November 2012 - time for gender guessing?

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1. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1412456-Nov-12-babies
2. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1432039-Due-in-November-2012-part-deux-no-cringy-thread-name-here
3. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1438916-November-2012-Duebies-Part-3-insert-cheesy-name-of-choice-here
4. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1449640-November-2012-bring-on-the-second-trimester
5. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1460598-November-2012-the-boringly-named-fifth-thread

ive been snapping at DH last few days, he hasn't been in best of moods either as he has been on nights :(

BUT i got some good news today, both my SILs have told me what they have from when they both has their DC, they both have 6 year olds and 4 year olds within a few months of each other so weren't able to help each other out, but means i get double of a lot of things [ideal as i can leave some things at my mums house]. one cot bed, small crib, sterilisers, play mats, travel cot :) which is great as yesterdays trip to mothercare to see a pushchair kinda freaked me out with how expensive everything is.

me n DH fell out over the iso fix base, as he thinks we can do with out, and i think we should get one, partly as i have a back and partly cos its just pain easier!

oh dear look at time, i gotta go wake DH up for work.

Word of caution with ISO-fix; we have an 06 ford focus so assumed that it would have the fittings. It doesn't. It has the fittings that you can have the actually base fittings put on iyswim. We were told they can charge from £30 to £130 to put them on, then you have to buy the base. Also, not all bases fit all cars. We wanted to buy a seat-belt base but when they tried in Mothercare, they said the angle of the seat meant they didn't feel it was secure. Before you decide on all the bases/seats/buggies that the seats fit, check whether it actually works in your make & model car...

DH hasn't apologised & was being an absolute git about apologizing yesterday so I can't be bothered to get into it again. It's relatively trivial so I kinda figure I should believe I'm right & move on, letting him think whatever fucked up thing he wants to think... Probably better in the long run. So irritating though.

I've had a couple of sick free days & actually craving healthy food & fruit now, so hoping I might be able to stem the blubber tide that was threatening to engulf me!!

GTbaby a friend lent us her iso fix base for my DD. she's just had another baby so can't lent it to us this time round so it will be first on my to purchase list. I found it so useful. And to me it feels safer than putting the seatbelt round the car seat and if you suffer from a bad back in my opinion it's an essential. Stick to your guns on this one.

I have been loving this weather. I don't think it's going to continue for much longer though

Got my 16wk midwife appointment tomorrow so hopefully I can sort out my blood results and find out when my 20 wk scan is, or at least make sure it's in hand!

Thanks ladies for the supportive messages, what a lovely bunch of people on here, and so down to earth. Theres so many of those "perfect women" at my DD's school gates who claim to have perfect marriages, kids who never misbehave and a house that is immaculate but I love on this thread how everone is honest about feeling crap, looking a bit fat, having houses that look like a bombs gone off and other halves who they argue with in less than perfect relationships! thankyou
I wont say all is well in my house this evening but it really does help having cyber friends here

Right. DH off to work. N I'm nice n comfy in bed with no risk of being woken by snoring good side to DHs night shifts .

Was in a bit of a rush n didn't read post before sending.

Yes I have a bad back so think iso fix is a must. It's just something I'll put my foot down about! N DH will give up maybe. But first got to check about it fitting in my car! No point in hubby winning later by default, in which case I may as well save feet stomping for another challenge.

have an appointment with the anesthetist tomorrow about possibility of having an epidural with my back. As I have two bulging disks. Anymore else had anything like this?

On another note. Went to yoga yesterday. They had moved on quite a bit since I last went, but nothing major, however I was nackered by end of it. Might switch to aquafit nxt week (can't find a aqua natal near by) but can't find a maternity tankini top with inbuilt bra! if anyone can help I don't like swim suits n my usual tankini will last a few more weeks at least. I don't mind showing a bit of bump. Just worried about stretch marks showing!

GT for an expensive option! Mamas and papas have a lovely one but it's £30. I have one from Asda. It's not a maternity one but it's got the rouched sides. It's a cossie but with a long top that makes it look like a tankini! I'm in the bigger size, but you could get a bigger one which will last a while. Mines an 18 and it still fits with my bump! I'd link it but I'm on my phone. Its on asdas website it's black with White spots and it's a halterneck for £12 :)

Sorry to hear of more DH's being knobjockeys! Mine is in the doghouse tonight. 10 days I've been asking him to do something. I just lost it tonight and called him every name under the sun! It was a job i'd normally do but because it involves bleach and cat poo I'd much rather avoid doing it. It's not like I haven't reminded him every day. I know it's trivial but it gets right on my nerves when it's just down to laziness! And I'm on nights too, which doesn't help matters

Im on my last night tonight, thank the lord. It's killing me. Especially in this heat. Sleeping has been interesting to say the least! I must join the fb group as I have a fab picture from my first night when I was so bloated I looked at least 28 weeks pregnant!!! I definitely don't look that big any other time!

I'm glad my baby is due in November! Don't think I'd hack the heat at term!

I was thinking that too detective, on top of being hot and bothered I'm also suffering hayfever - the thought of being heavily pg and giving birth like this doesn't bear thinking about!

