Sneeze births! We shall BROOK NO ARGUMENT about overcoming any issues in our way! (Part 11 - blimey!)

[ScrambledSmegs]

Welcome!

Blimey stacks that's a full on weekend. It's making me tired just thinking about it!

Congratulations far, that's brilliant news!

My scan's a week on Monday (does that make sense?) and I'm terrified . I think I've felt the baby move a bit, but then it could just have been very bad wind . Will I ever stop mentalling?!

smegs you already have a child, you know full well that the mentalling about the unborn baby will only be replaced by mentalling about your born baby once you get it! I don't think we ever stop worrying, do we.

Amusingly (and because I'm putting off drawing jellyfish for my course) I posted my coffee shop story in AIBU. It's gone huge. Although it appears I am entirely unreasonable. I have a hunch though that the reasonable people don't go anywhere near AIBU.

I saw it whims and I've responded! YANBU by the way. AIBU isn't known for being full of reasonable people though, I normally avoid it like the plague! Of course if someone like Hecate comes on and says you're BU then I would consider the possibility then reject it! but some people live to be grumpy auld sods .

Hmm, I don't think I was too mental with DD, too scared of going all PFB and having my relatives laugh at me. Maybe because I know that this is probably it for me having children, it's putting the pressure on?

Oh, and for those who work in scientific fields - have you seen this ? Apparently it's the result of a carefully planned strategy to get girls more interested in science . Because all girls want to do is learn how to make nail varnish and have pink petri dishes .

Y'see, this is why I consider myself a feminist now, whereas before DD was born I wasn't that bothered!

I hate all that pink stuff smegs. Makes me mad (and I have boys...). The pink globe at ELC is a particular target of my hatred. The world is not blue because it's for boys, it's because, well, it's blue.

I've clearly spent too much time on AIBU! I saw your post - thanks! It's hilarious. There's a complete barney going on between people. 110 posts last time I looked. I can't believe that many people have an opinion.

AIBU is all about the bunfights these days whims [winks] Fwiw, YADNBU imho :o

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1501068-to-think-that-gender-selection-should-be-legalised-in-the-uk

Holy macaroni, some of the replies to this are awful
We would absolutely gender select if it were legal. ... We have one boy. I never wanted boys. I do not want another boy.

Poor boy :(

Ooh, I like it much better over here. I keep having to look at my replies. It's like picking a scab.

There's so much I want to say back to people (especially the ones banging on about stranger danger) but I can't bring myself to open more cans of worms.

Having 3 boys, fluff we get so many comments like that. 'ooh, are you keeping going til you get a girl' (no) 'who will help with your housework' (the cleaner - who's male) 'blimey, you're brave' (really? They're little boys, not visigoths). As a mother of boys, you're constantly made to feel like you pulled the short straw. Poor little boy indeed.

That's awful whims
A lot of it seems to come down to gender stereotyping imho, which I abhor along with the racks of saccharine pink babygrows - by which I mean, people seem to want their idea of what a girl should be pink and fluffy rather than a child iykwim. Why shouldn't little boys like tea sets and girls like diggers, boys like pink and girls blue? It makes me :(

And "who will help you with your housework?" Seriously? I am especially coz I'm crap at it and DH is ace

I hate pink :(

Ooh, that gender stuff makes me so . I have a girl, she has a toy kitchen, yes, but she also has a yellow jcb digger, her best friend is a boy and she goes to toddler football classes! And I get very annoyed at all the princess crap aimed at kids. Bless her, the dentist called her a 'princess' today and she replied, 'No, I'm a monster - Graaahhh!!!' .

whims one poster in particular is very invested in your thread, aren't they? I wonder if it's Monsieur Grumpy-Pantalons from this morning?!

at gender selection thread, fluff how vile .

However... DH is convinced this one is another girl (he had a dream, doncha know ) and I kind of want it to be a boy just to prove him wrong .

:o MiniSmegs what a perfect response!!! Love it.

I'm not a pink fan either jen mostly on principle, tbf

jen - Oh, DD loves pink but so does her bf and I don't think anyone can accuse him of being girly, bruiser that he is!

It's fine if they actually like it, imho - it's when it gets foisted on them because they're a girl that it gets my goat. But DH says I get in too much of a tizz over such things :o

Blimey whims you're up to 9 pages!

OMG smegs maybe he wasn't working at all, but actually on MN? Is there a rival thread up saying 'I was trying to update my FB status and this bloody child came near me - AIBU?'!

Congratulations Far!!

I'm not a huge fan of pink for a girl. It's amazing how few of our cards are not pink. We had one balloon that wasn't - a huge blue globe, with 'Welcome to the world Isabelle' on. Thought that was lovely!

Thankfully most of her clothes aren't pink - or overly pink. My step MIL bought an outfit for her that's bright pink with orange spots - eek! Sadly as it's one of the few that fits DD now she's in between sizes, she has to wear it in bed.

She also has to like Brio and Lego when older, whether she likes it or not!

Ha ha musical I think Dh will be gutted if ours doesn't like lego, he's looking forward to "helping" I think!

Far I'm over the moon for you that you had such a wonderful 20wk scan. That has made my day. My Far must be on cloud 9 too. Enjoy the next 20-odd weeks now you've got past that pg milestone. Big bunch of for you both.

I hate all the sex-selection/gender stuff too and the judgements people make; it's one of the reasons I don't want to find out what we're having this time (and didn't with pg1) at the 20wk scan, even though I find it hard to quell my curiosity (and thus appreciate why people do find out).

I had a slightly uncomfortable conversation with 2 TTC-MOGs (mums of girls, who I like, in general, btw, and consider thoughtful and intelligent) at a toddler group who basically made it patently clear that they were v glad they hadn't had boys first time and would like another girl or didn't mind what they'd got because they'd already had a girl. Whatever happened to people being born as individuals, despite their genitals? We are so conditioned. I'm sure I am too but try to face up to it.

All our LOs are gorgeous and terrible pack animals to be avoided en masse I say this because after my massive late-night efforts to win work for my biz I rather stupidly invited 4 mums and toddlers over for the afternoon. Exhausting dealing with the territorialism. And DS has decided naps are for losers at the tender age of 2y4m. I'm particularly unhappy about this as I'm definitely in need of them myself at the moment. Had to cancel today's plans as I'm so tired and now have house to myself - boys at allotment - which is actually really nice tho spookily quiet.

Fluffs - how are you feeling? I know you've been under the weather. Hope it picks up for you and you are looking after yourself.

Whims - I will have to steer clear of AIBU; it sounds v stressful. Clearly, you weren't BU, of course. You didn't need to ask MNers for their not so humble opinions!

TTFN. xxx

My little girl, 21 months, loves tractors, diggers, lorries, mud, puddle stamping,being outdoors- and super girly party dresses... I got loads of negative comments about expecting twin boys.... :(

hope all you preggos are doing well. smegs, I was totally, totally mental when pg with the twins, I'm much calmer now maybe, on a good day