Due in March 2013

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Hi all, feeling a bit wobbly today. I have had some brown-ish discharge every day since Sunday. There's hardly anything there but just once or twice a day it's there when I wipe or there's a small stain on the panty liner. So me being me, I've managed to convince myself that this is it, I'm going to lose this pregnancy. Can anyone talk me down a bit and reassure me? The doctor asked me today if it was heavy discharge - I said no, but what constitutes heavy discharge/spotting?

hello nutbiscuit, this sounds like something lots of women on here have experienced, so try not to panic yet. I really don't have any expertise but what you describe does definitely not sound 'heavy'.

hello and welcome sarah. glad to have you with us, and thanks for explaining your understandable hesitation about joining another list. I really hope you will be with us through till 2013!

poor kkforever - take care of yourself today. I'm sure this yukky stage will pass?

tiddley that does sound like an extra complicated house move! crikey! I think you are holding together very well in the circs! BRILLIANT to get out and about :-) nicely distracting :-)

thanks for the work and travel advice tiddley and pipsicles. getting across London at the best of times is a pain so I will definitely have to think about travel arrangements carefully, but not all these events are crucial and I can always pull out at the last minute. I think (hope) people would be very understanding.

and pipsicles your 'pg moment' made me laugh a LOT! I did wonder what your first post was about, hehe!

Nutbiscuit, for what it's worth (and I have lots of mc experience!), brown is not necessarily a problem. Red is not so good but still does not automatically mean an mc. Take care, rest lots and try to keep some PMA. If you can't put your mind to rest, go to the EPU. What's your gestation?

Thanks mandasand and sarah. I'm not entirely sure of my gestation. Based on my LMP, I'm 8+2, but I had a bit of a weird cycle and I think I'm actually just over 5 weeks. With regard to the EPU, I had a look online for my nearest one - can you just phone them up directly and ask to come in or do you need to be referred by a GP?

I've just found out my levels have dropped so im having a mc. they want to scan tomorrow to double check its not growing in my tube
thanks for the support and good luck everyone xxx

mother really sorry to hear that. I hope you have some good RL support to offer you comfort at the moment.

And big hugs to all those still going through stressful times. I had some more brown blood yesterday but other than that all seems ok - the left hand side twinges have gone as well so FX that was just a blip rather than anything else but we shall see. DH and I are still not thinking about whether there'll be another person in this house come March, we'll just wait and see what the 12 week scan brings.

With DD1 I worked up to 38 weeks. I had a 30 mile commute to work each way as well as occasional trips to London but I wanted to leave it as late as possible to go on mat leave so that I got the max amount of time afterwards. In the end, the MW told me I had to work from home a couple of days a week for the last few weeks as my BP wasn't great and I had a very understanding boss.

And as for those with house moves, my sympathies! We finally completed the purchase of our new house in May and it took nearly 4 months which was ridiculous as neither of us were in chains (we're in rented atm). We're now having lots of work done to the place which is stressful enough and will be moving in at the end of next month whether it's ready or not (have handed in notice on this place now) which will be interesting as we may not have a kitchen and possibly not a bathroom either...

Good luck to everyone with scans today and hope to hear some positive news x

I think it might depend on your area. Give the EPU a call and see. Normally in my area (London) you need a gp referral first but then subsequently you can go in any time if you have bleeding.

mother so sorry to hear that.

sarah Sorry I forgot to welcome you to the thread. Welcome :)

motherof so sorry to hear that :( hope you're ok.

Nut sorry to hear you're having a worrying day. When I had brown spotting and then light red bleeding (and quite bad tummy pains) all through Sat/Sun, I called up the hospital and was put through. They said that normally it goes through GP or community midwife, but they were really nice and gave advice anyway, and brought me in for a scan. Like you I had convinced myself it was a miscarriage but it turned out to be a separate bleed. I just wanted to know either way though of course.

