November 2012 - a couple of early arrivals, please will the rest stay put!

[StuntNun]

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With DS1 I was in a week and had my own room after two days. Discharged myself in the end. Watching Midwives this week got me a bit upset as it brought it all back and I thought I had got over it. Weird.

Last time I spent six hours on the labour ward afterwards and then got to go home which was really nice. Quiet, one on one care and then home. Spent the rest of the afternoon asleep on the sofa at home.

Private room was much better for sleeping but I did feel a bit lonely after a week. The breastfeeding support was great though.

Oh so cold and so tiered although cant complain, BFF 30th bday treat. Off to clampham for a spa mornin. And a mum to be massage for me

I will be getting a private room, I don't know exactly but I think it's £60 a night. But DH insisted I go to Ealing hospital so he can pay for my room. .

tits what do u mean u skin split?!?!

LO has a range of clothes from asda to gap to next to a beautiful little shop in town its called pratically perfect and everything is second hand but in such great condition. i got my travel system from there 10 weeks ago used once and its lovely it was a bargain for 90 quid.

i have only been thinking about staying in the hospital for the last week or so. last time it was horrible and i was ringing my mum at 4 in the morning to come get me.
i think it had something to do with the midwifes in there though as they werent very nice to me. i remember it was about half 2 in the morning (about 3 hours after id given birth) i was 18 when i had DD and because of the gas and air i was really feeling faint asked if i could go outside to get some air and this snotty old midwife said to me "if you dont come back within 15 mins i AM NOT going to call out a search party" i looked at her in complete astonishment and thought u cheeky bitch just because im young doesnt mean im going to leave my daughter here and do a runner i was fuming!!!

i hope they are better this time around and treat me like a human being. i should have complained really and thinking back to it now has really fooking pissed me off!!!

mrswee it was me who recommended this pump from amazon. I was admitted to hospital for 4 weeks after my daughter was born and they suggested I express so I could have a rest for one of the night feeds. I was initially using a tommee tippee manual which was just ok but hard work on the wrists! In fact I was so tired the midwives used to pump the handle while I held the shield onto my boob! My mum did some research and bought me that pump as a surprise, it was so so good. I used to get loads expressed in a really short time frame. You can also add another shield on for something like £7 if you want to use it as a double but to be honest it was so quick it wasn't necessary for me. I rave about this pump!!

I had a horrible dream last night as well Tits. I had my gorgeous baby boy and was just rearranging his blanket on a trip out when I realised I'd lost my stepsons. I was running around searching for them and everyone kept telling me I was an awful person and clearly didn't love them any more now I had my own baby

But last night I felt a foot beneath my fingertips. I'm getting so excited about meeting him and am sure my love for him won't see me lose the children I already have

Thanks Izzy I've put it on my amazon wish list. I used a borrowed medula double electric the last time. It was ok, not sure if it was me or if it was the pump but I could never get much, I don't think I was very relaxed.
I went out for a drink one night when DD was about 4 months, it was my first time out and when I got home I used the pump to get rid of the boozy milk... I got loads in seconds, typical. I must have been very relaxed!

I think the pump I used that last time, will be with someone else so I'll have to buy one this time.

With DD1 I was in a private room as hospital policy was to give NHS staff a room if possible. Hated it. So lonely and MWs were horrid.

With DD2 I had a section, but was still on the ward. Loved it. Wouldn't have slept anyway, so didnt worry about the hustle and bustle. The company of the other mums was lovely, plus visitors did not stay as long.

With this one, one of my clients is due at the same time, so there is no way I will be in a ward with her. Been to too many child protection meetings with her kids for that to happen, so would demand a private room, otherwise I would be at risk of verbal abuse, if not more.

have you seen this

I actually remeber wanting this whe I was expressing with DD. when I look at it ow, it seems ridiculas! I bet I go back to wanting one!

I'm with VQ going against the private room. My DH wanted to get a private room for me both times but I refused and not just because I'm a skinflint. I was in six days with DS1 and three days with DS2 but I was worried that in a private room I'd be all by myself all the time as the visiting hours are short and very strict. I was also worried that the midwives wouldn't come to me when I needed them. There were a few times when I pressed the help button and only a cleaner came whereas when you're on the ward at least you can call out to a midwife when they're in seeing someone else. They're talking about letting me out after six hours with this one so I hope everything goes smoothly and I can get home.

It was definitely loneliness that got to me stunt. My husband could stay with me all day but when he went at 8.30 I was staring at four walls. I loved the six hour discharge last time as I had time to myself (middle of the night so DH went home) and then home.

Thanks for the recommendation Izzy I must get that ordered as I've been dithering for weeks about breastpumps. MrsWee they have changed the recommendations on 'pump and dump' after drinking alcohol. Apparently the alcohol passes out of the breastmilk at the same time as it leaves your blood - your liver processes about one unit an hour. So the latest advice is to not feed your baby for a couple of hours after drinking alcohol (depending on how much you've had to drink.)

My other bfing tip is that you can leave your baby for a night if you take a pump with you and express. I did this at a wedding when DS1 was a baby and it meant I could leave him with my mum for 24 hours without getting engorged or affecting my milk supply. It killed me to dump the milk though but we were camping so there was no way to keep the milk.