GT I'm hoping some of my friends will have some things too as the cost is amazing! I'm sure you don't need it all but atm I don't really know what I will need and what I wont!

Congratualtions Pixie.

Shanelle I'm definately no stepford wife! Not sure that anyone is actually, some just put on a better front.

Hope everyone with Dh problems is ok and they are getting sorted

I was going to do without an iso fix as they are expensive and most only last for the first year before you have to get another one when you change seats. Do I need to reconsider?

I've got my 16 week app today (at 14+6) hope she can find the heartbeat. I found it again last night which was reassuring.

I had prawns yesterday, I knew I shouldn't really but my mum did them as part of lunch and they looked soooo good so I had a few.
I read that undercooked prawns won't harm the baby they can just give you nasty food poisoning.

Morning everyone, hope we're all coping in the heat!

Good luck with your appt today DH, my16 wk appt isn't for another 2 weeks when I'll actually be 17 weeks. Can't wait to hear my little one, and the 5 weeks between now and my next scan can't go quickly enough.

I have a couple of questions for you all. Firstly, can I take anything for my hayfever? I've tried googling this and got really confused by all the conflicting answers. I'll be asking the consultant at my appointment next week, and won't take anything until he says it's ok, but I wondered what advice others had been given?

Secondly, I have developed a new sensation down there! It's like a tugging ache and it seems to get better once I've been to the loo so I'm wondering if my bladder has now been reduced to the size of a pea and the ache is coming from it being full? It doesn't feel like I need the loo when I get it, but it definitely relieved the sensation yesterday, and again this morning.

Enjoy your Monday!

GT we have decided to get an isofix car seat, there are 2 that fit onto our pram chassis and it turns out they also for in both our cars as well as grandparents cars. Therefore it is the best option for us.

Usually I love the heat and we were contemplating going abroad in July, but I am struggling a little with this heat so we have decided against it

DH I hope you get to hear baby's heartbeat I got to hear ours on Thursday, the midwife is wonderful and recorded it for me on my phone, so dh didn't miss out.

I have some backache, I think It's caused by sleeping awkwardly rather than pregnancy related, on my left hand side just below my shoulder blade.

Feeling guilty right now, went to hang out my washing and accidentally stood on the cat. I think she has forgiveness though as currently climbing all over me wanting to be petted.

misslaughalot the midwife told me it was okay to use nasal spray, the only one she named was beconase. I have been using that for both the sinusitis I had a few weeks ago and hayfever. My boss is a gp and she mentioned it is okay to take a few antihistamines including piriton, loratadine and citirizine. I would speak to your midwife or gp before taking any medicine though.

Detective I have the same swim suit as you, same size aswell, to accomodate the bump :) It's really good and cheap too.

DH Hope your appointment goes well today!

I need to book mine today as I changed doctor surgery last week (my previous one was a pile of crap)

shanelle Nobody's perfect and we all have problems, even those that say they don't

Today I woke up to feel my baby squirming around which was great, although I couldn't get to sleep for ages last night as I kept needing to pee and was too hot :( I'm also glad i'll be giving birth when it's cold!

Swissarmywife I'm very that you can feel movement, that's fab! How far along are you?

Hello! Another grumpy pregnant person lol. Well one with an annoying dh anyway!! He wants to go camping for two weeks in august I would rather do a relaxing holiday. His dad also wants to come along. I've just reiterated in an email that I want to spend part of the holiday at the beach and if his dad is coming to all of it, I'm not going!!

Had good weekend, did a couple of good rides, then a 10mile walk yesterday afternoon with the dogs. Hardly slept last night then when I woke up at 4 the birds were really singing their hearts out!!! Then I couldn't sleep!!!

Hi. Things have been a bit busy with my new agency but MS has finally gone!

While I've got more energy and feel generally healthier I've had awful pain in my lower back and have taken to sitting on an exercise ball a lot. I'm going to Aquanatal on Thursday before seeing my MW for my 16wk appt. Hopefully she can advise me on managing that.

Oh and my DH was an utter twunt the Saturday before last. Actually stormed out of the pub I was in with my family and was ignoring my calls. I gave him an ultimatum on coming back or it being over and once he did made the condition he saw a counsellor. He's seen one for anger management/idiot mother before and I'm struggling with not perceiving this as a sign of weakness. He needs to grow up and get his act together, I've lost two fathers and I don't throw tantrums! Ah that feels good to get off my chest.

He's actually been great since then but he's lost a bit of my trust.

Hi everyone, just quickly catching up with y'all.

My brain is like mush so I can't think of much news! I'm going to look at a cot tomorrow, a second hand one at a good price, then we'd buy a new mattress for it.

misslaughalot I'm 16wks + 3 today, it's only occasionally that i'll feel it but the last couple of days it's been quite frequent :) How far along are you?

horselady Can I have some of your energy please?! 10 mile walks?? Are you secretly superwoman?

Waiting Sorry to hear your DH is being like that, I hope he sorts it out!

