Due in March 2013

[Leftwingharpie]

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Urgh, my DH will be lucky!!! Think I'll stick to marmite.

Oh Jessi you poor thing. Sorry to hear you're going through such an agonising wait. I have heard of people bleeding all the way through the first tri (including a good friend whose daughter is now 2), so have my fingers doubly crossed for you that this is all it is. What a stress. xxx

thanks posypoo

hahaha bb!! Too funny!

jessi you poor thing, how awful for you. I have everything crossed for a happy result at your scan & meantime send much love & support. It is quite possible that you conceived 5-6 days after sex - sperm are resourceful things & I know another mnetter whose dd was conceived 'with 5 day old sperm'. Try to rest as much as you can.

bb words can't suffice...!!

Jessi, sorry to hear about the spotting and bleeding. It's horrible just waiting, but do take heart from the experience of others and look after yourself and what we are all hoping is a healthy little beansprout. :-)

bbface, my DH would LOVE that factoid! I may surprise him tomorrow morning to see if it is true (all int he interests of science, you understand!)

Yes, tiddleypompom, the photos make pregnancy more real than any diagrams. Makes me want to take extra care over diet and everything else! Also trying to 'listen' to my body a lot more. Sleeping when I'm tired, not burning candle at both ends with overworking, and yesterday I went for a little jog by the river (a really light, low impact, nearly walking jog!) but after about a mile my body was telling me to stop so I did the rest of the route walking instead.

Aw jessie so sorry to hear you're having a traumatic time of things. As posypoo said, I know lots of people who bled in early pregnancy (including me) and went on to have healthy babies. Nothing you can do now though other than look after yourself. We'll all be thinking about you.

suzy - huge congrats to you and your husband. That's amazing news!

countess - I do keep trying to follow your strategy (not thinking about it too much at this stage) but in the main I fail miserably. It definitely helps having the dd though since if she's about she certainly demands my full attention! I think I was even worse at this stage last time.

Lovely news re the scan sleep.

pips - I've booked in for a private scan when i'll be around seven weeks since, unless an emergency, I can only really do Saturdays.

harpie - your mil sounds difficult. It must be really tough for her with everything she went through but, as has already been said, this is a different pregnancy (yours!) and time.

bbface and posypoo - very jealous of your feeling good phases to pregnancy last time. I seemed to skip the blooming point altogether. My skin and hair is normally pretty good (even if I do say so myself ) but when pregnant last time i got pretty bad dandruff combined with greasy hair and spots. It was difficult to feel too good about myself. I've got a pretty hideous spot at the moment on my chin. It could be unconnected to pregnancy (or i suppose related but only as a reflection of my increased crap intake) but it's been months since I had one like this so looks like I could be in for more of the same. Joy! I also regret teaching my daughter the word 'spot'...

Little to report otherwise other than i think i'm coming down with a cold (really sore throat) and I am fed up of getting soaked to the skin. It's one thing constantly carrying a brolly around with you in summer it's quite another to feel like you should pack a spare pair of socks/tights because you've really appreciated them the past few days...

Hope everyone feeling rough is taking care of themselves!

jessie, it's not over til it's over so hold on. One thing I really noticed in my last m/c when I started bleeding is that I felt my cervix (sorry!) and I could tell that it was quite soft and really 'open' which it shouldn't have been. So might be worth checking. But as everyone says bleeding is surprisingly normal and if the red blood has subsided that is deffo a good thing.

Can I ask everyone, and sorry to be daft as i already have a DD (but was pregnant in 2006 so a bit hard to remember), when does the morning sickness start? Week 5, week 6? I know everyone is different but just wondering what to expect. Last time it was all a blur of eating mash potatos and drinking Yazoo so I just can't recall....

Also tinkerbella, where do you go for a private scan? As I don't have a GP at the moment and am between cities, I may need to do this rather than wait. I will google it but would be good to know. Im in Oxford but could go to London if required.

Tinker poor you feeling crap the entire pregnancy last time. I've a friend who also never bloomed. She claims she isn't the blooming type! Am jealous that you usually have good skin and hair though. It was the opposite for me. Lovely hair, skin and nails in late pregnancy, but I very soon went back to looking like a washer woman! Btw my DD is obsessed with spots since having chicken pox, and frequently tries to pick mine!

