December 2012 christmas puddings

[PrunellaDeVille]

over here, that came around suddenly

hahaha Spotty - that sounds about right (i warned you i was stupid!)

Crochet :)

I'm working on a bamboo/snowflake teddy motif blanket and some cotton/poly mix cellulars plus stash cardis. Trying to work out dungarees but might just hang on til i can get to the sewing machine for that!

I got some lovely teal proper wool in Latvia that a friend is going to knit into a soaker for me :o

Phew painting is finally finished and lounge is looking lovely so worth it.

Now thinking about the boys room as now we know it's a girl we're going to have to do some shifting about and I think we should sort it before december. DH isn't so sure, I just feel that I can then get all the toys/clothes sorted out and even end up with a few empty toy boxes in their room ready for the big day so that I don't have it to do with a newborn. It would also free up a room for a playroom/ nursery which I think I'll be grateful for.

Cod, I'm doing all my shifting now because i reckon it'll be sooooo much harder with a baby around!

Well done on the decorating Cod.

bubbles i got the new born pampers 4-11lbs!! They look big but i doubt ill have a big baby!!

I love all the baby talk!! I wish i could knit. My mums friend can and shes knitting my son some super cool jackets i wish i could proudly show them off!! Jackets to sweaters to cardys.

Off to town tuesday to shop for nappies and im excited is that normal???! Got 20 i can spent on myself or buy cute boy clothes i think i might do the clothing!!!

Glad everyone is doing well.

Dd was in newborn size one nappies until she was 12 weeks. It's really hard to tell until you know the shape of your baby. Also you might find that one brand suits them better than others so it can be difficult to stock up before the birth.

COD a productive day by the sounds of it! I definitely think you should sort out the rooms etc before you have the baby

COD- we're debating when to move DD. We're putting her into a bigger room, which she'll share with the baby for a few years.

I'm thinking it's best to move her soon so it becomes about her moving to a bigger room, and not about the baby who's just turned up and forced her out of het room. But we've had a week and a half of sleeping through, finally, and don't want to disrupt that if we don't have to!

I think I'll work on it and he should agree

My mum has knitted a lovely cardi for baby with a little hood. Just need to find her a few more patterns now!

I moved ds recently so I wasn't doing it too close to my due date. I think noes prob easier and could be better for younger ones who may feel jealous/pushed out etc. I put dd out of her cot at 18 months so she didn't feel 'the baby' (ds) was pushing her out of it. This time they're both big enough for me to tell them to stop being silly! Lol

Is anyone else finding it hard not the be self conscious of the bump? Even at my fittest not very, just relatively I've never been toned and flat there and in my head it's my worst feature. I really want to be proud of it but i really odd and uncomfortable in clothes that make it more prominent, just like i did when something clung wrong when i wasn't pg

Am i just weird?

pidj I think it will get easier when you're further along and the bump is less, er, squidgy! I still worry people just think in fat or have post baby belly still from dd!

I just got my next four scan appointments through next one three weeks Wednesday

Quick vent needed. We have consultant appt this afternoon and I really need to plead my case for an ELCS and could really do with DP's support. He's normally brilliant and comes along to everything but is in the middle of painting (has student houses that he rents out). I reminded him this morning of the appt and he acts like it's the first he's heard of it (it's not!), and starts saying "I don't know if I can, I need to get the painting done" etc. and says he'll ring me at 1 to let me know if he can (appt at 2). I said that's no good, as I don't want to go on my own and would need to arrange for a friend to come with me if not. He just says "oh" and goes out to the garage to get ready for work. Then he comes back in when he's leaving and says "see you later then". I asked what's going on then, is he coming or not and he says really sarky "er YES, that's why I said see you later". I told him I'm not a mind reader and that could've meant see you this evening. He just said "oh for god's sake" and walks out. Feel very hormonal and want a cry but DS is here and I don't want him to know I'm upset. Sorry, rant over!!

Oh knotty how annoying! My dp gets arsey about having to take time off for appointments too, I don't think they understand the stress it causes! Hopefully he will have realised he wasn't very nice and be sorry when he comes to meet you later. Have a cup of tea and a slice of cake :)

Just to give you all a giggle - DH cycles into work each day and this morning when he got in he Skyped me to tell me that my baby brain must be rubbing off on him because he has managed to...forget his trousers!! So he's off to Oxford Street now to get a pair to wear for the day Oh, I'm not going to let him forget about this in a hurry! It definitely beats me putting the toilet roll in the fridge!

Thanks Spotty . Feel better now for letting off steam and had a lovely text from a old friend who's just heard our news and he said some really sweet things! WeeJo, that's hilarious! DP did something similar a few years ago when he left for work in a hurry (I'd already gone out) and he phoned me at lunchtime to say he needed to pop out to Wickes and couldn't because he'd gone out in his boxers only instead of proper shorts! They were also a very old pair of boxers that weren't exactly "intact" - serves him right for refusing to throw anything away!

