May Babies - Blooming? Us? Never!

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A new thread for the final 6-12 weeks! Nearly there girls!

Squidgymiller - sorry you are having these worries late on. My friend had an ECV at 39 weeks which is the policy here, then if it works they just monitor you a bit more closely until you go into labour, if it doesn't work then they do an elective section a day or two later.

With regards to section recovery, it is hard because you want to be feeling normal again quickly and it does take time. You are not meant to lift anything heavier than your baby for at least 6 weeks and you can't drive till then either. The scar is actually very well hidden where your bikini line is anyway, it's usually just below the hairline so they shave you a bit first to keep the area clear. Elective sections are (so people keep telling me) much easier to recover from than emergency ones. I had my emergency section after 24 hours of labour so I felt completely awful afterwards, but I'm told with an elective you are up and about either later that day or first thing the next, having a shower and mobilising gently. Prior to that you are catheterised and you may have a drain in the wound for a day or so, as well as a drip for antibiotics and saline as you cant drink much or eat on the day you have the operation. You do get good pain relief at the hospital and at home and your stiches are taken out at home after about 6 days by a midwife. You will have to arrange for some help at home for the first three weeks as you can't do very much. I hope this is an honest account, without being too scary, it does help to be prepared, but I hope you don't need to use any of it because the troublesome little one turns all by himself!!

Try not to worry too much till you get some more advice from the hospital and keep your chin up as much as you can

Hi all, checking in. 37 weeks now, and had enough! Want to get through ds's 3rd birthday party on Saturday, which will make me 38 weeks, and I will be ready to go then. Will start on rasberry leaf tablets and talk dh into sex. Probably have mentioned it before, but when I was hideously overdue with ds, I read that sperm was more effective if, ahem, administered orally... Much to dh's delight! Didn't bloody work, though hasn't stopped him mentioning it every five seconds this time around! I told him he is dreaming - I have trouble keeping food down!!

Oh, will put myself on the stats thread too. Good idea.

Bouj LOL , try telling him that shocking you with a ludicrously expensive present also works just as well.

Morning all! So here was I thinking about all my woes of generally feeling uncomfortable etc. and then I've just caught up with everyone elses news....and have decided to shut up as some of you appear to be having such a hard time of late! Alicats - so sorry to hear about your Mum - it must be such a difficult time for you.

I'm also very envious of those of you who have already given up work.....3 weeks and counting for me - although I guess two of those weeks are only 4 days so it's not too bad. Commuting is also beginning to wear me down a little - although fortunately my bump is still relatively compact. However this does mean it's more difficult to persuade others to give me their eats on the tube unless I really 'stick it out' so to speak!!

Had a lovely weekend with DH. dd went to a friends house for a sleepover and dh and I escaped to a lovely hotel for dinner, an overnight stay and an uniterrupted lie-in on Sunday. Sheer bliss and the last time we'll be able to do anything like that for a while. Cost a small fortune...but worth every penny.

So before I disappear - where is this new stats thread???

Also ladies - to those of you who are having a hard time - please try to take care of yourselves and rest up where possible......

Handbag - link further down, by cori I think. Sniggered at people not giving you their 'eats'. Had vision of you demanding bags of crisps and the like.

Morning all, just had a qquick re-read of the post since I was last about and just wanted to say how sad I am to read your news Ali...........must be a really hard time for you and not being able to go over and see your mum must be tearing you apart. Wish there was something I could say to make it better for you.

Nothing new to report over this way - apart from Dh has had a hideous tummy bug all weekend so I've been playing nurse..........knackered now! He has been really good and not whinged and moaned as men normally do when they are ill but all the getting up and down has taken it out of me none the less! He is pretty much better now but I've made him stay home today becuase he has no energy at all after the illness - and because he goes on a 3 day course tomorrow so I want some company while I can get it!

How sad is that?!

sqideymiller have you thought about accupunture?? suposed to work??? i'm in same postion however my friends turned at 39 weeks for her first...

Alicats, emotional rollercoaster is probably an understatement to describe how you’re feeling. My thoughts are with you and your Mum.

Everyone seems to be having an uncomfortable time of it.

After having scans and measurements galore today, I’ve been told that baby is too small. I get to 37 weeks on Thursday, and will see the consultant again then. She has said that inducing me before my due date is likely, as they will not let me go past my 40 weeks. Does anyone know why? Surely baby needs more time, not less, to develop?

Anyway, chin up everyone. I’m looking forward to meeting my little wiggle-bum! It’ll all be worth it then, I’m sure.

sometimes your placenta is not working efficently therefore they prefer them out so that you can feed them.

Consultant and MW have said our little bump is on the small side of normal too..... he did mention that we may need a CS at last visit ( partly as I have been quite poorly..... had Pneumonia in January.....in hospital on a drip and have thyroid problems).See him again this week..... i sometimes wish they wouldn't say things unless it was looking definite as it just makes me feel anxious. My Mum has been convinced that I will have a CS as i'm quite tiny (no surprise that baby is little !!!!!).
Have finished work now, feels v.strange.....swinging between uncontrollable excitement and overwhelming fear, sure that's normal!!??
By the way, bump is due on May 22nd 2006.

I have also heard that acupuncture can help turn a breech baby. It is also meant to be helpful for inducing labour. ( I am planning it at around 39 weeks) .

Sorry to hear about the baby being small, I think they will induce because the placenta is not working efficently. Did they give you any indication as to the size of the baby?

I have been told that my baby is big by one consultant and midwife, a scan told me it was the right size for dates, another midwife told me it was small. WHo knows if these things are right.