Suzy I think it def varies. I was feeling utterly normal til Monday but have spent the last two days feeling RUBBISH (am just 7 weeks). But a friend of mine said she never had morning sickness. Another was throwing up from 4 weeks til the day the baby was born.

(Ooh Yazoo, there's a thought).

Ignore my last post - private scan information found!

hi suzydelarosa, I'm also in Oxford and would be interested in the info on private scans if you wouldn't mind sharing? If it's not too pricey I may go for it, just to settle the anxiety...

Hi mands... I found these two. Both not cheap. One at John Radcliffe. the other a bit out to the west:

www.oxfordfetalmedicine.com/
www.beardmillclinic.com/

I dare say if you went into Emergency and said you were worried about cramping and bleeding they would scan you but that seems a bit duplicitous!

Thanks so much, suzy! yes, not exactly cheap, are they?! But good to know, just in case the anxiety gets out of control. I think if I had any bleeding I'd be heading to A&E straight away, but I'm not a good liar otherwise :-) Hope your scan goes really well, if you decide on an early one...xx

Oh Jessi how scary. And what an agonisingly long time to wait until your next scan. Keep posting is the only advice I can give. We'll all keep our fingers crossed for you. Someone's got to be the guy with the really supersonic longlife sperm! Let's hope it's your DH.

Tiddley I had a Greggs feast today! A really disgusting looking mild cheddar and pickle baguette (which naturally I ate all of) and a gingerbread man!

Anyone taking folic acid yet?
I'm five weeks aprox and re-rang my gp surgery and asked to see a nurse as I took a test which was digital and said I was pregnant after my GP the day before did a test which said I wasn't... I's tested four times before I went to see him each time with a very faint positive result.
The woman at the surgery said my midwife doesn't normally see her patients until they are about 10 weeks lone, surely this is incorrect as I need folic acid asap don't I ???
I really don't know what happens next as my only child is 6 years old and I'm out of touch with it all
xx

Hi everyone and thanks for all your support! I know its not over til its over and I'm trying to think positive thoughts! And yes harpie I already know my dh has super sperm, as got pregnant first time trying for both pregnancies!

motherofone you can buy folic acid from any pharmacy, Boots, etc. And yes you should start taking it immediately. NHS also recommends taking Vitamin D supplements too.

Suzy morning sickness started for me last time bang on 7 weeks!

tinks I hope you don't get a cold - bath & early night for you young lady :o

mother get thee to a pharmacy or a supermarket & get some folic acid - or any pregnancy supplement (vit d also good second time around). Don't wait for your dr appt. I started taking a sanatogen 'mum to be' daily supplement as soon as I found out I was pregnant again, though last time I took fa whilst I was ttc also.

suzy ms struck at 6 weeks this time, slightly later last time. My best mate is well into second trimester & has escaped completely, so don't wish it!

jessi keep the faith - sending positive vibes & thinking of you.

Happy evening all :)

Leftwing- i'll have to see consultant for my care, Poss c section again, lots monitoring & at least 1 extra scan....plus aspirin from 12 weeks due to preeclampsia last time. Also ds has some health problems that need to check if repeating.fun!
Bbface: semen helps reduce chances of preeclampsia when swallowed...I read that paper last time. Chose not to share with dh. I got pre eclampsia but given the hyperemesis the chances of dh getting lucky were nil..:sorry if tmi!

Mother:The midwife doesn't give you folio acid.you need to buy that plus but d. Wilkos do their own cheaper and you can buy healthy start vitamins from restart centre or health visitor centre for couple of quid for 2m supply. You should take vit d throughout preg & breast feeding & baby to have vit d from 6m to 5y. Guidance changed recently.

Jessie - good luck! My first scan with ds showed him 5 weeks sac no heart beat etc when I thought I was 7 weeks....week later all good.I had just ovulated late. SIS had bleeding through 1st trimester now has gorgeous dd. Hope all works out for ypu.

Jessi, so sorry to hear about your probs. Hang on in there, we're all thinking off you. I reckon my little bean is progony of about 4 day old sperm as DH was away mid month, though I don't know really when I ovulate.

Mother: I second all the others who've said it, don't expect folic acid from the NHS, get some bought!

I think the 'average' time for ms to kick in is around 7 weeks, but really it's so different for everyone theres no point in giving an average or normal time. Think with DS I was about 6 1/2 or 7 weeks before it started much. Can't remember when teh carbohydrate cravings started but think about the same time. Endless crisps (which I never normally eat) sweets on teh way to work after plenty of breakfast adn as many roast potatoes as I could get my hadns on!