Really suffering from lack of sleep. Was in tears yesterday cause I was so grumpy and tired. Last night wasn't much better and I've had to call in sick to work. Please tell me this will pass and isn't how the next year will be

gils i was suffering really badly with sleep deprivation and i found that sleeping whenever your body tells you to is the only way you survive! if getting into bed feels like its making you more awake (used to for me!) then nap on the sofa with something on in the background, hope you get some sleep soon!!

spotty 4 appointments?! have i missed something?! am i meant to be booking more?!
panics.....

really worrying about money at the mo, DP has a load of debt (£1000 of which is to me!) and is trying to pay it all off- but that leaves me to buy everything for bubba (which he wants to pay back) and eurgh- going in a circle at the mo!

we want to put all of our money together- but he doesnt want to until hes payed off his debt because it isnt only to me, its to his family and stuff from before i knew him, and he doesnt want to use 'some of my money' to pay it as it will all be together iyswim? why do i feel that this will never resolve!!
how is anyone else handelling this if they currently have seperate accounts to dp's?!

Bubbless I have a seperate account to DH but I'm not sure I'll be of much use as we've been splitting costs etc for a long time.

The way we work it is he pays the majority of the bills, I give him £500 a month (tax credit money + extra) and pay the council tax £150, then I pay for my purchases on the credit card (which include all food shopping and petrol) it works out we each have about the same amount left over each month so I think it's a fair way of splitting (and I can still buy things for his birthday etc without him seeing on a statement!

With my XH it was a lot harder because he used to get into debt (part of the reason he's my x). But if you trust your dp to have a seperate account you peob need to sit down. Work out what comes in/goes out and a good split. Then he can use his 'surplus' to pay off debts (unless interest is being accused in which case if you are capable iv paying them off sooner and him repaying you, this would be the better option)

I hope you manage to work it out. Money can be a stressful subject esp with a new baby coming. But with dd and ds I survived with £20 a week after all bills were paid (before food shopping) whilst both were in nappies, babies need very little really, so try not to stress!

Huge un-MNty hugs to you!

Bubbless I'm diabetic so get extra scans, every cloud and all that!

With regard to money dp and I have our own accounts and a joint one. He earns more than three times what I do so I put £460 in a month and he puts £1250. This covers all bills: rent, council tax, water, electric, car tax, all insurance, food, petrol, car loan, tv licence, phone (you get the idea ). Our own phone bills and personal credit card payments come out of our own money which we have left and we also use this for any gifts/extras/outings throughout the month. Baby things will be coming out of this too, I expect I will pay for online purchases and dp will pay for in store purchases this seems to be what we normally do! I hope that makes sense and helps a bit

purplepidjin I don't think it's weird.. I was an 8/10 before but for about a month and a half until about a week ago just looked all thick round the middle, which I hate. Am really hoping to start looking properly pregnant though..

weejo8 your post made me laugh! my DH cycles to work too, would love it if he forgot his trousers, I'm normally the dippy one..

stacey thank you for sharing, some people get a bit arsy when it comes to the 'money sitch'!
your way seems to work out much better than ours! ive already used a massive chunk of my savings to pay off his argos card, his credit cards x2, his wonga account and to give his sister the money he owed her.. so all of the debt is to me and his family. trouble is, in paying off the debt to me / his family hes getting into more because im using my savings to buy stuff for the baby! he has only bought one baby grow and ive bought a pram, a carrycot, a moses basket.......

you do it so you have the same amount left, which id love to do... but alas we dont :(
at the mo its split so we pay half each towards the rent/ the bills/ the food, which is all very well and good but i only earn about 800 a month, he earns 13, 1400?
and somehow i still have savings and he doesnt!
i will put your way forward to him i think!!

thank you spotty, it seems im the only muggings person to be splitting everything in half even though i earn a lot less!!
ohh! i was going to say congrats.. but your diabetic.. but you know what i mean!!

i think my EDD's been moved, can anyone shed any light on this..

HELP!

Bubbless I think our way does seem fairer than yours tbh. Have a chat with him. Just be honest and tell him you can't see this working out with the way things are at the moment.

stacey- i would, but everytime we talk about money it ends in an arguement as hes a caveman worried he 'cant provide'

what doesnt help was his parents last night telling him he may as well live in debt and 'be happy' than have savings and die and not be able to spend it... i dont think baby brain is changing me this much, but thats pretty stupid?!?!

I've had the same 'can't provide' discussion with DH as I can't give up work after this baby is born. He's finding that hard. But unless you can get him to talk about it things aren't going to change!

His parents are idiots, sorry but true. Xhs mum used to be like that, everything on the 'never never' (credit) as she called it. I found out 6 months after our wedding that XH had racked up 20k of debt over the previous year that I knew nothing about!

I'm not saying your dp would do anything like that but the 'debt isn't a problem' is a risky pov to hold!