Exactly!!!!! as if we're not anxious enough, plus grown-up people are not all the same size are they??!!It all makes me feel a little teary today so i'm not going to worry about it....but will focus on looking at little baby clothes and the baby's room which is nearly finished!!!!

HI all

36 + 1 today and what a few days its been! Had to go to day assessment on Thursday as BP was up, protein in wee and swelling in hands and feet. All now ok and not pre-ecl thank god. Then i had to go back on Saturday as baby's heart rate was too fast. Again, all ok. Seeing mw again on Thursday to go through birth plan (HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!)

Going to the loo on average about 20 times a night (no joke) and am not therefore getting my sleep. DD (3.4) has also been ill over the last week which hasnt been easy but thats the way its gonna be from now on i guess!

So glad to have finished work - cannot imagine getting out the front door before 11am atm!

Hospital bag all packed and nursery nearly finished.

Hope you ladies are all ok. Take care X

Morning girls, how are we all feeling today? My other half has just gone off for a 3 day course with work which means him staying overnight.....feel ridiculously abandoned for some reason. Quite mad but can't hlep it! Going to have to focus on other things for the 3 days otherwise I will go mad.

36 weeks tomorrow and got the 2nd of our antenatal classes tonight, going with a friend. Think it is on pain relief and the whole birthing process so kinda wish DH was there but guess there is noting we can do about it.

Think I might spend the other time getting my hospital bags together as I haven't made a start yet and kind of feel like I should now really.

Anyway, hope everyone is feeling better today!

MIL sent me flowers today to cheer me up but it made me cry. What's up with that???

How lovely to have a MIL who sends you flowers, even if they did make you cry..... most things send my hormones into a bit of a spin, although am feeling quite calm today even though I have a mountain of ironing ( I am not exaggarating)sitting in the living room.
Am also quite excited as my friend is having twins TODAY, so am waiting to hear the news..... she doesn't know what she's having.

How often are your midwife appointments now?? I am 34 wks+2 and saw her 3wks ago and am seeing her at 37 weeks, i do see a Consultant aswell this week but seems that others see MW more often and that she actually gives advice..... am i missing something?

Runtus.... hope you are feeling okay with DH away, I don't think you're going mad as I to feel quite anxious when I'm on my own..... I never imagined that I would feel so vulnerable. It'a good idea to keep busy though isn't it??

Hope everyone else is well xx

Bubbles - after 32 weeks our midwives want to see you every two weeks...and then after 36 weeks, it goes to weekly. I know however that it's very difficult to compare each NHS area as they all seem to do their own thing entirely! Good thing is that you're still being seen regularly. If you were experiencing complications they would be expecting you to go more often I'm sure.

Main thing to remember though is that if you have any questions / concerns or things don't feel right, you should never wait until a check-up appointment to get it checked out. Our midwives work on the basis of being contactable whenever irrespective of your regular appointments.

Just realised I wrote I was 36 weeks this morning - so not right! I am 34 weeks tomorrow, must be wishing the time away!

Feeling a bit better about being home alone now...have just been to Asda and started stocking up on things for my Hospital bag to keep myself occupied. Got a couple of pairs of jim jams and some MASSSIVE pants , as well as some cartons of fruit juice and other stuff. Feel like I have achieved something now!

In answer to the question about how often MW's want to see us - mine is sticking to the every two weks thing and I can;t see it changing for a bit. So long as there is nothing wrong, they seem happy to ignore me!

Hi girls,

36 weeks today and this am they agreed and booked my c-section. It will be on the morning of 3rd may. Now its done I'm so nervous but they did reassure me it is for the best!!

only 3 weeks to go then now!

Hi, haven't posted on here for ages but started my maternity leave yesterday so now have time to do all the things I've been meaning to for weeks. Am 36 weeks so started to pack my hospital bag this morning, dd was late but there's always a chance this one could decide to be early. I saw the midwife yesterday and everything was fine, have to go to the hospital next week, think I will have to book a date for a c-section as they won't induce me as had a section last time. I'd like to try for a VBAC so will try and book as late as they'll let me.
Hope you are all doing OK

helsi why are you having a c section? i'm just being nosy!

I have very bad SPD and following the failed delivery last time and emergency section due to SPD they agreed to do one this time to avoid the posisble after effects I suffered last time.

Hiya Everyone

Thanks very much for all your kind words with regards to my mum, I managed to get to see her and spend the day with her over last weekend. I was very heartbroken to see her as she is 1/4 of the woman she used to be, I cried my eyes out the first time I saw her as I was so shocked to see how bad she really is, unfortunely it seems that she has a very rare form of C and therefore it has really taken hold of her in the last week or so. I'm sad to say that it is now just a matter of time and there is nothing more that can be done. Its her birthday next week and then the baby due in 4 weeks so I'm hoping that she will hold out until then but to be honest I don't like to see her struggerling like she is I'd rather her suffering was over. Don't get me wrong I do not know what I will do or how I'm going to cope when it does happen but I just don't want to see her suffering anymore.

I'm sorry if this upsets you I'm not meaning it to, but I find it hard to tell people how I'm really feeling face to face.

Back to the pregnancy, I'm now 36 weeks, will find out tomorrow if baby is still breech and whether they are going to try and turn the baby, which to be honest I don't really fancy I'm frightened that it will cause more problems, also they are supposed to confirm if I'll have to have a C section as I would really like to try for a VBAC if I possibly can.

Once again thanks for your kind words and I hope that you are all feeling well

Huggs xx

Wow Alicats, this must be such a bittersweet time for you. Thinking of you.