Mother So sorry to hear your news, please be strong and let your family and friends help you get through this

sarah welcome

fingers crossed for the others, will check back later,

don't seem to have much sickness today, poor bodies can't win, we moan when we're sick and worry if we're not

Oh and good luck with house moves I will not share my experience, needless to say we'll not be doing it again in a hurry, although it all worked out for the best and we are in a better house than the one we thought was our dream house!

motherofone sorry to hear your news, hope you have support.
I'm so tired today & really struggling, got a team dinner tonight and a webinar in 40mins and am literally nodding off at my desk! Really hope this stage passes quickly

motherofone .. So sorry that this pg has not worked out for you. It is an awful time waiting for the mc to start and I can only send you mental support across the t'internet to help you at this time. Do you have rl friends to lean on?

I spoke to the midwife just now as I have fcked up my folic acid and had a COMPLETE meltdown to DH last night. I have been taking half the recommended dose for the past 2 weeks and evil* dr google informs me that those 2 weeks are just when the spine is fusing (or not). Cue lots of insane googling and self berating. Midwife was cometely unbothered and reassured me completely. I love her. I may name my baby Ruth after her, even if it is a boy.

Why does pregnancy make us such wobbly, paranoid wrecks? I am quite a together person in normal times, honest!

I have lost the support of the one person i truly loved and was my best friend. he left me when i needed him the most.

I have to have a scan tomorrow but i don't want to move i just want to curl up and let time go by not just for my relationship but also my pregnancy.

Feeling pretty low right now and will be dropping off this feed.
Thanks to everyone and good luck with your babies.
Xx

motherofone I'm so sorry to hear your bad news, and especially sorry you don't feel you have the RL support you need. We're all here for virtual hand holding.

Fx for all of today's scans. Hope you get to see healthy little beans in there.

Mother I am so sorry to hear about your situation. MC is hard at the best of times, so I can't begin to imagine what it must be like for you. I think I've said it before, but I found the miscarriage board so helpful during my mmc in April. It really helped to be able to 'speak' to other people going through the same thing. I'd definitely recommend it, particularly if your rl support is not as you'd want it.

All the best and look after yourself.

Had scan today after slight brownish bleed on Monday. They said that the embryonic sac was empty. They told me they needed to scan in a week's time to confirm that it was a failed pregnancy but that there wasn't really any hope that things would be okay. They said I just have to wait to miscarry. I can't believe it. I was actually looking forward to the scan. After freaking when I saw the blood on Monday I had completely convinced myself things would be fine. I had no pain. No blood on Tuesday. No blood this morning. And my HCG had come back as completely normal for a 5 to 6 week pregnancy. I was slightly disconcerted that I don't feel pregnant but not everyone does at this stage, right? So I was confidently expecting to see a little heart beat. But there was nothing. Just a black still hole where my baby should have been. I don't know how I am going to cope just waiting to miscarry. And I really don't want to go back for a scan just to see that black hole again. I really, really thought this pregnancy was it - that it was meant to be. I'm 39. I have pcos. I just don't think I have it in me to start trying again. And poor Dh. He's devastated

:( what devestating news for both motherofone and random. God I am so very sorry for you both.

mother I hope there is someone in RL who can help you through this next few weeks & that there are blue skies ahead for you and dd, with someone who is truly a best friend to you.

random what a huge shock and horrible day you've had. I don't know what to say. Please look after yourself - and post on the miscarriage boards where there are women who can help you register and come to terms with what has happened.

Huge hugs to you both, we are just so sorry to lose you under such unhappy circumstances xx

thanks Tiddley. Do you know where I can find the miscarriage boards? I can't find them?

I'm so sorry to hear that random, I am gutted for you. That must have been so awful. So sorry. x

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

Ps here is the miscarriage board.

randomswitch and motherofone I am do sorry to hear your news. Really am. Like someone else said, I found the miscarriage boards really supportive when I had my MMC in feb, you can find them in the 'body and soul' topic.

Hope everyone else is ok. Xxx

I'm so sorry random. What a horrible shock for you and DH. :( I hope you both have lots of RL support. My thoughts are with you.

motherofone" and random* im sorry to hear what you have gone through. Thinking of you both. :(

random how many weeks are you?

random I'm so sorry,

Ted don't panic about folic acid dose, if you eat a healthy diet you will be getting folic acid anyway, its just the body doesn't store folic, so tablets are just extra insurance,