Just had the best news for a long time. My ex landlord has been charged with harrassment and criminal damage and been handed an order preventing her and her partner from contacting me in any way. So relieved the whole mess is finally over!

Survived the first night of dh working nightshifts. In hindsight having the bed and the tv to myself was actually quite lovely - I could get quite used to it! Off out for lunch, a much needed catch up and some baby shopping with my mum today. Can't wait, I've not seen her on her own for months! (we used to always do lunch together on a friday)

Needing a bit of advice with breastpumps. I don't want to spend a fortune until I know it's for me but saw last night tescos have the tommee tippee closer to nature manual one half price this week. It's only £12.50 so figured it was worth a punt even if I didn't use it or we invested in an electric one at a later date. Before I buy it though, has anyone got any horror stories with using one? Or any other recommendations.

MissMummy I used the Tommee Tippee manual pump with DS2 and found it brilliant, it's only the electric one that has a bad reputation. I only used a manual pump for DS1 and DS2 and they're fine for expressing once a day. I'm only getting an electric pump this time because I have tendinitis.

I remember when I spilt a bottle of expressed milk. I cried so hard. It is very precious stuff. And when they leave some in the bottle... Grr!

missmummy the tommee tippee manual is what I used initially with my daughter. It was fine but hard work if you were going to be expressing more than once a day like stuntnun has said. For that price you can always see how you get on with it and buy an electric one if you feel it's necessary. It did the job for me in that I got milk it just took a while and my wrists were agony, but I have problems with one of my wrists anyways! I think I paid a tenner for mine in the asda event before my daughter was born and that was 3 years ago now. It definitely was worth a tenner cos I did use it. You may decide you don't like expressing or your baby may not take a bottle anyway so at least with £12.50 you haven't wasted money and if you do decide electric is how you want to progress them amazon have fast delivery as well. this site is the manufacturer of the spectra and has next day delivery also in the event you want it ASAP. They've been fab with me as I lost a tiny piece of mine and I emailed them and they sent it to me free of charge and included a few wee pregnancy and breast feeding samples too which I thought was a lovely touch.

IVe got the tommee tippee breast pump too it's v good I'll be using it again.

Meeting up with a friend later who is preg with her first. We've only recently become friends by talking on fb because she's preg it feels like we have more in common now but I've known her for a couple of years.

Ive seen threads on pregnancy about itchy bumps in the past....Ive never bothered to read because Ive never had one...BUT OH MY GOD...anyone else got one? Im in a lot of discomfort it is only my bump...is it my skin stretching ? HELP

Mine is sore under my ribs, skin and ligaments. Think it's stretchy skin and something going on with the ligaments which I've damaged in the past cracking my ribs! I just keep putting on the moisturiser? When do stretch marks appear?

Stretch marks can appear any time during pregnancy or even non pregnancy...Ive read of people never getting them and people who think theyve escaped them but found some the day before they gave birth

Thanks ladies, that's all I needed to hear! I'm sucha ditherer, I hate making decisions.

Touchwood bio oil seems to have kept stretch marks at bay - a small miracle as I've quadrupled in size!!

I occasionally get an itchy bump but it's usually satisfied with a good scratch. However, itchy boobs are a bit of a mission to itch in public!!!

hahaha peaky i know exactly what you mean (itchy nipple in public is a nightmare)

with DD my stretch marks didnt appear till i was about 35 weeks and my god my belly looked like a map. i wasnt impressed but about a yr after i gave birth they went silver and now with this pregnancy i have been slapping on the moisturiser. seems to be keeping them tamed atm. some people have said theirs went really red and sore again but mine seem to have stayed the same and as my belly grows they seem to disappear a little is that because the mosturiser can soak right into them? i hope so.

spring cleaning for the last 2 hours and then of out this afternoon but dont know where at the moment.....decisions decisions

Watching some v cute snowsuits on eBay. I thought they are hardly worn for v long in the early days and some of them are in great condition from mamas and papas etc for a few quid- bargain!

I'm stretch mark free (am thanking regular applications of bio oil by DH) on my bump (let's not talk about my hips and fat arse) so far but my sis developed some corkers in the last week of her pregnancy so I'm bound to get some :(

I've decided I'm going to organise maternity tourism tours to Orkney - up here we can stay in a private room for up to 6 days until breastfeeding is established (and given that there are very few other Mums you get the mws to yourself) if you live on the more remote islands they ship you in 2 weeks before your due date so there is a telly, kitchenette, lounge, library and hopefully someone to chat with on the matty ward but room enough for everyone to sleep in private rooms. I'm thinking about staying in until feeding is established as it'll give my sister chance to fly up from south (we've booked her a flexible ticket so she can rearrange the dates when we know what is happening) and we can head home from hospital together. Otherwise a new baby, stormy weather and battling bringing wood and coal in for the heating system is going to be a pig. We will have to teach my sister how to cook on the Rayburn though.... Hmm maybe it'll be easier if I end up giving birth south as much as I want to give birth up here.

Ta for the tip on the spectra 3 electric pump - have just got that so that's one of the last big items ticked off the list.

Wah... it's getting close isn't it...

I was stretch mark free til about week 33ish then I got hundreds. I don't know if that means I won't get more this time because the skin is already stretched?