My DH foudn something about swallowing sper reducing the incidence of miscarage because of it gettting your body used to partners genes so you don't reject baby as foreighn. Sounded pretty un founded to me and I will not be trying it for either this or the morning sickness (urgh, make sme feel ill without morning sickness ).

Can't remember who it was waiting to exchange but good luck. We need to start looking for a house now DH has got a new job (was made redundant few weeks ago, but starts excellent new job next tuesday, yay). We ended up moving when I was 38 weeks with DS (unexpectedly, due to house fire, complete with week in a hotel) so I really hope this time we can do it a bit further in advance, and in a rather more planned mannor!

Oh dear, about a million typos. Sorry!

Twas me floweryboots, thanks for the luck - we should have moved today according to original dates, so I am a little glum this eve. I guess it'll happen soon enough - well actually not bloody soon enough - but it's an anxiety I don't need at the mo. sigh. Hope yours goes through swimmingly - and way before 38 weeks!!

P.s. can we all stop talking about blow jobs now ? :o

Evening all...

DH away with work tonight so have made the most of it, got the DDs in bed early and I fully intend to turn in soon but thought I would catch up with the thread first.

jessi sorry to hear what you're going through. I don't have any pearls of wisdom but just hope that everything goes well and at least the spotting you are having is still only brown. Also I understand that sperm can survive a good few days or so and I think that is the case for both DD2 and this one. I could be talking complete cobblers but I thought I read somewhere that this means that the child is more likely to be a girl. Something about the 'male' sperm go faster but die quicker but the 'female' sperm swim slower but last longer so if you DTD a few days before OV then it's only really the 'female' sperm that are still around. I may well have made this up but on a highly representative sample of 1 baby so far (DD2) it has proven to be 100% accurate as a gender predictor

mother hope you've gone to stock up on some Folic Acid so you can start taking it. I know that the MW normally doesn't see people for the booking appt until a bit further along and you really don't want to wait that long before taking it. I'm trying to be more relaxed about timings this time round so have made a GP appt for 2 weeks' time so that I can get referred to the MW rather than like the last two times when I went to the GP within about 5 mins of getting my BFP and then having to wait weeks to see the MW.

Suzy no morning sickness here - felt a bit nauseous at the weekend and my appetite is a bit all over the place but I don't expect it to kick in at any stage. I always suffer from heartburn later on though which I'm not looking forward to again.

Main symptom here appears to be tiredness - I ended up going to bed yesterday when DD2 was having her nap (having parked DD1 in front of Cbeebies - got up to find she had carried a stool to the fridge so that she could reach some chocolate and had scoffed the lot. Didn't know whether to be cross or proud of her ingenuity!). And the way my belly is going there is really no way I'm going to last til 12 weeks before telling anyone - just as well the weather is rubbish so I can keep going with the baggy tops and jumpers!

Hope everyone else is well - night night!

Hi all,just wanted to wish you all a good nights sleep. And jessi, be strong and positive. Def still lots of hope.

I am 6 weeks 5 days and started ms bang on 6 weeks. Last pregnancy, it really was only in the mornings. Ths time it lasts until 5.30pm then quietens down,, then starts emerging around now. Fortunately not disturbed my nights yet, but I wake up and it hits me. No actual vomiting and no heaving. No appetite, literally none at all. I force down food I can face, like pretzels, toast and cream cheese and turkey sandwiches, but everything else... Yak

All I am focused on is the blooming period. For those who didn't have it first time, let's channel all our positive thinking to have it this time around. It was bloody awesome. Dh has kept the emails I sent him when in blooming phase and they are so ott, ridiculously happy positive, energetic and bubbly. Now I feel the polar opposite of that. Makes me feel sad for my darling boy that I am no longer as engaged, but only a few weeks to go. Pls pls let it only be a few more weeks!
Night x

Thanks ladies, I'll go folic acid and vit d shopping tomorrow, I can't believe how much I've forgotten about pregnancy. I so far seem to be sailing through so it still seems very unreal.

I've read that morning sickness can suddenly happen at any point in a pregnancy altho that was how I found I was pregnant with my son last time, this time nothing... kind of makes me nervous that I have no symptoms
bbface hope you feel better soon
xx