Iheartpasties Mush brain here, too! My mum has managed to get a cot for us so just need to get the mattress for it. I've also got a lovely wicker moses basket that was handmade for me when I had DD and she hardly ever slept in it, so i'm hoping to use it this time round!

I'm 15 weeks today. This is my first baby though so it may be a couple more weeks before I feel anything. I've been concentrating hard on any sensations I'm getting when I'm lying down, can't wait to feel something!

I can't wait to feel something too!! I thought I did a while back but it looks like it was just wind.

Ive got my first high risk drs appointment tomorrow morning. Have any of you guys been classed as high risk in the past and know what goes on??
I have 2 or 3 20mm fibroids and had a cs for ds, so i'm being classed as high risk.

Normally with your first you'll start feeling movement around 18 weeks, but remember your baby is moving loads already anyway, getting hiccups and sucking it's thumb etc :)

This is my second so I suppose i'm more aware of it, but you'll know it's the baby when you feel it, it's like a bubbly/popping sensation!

Was going to write a proper reply but can't be bothered!!

Having a long, hot day at work trying desperately to get the kids to do some goddamn work. Grrr. And although I have thoughts about movements/car seat bases/hayfever/weird pains I'm too fed up to write it!!!

Nevertheless, hope everyone has a good day and the weather holds for the long weekend :)

Miss and the chick Ive felt from 15 weeks this is my first. I'm still slim(ish) though. Think I'm just lucky and the baby is lively!!

Swiss- sending energy your way!!! I did a two hour ride before the walk lol. I was fit before the pregnancy don't think I could run though? Could easily bike ride if it wasn't broken!! Doing 12 miles this weekend!!

Well hello there ladies! Bloody hell, got those damn double shifts out of the way this weekend, was bloody knackered although I have got my energy back and this is just normal for me :)

Well my rattiness has disappeared as quickly as it came. I went upstairs on Saturday night to find hubby had 'sprinkled' on the floor, I got the towel he had used to shower that night and knowing he would be using it the morning after (you know what I'm going to say), I did, I wiped up all his piss with it and hung it back up Hubby pisser didn't have a clue and thought he was sparkly clean after his Sunday morning shower, just a shame I was at work and not there to snigger :) I found this much more satisfying than shouting and nagging, it's my new 1 strike rule, I'll tell him to clean up after himself and if he doesn't then I'm going to use various possessions of his to clean up the bathroom, then I'm going to tell him all about it when I'm in labour , what's he going to do?

Am feeling like my old self except quite superior to the 'old' me. I am snubbing chocolate (not drinking chocolate though, weird), eating mountains of salad, can't stand white bread but LOVE wholemeal and am generally still a very healthy girly! Stick that up your bum-hole 'old' ShellyBobbs! I am still on the fizzy drinks though, looks like that's here to stay until the minute I give birth then I won't touch another drop ever again, I usually can't bear fizzy stuff. Well, except lager and general fizzy alcohol (NOT yucky cider though). Oh yes and still can't eat horrid fried food, I used to have a fried egg butty every day too (with Frylight I might add :))

I've still only put 2lbs on, what that all about? Mind you I was a bit of a fat duffer before weighing 10stone 2lb at 5ft 2in, I looked like inflatable Shelly because I DO NOT carry weight well and only a couple of years before was only 8st 8lb, HELLO Wenlysdale cheese!

Anyway, am just chilling and burning in the garden. Managed to get some of those really comfy cotton PJ bottom look alike pants but you know they aren't for sleeping in at H&M in the mat dept this morning. I saw a girl who is 5 weeks ahead of me in them last week and I was insanely jealous, and I mean weirdo alert jealous, but now I'm fine 'cos I got some.

Oh yes, and I can't stop drinking Tropicana with juicy bits. I had this in the pregnancy before last but am trumping all records big time! The other day I drank 4.5 litres of the stuff, I usually average on about 2 litres at least, hope it can't do any harm (except to my teeth which will be like rotten little Irvine Welsh character teeth doubles).

My poo is back to normal except there is miles more of it :) Strain no longer!

Donna I don't think your consultant should be telling you horror stories about bleeding. The hospital should be well prepared for anyone having a VBAC as it's so common. Also if there are any contraindications, e.g. baby is breech or meconium in the waters, they just won't let you go ahead with the VBAC.

GT with DS2 I had a car seat with a base that you kept strapped into the car seatbelt. Then you just dropped the car seat into the base; there's a button release to lift it out. That arrangement would be ideal for someone with a bad back if you don't want Isofix. I'm putting baby in the middle between DS1 and DS2 and that seat doesn't have Isofix (the two outer ones do) so I'll probably just continue using the Britax seat unless I find several hundred quid to buy a new pram!

I don't know if it's relevant to your case GT but with DS1 the epidural didn't take, only one side was numbed and it felt like all the pain was concentrated on the other side. I ended up using gas and air as well then because the epidural hadn't taken I had to have my section under general anaesthetic. So I personally wouldn't have another epidural in case there's something in my spine that stopped it from working properly.

LaughALot for hayfever my GP gave me Beconase nasal spray and sodium chromoglycate eye drops. Some antihistamines can be prescribed in pregnancy but some of the newer ones are not recommended.