Due in August 2006. Part 3

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Hello

I mentioned that too Lockets.
He thinks that I'll cave in and end up telling someone but if he really doesn't want to know I will keep it quiet.

My other reason for finding out is that it will be less hassle trying to agree on a name

hi again - had a lovely boy. Recommend a water birth as yes, my labour was hot! But as someone's already said, much nicer doing night feeds in summer..

What a good idea writing the baby's sex down and putting it in an envelope is . We didn't find out with dd but had been thinking about finding out this time in case this 'threatened miscarriage' becomes an 'actual' one. We were worried about losing the baby and never knowing. We asked at our 16 week scan but sonographer said she couldn't be sure because she couldn't see boys bits as baby was very squashed. at 18 weeks if something went wrong I guess we would know when baby was born so now beginning to think I don't want to know. We loved the surprise last time. Baby would be going into 'winnie the pooh' yellow room anyway. Only thing we'd miss out on is all those pre-birth bargains at NCT sales!
I just need to resist that last minute impulse to ask during the scan... I'm terrible at christmas

Hi everyone, had a scan today & although saw baby dancing away, I have to go back next week to have a more detailed scan because they found some brain cysts and something in the abdomen that they couldn't identify. Cysts alone are not thought to be a problem but combined with other symptoms (which I don't appear to have) can mean a chromosone disorder called Trisomy 18. So am a bit freaked out and just know the next 5 days are going to go soooooo slowly.

Arabica, sorry to hear about your news, I know its hard but try and stay positive, I cant imagine whats going through your head at the moment. At least you will find out more next week and know for sure whats happening. I've never even heard of trisomy 18? If your not getting any other symptons you'll probably be ok.
Sending lots & lots of positive vibes your way
x x x x x

Arabica, sorry to hear that. Will be thinking of you. Do you have wait 5 days or can they do other tests?

Hi All, arabica, sorry to hear about your scan. Have you thought about having a private scan,seeing if you can get an appointment on Monday ?

My scan went well - although having had a private scan at 12 weeks, I really think private is worth it. I'm sure the scan today was fine & modern technology is great, but they just didn't seem to take the care the private women took. I am thinking of paying & having another - the screen was fuzzy & I just didn't get that excited feeling.

About getting the sex down - well I think mum & dad are entitled to know what they want. If your DH doesn't want to know, he'll have to leave the room - no reason why you shouldn't find out -you're carrying baby after all

Arabica - sorry to hear that. i hope the next fe days aren't too horrendous. good luck for next week. x

Not Ruth but hubby here, just to thank u for all yr support I know how much it means to Ruth.

This afternoon Ruth passed 2 massive clots, haematomas I think probably the 9x7x3cm blob on all our scans.

Ruth has been admitted to hospital for obs overnight, fingers and everything else crossed. If anyone can see this 5through my wondrous wife Ruthie can...

www.ukparents.co.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?t=37443

Ruth and Mr Ruth - crossing my fingers and thinking of you, sending you the best of all the positive thoughts and prayers. Hope she'll be back here soon.
xxx

Ruth & hubby, thinking of you.
Thanks for all the good wishes. It seemed to be the first available appt with the consultant in the fetal medical unit. So, no alternative but the wait. I don't like feeling out of control.

Ruth and Arabica - you are in my thoughts and prayers. It can't be easy, but I'm sure you are in good hands.

Had my scan yesterday - both babies are fine. Didn't find out the sexes, so it's four sets of names for us to wrangle over!

On the plane tonight and not looking forward to it, but glad I have the all-clear to travel. Thankyou everyone for your advice and kind wishes.

Ruth & hubby, thinking of you both and hope all turns out well. Will think positive thoughts for you both x.

Looks like a tough weekend for the August club.

My appointment with the physio has come through for 28 April. So just another 6 weeks of pain, then!

Oh my goodness Ruth and Arabica

Mr Ruth I have everything crossed for you both and hope to god everything is ok. Keep strong and positive.

Arabica
Just keep as busy as you can for the next few days and try your best to relax.
Did the hospital give you any info on Trisomy 18?

Gosh, it really does put silly things like wanting to find out the sex, in to perspective.

Lot's of hugs to you both.

I'm sorry but I shall be leaving you . I know I don't 'have' to but I'm sure you'll understand that I do have to go.

We gave it our best shot but our little boy, Isaac, came into the world too soon at just 18+3 days on Friday. He was so beautiful and perfect but the haemorrhaging became so bad that he didn't have a chance and I went into labour. He only survived for 20 minutes as we watched his little heart beating but it was a precious time.
He hung on for 6 weeks from the start of the threatened miscarriage but its been gradually downhill and we really needed a miracle. At times the bleeding lightened and we thought we had a chance. We found out today that a sub-amniotic bleed is even rarer than we thought - something that a few midwives may have heard of but are unlikely to ever come across. The collapsed amnion scenario on top is virtually unheard of. We wish we'd understood the urgency and asked for a second opinion sooner.
I don't know what else to say. We have so many mixed emotions. So many unanswered questions.

We wish you well with your pregnancies and hope things will go smoothly for you all. Arabica - especially thinking of you. I will miss this forum and don't know where else to go. I only found mumsnet a few weeks ago and people here have been so great. Thanks for the laughs and lightening our days.

Take care and thank you for all the support you have given
love
Ruth and Mark

Oh I am so so sorry.

I really don't know what to say.

I don't know if you have heard of an organisation called Sands?
I will do a link for you. They may be of some help to you and Mark.

Lots of love to you both and little Issac.
xxx

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Alot of people of MN have and are in touch with this organisation and provide excellent advice and support.

MN will help in lots of ways too.

xx

im so sorry for you both ruth and hubby and my prayers are with you at this difficult time
also thinking of you arabica fingers crossed til the next scan
hope evryone else is fine and p for2 i hope everything goes well with the flights and your dads funeral

Sitting here in tears for you, Ruthlouise. So didn't want this to be the outcome for you.

Totally understand you need to move on from this thread, but don't leave MN altogether. There really are so many people who can help you here.

Hope to see you around a bit as time goes on.

Oh ruth and mark, my thoughts and prayers are with you and little Isaac. I hope you find the strength you need.

take care
Olivo x

Ruth, Mark and Issac - you're all in my thoughts.

Ruth, Mark and Isaac, so sorry to hear what's happened. We were all hoping this wouldn't happen and anything I can type just seems so inadequate. You will always be a member of our thread.
Arabica

Thanks also for everyone's good vibes about my scan. Hospital didn't give me any information about anything, it's all stuff I dug up myself (am a health journalist so am probably too good at diging out worst-case scenario information!)
We are dealing with the endless wait until Weds by keeping as busy as we can, talking to friends for moral support and in my case treating myself to a visit to the bookshop for the new Kathy Reichs.