze it. When we got hom continued for a few months (but did mix feeds as I could'nt express well without the electric pump) and eventually switched onto formula. According to the dr's, premmies are meant to be sickly for the first year, he's now 2 never had colds etc. Once in a blue moon he may get a temp or a runny nose but that's as far as it goes.
So just goes to show, both fed totally differently, both incredibly healthy. So whoever wants to bf, fantastic. Those who want to bottle feed, fantastic. Whatever suits both mum & baby is the best way as far as I'm concerned.
Whew sorry my lovelies about the essay!

Hope everyone's well.
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HK - you are naughty - god I must resist the urge! Only 3 and a bit weeks til I find out the sex - then I will be shopping with a vengeance.
As for the bf / bottle thing - do what suits you and your baby that is the most important thing.
Lysettes I agree with you about whipping them out in public! I never bf ds in a public place. Call me a prude but I preferred to either take ebm in bottles or formula out and about with me rather than make myself and other people feel uncomfortable. I know that's not how it should be, but in the real world that is how it is!
I do like all the names everyone is choosing - we have decided Freddie for a boy (I am convinced it is). I like floral names for girls, but most of the ones I suggest DH doesn't like.
So far we have agreed on Maisie, but he keeps pronouncing it Macy ( as in Macy gray - remember her), so I've told him if he doesn't learn to say it properly we'll have to change it :o

Hi all! In my lower abdomen have been feeling a rigid mass, about the size of my hand – turns out it’s the fetus’ back, from crown to rump! S/he has kicked enough for DH to feel once or twice … & gender scan is two weeks from yesterday!!

Bella, good news about your friend!

Mabel, you can pick them out a mile away, can’t you – those future psychologists’ case studies?

WHAT A PAIN you’re still deaf!!

TopBanana, you may not need them, depending upon how old you are … over here it’s now a “quad test” – though not sure what the fourth thing they’re measuring for is. at your MW!

Norms, when is your scan date? Will be thinking about you. Your MW does seem a bit standoffish.

Will only breastfeed for a few days (colostrum) this time. Loathe those who make it sound like it’s a must. If you’re interested I’ll tell you what OB/GYN said about it when I felt guilty abt stopping after 3 months with DS. (Bella, I really wasn’t comfortable with boobs doing that either.)

Puppy, 8 weeks seems way too long between appointments, to me. (every 4 weeks, here).